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2021-08-18 11:45:50 AM  
There are far too many labels for things.
 
2021-08-18 11:59:49 AM  

NewportBarGuy: There are far too many labels for things.


I know..confusing but it still doesn't disprove string theory from what I can see. I could be wrong.
 
2021-08-18 12:00:10 PM  
 
2021-08-18 12:15:31 PM  
If I can't discriminate against it it's not worth labeling.

/s?
 
2021-08-18 12:21:54 PM  
Love stinks.
 
2021-08-18 12:24:06 PM  
Think? Know.

/we do the sex, then we do the part where you leave
 
2021-08-18 12:24:43 PM  

mrparks: Love stinks.


only if the sex is good.
 
2021-08-18 12:25:25 PM  
One of the last actual "this is a date" dates I went on before the pandemic was with a dude who said, "I think I might be aromantic?" like halfway through the date.

I had a nice time, but we did not have a second date. (We're casual friends, though.) It seems odd to me that you'd actually ask someone out if you don't think you want to date anyone, let alone that person.
 
2021-08-18 12:26:22 PM  
So now people are just making up "orientations" to be edgy?

I'm a Non-Binary, Cisgender, Aromantic, Agender, Demiboy, Neutrois....or something like that
 
2021-08-18 12:27:33 PM  

abhorrent1: So now people are just making up "orientations" to be edgy?

I'm a Non-Binary, Cisgender, Aromantic, Agender, Demiboy, Neutrois....or something like that


I came out to my wife as an aromantic polyamorous heterosexual, but she doesn't support my orientation.
 
2021-08-18 12:27:35 PM  
That article is a lot of words to describe "friends with benefits", and even comes with TikTok videos!
 
2021-08-18 12:27:44 PM  

NewportBarGuy: There are far too many labels for things.


How else can we separate ourselves into ever-smaller, ever-more-vertical silos if we don't label those silos? Wouldn't want to confuse us with them, after all.
 
2021-08-18 12:29:19 PM  

NewportBarGuy: There are far too many labels for things.


I will say I struggle with things like demisexuality and grey sexuality because they seem a lot more like shades of practice and mindset than actual orientation. The very vast majority of straight, cisgender people only barely interact with any of these labels, though, so I think they can just suck it up for the second it takes someone to mention it.

What other labels are just too exhausting? There aren't that many. Gay, straight, bixseual/pansexual. Asexual and aromantic (vs. sexual and romantic). Transgender, nonbinary/"enby," genderfluid, gender non-conforming. Is that really a lot? Especially considering most people never have to deal with at least half of them in any real capacity?
 
2021-08-18 12:29:32 PM  
I'm a romantic. Just call me Percy Bisse Shelly.
Although I can see why one would find aromanticism attractive. Think of all the money you'd save on flowers and candy.
Hmmmm.
 
2021-08-18 12:30:07 PM  
These people have a pride flag. I don't like beets but I don't need a flag to let everyone know. When everyone's shouting "Look at me!" just where are we supposed to look?
 
2021-08-18 12:30:26 PM  
I mean, how many words do we have for ethnicity and nationality? For political affiliation and philosophy?
 
2021-08-18 12:34:30 PM  

Lvl 19 bureaucrat: mrparks: Love stinks.

only if the sex is good.


It's all fun and games until there's a turd on the bed.
 
2021-08-18 12:36:05 PM  

NewportBarGuy: There are far too many labels for things.


But are you a
* Labeling labeler that labels
* Label neutral but labor friendly
* Label curious
* Alabular
* Label curious
 
2021-08-18 12:36:22 PM  
lots of cis white dudes in here just asking questions.
 
2021-08-18 12:42:40 PM  
this is why we have "Post-noisecore-emo-violence" and the like for music subgenres

/NTTAWWT
 
2021-08-18 12:43:29 PM  

TrashcanMan: lots of cis white dudes in here just asking questions.


Yeah, fun eh? Always nice having your validity questioned because they can't use google...
 
2021-08-18 12:44:25 PM  

FormlessOne: NewportBarGuy: There are far too many labels for things.

How else can we separate ourselves into ever-smaller, ever-more-vertical silos if we don't label those silos? Wouldn't want to confuse us with them, after all.


Or we could also use them to better understand ourselves and others so that we can better embrace the diversity of human experiences. 

When you realize everyone is different, the impulse to only associate with people who are the same falls apart.
 
2021-08-18 12:45:46 PM  

austerity101: One of the last actual "this is a date" dates I went on before the pandemic was with a dude who said, "I think I might be aromantic?" like halfway through the date.

I had a nice time, but we did not have a second date. (We're casual friends, though.) It seems odd to me that you'd actually ask someone out if you don't think you want to date anyone, let alone that person.


The "date" he was looking for might have been the for-hire variety, but without the paying part.

/just call it a shade of poly and stick a fork in it
 
2021-08-18 12:46:51 PM  
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2021-08-18 12:47:08 PM  
i resisted all the fracturing- i liked the idea of straight or queer, because that's a shiat-ton for queer, when you put it that way.  but we are not binary.  each path is different and even individuals change all through life.  i like the ever-narrower labels because by the time we get down to needing a whole phrase for each other us, with the addition of: 'but this might change', that's when we'll realize that sexuality is huge and fluid and doesn't need to be labeled and can't be contained by a name.  sex and love are parts of our own unique experience of life, all equally valid, and not an identity.
just stay off the jailbait.
 
2021-08-18 12:47:18 PM  
People just make this crap up to get attention, it's pathetic.
 
2021-08-18 12:50:36 PM  

Arkanaut: Lvl 19 bureaucrat: mrparks: Love stinks.

only if the sex is good.

It's all fun and games until there's a turd on the bed.


Name calling. Nice.
 
2021-08-18 12:50:43 PM  
Public masturbator is seemingly missing from the orientations list.
 
2021-08-18 12:52:00 PM  
I wonder what I smell like?
 
2021-08-18 12:52:34 PM  
"Different from asexual, aromantic people can still have a desire for sexual interactions, just not romantic ones."

-----


Yeah, not a new thing.

"You can find me in the club, bottle full of bub
Look, mami, I got the X, if you into takin' drugs
I'm into havin' sex, I ain't into makin' love
So come give me a hug, if you into getting rubbed"
-
50 Cent, "In Da Club"
 
2021-08-18 12:52:46 PM  

misanthropic1: austerity101: One of the last actual "this is a date" dates I went on before the pandemic was with a dude who said, "I think I might be aromantic?" like halfway through the date.

I had a nice time, but we did not have a second date. (We're casual friends, though.) It seems odd to me that you'd actually ask someone out if you don't think you want to date anyone, let alone that person.

The "date" he was looking for might have been the for-hire variety, but without the paying part.

/just call it a shade of poly and stick a fork in it


Being aromantic and being poly have nothing to do with one another.
 
2021-08-18 12:53:00 PM  

JessieL: FormlessOne: NewportBarGuy: There are far too many labels for things.

How else can we separate ourselves into ever-smaller, ever-more-vertical silos if we don't label those silos? Wouldn't want to confuse us with them, after all.

Or we could also use them to better understand ourselves and others so that we can better embrace the diversity of human experiences. 

When you realize everyone is different, the impulse to only associate with people who are the same falls apart.


If only that actually happened.
 
2021-08-18 12:53:27 PM  

redsquid: These people have a pride flag. I don't like beets but I don't need a flag to let everyone know. When everyone's shouting "Look at me!" just where are we supposed to look?


Gay Pride exists because for generations homosexuality was treated as something shameful (and in many places, still is).  As a straight guy, I see it as a perfectly justified reaction to counter the unreasonable, bigoted crap these fellow human beings have been dealt.  Besides, the people who need to see it most are the ones still struggling with their orientation.
 
2021-08-18 12:53:56 PM  

rainbowbutter: i resisted all the fracturing- i liked the idea of straight or queer, because that's a shiat-ton for queer, when you put it that way.  but we are not binary.  each path is different and even individuals change all through life.  i like the ever-narrower labels because by the time we get down to needing a whole phrase for each other us, with the addition of: 'but this might change', that's when we'll realize that sexuality is huge and fluid and doesn't need to be labeled and can't be contained by a name.  sex and love are parts of our own unique experience of life, all equally valid, and not an identity.
just stay off the jailbait.


Yeah, it's not "fracturing." People like to pretend as though the labels are creating divisions rather than the labels describing divisions that are already there.
 
2021-08-18 12:54:37 PM  

FormlessOne: JessieL: FormlessOne: NewportBarGuy: There are far too many labels for things.

How else can we separate ourselves into ever-smaller, ever-more-vertical silos if we don't label those silos? Wouldn't want to confuse us with them, after all.

Or we could also use them to better understand ourselves and others so that we can better embrace the diversity of human experiences. 

When you realize everyone is different, the impulse to only associate with people who are the same falls apart.

If only that actually happened.


Are you a member of the queer community?
 
2021-08-18 12:55:23 PM  

AstroJesus: Public masturbator is seemingly missing from the orientations list.


Exoteric autosexual
 
2021-08-18 12:55:54 PM  

FormlessOne: JessieL: FormlessOne: NewportBarGuy: There are far too many labels for things.

How else can we separate ourselves into ever-smaller, ever-more-vertical silos if we don't label those silos? Wouldn't want to confuse us with them, after all.

Or we could also use them to better understand ourselves and others so that we can better embrace the diversity of human experiences. 

When you realize everyone is different, the impulse to only associate with people who are the same falls apart.

If only that actually happened.


It does, but maybe not for you.
 
2021-08-18 12:56:16 PM  

abhorrent1: So now people are just making up "orientations" to be edgy?

I'm a Non-Binary, Cisgender, Aromantic, Agender, Demiboy, Neutrois....or something like that


All orientations were made up, being words and all.

It is funny watching how upset you guys get when other people try to describe themselves in a way that makes sense to them. Oh no, someone feels differently than you, how ever will you cope?!?!?!
 
2021-08-18 1:02:09 PM  

NewportBarGuy: There are far too many labels for things.


I could not possibly agree more.

I'm near certain that I am aromantic. Counting it as an orientation is silly. It is certainly part of my identity, but so is being mildly on the spectrum, and that's not an orientation.
 
2021-08-18 1:03:28 PM  

TheReject: That article is a lot of words to describe "friends with benefits", and even comes with TikTok videos!


If all you ever want is friends with benefits you would be sexual aromantic.  There can also be asexual aromantic.

austerity101: I will say I struggle with things like demisexuality and grey sexuality because they seem a lot more like shades of practice and mindset than actual orientation. The very vast majority of straight, cisgender people only barely interact with any of these labels, though, so I think they can just suck it up for the second it takes someone to mention it.


Yeah, I've seen it well described that we are all demisexuals (other than the asexuals), all that differs is how much connection we need to feel sexual towards the person.  A "demisexual" is simply someone who requires substantially more connection than average before sex enters the picture.

Personally, I think we are trying to put binary labels on a non-binary reality.  I don't think there is any such thing as homosexuality--but neither do I think there is heterosexuality.  Rather, I think we all come with a degree of attraction to males, a degree of attraction to females, a degree of maleness and a degree of femaleness.  It makes much more sense from a biological standpoint.  There is no attraction to same gender or attraction to opposite gender.  The average person has a lot more attraction to the gender other than their gender, but it's like ice cream sales & rape--both are responding to a third factor, there is no relationship between the two.
 
2021-08-18 1:03:43 PM  

Perlin Noise: NewportBarGuy: There are far too many labels for things.

I could not possibly agree more.

I'm near certain that I am aromantic. Counting it as an orientation is silly. It is certainly part of my identity, but so is being mildly on the spectrum, and that's not an orientation.


Being on the spectrum has nothing to do with sexual or gender identity, though? I'm not sure why you'd parallel those things. Of course it isn't an orientation, because it categorically isn't one.
 
2021-08-18 1:05:17 PM  

austerity101: rainbowbutter: i resisted all the fracturing- i liked the idea of straight or queer, because that's a shiat-ton for queer, when you put it that way.  but we are not binary.  each path is different and even individuals change all through life.  i like the ever-narrower labels because by the time we get down to needing a whole phrase for each other us, with the addition of: 'but this might change', that's when we'll realize that sexuality is huge and fluid and doesn't need to be labeled and can't be contained by a name.  sex and love are parts of our own unique experience of life, all equally valid, and not an identity.
just stay off the jailbait.

Yeah, it's not "fracturing." People like to pretend as though the labels are creating divisions rather than the labels describing divisions that are already there.


The labels also help create affinities between people who otherwise would have felt isolated, because despite different ways of being, we can (usually) come together under the queer umbrella and find/offer acceptance.
 
2021-08-18 1:06:18 PM  

NewportBarGuy: There are far too many labels for things.


There are far too many labels for things. people.

FTFY.
 
2021-08-18 1:07:41 PM  

Unknown Subject: People just make this crap up to get attention, it's pathetic.


Unlike posting an opinion on Fark, the purpose of which is to better humanity.
 
2021-08-18 1:08:52 PM  
I am a modern a bigot.  I supported gay rights and trans rights, but I find myself feeling really cynical about the myriad of genders and 'orientations' that seem to appear every week.

Here's why I'm a bigot:

I'll believe in your orientation when it's held by a mentally-stable working professional, over 40, who has lived as {orientation} at least 10 years.  If you're 22 and look like you don't have a job that pays taxes, I'm going to smile politely and wait for you to grow out it.

Every time I read about one of these it always sounds like some recently dumped moody teen or like an unbalanced college dropout who is sick of their mother asking why they're not married.  You need a therapist, not a stupid label.  You're not "aromantic", you just have trust issues.

At least, I hope that's how it is in the common case.  Sometimes I worry that these labels end up covering for past trauma, like sexual abuse.  I wonder if we're causing a lot of harm by ignoring the possibility that your 'orientation' is a sign of serious mental illness in an effort to be accepting and inclusive.
 
2021-08-18 1:12:47 PM  

austerity101: Perlin Noise: NewportBarGuy: There are far too many labels for things.

I could not possibly agree more.

I'm near certain that I am aromantic. Counting it as an orientation is silly. It is certainly part of my identity, but so is being mildly on the spectrum, and that's not an orientation.

Being on the spectrum has nothing to do with sexual or gender identity, though? I'm not sure why you'd parallel those things. Of course it isn't an orientation, because it categorically isn't one.


I'm not sure why you did not get the point.

You are correct taht being on the spectrum has nothing to do with sexual orientation or gender identity. Neither does being aromantic, at least not to me (as someone who considers themselves aromantic).

My sexual orientation or gender does not imply how I express/experience love. Exactly in the same way that orientation/gender does not imply how I express joy/sadness/anxiety/etc.
 
2021-08-18 1:15:26 PM  

mrparks: Arkanaut: Lvl 19 bureaucrat: mrparks: Love stinks.

only if the sex is good.

It's all fun and games until there's a turd on the bed.

Name calling. Nice.


Did you like that? You filthy, disgusting little man.
 
2021-08-18 1:15:44 PM  

180IQ: I am a modern a bigot.  I supported gay rights and trans rights, but I find myself feeling really cynical about the myriad of genders and 'orientations' that seem to appear every week.

Here's why I'm a bigot:

I'll believe in your orientation when it's held by a mentally-stable working professional, over 40, who has lived as {orientation} at least 10 years. If you're 22 and look like you don't have a job that pays taxes, I'm going to smile politely and wait for you to grow out it.

Every time I read about one of these it always sounds like some recently dumped moody teen or like an unbalanced college dropout who is sick of their mother asking why they're not married.  You need a therapist, not a stupid label.  You're not "aromantic", you just have trust issues.

At least, I hope that's how it is in the common case.  Sometimes I worry that these labels end up covering for past trauma, like sexual abuse.  I wonder if we're causing a lot of harm by ignoring the possibility that your 'orientation' is a sign of serious mental illness in an effort to be accepting and inclusive.


"I can read minds over the internet, and I know how long you've been in a gay relationship, so I have a raht to be bigoted."
 
2021-08-18 1:18:04 PM  
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