Snarfangel: A couple of people who posted in the linked thread (and on Reddit) make a good point. It was definitely wrong of the man to send his wife a spreadsheet detailing her shortcomings in the bedroom, but really, is she any better for sharing her anger (and seeking validation) with a million of her closest friends on Reddit? She really should have talked to her husband about it, and left the public forum out of the loop.

I'm going to give both of them a pass for the reddit post and the spreadsheet.

She was probably expecting some level of validation and support, like what she would have received if she told this to a friend. Let's be honest, anybody would have a hard time saying "He's got a point" in a face-to-face conversation with a distraught friend. We would be more likely to avoid blaming our friend "you work so hard, you do so much, he doesn't know.... than to actually stay what we really think.(Your husband is going 1-for-10!! He'd be better off on Tinder). Internet strangers don't give a damn about your feelings, they'll tell you what you don't want to hear and they'll make it as straightforward as possible.

The husband I'm forgiving because I'm guessing this his last ditch effort before leaving her. He's tried everything else, because this hasn't been going on for nine weeks. It's probably closer to 9 months of rejection.