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(NJ.com)   Should I throw away my husband and two children for some guy I had a fling with 30 years ago?   (nj.com) divider line
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617 clicks; posted to Discussion » and Main » on 15 Aug 2022 at 3:05 PM (6 weeks ago)   |   Favorite    |   share:  Share on Twitter share via Email Share on Facebook



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2022-08-15 11:56:53 AM  
Go for it! Great idea!!
 
2022-08-15 12:06:42 PM  
It sounds like you will be filled with regret either way, so you do you.
 
2022-08-15 12:22:21 PM  
Life went on. I had kids of my own, who are grown now, and both still live at home. I take care of them and their dad.

Yes... run.
 
2022-08-15 1:41:13 PM  

NewportBarGuy: Life went on. I had kids of my own, who are grown now, and both still live at home. I take care of them and their dad.

Yes... run.


fast.
 
2022-08-15 3:16:51 PM  
You know, Springsteen's "Hungry Heart" is a great song but I can't ever get into it, just because of that opening line: "Got a wife and kids in Baltimore, Jack; I went out for a ride, and I never went back." It makes me hate the guy that did that, and not care about the rest of his story, or anybody associated with him, yet the song almost seems to celebrate his act.
 
2022-08-15 3:17:06 PM  
 I'm so worried about doing something for myself, and this time I am tempted, but I just don't know what to do. Please help.

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2022-08-15 3:25:51 PM  
Your in love with someone who existed 30 years ago. That person no longer exists anymore than the person I was 30 years ago exists.
 
2022-08-15 3:28:22 PM  

Any Pie Left: You know, Springsteen's "Hungry Heart" is a great song but I can't ever get into it, just because of that opening line: "Got a wife and kids in Baltimore, Jack; I went out for a ride, and I never went back." It makes me hate the guy that did that, and not care about the rest of his story, or anybody associated with him, yet the song almost seems to celebrate his act.


or it could be, y'know, just a song
 
2022-08-15 3:39:15 PM  
Sure, whore!
 
2022-08-15 3:42:09 PM  
Can you change who you are?
 
2022-08-15 3:48:26 PM  
Yes, I'll be waiting....
 
2022-08-15 4:12:21 PM  

Thank You Black Jesus!: Any Pie Left: You know, Springsteen's "Hungry Heart" is a great song but I can't ever get into it, just because of that opening line: "Got a wife and kids in Baltimore, Jack; I went out for a ride, and I never went back." It makes me hate the guy that did that, and not care about the rest of his story, or anybody associated with him, yet the song almost seems to celebrate his act.

or it could be, y'know, just a song


I've been to Baltimore. I can understand.
 
2022-08-15 4:54:21 PM  
Uh, you're still "taking care of" your adult children?

Not only would I encourage you to dump all of them, I urge you to do so.

Also, you know adults should be able to take care of themselves, right?
 
2022-08-15 5:00:04 PM  
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I mean, seriously, why the Fark not?
You obviously hate your life, so make the leap.

But, ideally, catch your SO in infidelity so they can bankroll your mid-life crisis.
 
2022-08-15 5:23:52 PM  
Yass!

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2022-08-15 6:37:17 PM  
Well, since you're clearly a POS I'd say do it.

I'm sure you'll be happy. I'd say that your ex-husband will be better off but he's probably a POS too.
 
2022-08-15 7:26:14 PM  
Probably the only good thing about being an incredibly shallow man is that all my old flings and crushes are now old enough that I'd no longer be interested in them, even if I were single, even if they would be willing to give it a go.

I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying I've aged any better. I haven't. I just feel zero desire to pursue anyone from my past.
 
2022-08-15 7:30:16 PM  
Lady, throw in another child and a third round draft pick to be named later, and you got yourself a deal!
 
2022-08-15 9:26:02 PM  

Any Pie Left: You know, Springsteen's "Hungry Heart" is a great song but I can't ever get into it, just because of that opening line: "Got a wife and kids in Baltimore, Jack; I went out for a ride, and I never went back." It makes me hate the guy that did that, and not care about the rest of his story, or anybody associated with him, yet the song almost seems to celebrate his act.


This is why, as an adult with a wife and two kids, I now hate the movie Close Encounters of the Third Kind. The main character just leaves his family behind so he can joyride with aliens. Since he'll be missing with no explanation, I don't think his poor family would even be able to collect any insurance to make up for the loss of his income. What a selfish prick.
 
2022-08-15 9:49:09 PM  

I know a guy: Any Pie Left: You know, Springsteen's "Hungry Heart" is a great song but I can't ever get into it, just because of that opening line: "Got a wife and kids in Baltimore, Jack; I went out for a ride, and I never went back." It makes me hate the guy that did that, and not care about the rest of his story, or anybody associated with him, yet the song almost seems to celebrate his act.

This is why, as an adult with a wife and two kids, I now hate the movie Close Encounters of the Third Kind. The main character just leaves his family behind so he can joyride with aliens. Since he'll be missing with no explanation, I don't think his poor family would even be able to collect any insurance to make up for the loss of his income. What a selfish prick.


Oy. The close encounter triggered a response that he couldn't fight. The aliens were coming for the humans that would have the impulse in them. His conscious mind fought it, but his lizard brain took over.
 
2022-08-15 9:52:01 PM  

I know a guy: Any Pie Left: You know, Springsteen's "Hungry Heart" is a great song but I can't ever get into it, just because of that opening line: "Got a wife and kids in Baltimore, Jack; I went out for a ride, and I never went back." It makes me hate the guy that did that, and not care about the rest of his story, or anybody associated with him, yet the song almost seems to celebrate his act.

This is why, as an adult with a wife and two kids, I now hate the movie Close Encounters of the Third Kind. The main character just leaves his family behind so he can joyride with aliens. Since he'll be missing with no explanation, I don't think his poor family would even be able to collect any insurance to make up for the loss of his income. What a selfish prick.


Spielberg had daddy issues and he put them on screen. His films have lots of absentee fathers.
 
2022-08-15 10:28:02 PM  
i'm thinking if you have to ask the question, the answer is yes. the answer is always 'yes'.
 
2022-08-16 12:16:14 AM  
29 years ago, I met the love of my life. Over the course of 3 decades, we never quite managed  to be totally single at the same time. Last month,  I saw him (for the first time in 8 years) at a funeral. One of my best friends, whose known him longer than me, took this pic when he grabbed me for a hug. We held each other tightly for a few minutes, and spoke our hearts quietly to each other. We both know that ship sailed years ago. No point in pursuing it. We will always wonder what it might've been if we'd made different choices 30 years ago, but it felt like a sweet kind of closure.

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/over sharing perhaps but it's apropos
//golden girl club is my destiny
 
2022-08-16 9:41:34 AM  
Leave, yes.  Leave them all behind.  Learn to hang-glide.
 
2022-08-16 11:13:22 AM  

freetomato: 29 years ago, I met the love of my life. Over the course of 3 decades, we never quite managed  to be totally single at the same time. Last month,  I saw him (for the first time in 8 years) at a funeral. One of my best friends, whose known him longer than me, took this pic when he grabbed me for a hug. We held each other tightly for a few minutes, and spoke our hearts quietly to each other. We both know that ship sailed years ago. No point in pursuing it. We will always wonder what it might've been if we'd made different choices 30 years ago, but it felt like a sweet kind of closure.

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/over sharing perhaps but it's apropos
//golden girl club is my destiny


He wore a t-shirt to a funeral? You're better off without him.

I keed, I keed.
 
2022-08-16 4:53:47 PM  

Fark_Guy_Rob: Probably the only good thing about being an incredibly shallow man is that all my old flings and crushes are now old enough that I'd no longer be interested in them, even if I were single, even if they would be willing to give it a go.

I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying I've aged any better. I haven't. I just feel zero desire to pursue anyone from my past.


The whole 'building intimacy' thing tires me out just thinking about it.  I like being comfortable and there isn't another woman on the planet sharing with me the 20+ years of close relationship and trust I have with my wife.

That's a lot of 'stuff' to try and build with someone else just because she has firmer breasts or something.
 
2022-08-16 10:45:52 PM  

Fark_Guy_Rob: Probably the only good thing about being an incredibly shallow man is that all my old flings and crushes are now old enough that I'd no longer be interested in them, even if I were single, even if they would be willing to give it a go.

I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying I've aged any better. I haven't. I just feel zero desire to pursue anyone from my past.


That's what I love about these high school girls, man. I get older, they stay the same age.
 
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