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Monty_Zoncolan [TotalFark]
2023-02-04 11:54:24 PM  
there's one called "farmer's only" take your chacnes, maybe a Gay site?
 
fragMasterFlash [TotalFark] [OhFark]
2023-02-05 12:09:14 AM  
Bars and restaurants.
 
GardenWeasel [TotalFark]
2023-02-05 12:56:57 AM  
2016 article and the incel(s) in the comments were just as cringy as now.
 
GardenWeasel [TotalFark]
2023-02-05 12:57:32 AM  
Farkers Only.
 
Monty_Zoncolan [TotalFark]
2023-02-05 1:21:58 AM  

Monty_Zoncolan: there's one called "farmer's only" take your chacnes, maybe a Gay site?

look, I'm not trying to condemn anybody or they're lifestyle... do your thing, just pointing out that the site doesn't seem as into "Animal Husbandry" as one might expect.
 
Redh8t [TotalFark] [OhFark]
2023-02-05 1:40:20 AM  

GardenWeasel: Farkers Only.


Well, there's always that concern about inbreeding... ;p

Honestly, the most beautiful person I've seen on Fark is Wendigogo. They're lovely. Their intelligence, kindness to others, and physical beauty; takes my breath away...
 
Stephen_Falken [TotalFark] [OhFark]
2023-02-05 1:42:43 AM  

Monty_Zoncolan: Monty_Zoncolan: there's one called "farmer's only" take your chacnes, maybe a Gay site?
look, I'm not trying to condemn anybody or they're lifestyle... do your thing, just pointing out that the site doesn't seem as into "Animal Husbandry" as one might expect.

They're

lifestyle? Really? Are you trying to make everyone believe that you didn't make that ignoramic, stupid, moronic typo on purpose? You went out of your way to add a f*cking apostrophe for f*ck sake?

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DannyBrandt [TotalFark]
2023-02-05 2:13:12 AM  

Stephen_Falken: Monty_Zoncolan: Monty_Zoncolan: there's one called "farmer's only" take your chacnes, maybe a Gay site?
look, I'm not trying to condemn anybody or they're lifestyle... do your thing, just pointing out that the site doesn't seem as into "Animal Husbandry" as one might expect.

They're lifestyle? Really? Are you trying to make everyone believe that you didn't make that ignoramic, stupid, moronic typo on purpose? You went out of your way to add a f*cking apostrophe for f*ck sake?

[Fark user image image 200x200]


Get a room, you two.
 
Redh8t [TotalFark] [OhFark]
2023-02-05 2:16:27 AM  

DannyBrandt: Stephen_Falken: Monty_Zoncolan: Monty_Zoncolan: there's one called "farmer's only" take your chacnes, maybe a Gay site?
look, I'm not trying to condemn anybody or they're lifestyle... do your thing, just pointing out that the site doesn't seem as into "Animal Husbandry" as one might expect.

They're lifestyle? Really? Are you trying to make everyone believe that you didn't make that ignoramic, stupid, moronic typo on purpose? You went out of your way to add a f*cking apostrophe for f*ck sake?

[Fark user image image 200x200]

Get a room, you two.


Falken's so old they'll need a f*cking museum... ;)
 
bikkurikun
2023-02-05 5:31:51 AM  
Since each of them moved to Tinder's mindless swiping model and are all owned by the same company, they all suck.  Their goal is not to find you a partner, but to make you keep coming back and feel bad about yourself.
Go out in the real world, join a club/activity, talk to people.

'
 
Quigley_Wyatt
2023-02-05 6:19:16 AM  
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eKonk
2023-02-05 6:23:36 AM  
FTFA: As a woman, you are a dime a dozen and competing with unknown competition. You can be pretty, funny, and intelligent but it still won't be enough to get a man to call you back or take you out to dinner 75% of the time.

*AHEM*

HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAA

*cough*

I will not for one moment pretend that online dating is anything other than a hellscape for women, but the idea that "as a woman, you are  dime a dozen" is ridiculous. Complain about the quality of the men you match with? Perfectly valid. Hate the idiotic messages/lack of conversation? Gotcha. The whole attitude it's fostered with regard to interpersonal relationships? Amen.  But do not pretend that it's difficult for a woman to get a match. You could post up a picture of an overweight amputee sasquatch, if it's labeled "female" it will get attention on a dating site.
 
LordBeavis [TotalFark]
2023-02-05 6:41:31 AM  

eKonk: FTFA: As a woman, you are a dime a dozen and competing with unknown competition. You can be pretty, funny, and intelligent but it still won't be enough to get a man to call you back or take you out to dinner 75% of the time.

*AHEM*

HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAA

*cough*

I will not for one moment pretend that online dating is anything other than a hellscape for women, but the idea that "as a woman, you are  dime a dozen" is ridiculous. Complain about the quality of the men you match with? Perfectly valid. Hate the idiotic messages/lack of conversation? Gotcha. The whole attitude it's fostered with regard to interpersonal relationships? Amen.  But do not pretend that it's difficult for a woman to get a match. You could post up a picture of an overweight amputee sasquatch, if it's labeled "female" it will get attention on a dating site.


STAY OUT OF MY GOOGLE SEARCH HISTORY!
 
Nurglitch
2023-02-05 7:33:14 AM  

eKonk: FTFA: As a woman, you are a dime a dozen and competing with unknown competition. You can be pretty, funny, and intelligent but it still won't be enough to get a man to call you back or take you out to dinner 75% of the time.

*AHEM*

HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAA

*cough*

I will not for one moment pretend that online dating is anything other than a hellscape for women, but the idea that "as a woman, you are  dime a dozen" is ridiculous. Complain about the quality of the men you match with? Perfectly valid. Hate the idiotic messages/lack of conversation? Gotcha. The whole attitude it's fostered with regard to interpersonal relationships? Amen.  But do not pretend that it's difficult for a woman to get a match. You could post up a picture of an overweight amputee sasquatch, if it's labeled "female" it will get attention on a dating site.


It's only rarely good attention though.
 
AppleOptionEsc
2023-02-05 7:53:34 AM  

bikkurikun: Since each of them moved to Tinder's mindless swiping model and are all owned by the same company, they all suck.  Their goal is not to find you a partner, but to make you keep coming back and feel bad about yourself.
Go out in the real world, join a club/activity, talk to people.

'


*advice only applicable if you work 9 to 5 and have weekends off

/the real world doesn't care if you live outside those parameters
 
Pants full of macaroni!! [BareFark]
2023-02-05 8:04:38 AM  
Best: none of them.
Worst: all of them.
 
aimtastic [TotalFark]
2023-02-05 8:23:51 AM  
I met my husband through the personals that used to be on the Orion's website nearly 20 years ago.

I guess my advice would be to avoid the big name dating sites and try to find one tied to an interest you have and would like your date to share.
 
born_yesterday [TotalFark]
2023-02-05 8:38:53 AM  
Assuming it's a serious question.

About ten years ago I took a shot at online dating. I used eHarmony and Match.com, which was the style at the time.

At the time, eHarmony had a very structured communication system to guide initial interactions. But I found it difficult to set up actual, physical dates after that structured step. The focus there is also marriage, not dating, so expect the profiles to reflect that.

I had better luck with match.com. There's not really any guidance, so initial contact is more casual and I found the women more interested in getting offline to meet for an actual date.

Good luck.
 
Ker_Thwap [TotalFark] [OhFark]
2023-02-05 9:03:23 AM  
I've had success with Match and Plenty of Fish in my area.  Match ended up getting stupidly expensive.  I'll suggest:

- you tighten up your age range, make it +/- whatever.  If you're only looking for younger, that tells me you're probably a bit selfish and shallow.
- Pay less attention to the pictures, which are probably old anyway.  Pay more attention to what they write, what they say.  I don't care if they're gorgeous, if they don't bother to answer the quiz questions, or leave a paragraph or two in their profile, it's a red flag.
- Stick by your core red flags.  For me, it's smoking (it's a personal thing)/cats(can't breathe kind of allergies)  These are kind of a shame, because I filter out some great people, but I'm weird like that.   Then Trumpers/obvious religious evangelists.  I have no regret on this, I don't have the patience to deal with them.  Lastly, the lazy ones who don't leave profiles, or write nonsense.  They aren't real, and if they are real, they aren't interesting to me.

Adjust to suit your preferences.  I hear so very many incel types whining about "She didn't respect my time and my money and my manliness!"  Well, duh.  You made no attempt to filter out the ones who are telling you in advance they're incompatible.  Why would you expect differently, or think that you can change them, because they're pretty, and then get angry at the pretty people who want nothing to do with your shallow ass?
 
milizard
2023-02-05 9:07:42 AM  
I met my husband on Match nearly 20 years ago. I'm so glad to be done with dating, because I don't think I could handle it these days.
 
Ker_Thwap [TotalFark] [OhFark]
2023-02-05 9:08:48 AM  
Oh, also pay attention to what the other person wants.  If they want marriage/soulmate level of commitment and a massive salary, and you don't... then just leave them alone.
 
WelldeadLink
2023-02-05 9:19:45 AM  
Interesting people: OKCupid
Sex: AdultFriendFinder
 
ReapTheChaos
2023-02-05 9:24:03 AM  
Dating is a Joke, Online Dating Is A Nightmare, And Social Media Is Killing Relationships

Translation: I can't make a relationship work so instead of examining myself I'm going to somehow blame all these things instead.
 
neongoats [TotalFark]
2023-02-05 9:45:44 AM  
A better idea than seeking advice on which scam dating site is the scammiest, instead stop feeling insecure about being single at this time of year and don't let manufactured valentines holiday shiat and coupled friends that treat you as broken make you feel like you're somehow incomplete without a romantic partner.

Learn to be a complete person all by yourself. When you eventually do find that suitable partner, they'll thank you for it.
 
WelldeadLink
2023-02-05 9:57:35 AM  

neongoats: which scam dating site is the scammiest


I was amused by the sites whose terms of service required you to allow the site's automated bots to try to carry on a conversation with you. They documented that they had fake users.
 
sxacho [TotalFark]
2023-02-05 10:01:27 AM  
Netflix.
 
GardenWeasel [TotalFark]
2023-02-05 10:03:20 AM  

WelldeadLink: Interesting people: OKCupid
Sex: AdultFriendFinder


Fetlife
 
Billy Bathsalt
2023-02-05 10:19:57 AM  
Haven't tried any, but I'm amused at the url for Plenty of Fish.  iat's plentyoffish.com,
which I read as plenty offish.  Well they don't seem friendly at all!
 
vudukungfu [TotalFark]
2023-02-05 11:22:09 AM  

eKonk: FTFA: As a woman, you are a dime a dozen and competing with unknown competition. You can be pretty, funny, and intelligent but it still won't be enough to get a man to call you back or take you out to dinner 75% of the time.

*AHEM*

HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAA

*cough*

I will not for one moment pretend that online dating is anything other than a hellscape for women, but the idea that "as a woman, you are  dime a dozen" is ridiculous. Complain about the quality of the men you match with? Perfectly valid. Hate the idiotic messages/lack of conversation? Gotcha. The whole attitude it's fostered with regard to interpersonal relationships? Amen.  But do not pretend that it's difficult for a woman to get a match. You could post up a picture of an overweight amputee sasquatch, if it's labeled "female" it will get attention on a dating site.


She never texted me back
 
Smock Pot [TotalFark] [OhFark]
2023-02-05 11:30:33 AM  
I want to date but can't bring myself to do a site.  Also, it seems like most guys online are allergic to women over age 35.
 
Scanty Em
2023-02-05 11:39:21 AM  
Back in the before time, 2019, I got a new job that required me to actually work onsite for the first time in probably ten years. It was soon after that I started noticing the young guys standing at the urinal with their most prized possession in one hand and their johnson in the other.

I would not even attempt to date in a world where everybody spends every possible spare moment staring at their phones.
 
Johnny the Tackling Alzheimers Patient
2023-02-05 11:43:30 AM  
FTFA: "Sitting on a flight back from LA, I was lucky enough to endure the six-hour flight with a Sex and the City marathon."

Honey, it's your unrealistic expectations.
 
Sasquach
2023-02-05 12:03:15 PM  

eKonk: FTFA: As a woman, you are a dime a dozen and competing with unknown competition. You can be pretty, funny, and intelligent but it still won't be enough to get a man to call you back or take you out to dinner 75% of the time.

*AHEM*

HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAA

*cough*

I will not for one moment pretend that online dating is anything other than a hellscape for women, but the idea that "as a woman, you are  dime a dozen" is ridiculous. Complain about the quality of the men you match with? Perfectly valid. Hate the idiotic messages/lack of conversation? Gotcha. The whole attitude it's fostered with regard to interpersonal relationships? Amen.  But do not pretend that it's difficult for a woman to get a match. You could post up a picture of an overweight amputee sasquatch, if it's labeled "female" it will get attention on a dating site.


Hey!...I'm neither an amputee nor a female!
 
bingethinker [TotalFark] [OhFark]
2023-02-05 12:16:23 PM  

Smock Pot: I want to date but can't bring myself to do a site.  Also, it seems like most guys online are allergic to women over age 35.


There are guys who appreciate women over 35. But you think we're creepy old men.
 
Hyjamon
2023-02-05 12:19:40 PM  
Thursday sounds particularly bad?

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blondambition [OhFark]
2023-02-05 12:24:52 PM  

Smock Pot: I want to date but can't bring myself to do a site.  Also, it seems like most guys online are allergic to women over age 35.


My son met his wife on OK Cupid. He was 30 and she was 39. They've been together for 6 years now. Had a Zoom wedding in 2020.
 
Hyjamon
2023-02-05 12:26:07 PM  

eKonk: FTFA: As a woman, you are a dime a dozen and competing with unknown competition. You can be pretty, funny, and intelligent but it still won't be enough to get a man to call you back or take you out to dinner 75% of the time.

*AHEM*

HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAA

*cough*

I will not for one moment pretend that online dating is anything other than a hellscape for women, but the idea that "as a woman, you are  dime a dozen" is ridiculous. Complain about the quality of the men you match with? Perfectly valid. Hate the idiotic messages/lack of conversation? Gotcha. The whole attitude it's fostered with regard to interpersonal relationships? Amen.  But do not pretend that it's difficult for a woman to get a match. You could post up a picture of an overweight amputee sasquatch, if it's labeled "female" it will get attention on a dating site.


Do you know where women are not a dime a dozen? Grindr

seriously: Straight Women Are On Grindr Now
 
GardenWeasel [TotalFark]
2023-02-05 12:28:39 PM  

Smock Pot: I want to date but can't bring myself to do a site.  Also, it seems like most guys online are allergic to women over age 35.


Doesn't that make you cougar material for the younglings?
 
GardenWeasel [TotalFark]
2023-02-05 12:30:48 PM  

Hyjamon: eKonk: FTFA: As a woman, you are a dime a dozen and competing with unknown competition. You can be pretty, funny, and intelligent but it still won't be enough to get a man to call you back or take you out to dinner 75% of the time.

*AHEM*

HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAA

*cough*

I will not for one moment pretend that online dating is anything other than a hellscape for women, but the idea that "as a woman, you are  dime a dozen" is ridiculous. Complain about the quality of the men you match with? Perfectly valid. Hate the idiotic messages/lack of conversation? Gotcha. The whole attitude it's fostered with regard to interpersonal relationships? Amen.  But do not pretend that it's difficult for a woman to get a match. You could post up a picture of an overweight amputee sasquatch, if it's labeled "female" it will get attention on a dating site.

Do you know where women are not a dime a dozen? Grindr

seriously: Straight Women Are On Grindr Now


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lizyrd
2023-02-05 12:53:35 PM  

born_yesterday: Assuming it's a serious question.

About ten years ago I took a shot at online dating. I used eHarmony and Match.com, which was the style at the time.

At the time, eHarmony had a very structured communication system to guide initial interactions. But I found it difficult to set up actual, physical dates after that structured step. The focus there is also marriage, not dating, so expect the profiles to reflect that.

I had better luck with match.com. There's not really any guidance, so initial contact is more casual and I found the women more interested in getting offline to meet for an actual date.

Good luck.


Met a few dates, two longer-term girlfriends, and finally mrs lizyrd on Match about 8ish years ago - online dating for the typical reasons: post-divorce, career in full swing in a male-dominated job, not doing the bar scene in my mid-30s like I was in my early 20s, friends were all settled down, etc.  So it was a while ago, and my observations might be out of date.

A big part of it is understanding how the thing works - did a lot of talking with various contacts about what their experience on the site was like. Especially if you're a man seeking a woman, the women have a much different experience than you do. They're getting 10 or 20 messages a day that say "what's up?" or "hello." Gotta say something meaningful or funny to pique their interest. The site is/was desperate to keep women on the site, and will extend their membership for free if they're initiating X contacts a month. And the scammy parts - I remember getting more contacts right near the end of my billing cycle, became obvious that I'd see more traffic right when it was time to decide on sticking with it or quitting. This could have just been a little crooked - for example, pushing my profile in the feeds of women being reminded to make their 3 more contacts to ieep their membership. Or it could have been really scammy and been more...manipulative than that.

Anyway, it worked well enough.
 
Bruscar
2023-02-05 12:59:24 PM  
Our son met his fiancé on Match.com.
 
Bruscar
2023-02-05 1:01:17 PM  

fragMasterFlash: Bars and restaurants.


Various places of worship, related activities and events, and faith retreats.
 
Telephone Sanitizer Second Class
2023-02-05 1:16:24 PM  
I met my wife on OK Cupid last year. We've been married since 2017. It was a little awkward.
 
FNG [TotalFark]
2023-02-05 1:45:39 PM  
During the 90's I used match.com with moderate success.  Was good for both just hooking up and for finding someone more serious.

I tried date.com in the early 00's, where I found Mrs.FNG and we've been together 20 years.

I, too, probably wouldn't like the apps or today's dating environment, so I'm glad I don't have to deal with it.
 
LarrySouth
2023-02-05 2:19:37 PM  
I hear that the Fark PolTab is brimming with attractive people...
 
fragMasterFlash [TotalFark] [OhFark]
2023-02-05 3:05:30 PM  

LarrySouth: I hear that the Fark PolTab is brimming with attractive people...


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drjekel_mrhyde
2023-02-05 4:12:42 PM  
Which ever one you pick, flood the living shiat out of it. You'll catch something
 
sxacho [TotalFark]
2023-02-05 4:17:51 PM  

Smock Pot: I want to date but can't bring myself to do a site.  Also, it seems like most guys online are allergic to women over age 35.


I'm a 46 year old dude and I have my app set for no younger than 34, no older than 52, I think. Any younger than that it just silly. Maybe fun, but silly.
 
Fano
2023-02-05 5:35:06 PM  

bikkurikun: Since each of them moved to Tinder's mindless swiping model and are all owned by the same company, they all suck.  Their goal is not to find you a partner, but to make you keep coming back and feel bad about yourself.
Go out in the real world, join a club/activity, talk to people.

'


Before Match bought OKCupid they seemed to have a pretty good model going on. Then they realized the business need to keep suckers on the premium hook forever.
 
Fano
2023-02-05 5:37:47 PM  

eKonk: FTFA: As a woman, you are a dime a dozen and competing with unknown competition. You can be pretty, funny, and intelligent but it still won't be enough to get a man to call you back or take you out to dinner 75% of the time.

*AHEM*

HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAA

*cough*

I will not for one moment pretend that online dating is anything other than a hellscape for women, but the idea that "as a woman, you are  dime a dozen" is ridiculous. Complain about the quality of the men you match with? Perfectly valid. Hate the idiotic messages/lack of conversation? Gotcha. The whole attitude it's fostered with regard to interpersonal relationships? Amen.  But do not pretend that it's difficult for a woman to get a match. You could post up a picture of an overweight amputee sasquatch, if it's labeled "female" it will get attention on a dating site.


Plenty of Fish is called Plenty of Dicks for a reason. Every female posting on there immediately gets a flood of hooting grunting troglodytes clamoring to mate, no matter how malformed and illmannered they may be.
 
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