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2021-11-28 11:28:55 PM  
Vent away.  Why would you care if anybody is listening to you?
 
2021-11-29 12:20:05 AM  
Isn't that what a therapist does?
 
2021-11-29 12:20:07 AM  
It's an interesting business model.
Boiled down to the basics, you're b*tching and moaning about life's problems to a completely anonymous individual. Which all things considered, is likely to provide at least a little bit of catharsis.
Nothing wrong with having a sounding board for your intimate thoughts.
The biggest problem in this advanced age of social media; is folks can't trust someone to keep a secret. They don't know if their texts or video chats will be the next days humiliating viral post on reddit, or some dumbf*ck site.
So if it were fully anonymous, it may actually bear fruit.
 
2021-11-29 12:28:48 AM  
One 'teeny tiny' amendment...
This would be a great way for cults/religions to attract new members. They come to the scammer when they're down and in need of advice.
Give them $100 and they'll send these special vitamins that will totally fix your problems.
 
2021-11-29 12:59:56 AM  
I don't know about the ethics, but I should start up a company doing this.  It's like I am the character in Joe Hill's book Horns Everyone tells me their secrets, desires, and insecurities, from co-workers to total strangers in public.  I know everything about the people I work with because they just tell me. I know salaries, who's getting fired, who is planning on leaving and what they are going to do (legal and not), who is addicted to what, it's insane.

Strangers do it too, a man in a produce section told me about how he is worried his friends would not want to hang out with him anymore because an IED sent him home with a colostomy bag (and showed it to me in the middle of the store, ewww). A cashier replied to a generic greeting with "it's better than being on the pig farm where my step-father raped me" and then elaborated. Really serious shiat, a woman in a bar halfway through a conversation asked if I was some sort of angel or god because she wasn't afraid to tell me anything.  A VP of a trillion-dollar multinational company tried to make me manager of building they were building after a conversation (permits did not get approved).  Those are just some of the stranger ones, but it happens all the time everywhere.

I have purposefully tried not to engage people during Covid because the stories are just too heartbreaking.

Thanks for listening, $10 a month is a lot cheaper than hiring someone.
 
2021-11-29 4:17:47 AM  

Lighting: I don't know about the ethics, but I should start up a company doing this.  It's like I am the character in Joe Hill's book Horns Everyone tells me their secrets, desires, and insecurities, from co-workers to total strangers in public.  I know everything about the people I work with because they just tell me. I know salaries, who's getting fired, who is planning on leaving and what they are going to do (legal and not), who is addicted to what, it's insane.

Strangers do it too, a man in a produce section told me about how he is worried his friends would not want to hang out with him anymore because an IED sent him home with a colostomy bag (and showed it to me in the middle of the store, ewww). A cashier replied to a generic greeting with "it's better than being on the pig farm where my step-father raped me" and then elaborated. Really serious shiat, a woman in a bar halfway through a conversation asked if I was some sort of angel or god because she wasn't afraid to tell me anything.  A VP of a trillion-dollar multinational company tried to make me manager of building they were building after a conversation (permits did not get approved).  Those are just some of the stranger ones, but it happens all the time everywhere.

I have purposefully tried not to engage people during Covid because the stories are just too heartbreaking.

Thanks for listening, $10 a month is a lot cheaper than hiring someone.


You have a benevolent presence. People feel at ease around you and feel they can trust you, so they open up. I've had many similar experiences, myself.
 
2021-11-29 5:36:29 AM  

BizarreMan: Isn't that what a therapist does?


No Compassion
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Isn't that what they're paid for?
 
2021-11-29 6:44:05 AM  
Better than getting whacked on the head

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2021-11-29 7:09:57 AM  

Redh8t: One 'teeny tiny' amendment...
This would be a great way for cults/religions to attract new members. They come to the scammer when they're down and in need of advice.
Give them $100 and they'll send these special vitamins that will totally fix your problems.


"Would" be? Was/is be.

The stuff I see on posters in laundromats/resturants says that isn't old hat.
 
2021-11-29 7:25:59 AM  
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2021-11-29 7:52:11 AM  
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2021-11-29 8:07:26 AM  
I sometimes volunteer to drive the elderly about for the local Council on Aging.  90% of them immediately tell me their life story, not to really chat with me, but to talk at me.  They get annoyed if I respond back too much, they don't want to really listen to anyone else.

It's very human to want to share advice, to share your story, your hopes, dreams, glory days, complaints, whatever.  People want their blathering to be validated.  People with money don't mind spending it if that's what it takes to get people to listen to them.

Even me, even you.  That's why we're all posting in this thread right now.
 
2021-11-29 8:11:43 AM  
Wasn't this a job in Terry Pratchett's novel Small Gods, in the city of Ephebe?
 
2021-11-29 8:16:51 AM  
No.  I vent for the purpose of changing bad things that are happening.

Venting just to vent (which I understand is sort of the definition of the word, but not fully) is useless.

Don't do useless things.
 
2021-11-29 8:29:52 AM  

Exluddite: BizarreMan: Isn't that what a therapist does?
[Youtube-video https://www.youtube.com/embed/qn7Y3__5​MIo]
Isn't that what they're paid for?


Yeah, they get paid.  A real therapist needs lots of credentials.  An unreal therapist, like a paid listener, has no credentials.  This is about as legit as all those "drug treatment" places that offer them a place to sleep for as much money as they can cough up.

The whole idea is pathetic.  You gave up your social life to go make money--now you gotta pay someone to listen to you biatch because you don't have any friends.
Well don't come to me, because I'll tell you to get the fark over yourself and attend to your real needs, instead of just pulling out your wallet again.  Dipshiat.
 
2021-11-29 8:53:45 AM  
I guess phone sex lines are dying since someone is stealing a significant portion of their business model.  It's their own fault for never evolving past late night television advertising to attract customers.

Live Links Commercial
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2021-11-29 8:58:45 AM  

downstairs: No.  I vent for the purpose of changing bad things that are happening.

Venting just to vent (which I understand is sort of the definition of the word, but not fully) is useless.

Don't do useless things.


*looks around fark* uh...
 
2021-11-29 9:12:51 AM  

cryinoutloud: Exluddite: BizarreMan: Isn't that what a therapist does?
[Youtube-video https://www.youtube.com/embed/qn7Y3__5​MIo]
Isn't that what they're paid for?

Yeah, they get paid.  A real therapist needs lots of credentials.  An unreal therapist, like a paid listener, has no credentials.  This is about as legit as all those "drug treatment" places that offer them a place to sleep for as much money as they can cough up.

The whole idea is pathetic.  You gave up your social life to go make money--now you gotta pay someone to listen to you biatch because you don't have any friends.
Well don't come to me, because I'll tell you to get the fark over yourself and attend to your real needs, instead of just pulling out your wallet again.  Dipshiat.


I'm the poorest person in my rich town, living in a rented cabin on a very rich street.  I see trophy wives walk/jog/run by every day, as they try to keep themselves in shape for their fat old husbands.

I'm now wondering if I shouldn't put out a shingle, as a paid listener.  I'd happily relieve some rich folks of their money.  Just nod, and make little "uh huh" noises, and offer zero advice on how they can relieve the tedium of their rich lives.

I figure not everyone can afford a trophy spouse, so why not.  It's not much worse than having a "friend" dump their problems on me, and I wouldn't have to jog to keep myself in shape like a full time trophy spouse.
 
2021-11-29 9:44:26 AM  
Or, you know, you could just go on the Politics tab. It's free!


/ oh, you said someone needed to listen
// forget it
 
2021-11-29 10:19:29 AM  
So, like a Welsh Sin Eater?
 
2021-11-29 11:14:29 AM  
An entire news network has successfully monetized this concept.
 
2021-11-29 1:11:08 PM  

mike_d85: I guess phone sex lines are dying since someone is stealing a significant portion of their business model.  It's their own fault for never evolving past late night television advertising to attract customers.

[YouTube video: Live Links Commercial]


I don't think they went away as much as they evolved into video chat.

Which is unfortunate for ugly women with sexy voices.
 
2021-11-29 3:15:13 PM  

BizarreMan: Isn't that what a therapist does?


bingo. my guy bills at $350 an hour, be he prescribes meds.
 
2021-11-29 10:45:09 PM  

Lighting: I don't know about the ethics, but I should start up a company doing this.  It's like I am the character in Joe Hill's book Horns Everyone tells me their secrets, desires, and insecurities, from co-workers to total strangers in public.  I know everything about the people I work with because they just tell me. I know salaries, who's getting fired, who is planning on leaving and what they are going to do (legal and not), who is addicted to what, it's insane.

Strangers do it too, a man in a produce section told me about how he is worried his friends would not want to hang out with him anymore because an IED sent him home with a colostomy bag (and showed it to me in the middle of the store, ewww). A cashier replied to a generic greeting with "it's better than being on the pig farm where my step-father raped me" and then elaborated. Really serious shiat, a woman in a bar halfway through a conversation asked if I was some sort of angel or god because she wasn't afraid to tell me anything.  A VP of a trillion-dollar multinational company tried to make me manager of building they were building after a conversation (permits did not get approved).  Those are just some of the stranger ones, but it happens all the time everywhere.

I have purposefully tried not to engage people during Covid because the stories are just too heartbreaking.

Thanks for listening, $10 a month is a lot cheaper than hiring someone.


It can be overwhelming.

The thought of paying a stranger to listen to me gripe... Gah. They know nothing about the situation, and wouldn't be there for discussion on growth or options. That just reinforces negative patterns and behavior, which worsens the problem.

My cynical side thinks it would amp up identity theft, gov employee compromising and all kinds of mean, nasty, ugly things.

We should focus on making things better...knowing that there is always an opportunity, even if it is only in our attitude.
 
2021-11-29 10:47:11 PM  

Ker_Thwap: I sometimes volunteer to drive the elderly about for the local Council on Aging.  90% of them immediately tell me their life story, not to really chat with me, but to talk at me.  They get annoyed if I respond back too much, they don't want to really listen to anyone else.

It's very human to want to share advice, to share your story, your hopes, dreams, glory days, complaints, whatever.  People want their blathering to be validated.  People with money don't mind spending it if that's what it takes to get people to listen to them.

Even me, even you.  That's why we're all posting in this thread right now.


When my Paw Paw did this... It felt like he saw his life winding down, and wanted his thoughts to be remembered. From a few others... It felt like they were happy to have a captive audience.
 
2021-11-30 9:01:38 AM  

bobug: Ker_Thwap: I sometimes volunteer to drive the elderly about for the local Council on Aging.  90% of them immediately tell me their life story, not to really chat with me, but to talk at me.  They get annoyed if I respond back too much, they don't want to really listen to anyone else.

It's very human to want to share advice, to share your story, your hopes, dreams, glory days, complaints, whatever.  People want their blathering to be validated.  People with money don't mind spending it if that's what it takes to get people to listen to them.

Even me, even you.  That's why we're all posting in this thread right now.

When my Paw Paw did this... It felt like he saw his life winding down, and wanted his thoughts to be remembered. From a few others... It felt like they were happy to have a captive audience.


Captive audience describes it perfectly.
 
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