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(Flathead Beacon)   A missing relative may only be one home DNA test away from being found   (flatheadbeacon.com) divider line
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773 clicks; posted to STEM » on 10 Aug 2022 at 6:55 AM (6 weeks ago)   |   Favorite    |   share:  Share on Twitter share via Email Share on Facebook



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2022-08-09 9:47:54 PM  
Freaky.  At least he got to see Montana.
 
2022-08-10 5:09:13 AM  
Yeah but what if someone in my family is a serial killer and they get caught from my DNA?

This is why you shouldn't use 23andME or other DNA testing companies. Because you could be snitching on your family.

/This is what some people actually believe
 
2022-08-10 8:22:14 AM  
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That is a very 80s picture.
 
2022-08-10 8:22:40 AM  

Thoreny: Yeah but what if someone in my family is a serial killer and they get caught from my DNA?

This is why you shouldn't use 23andME or other DNA testing companies. Because you could be snitching on your family.

/This is what some people actually believe


You convinced me. I'll or the kit right away.
 
2022-08-10 8:50:56 AM  

kdawg7736: [flatheadbeacon.com image 850x850]

That is a very 80s picture.


And with her hair in the way, the girl in the middle's shirt kinda reads "Cary on Fark".
 
2022-08-10 8:57:23 AM  
Buy a kit.
/coffee running low
 
2022-08-10 9:03:01 AM  
My MIL never knew who her father was. Her mother, who died in a car accident when my MIL was 10, went to her grave without giving any details about who the father might have been, if she knew any. She'd been a young waitress in the early 60s, and it was suspected she'd either had an affair with a married man, or perhaps more likely, had been raped.

A few years ago, my wife did a DNA test through Ancestry, and found the guy - her maternal grandfather. (Well, she found kids of his who had done DNA tests, and through her degree of relatedness was able to trace her lineage back to him.) He was a retired high school teacher and a pastor (of course). His wife would have been pregnant with his first child when my MIL was conceived.

Obviously, all attempts at communication with the man's family were futile. People don't want to ruin the image and legacy of their family when they learn that grandpa was a rapist, or at the very least had cheated on grandma. My wife, who comes from a place of such poverty that ideas of "legacy" and "image" have little meaning, still can't understand why people wouldn't want to know, or even acknowledge, newfound family.

The man died about a year ago. His family set up some kind of online memorial page where people could leave comments. My SIL posted (very respectfully, I might add) that she was his granddaughter and she wished she could have known him. The post was deleted a day later, and the comments locked.
 
2022-08-10 9:07:17 AM  
Thanks, Subby. That was an interesting, though slightly sad read. However that fellow passed, I sure hope he had found some happiness prior to doing so.

We've got a few aunts who have done some wonderful things in recent years when it comes to tracking down the history of how our family came to be. I hated having to say no to submitting my own DNA due to many privacy concerns.
 
2022-08-10 9:10:08 AM  

amyldoanitrite: My SIL posted (very respectfully, I might add) that she was his granddaughter and she wished she could have known him. The post was deleted a day later, and the comments locked.


I get it from the point of view of the person who deleted and locked the comments but still, that really sucks. I'm sorry that is so.
 
2022-08-10 9:26:45 AM  
I was adopted out of Oklahoma during the Baby Scoop Era.  Basically churches and other evil "do-gooders" taking away babies from unwed mothers and putting them out to adoption, sometimes for profit.

I'd kind of like to reassure some old lady that I had a wonderful childhood, and achieved things, but... I don't want to remind her of a possible rape, the possible trauma of having her baby stolen from her, or whatever other negative circumstances that surrounded my birth.

I certainly don't want to be contacted by random Oklahomans wanting to reel me back into the family.  Blood/DNA is the worst reason to collect a new family.

What I'm saying is there's no chance I'll ever have a DNA sample taken by one of these profit driven testing companies.
 
2022-08-10 9:46:45 AM  

Ker_Thwap: profit driven testing companies



This times a thousand. Some are worse than even that
 
2022-08-10 10:56:47 AM  

amyldoanitrite: My wife, who comes from a place of such poverty that ideas of "legacy" and "image" have little meaning, still can't understand why people wouldn't want to know, or even acknowledge, newfound family.


I have a friend that was kidnapped as a child and found her mother's family when she was in college. Turns out they thought she had died, and they told her that since they already made peace with her death, they didn't see much reason for her to come around anymore. They preferred to think of her as a dead child rather than confront the reality of what happened. I think my friend would have been more hurt by that, but her mom had already died and so it was really just a bunch of aunts that she never really knew.
 
2022-08-10 11:01:10 AM  
I find the choice of naming him "Cliff" Doe to be highly amusing!
 
2022-08-10 11:02:29 AM  

shut_it_down: amyldoanitrite: My wife, who comes from a place of such poverty that ideas of "legacy" and "image" have little meaning, still can't understand why people wouldn't want to know, or even acknowledge, newfound family.

I have a friend that was kidnapped as a child and found her mother's family when she was in college. Turns out they thought she had died, and they told her that since they already made peace with her death, they didn't see much reason for her to come around anymore. They preferred to think of her as a dead child rather than confront the reality of what happened. I think my friend would have been more hurt by that, but her mom had already died and so it was really just a bunch of aunts that she never really knew.


Damn, that's farked up
 
2022-08-10 11:12:56 AM  

Thoreny: kdawg7736: [flatheadbeacon.com image 850x850]

That is a very 80s picture.

And with her hair in the way, the girl in the middle's shirt kinda reads "Cary on Fark".


"Canyon Park"
 
2022-08-10 2:08:28 PM  

amyldoanitrite: shut_it_down: amyldoanitrite: My wife, who comes from a place of such poverty that ideas of "legacy" and "image" have little meaning, still can't understand why people wouldn't want to know, or even acknowledge, newfound family.

I have a friend that was kidnapped as a child and found her mother's family when she was in college. Turns out they thought she had died, and they told her that since they already made peace with her death, they didn't see much reason for her to come around anymore. They preferred to think of her as a dead child rather than confront the reality of what happened. I think my friend would have been more hurt by that, but her mom had already died and so it was really just a bunch of aunts that she never really knew.

Damn, that's farked up


Yeah, I can't imagine getting miraculously reunited with a lost family member only to say "eh, on second thought... you can go now."
 
2022-08-10 3:49:32 PM  

Thoreny: Yeah but what if someone in my family is a serial killer and they get caught from my DNA?

This is why you shouldn't use 23andME or other DNA testing companies. Because you could be snitching on your family.

/This is what some people actually believe


No dipshiat, it is fact. Ask my second cousin. He's doing life thanks to 23fukdme.
 
2022-08-10 11:48:57 PM  
The Finding Your Roots episode with Andy Samberg was awesome. It was really for his mom, who had no idea who her birth parents were. I won't spoil it, but it it had the best artifact they ever found on the series.  For folks with black heritage, they often mention the possibility of rape, but I haven't seen an episode yet that covers rape in other circumstances. With George R. R. Martin's grandmother the possibility existed, but they didn't locate the man.
 
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