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2021-09-27 8:15:03 AM  
Mine too. Of course, "social media" was decades away and our Atari computer struggled to call into any of the local BBS numbers, so...
 
2021-09-27 8:43:06 AM  
This would be like those parents who banned tv.

It seems a great way to raise a kid who isn't going to fit in with their peers
 
2021-09-27 8:47:23 AM  
So I assume the author is roughly 20 years old?
 
2021-09-27 9:28:01 AM  
Maybe so, but it wasn't as bad fifteen years ago as it is now.
 
2021-09-27 9:53:04 AM  
Sucks to be you, my tripod page was all the rage back in the day. I even got to say hello to my future girlfriend....

/still waiting to meet her though
 
2021-09-27 10:02:37 AM  

Gubbo: This would be like those parents who banned tv.

It seems a great way to raise a kid who isn't going to fit in with their peers


Because fitting in is so important
 
2021-09-27 10:17:30 AM  

Drearyx: Gubbo: This would be like those parents who banned tv.

It seems a great way to raise a kid who isn't going to fit in with their peers

Because fitting in is so important


Yes, it is.

People who never try to fit in anywhere tend to grow up maladjusted.
 
2021-09-27 10:22:06 AM  

Drearyx: Gubbo: This would be like those parents who banned tv.

It seems a great way to raise a kid who isn't going to fit in with their peers

Because fitting in is so important


Indeed. I don't have kids but if I did, I want them to grow up as maladjusted socially awkward misfits.

/or farkers as I prefer to think of it
 
2021-09-27 10:23:02 AM  

Miss5280: So I assume the author is roughly 20 years old?


You made me think of a Quora question I read last week where someone asked how people "got busy" at drive in movie theaters in the 50s-60s and someone who claimed to have lived during that time stated that girls had pants that had a zipper flap in the back like a union suit. I leave it as an exercise for the reader for why that is a bald faced lie from someone who was no older than 25.
 
2021-09-27 10:25:30 AM  

DerAppie: Drearyx: Gubbo: This would be like those parents who banned tv.

It seems a great way to raise a kid who isn't going to fit in with their peers

Because fitting in is so important

Yes, it is.

People who never try to fit in anywhere tend to grow up maladjusted.


And then they fit in on Fark.

It's the circle of life.
 
2021-09-27 10:35:24 AM  
Social media and the interwebs had enormous potential right up until humans started using them.
 
2021-09-27 10:49:41 AM  

edmo: Social media and the interwebs had enormous potential right up until humans started using them.


If this statement was any more true, it would create a singularity of integrity.
 
2021-09-27 11:08:37 AM  

Gubbo: This would be like those parents who banned tv.

It seems a great way to raise a kid who isn't going to fit in with their peers


This is why I got my kids started smoking cigarettes early.

/on second thought, I probably should have gotten them started vaping
 
2021-09-27 11:36:00 AM  

Gubbo: This would be like those parents who banned tv.

It seems a great way to raise a kid who isn't going to fit in with their peers


Homogeny is most beneficial to those trying to control large populations like governments and cults/ religions.

Almost ironic that we are seeing a wave of people determining their own identity rather than accept labels somebody else gave them. With work, not fitting in is going to be easier. The skills required to make it through the square hole world as a round peg are valuable in other circumstances.
 
2021-09-27 12:10:00 PM  

Gubbo: This would be like those parents who banned tv.

It seems a great way to raise a kid who isn't going to fit in with their peers


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You're kinda right, but also kinda wrong.
 
2021-09-27 12:33:45 PM  
Based on what I've seen every time I've been in the market for a house, fitting in means moving out to the suburbs, having a couple kids, and hanging stupid little inspirational placards around the house that say meaningless shiat like "Love" and "Family".

No farking thanks.

If you ever come to our house, visit the guest bathroom, and don't come out chuckling about the cross-stitch my wife made and put on the toilet tank, you're not our kind of people:

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2021-09-27 2:25:42 PM  

Drearyx: Gubbo: This would be like those parents who banned tv.

It seems a great way to raise a kid who isn't going to fit in with their peers

Because fitting in is so important


Learning how to function in society with and around your peers is extremely important. You don't have to have social media to do that, but "fitting in" is simply part of growing up in a society; it doesn't have to be an all-or-nothing kind of thing.
 
2021-09-27 2:35:37 PM  

olrasputin: Based on what I've seen every time I've been in the market for a house, fitting in means moving out to the suburbs, having a couple kids, and hanging stupid little inspirational placards around the house that say meaningless shiat like "Love" and "Family".

No farking thanks.

If you ever come to our house, visit the guest bathroom, and don't come out chuckling about the cross-stitch my wife made and put on the toilet tank, you're not our kind of people:

[Fark user image image 425x566]


Lol, and paired with that frame, I love it.
 
2021-09-27 5:07:12 PM  

Cultured: Gubbo: This would be like those parents who banned tv.

It seems a great way to raise a kid who isn't going to fit in with their peers

[Fark user image 425x425]
You're kinda right, but also kinda wrong.


It's just like something Wednesday would say. Perfect. I laughed frankly.
 
2021-09-27 5:15:17 PM  

FrancoFile: DerAppie: Drearyx: Gubbo: This would be like those parents who banned tv.

It seems a great way to raise a kid who isn't going to fit in with their peers

Because fitting in is so important

Yes, it is.

People who never try to fit in anywhere tend to grow up maladjusted.

And then they fit in on Fark.

It's the circle of life.


Nobody under 40 has joined Fark in 10 years.  We are old and getting older.
 
2021-09-27 5:33:56 PM  

Drearyx: Gubbo: This would be like those parents who banned tv.

It seems a great way to raise a kid who isn't going to fit in with their peers

Because fitting in is so important


Humans are not computers. It's not a 1 or a 0. Fitting in is important. It also has It's downsides. You can go with society one way while diverging the rest of your personality. That is basically how society and civil rights interact.
 
2021-09-27 6:14:50 PM  
When I was a kid, social media consisted of passing notes in the hallway between classes.
 
2021-09-27 6:16:24 PM  
That was just to make sure you didn't stumble across Mom's OnlyFans page.
 
2021-09-27 8:22:52 PM  

shabu: Gubbo: This would be like those parents who banned tv.

It seems a great way to raise a kid who isn't going to fit in with their peers

Homogeny is most beneficial to those trying to control large populations like governments and cults/ religions.

Almost ironic that we are seeing a wave of people determining their own identity rather than accept labels somebody else gave them. With work, not fitting in is going to be easier. The skills required to make it through the square hole world as a round peg are valuable in other circumstances.


Yes, there are no benefits to fitting in in any way whatsoever. Certainly not finding friends or potential mates or anything. The only reason anyone would ever even suggest that fitting in has any value whatsoever would be Teh Man trying to control you, maaan. Why can't today's kids just do without friends? Also, there's no middle ground whatsoever between being a total social outcast and exactly like everyone else.

/Doesn't help that "they just want to control you" was word-for-word the argument I saw an anti-masker making the other day.
 
2021-09-27 11:25:03 PM  
Yeah, and I'm sure you don't even HAVE a TV, right? 🙄

Mr. Tarrant and I personally chose to try this little thing call "parenting" and educate Tarrant Jr. about social media. Now he's 20 and has developed ways of dealing with it in a healthy manner.

He's uninstalled things like Snapchat and Instagram more than once when he found they were becoming toxic/annoying. He's made a point of having a reputation for checking social media infrequently, so no one gets miffed when they don't get immediate gratification likes.

Bullying has always existed, and TV/movies, music videos, magazines, etc. have been giving girls (and boys) an unhealthy body images for decades.
Is it more pervasive and easier to get into your home now? Yes.
Is the way to help your child deal with it to stick their head into the sand and let them figure it out in adulthood? Outcome uncertain.
 
2021-09-27 11:39:32 PM  

Cultured: olrasputin: Based on what I've seen every time I've been in the market for a house, fitting in means moving out to the suburbs, having a couple kids, and hanging stupid little inspirational placards around the house that say meaningless shiat like "Love" and "Family".

No farking thanks.

If you ever come to our house, visit the guest bathroom, and don't come out chuckling about the cross-stitch my wife made and put on the toilet tank, you're not our kind of people:

[Fark user image image 425x566]

Lol, and paired with that frame, I love it.


Oh yeah. That awful, cheesy frame is like 80% of what makes it funny.
 
2021-09-28 1:27:16 AM  
I kept my stepson off anything that identified him personally.  I found it hard to keep him off the internet completely, but pushing him to not do stupid shiat tied to his real name hit home with him thankfully.  All the dumb edgy teenager shiat he did isn't explicitly tied to his name, at least.
 
2021-09-28 2:56:19 AM  
My siblings grew up in the late 1940s & 1950s watching the radio. I came along in 1956 after a 13 year coffee break and I don't remember not having a telly, but I remember reading the radio programs in the local  daily news to see if there was anything worth listening to on the BBC when we were stationed in Scotland. When I was in HS 8n the early 1960s, the telephone book had me listed as SP after my name: Student Phone (I had my own!). Our HS published a Student Directory and it cost $1 to be listed (cost nothing to be unlisted).: SP Student Phone meant private line and conversation, HP meant Home Phone and everyone would listen in. Rare was PX: Private Extension. The telephone companies gave special rates to students to get them to talk their parents into giving their kid a private telephone number.
 
2021-09-28 6:40:24 AM  

Almea Tarrant: Yeah, and I'm sure you don't even HAVE a TV, right? 🙄

Mr. Tarrant and I personally chose to try this little thing call "parenting" and educate Tarrant Jr. about social media. Now he's 20 and has developed ways of dealing with it in a healthy manner.

He's uninstalled things like Snapchat and Instagram more than once when he found they were becoming toxic/annoying. He's made a point of having a reputation for checking social media infrequently, so no one gets miffed when they don't get immediate gratification likes.

Bullying has always existed, and TV/movies, music videos, magazines, etc. have been giving girls (and boys) an unhealthy body images for decades.
Is it more pervasive and easier to get into your home now? Yes.
Is the way to help your child deal with it to stick their head into the sand and let them figure it out in adulthood? Outcome uncertain.


It wouldn't be hard to argue that exposing a person to extremely curated presentations of how people "are" in "real life" would do less damage if the person already has a decent sense of self.
 
2021-09-28 7:05:54 PM  

Fireproof: shabu: Gubbo: This would be like those parents who banned tv.

It seems a great way to raise a kid who isn't going to fit in with their peers

Homogeny is most beneficial to those trying to control large populations like governments and cults/ religions.

Almost ironic that we are seeing a wave of people determining their own identity rather than accept labels somebody else gave them. With work, not fitting in is going to be easier. The skills required to make it through the square hole world as a round peg are valuable in other circumstances.

Yes, there are no benefits to fitting in in any way whatsoever. Certainly not finding friends or potential mates or anything. The only reason anyone would ever even suggest that fitting in has any value whatsoever would be Teh Man trying to control you, maaan. Why can't today's kids just do without friends? Also, there's no middle ground whatsoever between being a total social outcast and exactly like everyone else.

/Doesn't help that "they just want to control you" was word-for-word the argument I saw an anti-masker making the other day.


You seemed to read things I didn't write. I said it was most beneficial to organizations attempting to control large populations. I didn't fit in to my tiny Hoosier town, but I've been employed since I was 14, dated a lot, married to a woman I have been with for over 20 years, and raised two good kids. I am vaxxed and I mask in most circumstances outside of my home.

But I have the benefit of privilege. People look at my white middle aged dad bod and assume I am pretty much like them. They say horribly racist, sexist, and small minded stuff assuming I must think like they do.

There are lots of benefits to fitting in. You get to let others make so many choices for you. You don't have to concern yourself with the well being if those who don't fit in. Judging is so very easy! You appear to be a great example.

Not every choice I make is oppositional to the majority opinion, but I don't use what everyone thinks as the basis for my decisions and actions.
 
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