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(Slate)   "My half-sister is a spoiled brat; there's no other way to say it. She wants to have a gap year in Bali and expects me to pay for half of it. I say no, but she's trying to manipulate my emotions and guilt. How can I effortlessly turn her down?"   (slate.com) divider line
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2021-09-23 6:55:38 AM  
Look at her and say: "No, now STFU and fu*k off".
 
2021-09-23 7:08:53 AM  
"Sorry, I need to keep a roof over your niece/nephew's head/s"

Or there's the time tested classic: "No"
 
2021-09-23 7:26:12 AM  
I was going to say "tell her no and continue to have a normal conversation, and refuse to engage in any discussion," but it seems to be covered. The other method would be highly involved, overly complicated, and deal with foodstuffs of varying viscosities and wildly unstable flight dynamics, though throwing pies and mashed potatoes and engineering lever arms to splat her in the face at random places in the house would be entertaining.
 
2021-09-23 7:30:50 AM  
Say yes, let her make plans, and then never give her the money. It'll teach her a valuable life lesson about disappointment.
 
2021-09-23 7:31:02 AM  
Seriously, it was her stupid parents who promised her the trip and now they say they can't afford it.

You never promised anything, so why is it any worse for you to say you can't afford it?
 
2021-09-23 7:59:31 AM  
Fake your death, then travel to Bali and send her a postcard
 
2021-09-23 8:15:49 AM  
Shoot the hostage?
 
2021-09-23 8:19:08 AM  
Take a trip to Bali and then tell her you spent your money and can't afford to help her.
 
2021-09-23 9:07:04 AM  
BALI BALI WALKINGS FREE
 
jbc [TotalFark]
2021-09-23 9:07:16 AM  
Seems like butt stuff might not apply here. Can we bring back KHITBASH?
 
2021-09-23 9:40:02 AM  
Buy two tickets and see if you can find where that Laundrie chap has wandered off to.
 
2021-09-23 9:45:34 AM  
Trap the upper half of her torso in a dryer and invite the football team over.  Charge them an 'entry fee'.  Bingo, she earns her own way.
 
2021-09-23 9:58:42 AM  
I humbly suggest a fatal beating.
 
2021-09-23 10:00:45 AM  
Arrange to have her sold and break even, maybe profit.
Don't. That is illegal there.
If she wants to visit Saudi Arabia, however...
 
2021-09-23 10:05:23 AM  
Molly called me for the first time in months to ask for an "advance" on "her" money.

Well sure!  How about I give you half of "your" money for this.  So fifty percent of nothin' is... let me do the math here... nothin';  and a nothin', carry the nothin'...


she wants to go on her expensive gap year with her friends. (Her parents promised her, but don't have the funds anymore.) I paid for college for my step-siblings even after they "weren't family anymore," so I owed her the same

You can easily agree to that statement - "I'll be happy to help pay for the amount of college you can't afford. What school are you enrolled in? And how much does your college fund cover? I'll chip in some of it to reduce your student loans for you, I'll even save you some trouble by sending the money directly to the school!


I finally told my father if Molly was so desperate to go, she should sell her car or take it out of her college fund.

No. No, no, no.  If she takes money out of her college fund to fund a vacation, she obviously had more than enough money for college.  As soon as that happens, you're out 100%.


Should have left it with:
She was not going to get a single cent out of me, so it would be better if we stop the conversation and drop the subject.

That's it. Full stop.


I fear this will damage my relationship with my father. He wasn't much in my life as a kid but we got closer as adults. How can I handle this?

If he's insisting you pay for promises he made, do you actually want a relationship with him? No, you don't.  Leave the door open to him if he wants to grow the fark up, but it's not your responsibility to clean up his messes or to tolerate his greedy little fits.
 
2021-09-23 10:11:20 AM  

jbc: Seems like butt stuff might not apply here. Can we bring back KHITBASH?


Surprised no one has said "Sleep with her Dad" yet. I guess it was just assumed.
 
2021-09-23 10:13:35 AM  
There's a WC Fields clip out there where Fields repeatedly says, "No" and gets around half a dozen syllables in the word each time.

It would be worth your while to find it,

Or you could just quote the great work of literature, The Tiger Who Came for a Pint, and say, "Are you mental?"
 
2021-09-23 10:16:59 AM  

yakmans_dad: Or you could just quote the great work of literature, The Tiger Who Came for a Pint, and say, "Are you mental?"


ah, but that was from that masterpiece of cinema, Wayne's World.

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2021-09-23 10:17:22 AM  

WTFDYW: Look at her and say: "No, now STFU and fu*k off".


Done in one.

Sometimes, you have to tell people "NO"; even if they don't like it, even if they can't accept it.

They'll get over it.
 
2021-09-23 10:18:04 AM  

no1curr: Fake your death, then travel to Bali and send her a postcard


Your troll game is strong, my friend.
 
2021-09-23 10:19:12 AM  
Relax take your time:

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2021-09-23 10:20:18 AM  

MrBallou: Say yes, let her make plans, and then never give her the money. It'll teach her a valuable life lesson about disappointment.


I like this.

\Alternately, tell her that you already gave the money to the parents to hold in trust for her, and she should get it from them, if they haven't already spent it on hookers and blow
 
2021-09-23 10:28:42 AM  
Tell her she's in luck.

We are in the middle of a labor shortage, so service jobs are plentiful.
 
2021-09-23 10:42:09 AM  

jbc: Seems like butt stuff might not apply here. Can we bring back KHITBASH?


No, I'm pretty sure I saw a movie where they applied it.  HALF- sister, remember.
 
2021-09-23 10:46:34 AM  

Petit_Merdeux: Shoot the hostage?


Just wing her in the leg. Bum leg = no Bali
 
2021-09-23 10:49:43 AM  
Butt stuff or GTFO.
 
2021-09-23 10:52:09 AM  

dionysusaur: Trap the upper half of her torso in a dryer and invite the football team over.  Charge them an 'entry fee'.  Bingo, she earns her own way.


You need therapy.
 
2021-09-23 10:54:57 AM  

dionysusaur: Trap the upper half of her torso in a dryer and invite the football team over.  Charge them an 'entry fee'.  Bingo, she earns her own way.


jfc
 
2021-09-23 11:02:11 AM  

dionysusaur: Trap the upper half of her torso in a dryer and invite the football team over.  Charge them an 'entry fee'.  Bingo, she earns her own way.


Czech gloryhole.

Or so I've heard.
 
2021-09-23 11:03:11 AM  
Dr.Cox - Master of saying "NO!"
Youtube 1eO3XmuVry4
 
2021-09-23 11:22:19 AM  

Keyser_Soze_Death: Look down, and whisper, "no".


I like this, but humbly suggest using the Bugs Bunny gif.
You can easily use it in texts, emails, even just have it ready on your phone to shove in her greedy face.
 
2021-09-23 11:24:29 AM  

Cafe Threads: dionysusaur: Trap the upper half of her torso in a dryer and invite the football team over.  Charge them an 'entry fee'.  Bingo, she earns her own way.

You need therapy.


It's a Fark trope referencing the recent trend in stepsibling 'documentaries.'

/ calling pr0ns 'documentaries' is another Fark trope.
 
2021-09-23 11:25:51 AM  
1) Fall In To The Gap: Hey, I deserve a gap year vacation in Bali too.  Anyway, half-sis can STFU and GTHOI.

2) If You Don't Start Drinking, I'm Gonna Leave: DTMFA.

3) Mother's Little Helper: I'm actually inclined to agree with Prudie here in that if in all your therapy, you haven't seen progress, perhaps you need a different therapy/therapist.  Because even if you have confrontation, that's not healing.

4) Let's Get Together Before We Get Much Older: Wait? You don't see this as an advantage as an introvert?  That means you have basically total control over your interactions.  STFU, you don't have a problem.

5) Can't You Smell That Smell: Tell mom to STFU and MYOB.

6) You're Sort Of Everything I Ever Wanted: There's a lot of fluff here, but I'll focus on "I thought I could fix him, but I couldn't" and there is your answer.  DTMFA.

7) Don't Ask Me What I Think Of You, I Might Not Give The Answer That You Want Me To: "I'm farking you, aren't I?"  Anyway, tell him to GTHOI or DTMFA.

8) Crash Into Me (Classic): Offer to drive their car while there.  And then never, ever give the keys back.
 
2021-09-23 11:30:13 AM  
Tell her that step-sister videos on Pornhub are quite popular so a collaboration could benefit each of us.
 
2021-09-23 11:42:38 AM  
Hate to tell you this, but Bali is like Miami Beach during Spring Break, except it's full of drunk, bigoted, misogynistic Aussies.  A week is sufficient, if not too much.  A year is ridiculous.  It's been ruined by the Aussies.  Plus the locals hate outsiders since Covid.  Once Covid hit the island in the form of a British tourist dying in January 2020, the God-fearing locals took it as a sign from above to get the foreigners off the island.  A number of people barely got off the island before the flaming torches and pitchforks got them.
 
2021-09-23 11:45:43 AM  
Tell her that you can help out family with legitimate and non-extravagant needs that help prepare for future employment. Twelve months of sex and drugs in the south Pacific isn't even close to the same thing. Follow that up with the response that you are not there to be an ATM to pay for extravagances.
 
2021-09-23 11:51:35 AM  
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2021-09-23 11:53:17 AM  

madgonad: Tell her that you can help out family with legitimate and non-extravagant needs that help prepare for future employment. Twelve months of sex and drugs in the south Pacific isn't even close to the same thing. Follow that up with the response that you are not there to be an ATM to pay for extravagances.


I suppose that depends on her chosen career.
 
2021-09-23 11:53:18 AM  
Only Fans is always hiring
 
2021-09-23 12:09:06 PM  

dionysusaur: madgonad: Tell her that you can help out family with legitimate and non-extravagant needs that help prepare for future employment. Twelve months of sex and drugs in the south Pacific isn't even close to the same thing. Follow that up with the response that you are not there to be an ATM to pay for extravagances.

I suppose that depends on her chosen career.


If she wants to advance her career as a whore or OnlyFans contributor he can offer to send all of his friends over in shifts and pay for an upgraded fiber connection and a controllable 4K webcam. Don't have to travel around the globe to do that kind of training.
 
2021-09-23 12:52:44 PM  
1. Write a book full of elaborately encoded, esoteric clues that point to a dozen or so locations scattered all around the United States. Said locations need not actually exist.
2. Give her the book and tell her you've divided the money up and hidden it, and she can keep as much as she can find.
3. Giggle uncontrollably when you read the stuff she posts on Facebook as she travels around looking for money that doesn't exist.
 
2021-09-23 12:59:45 PM  

Myk-House of El: 1) Fall In To The Gap: Hey, I deserve a gap year vacation in Bali too.  Anyway, half-sis can STFU and GTHOI.

2) If You Don't Start Drinking, I'm Gonna Leave: DTMFA.

3) Mother's Little Helper: I'm actually inclined to agree with Prudie here in that if in all your therapy, you haven't seen progress, perhaps you need a different therapy/therapist.  Because even if you have confrontation, that's not healing.

4) Let's Get Together Before We Get Much Older: Wait? You don't see this as an advantage as an introvert?  That means you have basically total control over your interactions.  STFU, you don't have a problem.

5) Can't You Smell That Smell: Tell mom to STFU and MYOB.

6) You're Sort Of Everything I Ever Wanted: There's a lot of fluff here, but I'll focus on "I thought I could fix him, but I couldn't" and there is your answer.  DTMFA.

7) Don't Ask Me What I Think Of You, I Might Not Give The Answer That You Want Me To: "I'm farking you, aren't I?"  Anyway, tell him to GTHOI or DTMFA.

8) Crash Into Me (Classic): Offer to drive their car while there.  And then never, ever give the keys back.


Most of these acronyms mean nothing to me. Here are my best guesses:

GTHOI: Get The Hell Off It
DTMFA: Ditch That Mother F**king Asshole

Am I close?
 
2021-09-23 1:14:57 PM  

The Sophian Church: Most of these acronyms mean nothing to me. Here are my best guesses:

GTHOI: Get The Hell Off It
DTMFA: Ditch That Mother F**king Asshole

Am I close?


I have been doing this long enough I forget some folks might be still be new to how I post in these threads. For the benefit of you and anyone else interested, these are the ones I use most commonly.

GTHOI:  Get The Hell Over It
GTHOY:  Get The Hell Over Yourself
DTMFA: Dump The Mother F*cker Already (stolen shamelessly from Dan Savage)
STFU:  Shut The F*ck Up
MYOB:  Mind Your Own Business
FRO:  F*ck Right Off

I think your DTMFA might be better than Dan Savage's version.  Consider that an alternative for the future.
 
2021-09-23 2:31:55 PM  
If anybody in my family asked me to fund their year in Bali or wherever I'd laugh in their face. Why are people so weak that they would even consider this?
 
2021-09-23 2:35:41 PM  

MrBallou: jbc: Seems like butt stuff might not apply here. Can we bring back KHITBASH?

Surprised no one has said "Sleep with her Dad" yet. I guess it was just assumed.

On my father's side, I have my 18-year-old half-sister Molly.


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2021-09-23 2:53:00 PM  
One way ticket
 
2021-09-23 4:02:03 PM  
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"No and fark off."
 
2021-09-23 8:06:02 PM  
A year in Bali? Unless she has something to do, she won't last that long. Not really a place to study. If she ends up filling her time with drink, drugs, sex, and partying, well, why should you or her parents finance that? I had a coworker who left to go live in Bali - he lasted less than six months. Tell her you can't afford it. The parents can't afford it either, and in any case it is not a good idea. I would finance a year or semester abroad for my child if they were going to university. I would give some support for a backpacking trip, because that can definitely help a young person grow up, but I wouldn't completely finance a year of loafing around in a tropical resort.
 
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