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2013-07-15 11:25:19 AM  
3 votes:
Isn't this what baby showers are for?
2013-07-15 11:10:41 AM  
2 votes:
I have no money to give, but she could look into Freecycle.org for free (they're literally not allowed to charge) baby supplies.
2013-07-15 03:58:30 PM  
1 vote:
Damn America, fix your healthcare system. Sincerely, the rest of the civilized world.

Kiwi, you once did something nice for me so I'm glad to help out with a few of your baby's incidental expenses. The Amazon order is on its way.
2013-07-15 01:40:32 PM  
1 vote:
If I wasnt totally broke from just finishing paying off my wedding I would contribute. If I remember on Friday I'll take a look at the list and see whats left and maybe contribute.

I think that Finland had it right with their baby boxes. I would love to see something like this in the US.

2013-07-15 01:36:00 PM  
1 vote:
Also a message from Mister Kiwi if anyone cares, though I think the thread is just about dead:

I don't know who all you people are, but the way you all came around to help someone you don't even know who is going through a rough time makes me hope for humanity a little. I hope in some way we can repay you all someday.
2013-07-15 01:24:26 PM  
1 vote:

ami5000: CapeFearCadaver: Hrm. I'm guessing some people have a case of the Mondays up in this b*tch.

Questioning a person who is asking for money seems smart. Do you always just give your money to anyone who asks for it?

kiwi is good people. Amongst other things she had a very successful fund raising thread on behalf of another one of our own, vincent_blackshadow.

I have no money to purchase anything for her or her soon-to-be here baby, but she has my utmost love, respect & support.
2013-07-15 01:15:39 PM  
1 vote:

atlfarkette: [pbs.twimg.com image 500x584]

This is one of those situations where people actually do.

His whole ministry was about helping those in need, demonstrating compassion, putting others before yourself, bring charitable, and forgiving trespasses.

Yet here we are.
2013-07-15 12:54:35 PM  
1 vote:

ahab: rappy: And it was so gross/weird because she would have to leave to the bathroom to squirt milk in the toilet.

If you were a real friend, you would have said, "Just squirt it right here in my drink."

It would go nicely with some Kahlua.
2013-07-15 12:51:04 PM  
1 vote:

imapirate: LlamaGirl: rappy: I will say, my friend recently had a baby, and holy sh*t her tits are hard.

...hard??? WHY!?

Full of milk and fatty stuff, yo.

Oh god, they hurt so much at that stage.  The first couple of weeks after childbirth are just disgusting. You reguarly wake up covered in up to 7 body fluids.
2013-07-15 12:50:24 PM  
1 vote:

rappy: FunkOut: I think if you are getting mad you are being emotionally available. But I might be wrong.

And I thought sociopaths were considered cool these days. Who knew it was an insult? Hrrm, try to make a random remark and people take it to heart.

I want to cuddle your face with my mouth.

Every so often I get the impression you don't understand what certain words mean...
2013-07-15 12:40:51 PM  
1 vote:
I think we can mostly agree that I'm an asshole, right?  I'm not the most empathetic person on this planet, but isn't this just a simple situation of someone nice needing help and people being free to help or not as they wish?  Does the personal decision not to donate require judging the person in need?  I mean, seriously, I've made a complete hash of my life and yet family and friends still looked out for me despite my f*cking idiocy.  It was extremely humbling for me to know I was a f*ckup, yet have people set their personal feelings about my failings aside so they could lend me support.
2013-07-15 12:25:57 PM  
1 vote:
Wow, some of you guys...no doubt you have hundreds of thousands of dollars saved up in case of ANY unforeseen circumstances. And you would NEVER have an unplanned pregnancy because that's how awesome you are! (Not saying kiwi's was planned or not, that's not the point)

Sometimes people call out for help, and sometimes other people like to respond. Because guess what, that shoe can always turn up on the other foot. shiat happens. If I can afford $20-30 worth of diapers for a semi-random person, why not? Like someone upthread says even if its a scam, so what? I'm out $20, BFD. But if I am really helping someone in need, that makes me happy. Why be an asshole and shame/snark someone who probably is already feeling plenty down about needing to ask for help in the first place?
2013-07-15 12:25:06 PM  
1 vote:

rostit: imontheinternet: I'm all for being an asshole on the internet, but attacking an expectant mother having financial difficulties is over the line.

those mothers who decide to have a kid when they cant afford it always make me think they made a good choice.  now our taxes get to support them.

I could afford it when I got pregnant. I would LOVE to go back to the beginning of March when my only debt was a car payment.
2013-07-15 12:18:05 PM  
1 vote:

KingoftheCheese: Although I have been a white knight this entire thread, I'm going to have to agree with those that say your registry is full of non-essential items. Your kid isn't going to need rattles to survive.

I could be wrong, but I'm assuming the registry thing was setup before all of this stuff got posted to Fark and may have been directed at friends and family. I think she went back and added more essential stuff after this showed up. And if I just got scammed into buying a few bucks worth of diapers then so be it. All I was going to spend that money on was video games and beer anyway.
2013-07-15 12:17:30 PM  
1 vote:

feckingmorons: dhambrick: feckingmorons: I can't help the world, but I can help a few people.

Did you just throw a starfish back into the ocean?

We don't talk about the lobster release.

I think that's what most folks like, is to do a little something for somebody now and then.  I give through a few different ways, but although I know in a perfect world there wouldn't be threads like this (hell, in a perfect world there would be no TFD), I will kick in.  Maybe it's eternal hope that people still help each other out and if there are a few grafters along the way, well so be it.
2013-07-15 12:11:58 PM  
1 vote:

ami5000: drkdstryer: Wait, he scammed TFark out of dollars, right? I thought when that got posted on TFD we just laughed at the poster.


Yeah, I fell for that one and felt pretty stupid.  But I'm pretty confident that Teriaki and kiwi aren't faking this pregnancy to build their collection of teething rings, so I'm down with this.
2013-07-15 12:00:15 PM  
1 vote:
I just want to say that I like kittens.
2013-07-15 11:58:41 AM  
1 vote:

CatherineM: Shaggydum80: I can't speak for others, but I'm more likely to donate when someone posts on behalf of someone else in need. When someone shows up in a thread and is like "Gimme some money, y'all" my immediate reaction is "Nope", but when someone old school like Teriaki shows up and is like "Hey, someone needs help" my reaction is more "Who is it and what can I do?"


The indescribable joy of helping others. Selfish as it may be the little effort it requires from us to bring comfort and relief to another person provides great joy to us. Helping someone is mutually beneficial, it helps those to whom we extend a hand as well as elevating our mood, our feelings of worth, our connection to humanity, and our psychological well being.

Helping others helps me be happy and healthy. With all the negative things going on in the world right now isn't it uplifting to think of a beautiful baby with some new onesies, some bows in her hair and her parents not overly burdened with worry.

I don't know about you but this made my day.

Peace be with you.
2013-07-15 11:53:44 AM  
1 vote:

skybreaker: No. And no one should ever be pressured to help in any situation. The worse thing here is anyone looking down on someone who doesn't want to help. Life sucks, get a helmet.

That's the worst thing, really?  How precious are you?
2013-07-15 11:51:55 AM  
1 vote:
I'm perfectly fine with being a cynical asshole.
2013-07-15 11:51:07 AM  
1 vote:

kxs401: sgt cyanide: child/boyfriend


She emasculates what she f*cks
2013-07-15 11:50:05 AM  
1 vote:

homeschooled: If she's on TFD, why didn't she post this?

I would recommend reaching out to local churches for baby supplies. People might talk a lot of sh*t about churches, but they will help out pretty much anyone, even if you're not a member. Worth looking into.

I can't speak for others, but I'm more likely to donate when someone posts on behalf of someone else in need. When someone shows up in a thread and is like "Gimme some money, y'all" my immediate reaction is "Nope", but when someone old school like Teriaki shows up and is like "Hey, someone needs help" my reaction is more "Who is it and what can I do?"
2013-07-15 11:48:56 AM  
1 vote:
Now you've got some baby bows coming your way, kiwi.  No reason your daughter shouldn't look cute while you're dealing with essentials.
2013-07-15 11:32:22 AM  
1 vote:

LlamaGirl: wizden: Ain't nobody got the stomach for that. I would have shot myself in the face within three months if I had to scrub that mess out of cloth diapers every time the baby exploded.

Your babies exploded? WTF were you feeding them!?

Newborn baby poop has the consistency of mustard, water, and small curd cottage cheese mixed together.
2013-07-15 11:29:16 AM  
1 vote:

Starryeyes: You should consider cloth diapers rather than spending so much money on disposable ones. A child will go through an average of 3500 or so diapers in the first year of its life.

Or, if you go the route of disposables, both of my kids used the Target brand and we have never had any issues with leaking or anything like that and they are a fraction of the price of Huggies or Pampers.

Also, even if you plan on nursing, go to the Enfamil and Similac websites and sign up for free samples. We haven't spent a dime on formula with my son in the three months that he's been alive.
2013-07-15 11:27:47 AM  
1 vote:
If my wife asks why I am sending another woman a baby food maker and baby laundry detergent, I am going to be sooooo pissed off.
2013-07-15 11:27:38 AM  
1 vote:

Starryeyes: You should consider cloth diapers rather than spending so much money on disposable ones. A child will go through an average of 3500 or so diapers in the first year of its life.

And as we all know, electricity and water for washing cloth diapers are free.
2013-07-15 11:19:45 AM  
1 vote:

Teriaki: . My max out of pocket on my insurance plan is $9k.

fark the insurance situation in this country. Seriously, fark it.
2013-07-15 11:16:08 AM  
1 vote:
How much do we have to donate to get naming rights for the baby?

//Good luck, i hope the rest of it goes easy
2013-07-15 11:14:54 AM  
1 vote:
If you guys have questions I'll be happy to answer them. This was suggested as a solution after everyone rallied around Vincent Blackshadow earlier in the year.

I'm asking for nothing from those who don't have it to spare, but even a little hope is getting me through right now.

Thanks for reading/ listening. It truly is appreciated.
2013-07-15 11:06:48 AM  
1 vote:
I recommend you push. PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH

Real good.
2013-07-14 11:07:06 PM  
1 vote:
Hi everyone -
A lot of you know me, and know that I don't solicit the internet for anything, but this is an extenuating circumstance that I am really hoping you will help with.

One of our own (kiwimoogle84) has hit a pretty hard patch financially -  and has a baby arriving in two weeks. I'm asking that we, as the amazing community we are, pitch in to help her in this trying time.
She emailed me this weekend with this:

"My situation has gotten dire. I'm two weeks from my scheduled induction date and we JUST got paid- it disappeared into the void of overdue cell phone bills, registration and a tune up on the car, utilities, fuel, my prescriptions, etc. We're basically broke right now.
The trouble is, there's still a lot of stuff we need for the baby.  We don't have enough bottles, a pump, a feeding pillow, a diaper bag, near enough diapers... I don't even have any sheets for her crib.
...and I got a collection call from my hospital yesterday. It's scary to be that deep in debt to a hospital, but still need their services. I have a balance of $5,295 to their ER dept. I've been making small payments as best I can but I have to finish paying my doctor her professional fee first before I can worry about the hospital, and that is from my first ER trip back from March that they're calling on- about $1850. And the financial office won't work with me until I'm done accruing debt. I know how this works- it's what I do for a living :)
I'll owe them $7200ish by the time kid's born. My max out of pocket on my insurance plan is $9k. Most I ever have to pay in a calendar year. Which is, you know, GREAT, if you get cancer or need a heart transplant. Not so great if you're just having a baby.
I'd be fine if I'd been working this whole time, but losing half my pay to disability just crippled us. Absolutely destroyed us. And with an insurance plan that says I owe 30% of each hospital visit... I've had four separate trips thanks to my high blood pressure, leaking protein from my kidneys, fainting spells, threatened miscarriages, false labor a few weeks ago when I was sick..."

I know that we as a community can rally around one of our own when things are tough. If any of you could see fit to contribute in any way, that would be really amazing. Holly has a baby registry at through Amazon with necessities that they're still missing:

As there are also big bills coming up with the hospital, if you can, please donate money to help offset those, anything would be most appreciated. Her PayPal account is ki­wi­moog­l­e84­[nospam-﹫-backwards]l­ia­m­g*c­o­m

Again, if this wasn't a desperate situation I'd never ask Fark to help, but she's an awesome lady, and is doing everything she can to keep her head above water - and with a baby coming, that is looking more like drowning just now.

I have more information for anyone who wants it - EIP, call me, text me, whatever. I also have copies of her hospital bills, if you need additional proof that she's proper f*cked. Anything you can spare will be helpful.
I'm sure at least some of you can relate to the despair that comes with overwhelming debt. Please help!
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