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2002-02-15 09:16:07 PM  
Living with a woman is deadly in the first place.
2002-02-15 09:16:10 PM  
Next up, getting married may lead to divorce.....
2002-02-15 09:19:51 PM  
isn't this old news? coulda swore i heard it a few months ago.
2002-02-15 09:23:41 PM  
give them time and the newlyweds will be just like the ones that had lived together prior to getting married, they just had more time to get sick of eachother.
2002-02-15 09:25:46 PM  
Dr gonzo: years old, actually...
2002-02-15 09:26:01 PM  
Living together post-marriage may lead to divorce.

In other news, sun to rise tomorrow...
2002-02-15 09:26:42 PM  
In other news, living together may cause divorce.
2002-02-15 09:29:25 PM  
"honey, if you don't move out tommorow by noon's OVER! And then you can just kiss the engagement goodbye!"
2002-02-15 09:31:44 PM  
After a short commercial break, part 2 of our 3 part series on how not eating may cause hunger.
2002-02-15 09:32:54 PM  
damn, girlygirl stole my comment. Of course, you know fundies all over the nation will immediately start taking this study out of context and beating their sunday school students over the head with it.....Oh wait, they're all ready doing that, with the report Dr Gonzo is remembering which reported that couples who had not lived together prior to marriage were less likely to divorce. Of course, I can think of examples in my community of couples who did not live together prior to marriage, are still married, but the husband is a scummy, alcoholic, womanizing, child neglecting general fark off, which the wife refuses to divorce due to religious convictions.

As Mark Twain once said, 'there are lies, damn lies, and then there are statistics.'
2002-02-15 09:38:46 PM  
If I had lived with my husband before we got married I guarantee we would NEVER have gotten married.

In a Million Years.

However, after nearly twenty years of training, he's almost fixed.
2002-02-15 09:39:54 PM  
You're kidding me?! Religious fundamentalists who refuse to live together before marriage are less likely to get divorced? It must be the communication skills and not the churches brainwashing keeping them together.
2002-02-15 09:40:24 PM  
I have a much simpler statement:
marriage leads to divorce
2002-02-15 09:41:46 PM  
Here a more accurate statement:
Marriage inevitably leads to eventual, permanant separation.
2002-02-15 09:42:16 PM  
He Is Protected From Divorce

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2002-02-15 09:50:11 PM  
This story's headline is misleading. It should read, "Primarily white and college-educated couples who have been married for fewer than two years and have no children and lived together before getting married are more verbally aggressive, less supportive of one another and more generally hostile than the spouses who had not lived together, leading researchers to believe they might be more prone to divorce later on."

Of course, that's an awfully cumbersome headline, so it's much easier to just exaggerate the results of the story and make that the headline instead.
2002-02-15 09:57:39 PM  
This should have the
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tag instead of the "interesting" one.

Studies have shown for years and years that people that live together prior to marriage have a much higher occurrence of divorce than those that do not. So it's not always better to get the "full" test drive...
2002-02-15 10:00:44 PM  
Well, having experienced both, if you're living together and happy, don't fark it up and get married. Marriage is one of those things that is far easier to get into than it is to get out of. Been there, done that, got the tee shirt, shot glass and the souvenier ash tray. Fucl< that shiat. Never again.
2002-02-15 10:24:36 PM  
No, that doesnt work for me. I didnt live with my first husband prior to marriage. The second I did and I am still with the idiot. What does that mean? Do a study on that.
2002-02-15 10:56:30 PM  
They said that SOME of the interviewed 92 couples had lived together before marriage. Lets say "SOME" = 2/3rds or 60 couples. They said a majority of them had not so great marriage (remember, all of them were couples, so obviously they aren't divorced). Let's say the majority = 40 of the 60. Congrats folks, you've discovered a mere 40 couples who aren't supportive of each other after living together before marriage. Should that be applied to the rest of the planet? Should it even be applied to non-whites, non-Americans?
2002-02-15 11:05:32 PM  
Wow. What a completely rediculous study with completely rediculous conclusions drawn. I want to see a study try to prove that marriage helps make a relationship stronger. Not last longer necessarily... a lifelong relationship does not necessarily indicate a successful one. I personally think that marriage does more harm than good (can anyone say 65% divorce rate?) and I'm never going to do it again. I learned my lesson, thanks.
2002-02-15 11:06:50 PM  
imagine that...
2002-02-15 11:29:32 PM  
well that was a nice peice to read..
my wife and i lived together for 4 years and we are now married for 6. we have a 3 year old daughter and a son on the way. we are so happy we could sh*t(hahaha) we realy are! we have only argued 3-5 times in ten years. i would rather my baby girl marries the man of her dreams and is a virgin, BUT what can i say? IT WORKED FOR US!
2002-02-15 11:41:48 PM  
i wouldn't move in with my bf, he leaves his dirty socks everywhere and doesn't give me enough head. love him, don't quite want to move in with him
2002-02-15 11:43:47 PM  
Yes, it's better to find out all of your partner's bad habits after you've sworn to spend the rest of your life by their side.
2002-02-15 11:55:30 PM  
Where is the Obvious tag???
2002-02-16 12:56:54 AM  
My marriage:

Lived with the gash for 2.5 years before marriage. Divorced after 1.5. She said "I've just changed" = "It's not you it's me." But I'm not bitter....

biatch coont SLUT WHORE


Anyway, I can't figure out what specific events or situations would have led to divorce, so it seems this concept is like correlational rather than causal.

Kirstin, if you're reading this, I hate you. Love, me.
2002-02-16 02:19:18 AM  
Making a relationship is kind of like building a house.
You both need to agree on a solid foundation of mutually held beliefs. (Hint: Rock, not sand.)
Then you need to see if you can be friends. Not good friends, not best friends, but real friends; mates, goumbas, pizans. (Best friends are who you call in the morning to go your bail. Real friends are who you call at two AM to help you hide the body.)
Then you figure-out if you can be roomates: Who's writing which checks. Who does what chore. See if you can functionally put up with each other. (No fighting, no biting.)
Then you figure-out if you can be parents or not, contingency plans for unexpected pregnancies, names, number and timing. (Gay people often skip this step.)
Then you figure-out if you can be the last lover each of you will ever need. (Monogamy is a big sacrifice, they, and you, need to be worth it.)
Then, once these walls are in, you-two cap it off with a solemn, witnessed vow of some sort or another. (Or else the first big storm will wash everything away.)
Then you start the fire on the hearthstone and snuggle-up. (Don't forget, you have to feed this fire every hour of every day, forever.)
It's a lot of work. Good luck.
2002-02-16 06:44:34 AM  
I agree with all that, Nanookanano.

Our marriage is built on the above. Bliss and trust eternal.

But if she adopts one more friggin stray cat, I'm outa here.
2002-02-16 11:05:42 AM  
Don't know about you guys, but I'm perfectly happy with the guy I married. And no we did not live together first...don't believe in that. :)
2002-02-16 12:20:34 PM  
divorce has become more socially acceptable at the same time that living together before marriage has become more socially acceptable; of course the rates of both are going to increase simultaneously.
2002-02-16 12:50:10 PM  
I don't me crazy, but I like the naughtiness insinuated by "living in sin".
2002-02-16 06:31:29 PM  
1) What a whimsical conclusion based on shoddy evidence - this should be a prime example on how *not* to conduct a statistical study.

2) How does this reconcile with the fact that the "bible belt" states have nearly a double per-capita divorce rate in the US?
2002-02-16 06:34:07 PM  
This author would be better off proving that gays cause earthquakes, but deter tornados, which are caused by fundamentalists ;) (hey, there's a corrolation between fundie populations and tornados in the US (specially baptists), a corrolation between earthquakes and gays (in the US), and an inverse corrolation between gays and tornados (again, in the US)
2002-02-16 07:14:42 PM  
A 2000 year old book has been right all this time? Who woulda thunk it?
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