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2022-05-18 11:25:58 AM  
The guy is 50. He has less year left than he's lived. Let him drink.
 
2022-05-18 11:26:23 AM  
Sir, this is an Abbys.
 
2022-05-18 11:27:16 AM  
Sounds like my wife's aunt. Every time I went there from day one they were rather pushy offering beer constantly. Which I often obliged. Then had the gall to ask my wife if I had a drinking problem.

I mean, I did, but that's besides the point...
 
2022-05-18 11:27:19 AM  
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2022-05-18 11:28:15 AM  
Sounds like mom and dad are butthurt about losing their booze, rather than concerned for their daughter and bf.  Which is tacky.  Next time only serve el cheapo rotgut.  And don't have em visit for over a week.
 
2022-05-18 11:31:09 AM  
"All our liquor" probably means a half empty handle of Calvert from 1985 and a fifth of Johnny Walker Red.

Trust me, if he's at all committed to drinking, he probably had a couple handles in his suitcase just in case.
 
2022-05-18 11:34:52 AM  
If you have in-laws, you have reason to drink -- whether they're nice to you or not.
 
2022-05-18 11:35:34 AM  

hobnail: "All our liquor" probably means a half empty handle of Calvert from 1985 and a fifth of Johnny Walker Red.

Trust me, if he's at all committed to drinking, he probably had a couple handles in his suitcase just in case.


My dad was a Calvert man. He died in a fire. True story.
 
2022-05-18 11:38:06 AM  

Kitty2.0: hobnail: "All our liquor" probably means a half empty handle of Calvert from 1985 and a fifth of Johnny Walker Red.

Trust me, if he's at all committed to drinking, he probably had a couple handles in his suitcase just in case.

My dad was a Calvert man. He died in a fire. True story.


Reminds me of a Waylon Jennings song. "Dad drove a stock car to an early death/All I remember was a drunk man's breath/Ain't livin' long like this..."
 
2022-05-18 11:39:10 AM  
I can relate, but with my own "relatives". I feel I was swapped at birth but have too much physical similarity to seriously entertain that notion

Imagine being around a group of people who mainly work dead-end menial jobs and talk constantly about those dark skinned criminals destroying this great nation and how maybe those "Mexican nations" we exploit for resources "need us to do that"

I no longer talk to any of my family at all. My life has more happiness in it now that I don't subject myself with mental health issues throughout the year. Ironically, it was the constant feeling of envy I would get hanging out with other peoples families that helped instigate my cutting myself out from my own

But yeah, every time I would hang out with my family as an adult I would overdrink, because it was the only way to make it tolerable and keep smiling
 
2022-05-18 11:39:34 AM  
Drink it before he does, ffs.  Goddamned amateurs.
 
2022-05-18 11:47:51 AM  

The Exit Stencilist: I can relate, but with my own "relatives". I feel I was swapped at birth but have too much physical similarity to seriously entertain that notion

Imagine being around a group of people who mainly work dead-end menial jobs and talk constantly about those dark skinned criminals destroying this great nation and how maybe those "Mexican nations" we exploit for resources "need us to do that"

I no longer talk to any of my family at all. My life has more happiness in it now that I don't subject myself with mental health issues throughout the year. Ironically, it was the constant feeling of envy I would get hanging out with other peoples families that helped instigate my cutting myself out from my own

But yeah, every time I would hang out with my family as an adult I would overdrink, because it was the only way to make it tolerable and keep smiling


Brother?

/I am from North Carolina
//I love my state
///I understand why he drank and I often do the same when I am there... I think it's the (fire)water...
 
2022-05-18 11:57:14 AM  

The Exit Stencilist: I can relate, but with my own "relatives". I feel I was swapped at birth but have too much physical similarity to seriously entertain that notion

Imagine being around a group of people who mainly work dead-end menial jobs and talk constantly about those dark skinned criminals destroying this great nation and how maybe those "Mexican nations" we exploit for resources "need us to do that"

I no longer talk to any of my family at all. My life has more happiness in it now that I don't subject myself with mental health issues throughout the year. Ironically, it was the constant feeling of envy I would get hanging out with other peoples families that helped instigate my cutting myself out from my own

But yeah, every time I would hang out with my family as an adult I would overdrink, because it was the only way to make it tolerable and keep smiling


Yeah, EVERYONE ELSE is the problem! Cheers
 
2022-05-18 12:07:14 PM  
I came for the drunk boyfriend story but I stayed for the peanut butter pie recipe!
 
2022-05-18 12:08:02 PM  
"All our liquor" probably means "went back for a second pour one time at Thanksgiving."

Hell of a host to say "help yourself" and then biatch about it to a perfect stranger for publication when he takes you up on it.
 
2022-05-18 12:09:27 PM  
Nobody's commented yet on the fact that the daughter's boyfriend is almost as old as her parents? There are more issues there than just booze.
 
2022-05-18 12:12:23 PM  

FloriduhGuy: I came for the drunk boyfriend story but I stayed for the peanut butter pie recipe!


In the original version of this Dear Abby column, as it was transmitted to client newspapers, the peanut butter pie recipe letter was printed FIRST. Then the in-law drinking letter.
 
2022-05-18 12:15:50 PM  

puckrock2000: Nobody's commented yet on the fact that the daughter's boyfriend is almost as old as her parents? There are more issues there than just booze.


Meh....my gf is 30. I'm 42. Her dad is 55.
 
2022-05-18 12:17:11 PM  

chitownmike: The Exit Stencilist: I can relate, but with my own "relatives". I feel I was swapped at birth but have too much physical similarity to seriously entertain that notion

Imagine being around a group of people who mainly work dead-end menial jobs and talk constantly about those dark skinned criminals destroying this great nation and how maybe those "Mexican nations" we exploit for resources "need us to do that"

I no longer talk to any of my family at all. My life has more happiness in it now that I don't subject myself with mental health issues throughout the year. Ironically, it was the constant feeling of envy I would get hanging out with other peoples families that helped instigate my cutting myself out from my own

But yeah, every time I would hang out with my family as an adult I would overdrink, because it was the only way to make it tolerable and keep smiling

Yeah, EVERYONE ELSE is the problem! Cheers


That's not how I see it at all. I'm not a perfect person, but I am a good person, and snd removing people from my life is not something I take lightly

How would you feel being raised by a mother who at 4yrs of age pointed at a beggar and said "that's going to be you when you grow up" or constantly told you "you'll never amount to anything", "as soon as your 18, you're out of this house", or my favorite "I wish I had you aborted"?

You might think I'm a criminal, a bad person. But, I have no rap sheet, I've lived my life with honor and truly care about others in my life. And those that know me know me to be one of the most honest and open people they've met, many have said they feel they can tell me anything and not be judged, because that's who I am. Someone who cares and is always there for those I care about

But when those in your life constantly verbally abuse you and act out against you, why keep them in your life?

One day when I was 20, my mother offered to buy me a pair of new glasses. She got angry because I was taking too long to pick out a pair and walked off, ditching me at the mall.

I didn't talk to her for 10 years after that. While I missed my extended family, I had none of their contact info, and had been moved two states away years before so lost touch

When my mother sent my step father (another character, he told my best friend to get undressed in our living room during a sleep over, he was 7 or 8, no touching took place, but didn't need to) to make amends, I gladly took them up

But all I learned from the subsequent 10 years of trying to rejoin my family and finding out who they were from an adult's and not a child's perspective, is that I would've been happier and better off if I'd told my stepfather that I simply wasn't interested, as I was fulfilled with my life and actually quite happy in my own

But think of me what you will. What I know is that I am happier now and free of a very unhappy burden
 
2022-05-18 12:25:56 PM  
An 8 day visit?

Everyone knows you smile and say help yourself but hide the good stuff.
 
2022-05-18 12:26:47 PM  

The Exit Stencilist: chitownmike: The Exit Stencilist: I can relate, but with my own "relatives". I feel I was swapped at birth but have too much physical similarity to seriously entertain that notion

Imagine being around a group of people who mainly work dead-end menial jobs and talk constantly about those dark skinned criminals destroying this great nation and how maybe those "Mexican nations" we exploit for resources "need us to do that"

I no longer talk to any of my family at all. My life has more happiness in it now that I don't subject myself with mental health issues throughout the year. Ironically, it was the constant feeling of envy I would get hanging out with other peoples families that helped instigate my cutting myself out from my own

But yeah, every time I would hang out with my family as an adult I would overdrink, because it was the only way to make it tolerable and keep smiling

Yeah, EVERYONE ELSE is the problem! Cheers

That's not how I see it at all. I'm not a perfect person, but I am a good person, and snd removing people from my life is not something I take lightly

How would you feel being raised by a mother who at 4yrs of age pointed at a beggar and said "that's going to be you when you grow up" or constantly told you "you'll never amount to anything", "as soon as your 18, you're out of this house", or my favorite "I wish I had you aborted"?

You might think I'm a criminal, a bad person. But, I have no rap sheet, I've lived my life with honor and truly care about others in my life. And those that know me know me to be one of the most honest and open people they've met, many have said they feel they can tell me anything and not be judged, because that's who I am. Someone who cares and is always there for those I care about

But when those in your life constantly verbally abuse you and act out against you, why keep them in your life?

One day when I was 20, my mother offered to buy me a pair of new glasses. She got angry because I was taking too long to pick out a pair and walked off, ditching me at the mall.

I didn't talk to her for 10 years after that. While I missed my extended family, I had none of their contact info, and had been moved two states away years before so lost touch

When my mother sent my step father (another character, he told my best friend to get undressed in our living room during a sleep over, he was 7 or 8, no touching took place, but didn't need to) to make amends, I gladly took them up

But all I learned from the subsequent 10 years of trying to rejoin my family and finding out who they were from an adult's and not a child's perspective, is that I would've been happier and better off if I'd told my stepfather that I simply wasn't interested, as I was fulfilled with my life and actually quite happy in my own

But think of me what you will. What I know is that I am happier now and free of a very unhappy burden


Dude, I'm not your farking therapist
 
2022-05-18 12:27:42 PM  

FirstDennis: An 8 day visit?

Everyone knows you smile and say help yourself but hide the good stuff.


And expect to restock...
 
2022-05-18 12:28:28 PM  
I drink nonstop when I visit my parents, but that's just to keep from getting sick with the overpowering stench of dog piss in their house.  One visit's worth of booze would last me three months at home.
 
2022-05-18 12:35:10 PM  

hobnail: Kitty2.0: hobnail: "All our liquor" probably means a half empty handle of Calvert from 1985 and a fifth of Johnny Walker Red.

Trust me, if he's at all committed to drinking, he probably had a couple handles in his suitcase just in case.

My dad was a Calvert man. He died in a fire. True story.

Reminds me of a Waylon Jennings song. "Dad drove a stock car to an early death/All I remember was a drunk man's breath/Ain't livin' long like this..."


I recently wrote a country tune about having certain relatives in your life that make you need a bit of chemical assistance just to tolerate.

It works just as well as a punk song.
 
2022-05-18 12:47:24 PM  
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2022-05-18 12:48:28 PM  

The Exit Stencilist: That's not how I see it at all. I'm not a perfect person, but I am a good person, and snd removing people from my life is not something I take lightly...


Dude, I get what you say. We could have been separated at birth. I also came from a family of Cluster B Disordered farkwads. No alcoholism. Just a bunch of self-centered, gaslighting toddlers.

You don't have to listen to any of the privileged idiots who give you the song & dance of, "Ooooo, you should LUV yer Mommie and Daddie because Famly and...etc." Tell 'em to go eat Toaster Strudel out of the litter box.

Childhood trauma is the kind of stuff you carry around for the rest of your life. Even after they die, you still can have relational problems that no one else will get. Including mental health care specialists.

I hear you. And you have my full empathy.

/and my sword
//and my bow
///and my axe
 
2022-05-18 12:54:18 PM  

hobnail: Trust me, if he's at all committed to drinking, he probably had a couple handles in his suitcase just in case.


My uncle from Ireland would always bring some bottles of John Powers to the in-laws and keep them in his closet. And my grandparents had plenty, that wasn't the point.
 
2022-05-18 12:57:34 PM  
It's not my in-laws but my own family (excluding my parents & sisters) that drive me to drink.  We're going to a family wedding in a few weeks and I already told my wife that I'm going to be shiatfaced drunk by the time the ceremony starts because that's the only way I'm going to be able to stomach having to be around the MAGAt trash that passes for my extended family.
 
2022-05-18 1:04:46 PM  

wage0048: It's not my in-laws but my own family (excluding my parents & sisters) that drive me to drink.  We're going to a family wedding in a few weeks and I already told my wife that I'm going to be shiatfaced drunk by the time the ceremony starts because that's the only way I'm going to be able to stomach having to be around the MAGAt trash that passes for my extended family.


Hear, hear.  My cousins all think I have a bad drinking problem, and I never had the heart to tell them I only ever got blackout drunk around their parents.  The blackout is the whole point.
 
2022-05-18 1:07:46 PM  
I drink to make other people interesting.
 
2022-05-18 1:12:08 PM  

puckrock2000: Nobody's commented yet on the fact that the daughter's boyfriend is almost as old as her parents? There are more issues there than just booze.


Meh. If the parents were 40s, the boyfriend 30s, and daughter 18, maybe.

But parents 60s, boyfriend 50, daughter's age not given but likely 40s, shrug. Past 40 a 10-year gap isn't really noteworthy.
 
2022-05-18 1:19:02 PM  

FirstDennis: An 8 day visit?

Everyone knows you smile and say help yourself but hide the good stuff.


Let him drink as much as he wants, but make sure there isn't much.
Self resolving problem.
 
2022-05-18 1:21:36 PM  
60-something people in North Carolina? Yeah, I gotta be on the boyfriend's side here.
 
2022-05-18 1:23:47 PM  

chitownmike: Dude, I'm not your farking therapist


Says the butt-hole who started the conversation.
 
2022-05-18 1:24:04 PM  
I believe that the term is, "Inlaws & Outlaws"!
 
2022-05-18 1:27:51 PM  
I like to booze with the best of them but even if you offer Im going to eventually go get my own booze. Its called being a good guest

But if no one else is boozing it up ? Would be kind of odd to be the only one partying in someone else home, especially my GF folks. Id want to make a good impression and throwing drinks down your throat isnt a very good way to go about it unless her dad is the one pouring
 
2022-05-18 1:43:18 PM  

kindms: I like to booze with the best of them but even if you offer Im going to eventually go get my own booze. Its called being a good guest

But if no one else is boozing it up ? Would be kind of odd to be the only one partying in someone else home, especially my GF folks. Id want to make a good impression and throwing drinks down your throat isnt a very good way to go about it unless her dad is the one pouring


That's why you pre-mix your drinks before you arrive.  For all they know, the Coke in your bottle is just a little bit pale.  Just don't share with the kids.
 
2022-05-18 1:43:23 PM  

hobnail: "All our liquor" probably means a half empty handle of Calvert from 1985 and a fifth of Johnny Walker Red.

Trust me, if he's at all committed to drinking, he probably had a couple handles in his suitcase just in case.


I agree. They have been more than likely nursing the same bottles for the past few decades. Probably more of a display bar than a functional one; a relic of 60's/70's culture. Now they have to repurchase said liquor at today's prices in order to maintain the display.

Meanwhile: "Dear Abby, I think I like my in-laws, they have a bar full of excellent aged liquor which they let me help myself to."
 
2022-05-18 1:46:05 PM  

mochunk: Sounds like my wife's aunt. Every time I went there from day one they were rather pushy offering beer constantly. Which I often obliged. Then had the gall to ask my wife if I had a drinking problem.

I mean, I did, but that's besides the point...


That, sir, is a politeness problem.
 
2022-05-18 1:50:46 PM  

macadamnut: wage0048: It's not my in-laws but my own family (excluding my parents & sisters) that drive me to drink.  We're going to a family wedding in a few weeks and I already told my wife that I'm going to be shiatfaced drunk by the time the ceremony starts because that's the only way I'm going to be able to stomach having to be around the MAGAt trash that passes for my extended family.

Hear, hear.  My cousins all think I have a bad drinking problem, and I never had the heart to tell them I only ever got blackout drunk around their parents.  The blackout is the whole point.


My family was concerned about my drinking and had a conversation with Ms. Jeb. She set them straight and told them I hate booze, but I think our family needs a drunkle at family gatherings and I'm committed to the role. They were not impressed.
/except for my cousin's husband
//he thinks drunkle Jeb is the best
 
2022-05-18 2:10:49 PM  
have a serious conversation with your daughter about her boyfriend's insatiable appetite for alcohol, because it could have a negative impact on her future.

Daughter's response "You just don't want me to be happy".
Been to this rodeo.
 
2022-05-18 2:25:29 PM  

RI_Red: If you have in-laws, you have reason to drink -- whether they're nice to you or not.


My ex could grasp why I needed to smoke a bit of weed before seeing his parents. So one day I didn't and me and my father-in-law got into a huge debate about universal healthcare and his racist dogwhistle bullshiat.

The next time he made sure I was "in a better mood" before we left.
 
2022-05-18 2:30:14 PM  

GloomCookie613: RI_Red: If you have in-laws, you have reason to drink -- whether they're nice to you or not.

My ex could grasp why I needed to smoke a bit of weed before seeing his parents. So one day I didn't and me and my father-in-law got into a huge debate about universal healthcare and his racist dogwhistle bullshiat.

The next time he made sure I was "in a better mood" before we left.


Couldn't* grasp. I swear I'm sober
 
2022-05-18 2:38:04 PM  

hobnail: Trust me, if he's at all committed to drinking, he probably had a couple handles in his suitcase just in case.


I'm friends with a guy who used to be pretty hardcore, and he always made sure he was carrying something when he traveled. He never left it to chance. We rented a beach house on the shore for a weekend and I watched him unpack two gallon jugs of liquor AFTER we had already stopped at a liquor store on our way in. Like a Boy Scout, he was.
 
2022-05-18 7:49:37 PM  
He was showing a lot of restraint by waiting until noon.
 
2022-05-18 9:20:17 PM  
Suddenly, recipes
 
2022-05-18 9:40:20 PM  

GloomCookie613: GloomCookie613: RI_Red: If you have in-laws, you have reason to drink -- whether they're nice to you or not.

My ex could grasp why I needed to smoke a bit of weed before seeing his parents. So one day I didn't and me and my father-in-law got into a huge debate about universal healthcare and his racist dogwhistle bullshiat.

The next time he made sure I was "in a better mood" before we left.

Couldn't* grasp. I swear I'm sober


From your csb (or s), you might be stoned.

lol
 
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