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NannyStatePark

2011-01-25 09:25:00 AM

bump: welcome to our world ladies, you wanted equality, you got it. I think you are going to be disspointed when you figure out how not super great it is to have to deal with this type of crap

A.
Friggin.
Men.

You are woman. We've heard you roar. In numbers too big to ignore, etc. A woman can do anything a man can do, only better. When God created man She was only kidding. A woman w/o a man is like a fish w/o a bicycle. ETC.

As someone that endured the 70s-80s, I've been marinating in such bs for decades. Again - you wanted equal rights? Well princess you got it. Suck it up (if she had she wouldn't be divorced) and deal widdle girl - or go hit up your daddy for yet more trust money...

My husband is underpaid and his boss told him to his face. He could freelance or consult in his spare time. We could probably get together some top notch people and open our own business with his connections and resume. But he's making a real difference to society in his current position and can spend time with our kids, and I'd never demand he change that for money even if I can't go to the mall as often.

trippdogg

2011-01-25 09:25:24 AM

Bad journalist hurt brain. No read more. Need lie down. WF?

DrunkenIrishman

2011-01-25 09:26:14 AM

Ringshadow: DrunkenIrishman: I also have 70k in student loans. Couldn't find a job with my degree, so I joined the military (USAF). It's worked out pretty well so far, but I won't have my loans paid off until I'm 50.

Sallie Mae is the devil in company form.

Preach it brother. Sallie Mae had me at a whopping 9.5% interest for some time on farking 45K. They've lost my paperwork, including forebearance paperwork. They've called me over late "outstanding" balance when I was paying monthly over the phone and had the records to prove it, only to find the outstanding was thirty dollars in fees they couldn't explain. Sallie Mae can die in a fire, and that's being far too kind.

As for paying loans off, I'm currently a traveling radworker. I'm only on my second outage as a junior, but I have a third scheduled and my only bills are living expenses and student loans. Hopefully this fall will treat me kindly. I'm also looking into becoming a radwaste shipper, which would double my hourly pay.

Sorry to hear that, they will always squeeze you for every last penny. I was lucky enough to get most of my loans between 3% and 5%. I always try to pay more than my monthly due amount too.

Once, when I called to figure out how to lower my monthly payments (because I couldn't give them what I didn't have), they claimed that my income level justified paying them what they wanted. So, they can fark right off.

Good luck on your job!

/threadjack over!
//back to the money-grubbing mommies!

Cinaed

2011-01-25 09:26:54 AM

Bet she wish she had gotten a prenup on that.

RembrandtQEinstein

2011-01-25 09:31:52 AM

her response should have been "do it pussy"

Aidan

2011-01-25 09:32:30 AM

Petit_Merdeux: Guys, gals; there's a lengthy article if you click on the link to the left of the headline.

To be brutally honest, the article's description of the site reads a bit like Fark. :)

Imma surf over to the adequate parenting site, though. I've been freaking out since yesterday when someone on Fark said they can tell if a student's had a crap breakfast or not. My son was sent to school with half a beef stick today. :\

/Yeah yeah antichrist blah blah

rdub1968

2011-01-25 09:34:36 AM

FTFA:
More typical discussions involve a woman who feels let down by a spouse who only makes $45,000 a year.

//As they should be. But the biatches on that site seem to think money is the basis for a happy marriage, which is probably why the divorce rate is over 50%.

Spike Lee's Favorite Farker

2011-01-25 09:36:15 AM

This is average shiat for white people. If you are white and make less than 250k, you might as well kill yourself because you are a looser.

Aidan

2011-01-25 09:36:30 AM

bearcats1983:
/it helps that she isn't a materialistic, vapid biatch

Well that's the trick, innit? :)

It constantly amazes me how a preponderance of seemingly normal intelligent men fall for materialistic vapid biatches.

Or seemingly normal women fall for cheating, scumsucking bastards. You'd think either gender would get better at not sleeping with shiat.

Almost Pure

2011-01-25 09:40:26 AM

hobodojo: Jesus. Every now and then I think I want to have kids, and then I read about shiat like this. It makes me hug my abdomen and murmur to my eggs "Don't worry, babies. It's ok. Mama won't bring you into the world."

/ It's not a mercy kill if they never live, right?
// Right?!

I hold my sack and say the exact same thing. Mama and all!

HotWingConspiracy

2011-01-25 09:40:55 AM

rdub1968: FTFA:
More typical discussions involve a woman who feels let down by a spouse who only makes $45,000 a year.

//As they should be.

Why?

Heron

2011-01-25 09:49:47 AM

Petit_Merdeux: Guys, gals; there's a lengthy article if you click on the link to the left of the headline.

I don't know; I think most folks here would prefer the entertainment of n-warring to the eye-rolling boring condescension and privilege displayed in an article about resident DC yuppies fighting over zip codes, play dates, and how hard it is to be a millionaire.

/a millionaire is someone with over a million bucks in the bank; not someone who make's 1mil a year.

Heron

2011-01-25 09:53:13 AM

DrunkenIrishman: Ringshadow: DrunkenIrishman: I also have 70k in student loans. Couldn't find a job with my degree, so I joined the military (USAF). It's worked out pretty well so far, but I won't have my loans paid off until I'm 50.

Sallie Mae is the devil in company form.

Preach it brother. Sallie Mae had me at a whopping 9.5% interest for some time on farking 45K. They've lost my paperwork, including forebearance paperwork. They've called me over late "outstanding" balance when I was paying monthly over the phone and had the records to prove it, only to find the outstanding was thirty dollars in fees they couldn't explain. Sallie Mae can die in a fire, and that's being far too kind.

As for paying loans off, I'm currently a traveling radworker. I'm only on my second outage as a junior, but I have a third scheduled and my only bills are living expenses and student loans. Hopefully this fall will treat me kindly. I'm also looking into becoming a radwaste shipper, which would double my hourly pay.

Sorry to hear that, they will always squeeze you for every last penny. I was lucky enough to get most of my loans between 3% and 5%. I always try to pay more than my monthly due amount too.

Once, when I called to figure out how to lower my monthly payments (because I couldn't give them what I didn't have), they claimed that my income level justified paying them what they wanted. So, they can fark right off.

Good luck on your job!

/threadjack over!
//back to the money-grubbing mommies!

Most companies pull this crap. I used to be a Sprint customer, but after a 6 month period where Sprint trying to charge me for "missed payments" every damn month, I switched to at&t. Back when the crash first happened, Discover started trying the same thing; as far as Big Business is concerned, if they can trick or scare you into paying them more, that isn't fraud; it's good business.

/csb

FormlessOne

2011-01-25 09:57:36 AM

Heron: /a millionaire is someone with over a million bucks in the bank; not someone who make's 1mil a year.

That was always my definition as well - a millionaire is someone whose total real assets are currently valued at or above $1,000,000.

If you make a million bucks a year, and your assets total more than a million bucks, you are most likely a "multi-millionaire".

In either case, you'll get no friggin' sympathy from the vast majority of Americans, most of whom are struggling right now.

Thunderpipes

2011-01-25 09:59:35 AM

Bathia_Mapes: cretinbob: fark, I could live off $750k over the next 10 years and not know what to do with all of it.
Dude, please go kill yourself.

Exactly.

Living in Mom's basement by yourself is cheap. Try buying a home and raising children with less than 75k a year.

JonnyG

2011-01-25 10:05:18 AM

What's interesting is the post on the site's blog where one of the guys who helped build the site pretty much agrees with what the reporter wrote (new window).

Je5tEr

2011-01-25 10:05:44 AM

I finally paid off my loans from 1988 just a couple of years ago. Been to 4 colleges, no degree. but now I have a good job doing something which I have never received even 1 hour of formal training or college study to do.

I think if I made $750,000 a year I'd probably wind up giving a good chunk of it of it away to people I know struggling through crap like what I went through.

Sallie-Mae can suck it.

Petit_Merdeux

2011-01-25 10:06:34 AM

FormlessOne: In either case, you'll get no friggin' sympathy from the vast majority of Americans, most of whom are struggling right now.

Why would I expect any?

I have none for them. Lazy farks.

nostratic

2011-01-25 10:09:53 AM

torch: Sucks, doesn't it missy? Men have been hearing this shiat for a long time.

/runs

"...the equivalent of a woman being treated as a sex object is a man being treated as a success object. "

Warren Farrell

Farkn Yaj Yenrac

2011-01-25 10:10:34 AM

My wife and I make 900K a year. I make the bulk of it and she only works part time as an interior designer, but she wants a personal chef. We already have a maid. Between family commitments, the extra work load to afford the chef, and sleeping with the maid, how am I supposed to work in enough time to sleep with the chef? I am already exhausted.

The_Gallant_Gallstone

2011-01-25 10:14:14 AM

FormlessOne: In either case, you'll get no friggin' sympathy from the vast majority of Americans, most of whom are struggling right now.

If by "sympathy," you mean red flags, torches, pitchforks and massive property damage, I might be able to spare some.

Jormungandr

2011-01-25 10:15:48 AM

Man, if my wife made 750k (after taxes?) a year I would insist that we put at least 80% away for a few years. 20% of 750k is more than I make now anyway. So long as she was actually happy at her job I would have no problem chilling at home with the kids.

'Course Mrs. Jorm is a writer, so the chances of making it big are fairly slim.

eKonk

2011-01-25 10:16:42 AM

Farkn Yaj Yenrac: My wife and I make 900K a year. I make the bulk of it and she only works part time as an interior designer, but she wants a personal chef. We already have a maid. Between family commitments, the extra work load to afford the chef, and sleeping with the maid, how am I supposed to work in enough time to sleep with the chef? I am already exhausted.

Duh, you sleep with the chef and the maid at the same time.

rdub1968

2011-01-25 10:17:04 AM

Je5tEr:I finally paid off my loans from 1988 just a couple of years ago. Been to 4 colleges, no degree. but now I have a good job doing something which I have never received even 1 hour of formal training or college study to do.

Is that you, Sarah Palin?

AbbeySomeone

2011-01-25 10:17:28 AM

Silly man, the solution is obvious - hire a chef that will bang your wife.

Aidan

2011-01-25 10:20:08 AM

Jormungandr: Man, if my wife made 750k (after taxes?) a year I would insist that we put at least 80% away for a few years. 20% of 750k is more than I make now anyway. So long as she was actually happy at her job I would have no problem chilling at home with the kids.

'Course Mrs. Jorm is a writer, so the chances of making it big are fairly slim.

I have something for youuuuu: Objectification of Writers (new window)

GoodyearPimp

2011-01-25 10:22:40 AM

Ringshadow: Hmm, $750,000?

Let's see, pay student loans in entirety. Down to $680,000.

$100K to my brother, for college. $80K to my parents, for putting up with me. Down to a cool half million, no debt, and no guilt!

Probably ten grand in random medical expenses. Essure or Adiana, uterine ablation, lasic if I can get it. I am now sterile, without a period, and can actually read my alarm clock in the middle of the night without my nose being ten inches from the clock itself. $490K

Off-lease Honda, call it $20K. Down to $470. $50K in the bank, everything else invested. I keep traveling for work but now do so with basically no financial pressure. Money made at work will pay for my summer vacations. Retire by 40 in a custom built dome house south of the snow belt.

/suck it, asshole hubby on wifey website

~$240k goes to Uncle Sam (less if you've got some deductions, etc). ~$32500 goes to Michigan (depends on your state). $x goes to local taxes (depends where you live).

I accept your point, but also realize that some folks live outside the realm of logic. When a baseline house is $500k, your view of income is going to be skewed.

Je5tEr

2011-01-25 10:23:47 AM

rdub1968: Je5tEr:I finally paid off my loans from 1988 just a couple of years ago. Been to 4 colleges, no degree. but now I have a good job doing something which I have never received even 1 hour of formal training or college study to do.

Is that you, Sarah Palin?

Funny guy. Sarah Palin has a Communications degree which I suppose qualifies her to be a talking head.

Wytchone

2011-01-25 10:24:46 AM

This is what is wrong with Washington.

the_vicious_fez

2011-01-25 10:24:59 AM

I don't have kids, but now I'm tempted to have one just so I can make a stroller out of one of those ugly metal folding chairs, some chicken wire, and an Eagles jersey. Throw on some lawn mower tires for the bigger pot holes and I'd be a walking fark you to the stroller status symbol set.

brap

2011-01-25 10:26:10 AM

That reminds me, it's been a while since I checked out Park Slope Parent, some of the best unintentional comedy on the interwebby.

haddie

2011-01-25 10:29:21 AM

Thunderpipes: Bathia_Mapes: cretinbob: fark, I could live off $750k over the next 10 years and not know what to do with all of it.
Dude, please go kill yourself.

Exactly.

Living in Mom's basement by yourself is cheap. Try buying a home and raising children with less than 75k a year.

There is a halfway point between "mom's basement" and "buying a home" where people live just fine with kids for less than 75k a year.

emersonbiggins

2011-01-25 10:34:45 AM

Je5tEr: rdub1968: Je5tEr:I finally paid off my loans from 1988 just a couple of years ago. Been to 4 colleges, no degree. but now I have a good job doing something which I have never received even 1 hour of formal training or college study to do.

Is that you, Sarah Palin?

Funny guy. Sarah Palin has a Communications degree which I suppose qualifies her to be a talking head.

PghThermal

2011-01-25 10:38:55 AM

When my wife wanted to take a job and hire a maid I said "Fine" until she told me her wage could not pay for the maid. I said "That's not a job, that's a hobby."

/divorced 16 years
//still pay the alimony

lizyrd

2011-01-25 10:39:11 AM

BesiktasBoy83: 750k usdollars is a good wage but not like you can retire at 45 or somelike.

What? That's over ten times what I earn in a year. If I earned $750,000 a year I could retire at 35, let alone 45.

It's all how you use your money. Over the last two years, I've seen around $8,000 in raises. You know what has not grown? My take home pay. You know what has? My contributions to my IRA.

I can handle my mortgage, food payment, gas money, utilities and beer money with what I take home now. My standard of living certainly does not grow to match my income. I want to retire someday, and the only way to make that happen is to stash enough away right now. If I earned $750,000 a year, I could squirrel more away in 3 years than I could over my entire career and pay off my house on top of it.

KatjaMouse

2011-01-25 10:40:46 AM

HotWingConspiracy: rdub1968: FTFA:
More typical discussions involve a woman who feels let down by a spouse who only makes $45,000 a year.

//As they should be.

Why?

You don't know the cost of living in this area, do you? So if a new mom has to make a decision about whether or not she should go back to work or can she enjoy staying home with the baby until they start school she can feel a little let down if her spouse doesn't make enough money to support them through that period. I'm not saying she has a right to be pissed at her husband who decided to practice Environmental Law rather than represent corporate interest and be miserable with himself as a human being, but it's understandable when you reach that threshold to be disappointed with the options.

Thunderpipes

2011-01-25 10:43:33 AM

haddie: Thunderpipes: Bathia_Mapes: cretinbob: fark, I could live off $750k over the next 10 years and not know what to do with all of it.
Dude, please go kill yourself.

Exactly.

Living in Mom's basement by yourself is cheap. Try buying a home and raising children with less than 75k a year.

There is a halfway point between "mom's basement" and "buying a home" where people live just fine with kids for less than 75k a year.

Ya, it's called white trash, welfare bums, and Democrats.

Minimum family income needed to buy an average home in Chittenden County, VT, for instance, was $68,500. This is in an ultra-liberal state with lavish welfare benefits with everyone crying about the evils of greed. Yet most people cannot afford to buy a goddamn average home here. Location is a huge factor. You can buy a perfectly good home down south for 150k, need 300k here minimum, plus $6,000 a year in property taxes.

Make less than that, you live in a trailer.

greengideon

2011-01-25 10:45:04 AM

Can't believe this is not up yet...

/Decreasing the surplus population, one moran at a time

Kozmopoliskepticalopsis

2011-01-25 10:46:22 AM

Dear privileged class,

Please die. Now. If you refuse, we will come and burn your farking mansions down and kill you and your worthless children.

Let history be your guide. There are a lot more of us than there are of you.

Sincerely,

The Working Class

Thunderpipes

2011-01-25 10:48:25 AM

Kozmopoliskepticalopsis: Dear privileged class,

Please die. Now. If you refuse, we will come and burn your farking mansions down and kill you and your worthless children.

Let history be your guide. There are a lot more of us than there are of you.

Sincerely,

The Working Class

And you are too lazy and too stupid to do anything about it. You don't have the guts to get a decent job, you think you have to guts to go up against your betters? Try again, serf.

HotWingConspiracy

2011-01-25 10:49:49 AM

KatjaMouse: HotWingConspiracy: rdub1968: FTFA:
More typical discussions involve a woman who feels let down by a spouse who only makes $45,000 a year.

//As they should be.

Why?

You don't know the cost of living in this area, do you? So if a new mom has to make a decision about whether or not she should go back to work or can she enjoy staying home with the baby until they start school she can feel a little let down if her spouse doesn't make enough money to support them through that period.

They could adjust their living standards appropriately if staying at home is truly her desire.

HotWingConspiracy

2011-01-25 10:52:08 AM

Thunderpipes: Kozmopoliskepticalopsis: Dear privileged class,

Please die. Now. If you refuse, we will come and burn your farking mansions down and kill you and your worthless children.

Let history be your guide. There are a lot more of us than there are of you.

Sincerely,

The Working Class

And you are too lazy and too stupid to do anything about it. You don't have the guts to get a decent job, you think you have to guts to go up against your betters? Try again, serf.

Those are some big words coming from a teabagger.

ttintagel

2011-01-25 10:55:54 AM

Aidan: Petit_Merdeux: Guys, gals; there's a lengthy article if you click on the link to the left of the headline.

To be brutally honest, the article's description of the site reads a bit like Fark. :)

Imma surf over to the adequate parenting site, though. I've been freaking out since yesterday when someone on Fark said they can tell if a student's had a crap breakfast or not. My son was sent to school with half a beef stick today. :\

/Yeah yeah antichrist blah blah

At first I thought you said "sent to school with half a beer, sick today."

bearcats1983

2011-01-25 10:57:05 AM

Aidan: I agree with you 100%. Most of the time you can see the red flags from a mile away at the beginning of the relationship. Sometimes, however, the bullshiat comes out of nowhere and blind sides you.

For example (csb time), my ex was awesome for the first 6 months or so. No fights, great sex, etc. Out of nowhere, she turns into a massive C word; controlling, biatchy, angry, etc. I was going through some hard times (and I'm a farking idiot), so I stayed with her. Three years of that shiat and I was seriously considering teaching in China just to get away from her. I ended up telling her to get farked after one of her crazy episodes and that was that.

Okay, I'm rambling...but yea, some normal guys can definitely get trapped in some nasty biatch's web of crazy.

Aidan

2011-01-25 10:57:48 AM

ttintagel: Aidan:
Imma surf over to the adequate parenting site, though. I've been freaking out since yesterday when someone on Fark said they can tell if a student's had a crap breakfast or not. My son was sent to school with half a beef stick today. :\

At first I thought you said "sent to school with half a beer, sick today."

*grin* Well now I feel good about my parenting skills. I didn't do that at least!

papabusche

2011-01-25 11:02:32 AM

sleep lack: Half the world lives on less than $2.50 a day. ($1000/year)
80% on less than $10 a day ($3500/year)

(from here.)

that's interesting, but i'm not sure how it's relevant.
although it reminds me of a piece i saw on the news long ago about 20 somethings moving to eastern europe and living like kings. I would like to know how/where to go do that.

Aidan

2011-01-25 11:05:10 AM

papabusche: sleep lack: Half the world lives on less than $2.50 a day. ($1000/year)
80% on less than $10 a day ($3500/year)

(from here.)

that's interesting, but i'm not sure how it's relevant.
although it reminds me of a piece i saw on the news long ago about 20 somethings moving to eastern europe and living like kings. I would like to know how/where to go do that.

There are little enclaves down in Mexico (apparently) where American retirees go on their fixed pensions and live it up. It's supposed to be rather nice. Lots of gringos to chat with, cheap digs, etc.

Farkn Yaj Yenrac

2011-01-25 11:09:11 AM

eKonk: Duh, you sleep with the chef and the maid at the same time.

Fantastic advice.

AbbeySomeone: Silly man, the solution is obvious - hire a chef that will bang your wife.

That is just ridiculous.

Braindeath

2011-01-25 11:22:00 AM

Washington is more expensive than Philadelphia or Chicago? I used to hang out in DC and I don't remember it being that much worse for rental prices and the like than Chicago. And Philly is relative - it might be cheaper but it's A) not worth it and B) doesn't really have the job market to support it anyway.

asmodeus224

2011-01-25 11:28:48 AM

Stay at home moms have a lot of free time to think about things like strollers...I love taking a gander at these 'mom sites' occassionally...filled with women who believe they were revealed the meaning of life and imbued with a deep knowledge of All That Is because they pumped out a kid.

If you area stay at home mom with 2 kids or less, you are a lazy POS and you are prolly farking every delivery guy that comes your way and your husband is having lunch dates with his whores on the side too.

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