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(Politico)   Americans, especially young Americans, are having much less sex than just a decade ago. And the rate is dropping faster every year. Why? "Too much Netflix, not enough chill"   ( politico.com) divider line
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2018-02-09 04:17:00 PM  
35 year old single female and in March it will have been a year since I've had sex. I miss it this - much.

Lemme think... 5 minutes of pure bliss between me, my laptop, and my vibrator ending in an amazing climax VS what may or may not be a dangerous, complicated, disease or pregnancy inducing situation that doesnt even guarantee the climax in the end...

Tough choice.
 
2018-02-09 04:18:20 PM  

drjekel_mrhyde: Tr0mBoNe: Netflix and chill is just a euphemism. We could be watching Hulu, Amazon or even YouTube. Heck, we might even be playing some vintage vinyl.

Hulu and Head
Amazon and Anal
Youtube and Real Doll?


Firestick and firedick?

Wait...no.
 
2018-02-09 04:18:40 PM  

MorduTheLarge: After years of puritanical interests pushing in this direction, are we going to pretend that this is a bad thing?  Especially after the particularly ominous specter of "Idiocracy" may now be avoided?


Less in general, idiots are still breeding like rabbits.
 
2018-02-09 04:23:11 PM  

Calypsocookie: 35 year old single female and in March it will have been a year since I've had sex. I miss it this - much.

Lemme think... 5 minutes of pure bliss between me, my laptop, and my vibrator ending in an amazing climax VS what may or may not be a dangerous, complicated, disease or pregnancy inducing situation that doesnt even guarantee the climax in the end...

Tough choice.


FYI, that clack-clacking sound you hear are all the clicks on your Profile.
 
2018-02-09 04:29:12 PM  

ObscureNameHere: Calypsocookie: 35 year old single female and in March it will have been a year since I've had sex. I miss it this - much.

Lemme think... 5 minutes of pure bliss between me, my laptop, and my vibrator ending in an amazing climax VS what may or may not be a dangerous, complicated, disease or pregnancy inducing situation that doesnt even guarantee the climax in the end...

Tough choice.

FYI, that clack-clacking sound you hear are all the clicks on your Profile.


As long as the clicking is fast and lasts about 5 minutes, it's all good.
 
2018-02-09 04:35:47 PM  

Calypsocookie: 35 year old single female and in March it will have been a year since I've had sex. I miss it this - much.

Lemme think... 5 minutes of pure bliss between me, my laptop, and my vibrator ending in an amazing climax VS what may or may not be a dangerous, complicated, disease or pregnancy inducing situation that doesnt even guarantee the climax in the end...

Tough choice.


5 minutes?
At one job, my late wife was in a supply closet with her manager, inventorying for about 15 min. They came out, and this one jerk popped up with "15 minutes in there? We know what they've been doing!"
She looked at him and responded, "Really? If it doesn't last an hour, it's hardly  worth doing."
Idiot turned beet red. He didn't last long at that job, either.....
 
2018-02-09 04:38:51 PM  

Calypsocookie: ObscureNameHere: Calypsocookie: 35 year old single female and in March it will have been a year since I've had sex. I miss it this - much.

Lemme think... 5 minutes of pure bliss between me, my laptop, and my vibrator ending in an amazing climax VS what may or may not be a dangerous, complicated, disease or pregnancy inducing situation that doesnt even guarantee the climax in the end...

Tough choice.

FYI, that clack-clacking sound you hear are all the clicks on your Profile.

As long as the clicking is fast and lasts about 5 minutes, it's all good.


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2018-02-09 04:39:23 PM  
My hitachi won't quit five pumps in and tell me how awesome I should feel at my lack of Orgasm, then roll over asleep snoring while I finish myself.
 
2018-02-09 04:44:47 PM  

hardinparamedic: My hitachi won't quit five pumps in and tell me how awesome I should feel at my lack of Orgasm, then roll over asleep snoring while I finish myself.


Yeah i think you gotta get the deluxe version for those features.
 
2018-02-09 04:44:49 PM  

stuffy: So Farkers just ahead of the curve.


Yeah, we're always ahead of the curves.  So far ahead we can never see any curves at all.  Unless we log into pornhamster.com
 
2018-02-09 04:47:11 PM  
the nice thing about netflix - it's there when you want it, you can say whatever the hell you want around it, and when your'e done you can turn it off and walk away without it complaining for hours about how her daddy was never there for her

and all for under $10 / mo
 
2018-02-09 04:48:34 PM  

Calypsocookie: Lemme think... 5 minutes of pure bliss between me, my laptop, and my vibrator ending in an amazing climax VS what may or may not be a dangerous, complicated, disease or pregnancy inducing situation that doesnt even guarantee the climax in the end...


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2018-02-09 04:49:52 PM  

DarkSoulNoHope: I blame online porn sites.

[img.fark.net image 480x360]


Real people can't match what is online, in appearance, prowess, or ease of opportunity.
 
2018-02-09 04:52:09 PM  

WilderKWight: LoneWolf343: Man On A Mission: You think it's bad now, wait until sexbots are readily available.

[img.fark.net image 665x500]

A friend linked me this just yesterday:
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Duh. We'll have other robots that will clean the sexbots.

And we'll be very heartbroken when we come home early and catch the sexbot-cleaning robot having sex with the sexbot.


Hey, I was just giving her a *very* thorough cleaning.  Nothing to worry about.
 
2018-02-09 04:53:16 PM  

PhilCollinsBeatBox: the nice thing about netflix - it's there when you want it, you can say whatever the hell you want around it, and when your'e done you can turn it off and walk away without it complaining for hours about how her daddy was never there for her

and all for under $10 / mo


It's $10.99 now
 
2018-02-09 04:54:36 PM  

tjsands1118: PhilCollinsBeatBox: the nice thing about netflix - it's there when you want it, you can say whatever the hell you want around it, and when your'e done you can turn it off and walk away without it complaining for hours about how her daddy was never there for her

and all for under $10 / mo

It's $10.99 now


that farking bloodsucking tart
 
2018-02-09 04:55:27 PM  

tjsands1118: PhilCollinsBeatBox: the nice thing about netflix - it's there when you want it, you can say whatever the hell you want around it, and when your'e done you can turn it off and walk away without it complaining for hours about how her daddy was never there for her

and all for under $10 / mo

It's $10.99 now


13.99 in a month or so.
 
2018-02-09 04:56:43 PM  

Calypsocookie: ObscureNameHere: Calypsocookie: 35 year old single female and in March it will have been a year since I've had sex. I miss it this - much.

Lemme think... 5 minutes of pure bliss between me, my laptop, and my vibrator ending in an amazing climax VS what may or may not be a dangerous, complicated, disease or pregnancy inducing situation that doesnt even guarantee the climax in the end...

Tough choice.

FYI, that clack-clacking sound you hear are all the clicks on your Profile.

As long as the clicking is fast and lasts about 5 minutes, it's all good.


Not to worry, 5 minutes is 4 minutes longer than I need.

Wait, what?
 
2018-02-09 05:01:55 PM  

hardinparamedic: My hitachi won't quit five pumps in and tell me how awesome I should feel at my lack of Orgasm, then roll over asleep snoring while I finish myself.


img.fark.netView Full Size

This one might.
 
2018-02-09 05:01:57 PM  

Calypsocookie: ObscureNameHere: Calypsocookie: 35 year old single female and in March it will have been a year since I've had sex. I miss it this - much.

Lemme think... 5 minutes of pure bliss between me, my laptop, and my vibrator ending in an amazing climax VS what may or may not be a dangerous, complicated, disease or pregnancy inducing situation that doesnt even guarantee the climax in the end...

Tough choice.

FYI, that clack-clacking sound you hear are all the clicks on your Profile.

As long as the clicking is fast and lasts about 5 minutes, it's all good.


I clicked....but only for about 20 seconds....
 
2018-02-09 05:06:06 PM  

Thong_of_Zardoz: As the recent Aziz Ansari incident has shown, the best thing for a young man to do is to avoid women entirely.


George Carlin on Women
Youtube xgeLpFTNn8g


And you wonder why they aren't in the mood. . .
 
2018-02-09 05:10:40 PM  

Tr0mBoNe: Netflix and chill is just a euphemism. We could be watching Hulu, Amazon or even YouTube. Heck, we might even be playing some vintage vinyl.


Vintage, from the 80's ?
 
2018-02-09 05:21:05 PM  

edmo: Mugato: "Chill"? Is that the kind of language you beatnik kids are using now?

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no no no, this

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2018-02-09 05:26:08 PM  

dwrash: Evil Mackerel: coffeeburns: Its to easy to get an STD, so being single and not looking for eager women has been a very healthy choice for me. WIN!

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Mouth condom?.. not sure they make those.


https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Denta​l​_dam

Very sexy.
 
2018-02-09 05:41:08 PM  
My daughter is 23.  She and her friends were constantly moaning that guys were too wrapped up into video games.  Guys her age seem to view women as too much work.
 
2018-02-09 05:46:49 PM  

RandolphCarter: 10 years ago my kids were 5 and 2. The chance of both of them being asleep at the same time, and neither of them in our bed, and the wife and I both awake, and a production issue at work requiring on call support was practically nonexistent. So hardly any sex then.

Since then I've switched jobs and the phone never rings at night. The kids almost always settle down and go to sleep without problems. Unfortunately the wife's libido has fallen off a cliff and is now set to leavemealonegetawayfrommestoptouchingm​e.

Net result: amount of sex is about the same, 6 to 8 times a year


Lucky!
 
2018-02-09 05:55:21 PM  
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Me love you long time....
 
2018-02-09 06:05:55 PM  

Tr0mBoNe: Contrabulous Flabtraption: Tr0mBoNe: Contrabulous Flabtraption: Peter_B_Risen: I'll go with effeminization of the urban American male.

Partly this. Also you have to fill out a f*cking contract to f*ck anyone and they may still claim you raped them later on anyway.

There's this concept called "Getting to know someone to build a connection and trust before bumpin' uglies"

I highly recommend you try it.

I see - so you're saying one night stands should be eliminated. Meeting and hooking up at a party should be outlawed. Got it.

Try not to be so intransigent.


Cool, I have thesaurus.com bookmarked too
 
2018-02-09 06:16:42 PM  

bingo the psych-o: [img.fark.net image 850x587]
Net fix and chill?


Net fix and krill?

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2018-02-09 06:22:35 PM  

one of Ripley's Bad Guys: My daughter is 23.  She and her friends were constantly moaning that guys were too wrapped up into video games.  Guys her age seem to view women as too much work.


They're not wrong, per se...
 
2018-02-09 06:29:13 PM  

Do you know the way to Mordor: Net fix and krill?


Net fix and krull

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Oak
2018-02-09 07:00:33 PM  
Nobody can stand to be around a young American long enough to fark them, even other young Americans.
 
2018-02-09 07:04:26 PM  

gretzkyscores: RandolphCarter: Unfortunately the wife's libido has fallen off a cliff and is now set to leavemealonegetawayfrommestoptouchingm​e. Net result: amount of sex is about the same, 6 to 8 times a year

The difficult truth: she likes sex, just not sex with *you*. If Brad Pitt walked in the room, she'd be on her knees before the door closed behind him.

If I were you, I'd be either getting a divorce lawyer, or a side piece.


Or you could drop some weight, get fit, buy her gifts and tell her she is wonderful.
 
2018-02-09 07:18:06 PM  

whitroth: Calypsocookie: 35 year old single female and in March it will have been a year since I've had sex. I miss it this - much.

Lemme think... 5 minutes of pure bliss between me, my laptop, and my vibrator ending in an amazing climax VS what may or may not be a dangerous, complicated, disease or pregnancy inducing situation that doesnt even guarantee the climax in the end...

Tough choice.

5 minutes?
At one job, my late wife was in a supply closet with her manager, inventorying for about 15 min. They came out, and this one jerk popped up with "15 minutes in there? We know what they've been doing!"
She looked at him and responded, "Really? If it doesn't last an hour, it's hardly  worth doing."
Idiot turned beet red. He didn't last long at that job, either.....


The 5 minutes is what it takes for her to get herself off.

/Not disagreeing with an hour for actual sex, of course.
//There's a study that claims humans average less than 5 minutes of actual farking.
///I find it impossible to believe.
////Of course, I've asked for a quickie before because schedules were tight, and have been told "you can't do quickies".
 
2018-02-09 07:30:07 PM  
I haven't seen any shortage of millennial men interested in sex, within a relationship or not. However, there doesn't seem to be much of a population of straight single women looking for it. Maybe they've given up, or maybe that right wing conspiracy theory of sex-selective abortion resulting in millions of girls being aborted in favor of trying for a boy has some truth to it. Supposedly, women make up more than 50% of the population, but the problem is the additional ones are all over 60. It's skewed because men don't live as long. I wonder what the actual ratio of single, straight, 18-35 females to 18-35 males is. Just seems like it wouldn't be so weird if there wasn't a problem of unbalanced demand.
 
2018-02-09 09:06:23 PM  
Not having sex?  I wondered why Fark's membership numbers were going up!
 
2018-02-09 09:16:30 PM  
You know how I know you can't tell the difference between correlation and causation, author?

The timing of this dip leads us to hypothesize that new technology has played a key role in the sexual disconnect among young adults.

That. That is how I can tell.

/OOOGA BOOGA FIRE SCARY THOMAS EDISON WAS A WITCH
//Sociology is a hell of a lot more complex than 'smartphones did it'
 
2018-02-09 09:17:24 PM  
Let's be honest here.

First of all this generation has better birth control options (IUDs et al). When I was in my teens and 20s it was the pill, condom, or both. (I mean sure you could try to use the rhythm method but everyone I know who did that wound up pregnant).

Second, millennials are facing a ton of debt, and baby boomers who won't farking retire. With the better birth control options why the hell would they bring a kid into that environment?

"Gee, I'm working 12 hours a week at three jobs and you're working 12 hours a week at three jobs. Let's have a kid."

"Sure, sounds good."
 
2018-02-09 09:18:50 PM  
Yet another sign that our species is totally farked. Nice knowing ya, fellow humans.
 
2018-02-09 09:33:54 PM  

Froman: I haven't seen any shortage of millennial men interested in sex, within a relationship or not. However, there doesn't seem to be much of a population of straight single women looking for it. Maybe they've given up, or maybe that right wing conspiracy theory of sex-selective abortion resulting in millions of girls being aborted in favor of trying for a boy has some truth to it. Supposedly, women make up more than 50% of the population, but the problem is the additional ones are all over 60. It's skewed because men don't live as long. I wonder what the actual ratio of single, straight, 18-35 females to 18-35 males is. Just seems like it wouldn't be so weird if there wasn't a problem of unbalanced demand.


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Some fascinating charts on that.

A whole lot of that imbalance pattern is the number of 28 year old women who become a 43 year old man's second wife.

On the more anecdotal side, Tinder is a helluva force. A lot of young women idly swipe... not even for hookups, just self-esteem stroking. A lot of men are hungry as all hell. The side-effect of five thousand 'hey babys' is a huge inflation in who many women think they should be able to lock down for a LTR.
 
2018-02-09 09:52:42 PM  

natazha: DarkSoulNoHope: I blame online porn sites.

[img.fark.net image 480x360]

Real people can't match what is online, in appearance, prowess, or ease of opportunity.


A depiction of sex, no matter how good, can never* replace sex.

* does not apply to married people
 
2018-02-09 10:37:09 PM  
35 here, been single for 4 years and it's... OK.  Not giving a fark is a particular luxury that I'm coming to value more and more as I get older and the idea of having the same farking person around nagging me about anything/everything is being more and more bizarre by the day.

It's not that I'm driving in debt and overworked either, I'm near the top of the socioeconomic food chain in my city which is really more of a hindrance than anything, the vast majority of single women here are dirt poor, plug ugly, dangerously stupid, single moms, or some combination thereof.

I've gone on a bunch of dates too, but I'm just left with the impression that neither of us really give a shiat.  Which is fine, I've got my dog and my hand.
 
2018-02-09 11:45:16 PM  

Thong_of_Zardoz: As the recent Aziz Ansari incident has shown, the best thing for a young man to do is to avoid women entirely.


This.
 
2018-02-09 11:48:12 PM  

KidKorporate: 35 here, been single for 4 years and it's... OK.  Not giving a fark is a particular luxury that I'm coming to value more and more as I get older and the idea of having the same farking person around nagging me about anything/everything is being more and more bizarre by the day.

It's not that I'm driving in debt and overworked either, I'm near the top of the socioeconomic food chain in my city which is really more of a hindrance than anything, the vast majority of single women here are dirt poor, plug ugly, dangerously stupid, single moms, or some combination thereof.

I've gone on a bunch of dates too, but I'm just left with the impression that neither of us really give a shiat.  Which is fine, I've got my dog and my hand.


You sound fat.
 
2018-02-09 11:52:41 PM  

AgentKGB: Let's be honest here.

First of all this generation has better birth control options (IUDs et al). When I was in my teens and 20s it was the pill, condom, or both. (I mean sure you could try to use the rhythm method but everyone I know who did that wound up pregnant).

Second, millennials are facing a ton of debt, and baby boomers who won't farking retire. With the better birth control options why the hell would they bring a kid into that environment?

"Gee, I'm working 12 hours a week at three jobs and you're working 12 hours a week at three jobs. Let's have a kid."

"Sure, sounds good."


so much truth on Fark tonight. FFS THIS.
 
2018-02-10 12:45:33 AM  

Walkingtalkingeye: "A recent poll in The Economistillustrates how young adults are now more concerned than their older peers about sexual assault, and more likely to view behavior related to sex and dating as troubling. Young adults in the United States were about twice as likely as Americans 64 and older to think that commenting on a woman's attractiveness was sexual harassment. Describing all this as a "sexual counter-revolution," Douglas Murray at The Spectatorargued that "whereas the 1960s saw a freeing up of attitudes towards sex, pushing at boundaries, this counter-swing is turning sexual freedom into sexual fear, and nearly all sexual opportunities into a legalistic minefield.""

I've thought for a while now that this could be one of the consequences of the metoo movement, that people are less willing to engage in flirty behaviour for fear of it being considered harassment. Overall of course the movement is good, but I'm glad to see someone think about the downsides.
 
What nowadays is an acceptable way to meet people besides dating apps? Any sort of advance is seen as creepy. It must be hard for young people now that already don't have much confidence to have to worry about being considered a pervert or harasser. I'm just glad I'm out of all that nonsense. I hope I never have to go on another first date again.


Flirty behavior is fine if done appropriately and in the right scenario.  The problem isn't that flirting is always dangerous, the problem is that bosses are trying to flirt with subordinates, coworkers, etc.  You flirt with classmates and girls at the party or dance floor.  Not at work, not with students or interns.

As far as appropriate flirting, as the old Monty Python skit says, my God boy, you don't go straight for the clitoris!   You say something complimentary but not overtly sexual and you see how they react.  If they don't seem receptive you stop.  That's it.

Almost impossible to get in trouble that way.

Of course, looking back on my younger days I think there were times when a girl was flirting with me and I did the catch it, so I came off as not being receptive.  So there's that downside to testing the waters subtly and then stopping.
 
2018-02-10 12:52:17 AM  

mrsleep: gretzkyscores: If I were a young male in the current culture, I'd probably avoid sex for the most part too. Young women nowadays get wasted drunk or stoned, seek out validation and have sex with you to get it, then regret it later and claim you raped her. It's simply not worth the risk of having your life ruined.

So much this.
No one wants to be the next Aziz Ansari.


Aziz was an asshole in that encounter.  If you're having sex with anybody other than a joyously willing participant, then you need to stop.  What the fark is the turn on in watching a girl get bored or anxious with you inside her?  You have to just flat out not give a shiat about the girl to still make yourself come in that scenario.  The sexiest thing about sex is watching a partner get more and more turned on right in front of your eyes.  Absent that, I'd rather just masturbate.
 
2018-02-10 01:40:40 AM  

studebaker hoch: Peter_B_Risen: I'll go with effeminization of the urban American male.

That was the risk the hipsters took when they went for "metrosexual" fashion.

It's fine if you're actually gay, but that same look becomes a Cloak of Unattainability if you're a fomo.

Girls will think you're hot and gay and just give you a "harrumph!" when they walk by.

Gay men can figure out mimics more or less instantly, like a dog detecting a Terminator.

Straight men will think you're hot and gay and just give you a "harrumph!" when they walk by.


I don't know if it'll shock you, but metro guys aren't the ones not having any sex. Putting a lot of effort (and cash) into your appearance is one of the best returns on investment if you want a lot of sex. Metro is just the 2000's word for what was once "dapper" or "snazzy," after all; the gay-fashionista-descended styles are only a tiny subset of it. Gen-X is just angry that their jeans-and-t-shirt uniform isn't hip anymore.

/Nothing beats Tinder though.
 
2018-02-10 02:00:36 AM  

mittromneysdog: Do you know the way to Mordor: Net fix and krill?

Net fix and krull

[img.fark.net image 252x480]


Nutty fox cull?

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2018-02-10 06:11:20 AM  

tjfly: Thong_of_Zardoz: As the recent Aziz Ansari incident has shown, the best thing for a young man to do is to avoid women entirely.

This.


More like the Aziz Ansari incident is a good example of why women should avoid men entirely.

The guy sounds like the poster child for asshole.
 
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