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2022-05-20 10:09:48 AM  
I just love psychoanalyzing my coworkers.  Some say I'm really good at it.  I think they're right.  I am the best!
 
2022-05-20 10:17:44 AM  
What a load of selfish bullshiat.  Other people should be happy when good things happen to YOU, but should never beam when good things happen to themselves.
 
2022-05-20 10:40:54 AM  
There's another kind of narcissist who feeds on sympathy.  Their life is a slow, self-actualizing train wreck and you're going to listen to them and help them to wallow in their grief.  They crave the attention and they don't really care how you feel.
 
2022-05-20 11:04:00 AM  
I guess this applies to Fandom as much as anything.
 
2022-05-20 11:13:17 AM  

Angry Drunk Bureaucrat: There's another kind of narcissist who feeds on sympathy.  Their life is a slow, self-actualizing train wreck and you're going to listen to them and help them to wallow in their grief.  They crave the attention and they don't really care how you feel.


That's what the article is talking about, yes.
 
2022-05-20 11:32:56 AM  

deadsanta: Angry Drunk Bureaucrat: There's another kind of narcissist who feeds on sympathy.  Their life is a slow, self-actualizing train wreck and you're going to listen to them and help them to wallow in their grief.  They crave the attention and they don't really care how you feel.

That's what the article is talking about, yes.


Sort of.  I might be talking about a particular subset; the article's narcissists seem more vicious and less sad-sacky.
 
2022-05-20 11:54:39 AM  
That's our scrum master to a T!
 
2022-05-20 12:11:39 PM  
Basically if you don't like someone they're a narcissist and that means you're not responsible for your own failures.

Which is good, because apparently people who believe this have a lot of failures that they don't want to own...
 
2022-05-20 12:12:19 PM  
"Fandom" tab?
 
2022-05-20 12:12:41 PM  

Angry Drunk Bureaucrat: deadsanta: Angry Drunk Bureaucrat: There's another kind of narcissist who feeds on sympathy.  Their life is a slow, self-actualizing train wreck and you're going to listen to them and help them to wallow in their grief.  They crave the attention and they don't really care how you feel.

That's what the article is talking about, yes.

Sort of.  I might be talking about a particular subset; the article's narcissists seem more vicious and less sad-sacky.


No, that's the behavior you have to worry about in the workplace, the article is pretty spot-on about covert narcissists, focusing on their victimhood and passive aggressive tendancies.  Why are you constantly undermining me on Fark?
 
2022-05-20 1:03:40 PM  

deadsanta: No, that's the behavior you have to worry about in the workplace, the article is pretty spot-on about covert narcissists, focusing on their victimhood and passive aggressive tendancies.  Why are you constantly undermining me on Fark?


Don't worry about the undermining from Angry Drunk Bureaucrat, the rest of us want you to succeed despite your setbacks. I'm on your side in this, I've even spoken to management about it. I know it's tough for you right now, it's tough for everyone. I'm sure you'll be back on your feet in no time.
 
2022-05-20 1:06:49 PM  

Angry Drunk Bureaucrat: Sort of.  I might be talking about a particular subset; the article's narcissists seem more vicious and less sad-sacky.


Hey, I don't know if the others have told you, but deadsanta has kinda been badmouthing you, really focusing on your negatives. I wanted to let you know because I'm your friend and if you hadn't heard, needed to be honest with you about what's going on you might not see. It's not right. I'm going to talk to management about it. We've all got flaws, it's very unfair of deadsanta to fixate on your obvious ones and really just attack, attack, attack, especially when you're not around to defend yourself. The others haven't really been sticking up for you either, I'm not sure how much you can trust them.
 
2022-05-20 1:09:32 PM  
I don't feel this thread is enough about me.  You all should really work on that, since I'm so super and wonderful.
 
2022-05-20 1:40:06 PM  

palelizard: Angry Drunk Bureaucrat: Sort of.  I might be talking about a particular subset; the article's narcissists seem more vicious and less sad-sacky.

Hey, I don't know if the others have told you, but deadsanta has kinda been badmouthing you, really focusing on your negatives. I wanted to let you know because I'm your friend and if you hadn't heard, needed to be honest with you about what's going on you might not see. It's not right. I'm going to talk to management about it. We've all got flaws, it's very unfair of deadsanta to fixate on your obvious ones and really just attack, attack, attack, especially when you're not around to defend yourself. The others haven't really been sticking up for you either, I'm not sure how much you can trust them.


That would be kinda funny if it wasn't entirely farking typical for way too much of the corporate world

/let's you and him and fight!
 
2022-05-20 2:02:03 PM  
These individuals have the same basic drive as more overt narcissists, craving attention and recognition.

Dead wrong.  They want Control.
 
2022-05-20 2:06:55 PM  

Angry Drunk Bureaucrat: There's another kind of narcissist who feeds on sympathy.  Their life is a slow, self-actualizing train wreck and you're going to listen to them and help them to wallow in their grief.  They crave the attention and they don't really care how you feel.


I see you've met my ex-wife...
 
2022-05-20 2:26:21 PM  
I dated a covert narcissist.  Not fun at all.  She had a certain assuredness about herself publicly, but nothing overbearing or alarming, it made her interesting.

Once she had you, it was much different.  She would always make herself out to be the most important person in any situation, but not overtly.  How she talked privately, every place she ever worked could not function if she was not there.  She would tell me stories about her co-workers, which I'm pretty much sure were to try to make me think less of them, though I didn't know them and some of the transgressions were not worth the outrage. She would become friends with the other co-workers that liked to talk shiat about people, so when she left a job, she could keep talking bad about the other co-workers.  Which eventually caused an incident when one of her co-workers friends tried to use her against another of her co-worker friends. She would occasionally gaslight me, by trying to change how events occurred in the past, but my memory isn't that bad.  When I caught her in a bad gaslighting situation, she called one of our friends to try and placate me by having the friend tell me that she must have been mistaken and doesn't want to upset me, but never directly from herself.  She would constantly tell me that I could never find another woman as good as her.  She had me somewhat hypnotized and was in there for years, but once I broke the spell, it was like I could finally see everything clearly.
 
2022-05-20 2:45:55 PM  
Subby has never been to a role-playing game convention.
 
2022-05-20 2:55:42 PM  

Angry Drunk Bureaucrat: There's another kind of narcissist who feeds on sympathy.  Their life is a slow, self-actualizing train wreck and you're going to listen to them and help them to wallow in their grief.  They crave the attention and they don't really care how you feel.


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2022-05-20 3:07:48 PM  

Two16: These individuals have the same basic drive as more overt narcissists, craving attention and recognition.

Dead wrong.  They want Control.


Yes. If I'm reading this right, it's the sort of person listening to your problems so THEY can give you permission to feel the way you do.
 
2022-05-20 6:15:24 PM  

Angry Drunk Bureaucrat: There's another kind of narcissist who feeds on sympathy.  Their life is a slow, self-actualizing train wreck and you're going to listen to them and help them to wallow in their grief.  They crave the attention and they don't really care how you feel.


I loved that bit from "What We do in the Shadows "
 
2022-05-20 7:09:55 PM  
Just a twist on Munchausen by Proxy
 
2022-05-20 8:04:40 PM  
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2022-05-21 6:30:10 AM  

squegeebooo: That's our scrum master to a T!


i remind you that people are edible
 
2022-05-21 6:55:05 AM  

spiritplumber: squegeebooo: That's our scrum master to a T!

i remind you that people are edible


SOME people

/choose wisely
//Donner kebabs may sound nice the night of
///but the morning after it's all handcuffs and tears
 
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