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(Slate)   "I've been married happily to my wife for years. I've also been happily crossdressing for years but she has no idea and I worry it would devastate her to learn the truth. Should I admit my affectation to her?"   (slate.com) divider line
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2021-09-27 7:53:13 AM  
6 votes:
She probably figured out something was going on when she found a bunch of women's clothes she didn't recognize and knew weren't her size back in a box marked POWER TOOLS in the corner of the basement.
 
2021-09-27 8:00:43 AM  
6 votes:
There's that sketch in Woody Allen's Everything You Wanted To Know About Sex But Were Afraid To Ask where the guy has to come out to his wife that he cross dresses, and she deals with it okay. It was a pretty radical idea 50 years ago. These days, if that's the guy's biggest secret from his wife, she'll likely be relieved.
 
2021-09-27 8:54:28 AM  
6 votes:
Before clicking article: Uggh, I WISH I could convince my husband to wear fishnets on his long dancer legs just once, just a little, just to see how it feels, I hope this guy tells his wife and she'd cool with it. Everyone deserves to be themselves and be happy.

After clicking article: farking piece of shiat. Hope he breaks a heel and rolls both ankles. Hope his wife leaves him and he ends up living in a cave. Obviously not an executive transvestite.
 
2021-09-27 8:57:17 AM  
3 votes:

AuralArgument: Gramma:

Didn't read the article until this, yup cheating is cheating.

Once you live together and are in a monogamous relationship no matter your sexuality it's cheating.

If you're in an open relationship than you should be able to talk with your main partner about your conquests and hear their stories as well. If you can't an open relationship is not for you.


The cross-dressing is the least of the problems.
 
2021-09-27 8:35:54 AM  
2 votes:
A scumbag cheater is a scumbag. Dressing like a woman to do it doesn't excuse it.
 
2021-09-27 11:33:02 AM  
2 votes:
Lots of people in here have never seen Dress to Kill
 
2021-09-28 6:52:25 AM  
2 votes:

will.i.ain't: Omnis_evil_twin: Before clicking article: Uggh, I WISH I could convince my husband to wear fishnets on his long dancer legs just once, just a little, just to see how it feels, I hope this guy tells his wife and she'd cool with it. Everyone deserves to be themselves and be happy.

After clicking article: farking piece of shiat. Hope he breaks a heel and rolls both ankles. Hope his wife leaves him and he ends up living in a cave. Obviously not an executive transvestite.

My ex-wife (and subsequent gf's) were cool with it because I was up front about it. It's not an easy subject to broach, but goddamit ya got to be honest.
And yes, I have the legs for it.
Oh, and I have you farkied as liking such.


Pics or it didn't happen?
 
2021-09-27 8:15:02 AM  
1 vote:
In classic Fark style, I didn't read the article, so I have to ask... Is she a harpy and that's why you're keeping quiet about your affectation? If so are you really happily married?

Just farkin tell her.
Bad option: she leaves in a fuss
Better option: she's cool with it
Best option: she's thrilled to help you coordinate your pitfits and help with your makeup.

(Stepfather-in-law has a glorious drag persona that MIL is totally cool with. If you're a match, you're a match. If not... Sorry)
 
2021-09-27 8:24:54 AM  
1 vote:
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/the couple in question
 
2021-09-27 8:41:56 AM  
1 vote:

Aussie_As: There's that sketch in Woody Allen's Everything You Wanted To Know About Sex But Were Afraid To Ask where the guy has to come out to his wife that he cross dresses, and she deals with it okay. It was a pretty radical idea 50 years ago. These days, if that's the guy's biggest secret from his wife, she'll likely be relieved.


I've a longtime friend who I knew dragged for decades and used to hit on mutual friends of ours.  His wife found him out about eight years ago and... let's just say "relieved" isn't how I'd describe her reaction.  She bided her time until their kids were off on their own.  The day after the last one left for college?  She left him.

While in drag he never hit on me.  She did within a week of leaving him.  I'm not sure what to make of that.  LOL
 
2021-09-27 9:44:22 AM  
1 vote:

Gramma: A scumbag cheater is a scumbag. Dressing like a woman to do it doesn't excuse it.


Jesus can't recognize you when you're in drag so it's not adultery. Read your Bible.
 
2021-09-27 11:45:35 AM  
1 vote:

Mugato: She probably already knows since you only want to do receive butt stuff.


FTFY

/NTTAWWT
 
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