EdgeRunner: drewogatory: Lol, some salty Farkers in this thread acting like they wouldn't date a younger hottie because it's beneath them. And of course, the old "man child" trope thrown in, like people gain some mysterious amount of wisdom as they age.

It's not that dating a younger woman is "beneath" me. It's that perspectives change as you age and gain experience, and I can't relate to a college freshman enough anymore to have a meaningful relationship that wouldn't feel creepy.

If you haven't matured at all as you've aged, and scoff at the very idea that anybody learns or changes at all over the years, of course you're not going to see the issue. It also makes sense you'd bristle at the term "man-child", as it's one you might hear fairly often.

EdgeRunner: drewogatory: Why would I bristle at it? I don't want to hang out with them any more than they want to hang out with me.

"Them" being the people who call you a man-child?

EdgeRunner: drewogatory: EdgeRunner: drewogatory: Why would I bristle at it? I don't want to hang out with them any more than they want to hang out with me.

"Them" being the people who call you a man-child?

Breeders? They seem to be the only group who resents people living responsibility free.

Unless you're a trust fund baby, you can't really live responsibility-free without ending up homeless.

TDWCom29: weddingsinger: Tyrone Slothrop: weddingsinger: Throw him on the enormous pile of creeps.

Sorry, fellas, it's not just the age difference, it's the power imbalance that tells us there is a 99% chance you hold some... concerning ideas about women and other things.

Ah, the feminist who insists women have no actual power over their own decisions. Very modern.

More like a person who understands young people lack the experiences that make agency easier to assert.

An older person is almost certainly using the dynamic to manipulate the younger person. Its very much an openly discussed thing with the predatory types (Andrew Tate being an extreme example) to say they prefer younger women because they don't know as much. That they can be 'taught' to behave the way the man wants.

You see similar dynamics when bosses have relationships with staff or even church elders who prey on congregation or teachers who abuse students. They want the imbalance because it makes control easier.

So at what age can women start making their own decisions without fear of being manipulated?

EdgeRunner: weddingsinger: Tyrone Slothrop: weddingsinger: Throw him on the enormous pile of creeps.

Sorry, fellas, it's not just the age difference, it's the power imbalance that tells us there is a 99% chance you hold some... concerning ideas about women and other things.

Ah, the feminist who insists women have no actual power over their own decisions. Very modern.

More like a person who understands young people lack the experiences that make agency easier to assert.

An older person is almost certainly using the dynamic to manipulate the younger person. Its very much an openly discussed thing with the predatory types (Andrew Tate being an extreme example) to say they prefer younger women because they don't know as much. That they can be 'taught' to behave the way the man wants.

You see similar dynamics when bosses have relationships with staff or even church elders who prey on congregation or teachers who abuse students. They want the imbalance because it makes control easier.

Some guys have that predatory mindset, sure. But you're greatly overstating how many of them even put that much thought into it. The guys (and some gals) I've known really do relate better to younger and less experienced people because they're perpetual children themselves, and they're always blindsided when their latest partner stops finding their childishness charming and gets tired of their inability to act like an adult when it's needed. The average 30-40+ person who refuses to move beyond a high school mentality isn't trying to fool others. They're fooling themselves into thinking they're still 17 years old and the coolest kid on the block. It can be sad to watch.