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(Slate)   "How can I determine if my wife is faking her chronic illness?"   (slate.com) divider line
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543 clicks; posted to Discussion » on 31 Oct 2022 at 8:50 AM (21 weeks ago)   |   Favorite    |   share:  Share on Twitter share via Email Share on Facebook



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2022-10-31 6:07:50 AM  
Sleep with her doctor.
 
2022-10-31 6:44:08 AM  
Hypochondriacs aren't faking anything. They sincerely believe they're much sicker than anyone realizes, and believe that they have to exaggerate their symptoms in order to get the help they need. I've known a couple of hypochondriacs who were also borderlines, and they had to compete with everyone else--if anyone got a disease, they claimed to have it (and have it worse). But they really believed it.
 
2022-10-31 6:50:42 AM  

Clarence Brown: Hypochondriacs aren't faking anything. They sincerely believe they're much sicker than anyone realizes, and believe that they have to exaggerate their symptoms in order to get the help they need. I've known a couple of hypochondriacs who were also borderlines, and they had to compete with everyone else--if anyone got a disease, they claimed to have it (and have it worse). But they really believed it.


Hypochondriacs might not be faking anything, but narcissists are.
 
2022-10-31 7:26:38 AM  
Or it could also be that she does have a chronic illness.
 
2022-10-31 7:27:25 AM  
She requires mental health care.
But we'll just ignore that, like we always do because it's not easy to understand and understanding is difficult.

It really is.
 
2022-10-31 7:28:03 AM  
If she dies, she *probably* wasn't faking
 
2022-10-31 8:58:46 AM  
I saw a lot of spinals in 'Nam, dude. This chick's faking it. She's a farking goldbricker.
 
2022-10-31 9:09:00 AM  
Mental illness is hard to understand when you're young, and haven't dealt with it, or experienced it before.  It's hard to deal with with in a significant other, at any age.

You were never trained in mental health care, you never signed up to provide mental health care, you're probably not particularly good at providing mental health care.

There's also a major problem, especially in womens' health care.  Where women die of heart attacks/cancer/whatever because even doctors are telling them that the pain is psychological.

You were never trained in medical care either, you never signed up to be a medical care provider, you're probably not particularly good at providing medical health care.

I think the only answer is to be rich, very rich.  Then you can afford to seek out and enjoy all the medical/mental care from people how have learned, and have signed up to provide medical/mental care.
 
2022-10-31 9:15:00 AM  
Wifey loves her mental pathologies more than she loves you.
Lawyer up.

/Then Tindr & butt stuff. With someone else.
 
2022-10-31 9:20:03 AM  
Try to push her down a flight of stairs?

Isn't that how they do it on TV? - to prove someone is faking?
 
2022-10-31 9:24:01 AM  
I used to be with a woman who presented a whole host of weird medical symptoms. The only thing tying the symptoms together was mental issues.

As much as I tried, I couldn't help. This dude seems to be in the same boat. I feel sorry for him and for her but there's no easy solution to this problem.
 
2022-10-31 9:35:43 AM  
I know too many people who had doctors and loved ones think they were faking, but who ended up really sick. Some of them died from treatable conditions that their doctors refused to treat, because they were 'faking'.
 
2022-10-31 9:44:49 AM  
Replace all her medications with look alike placebos.  If she doesn't complain about her symptoms seemingly getting worse... well, you caught her.

/don't do that
 
2022-10-31 9:45:38 AM  

EffervescingElephant: Try to push her down a flight of stairs?

Isn't that how they do it on TV? - to prove someone is faking?


No, on TV, you throw your briefcase behind them on the floor, and when they turn to look at it, you prove they are faking
 
2022-10-31 10:06:43 AM  
My ex-wife wouldn't fake illness or injury but she would way over play the severity. You know like how a crying toddler will stop crying if you leave the room then start again when you come back? That was her.

I'd watch her from another room and she'd be fine, doing whatever it is she was doing. Then I'd walk in the room and she would start flopping around like a soccer player. Then I'd leave the room and she'd be fine again.
 
2022-10-31 10:41:29 AM  
Is it fibromyalgia? Then yes, it's fake.
 
2022-10-31 10:52:58 AM  
Her: Vomiting profusely

Him: No I'm not taking you to ER

Her: Goes anyway, multiple diagnosed problems

Him: She's faking illnesses

Could she be faking or pathological, yes. Could she also have something chronic and hard to diagnose, YES.

I collapsed at work just over five years ago. I was taken out by ambulance. ER ended up deciding it was nothing (specifically, an ovarian cyst, in spite of me saying with increasing volume I had no history of ovarian cysts and it didn't run in the family). Actual diagnosis? Ruptured organ. I should be dead.

You doubt your partner? ASK TO GO WITH HER. TAKE HER TO SPECIALISTS. BE THERE WHEN THE EVIDENCE, OR LACK THEREOF, IS PROVIDED.

If she sees you ignoring her perceived pain? She's right to leave. Because fark you.

Ker_Thwap: There's also a major problem, especially in womens' health care. Where women die of heart attacks/cancer/whatever because even doctors are telling them that the pain is psychological.


THIS RIGHT HERE.

Had a coworker get repeatedly told to lose weight. She had a 25 pound cyst and ended up getting a de facto hysterectomy when it was removed. She ended up sterile because they ignored her for years!
 
2022-10-31 11:03:22 AM  
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2022-10-31 11:19:52 AM  
It's probably lupus.
 
2022-10-31 1:25:29 PM  

Ker_Thwap: There's also a major problem, especially in womens' health care.  Where women die of heart attacks/cancer/whatever because even doctors are telling them that the pain is psychological.


Indeed. Mrs. lizyrd had been complaining of increasing discomfort in her abdomen for months, her PCP (a woman, for what it's worth) kept telling her "women of a certain age; hormonal changes are starting; you're on the edge of perimenopause; blah blah blah."  She finally got really uncomfortable one day and voiced a specific (but incorrect) concern that her IUD had been displaced.  PCP said "well, Planned Parenthood put it in, go see them to check."  Planned Parenthood did an ultrasound, found the IUD where it belonged, but also found a 7cm mass. Referred her to a specialist. Had a couple of really stessful days before MRI made them "pretty sure" is was not cancerous, and a lower level stressful week until it was out and biopsied to confirm it was benign.

After recovering from the surgery, she is now aware of how much discomfort, even pain, she really was in - only fully realizing it after it was gone. And pissed that her doctor just kept brushing her off with "feeling like shiat is normal for a woman."
 
2022-10-31 1:38:29 PM  

Laobaojun: Wifey loves her mental pathologies more than she loves you.
Lawyer up.

/Then Tindr & butt stuff. With someone else.


It's always so nice to see a dude that's into pegging.
 
2022-10-31 2:57:22 PM  

Clarence Brown: and believe that they have to exaggerate their symptoms in order to get the help they need


I'm pretty sure that part is equally true about people who actually are unwell.
 
2022-10-31 4:31:32 PM  
I'll admit that I've fantasized about faking a chronic condition more than once. I have a spouse, 2 young kids, a job, a house, yada. I'm tired all the time.

I dream of laying in bed watching TV, reading, listening to music, dozing, ringing a little bell when I need something.

When the kids are out of the house I can have a miraculous recovery.
 
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