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(Slate)   "We eloped during the 2020 pandemic and my mother blessed our choice. Now, a year later, she's outraged we didn't invite her to our small service. What can I do?"   (slate.com) divider line
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297 clicks; posted to Discussion » on 09 Aug 2021 at 9:05 AM (16 weeks ago)   |   Favorite    |   share:  Share on Twitter share via Email Share on Facebook



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2021-08-09 9:11:55 AM  
Go with the classic.

"Honest... I ran out of gas. I... I had a flat tire. I didn't have enough money for cab fare. My tux didn't come back from the cleaners. An old friend came in from out of town. Someone stole my car. There was an earthquake. A terrible flood. Locusts! IT WASN'T MY FAULT, I SWEAR TO GOD!"
 
2021-08-09 9:13:18 AM  
The problem you have is giving a shiat.
 
2021-08-09 9:18:51 AM  

mike_d85: The problem you have is giving a shiat.


This.  I found that life became much more tolerable when I stopped giving a sh*t about others' opinions.
 
2021-08-09 9:33:08 AM  

mike_d85: The problem you have is giving a shiat.


Thread over. Ignore the old bat. Her whiney bullshiat is not your concern.
 
2021-08-09 9:33:35 AM  

Kristoph57: Go with the classic.

"Honest... I ran out of gas. I... I had a flat tire. I didn't have enough money for cab fare. My tux didn't come back from the cleaners. An old friend came in from out of town. Someone stole my car. There was an earthquake. A terrible flood. Locusts! IT WASN'T MY FAULT, I SWEAR TO GOD!"


Nice try Jake.
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2021-08-09 9:37:12 AM  
Ask her straight out.  "Are you mad that you weren't invited?"  When she responds with a yes.  Then you say "Good for you, glad we had this talk."

Nagging at people just drives them further away.
 
2021-08-09 9:39:03 AM  
I know what you can do.

Butt stuff.

Film it.

Send her a copy, telling her you don't want her to feel like she missed out on any part of your marriage.
 
2021-08-09 9:58:36 AM  

Ker_Thwap: Ask her straight out.  "Are you mad that you weren't invited?"  When she responds with a yes.  Then you say "Good for you, glad we had this talk."

Nagging at people just drives them further away.


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2021-08-09 10:05:47 AM  
It really depends on how the mother is phrasing it.

"Goddamn Covid meant I couldn't even go to my daughter's wedding"  is, I think, a valid thing to biatch about.

But if she's saying her daughter is  a biatch for not inviting her , she needs to shut her pie hole.

And either way, the daughter can rest assured that everyone knows there was a pandemic at the time of the wedding.
 
2021-08-09 10:24:06 AM  

Gramma: It really depends on how the mother is phrasing it.

"Goddamn Covid meant I couldn't even go to my daughter's wedding"  is, I think, a valid thing to biatch about.

But if she's saying her daughter is  a biatch for not inviting her , she needs to shut her pie hole.

And either way, the daughter can rest assured that everyone knows there was a pandemic at the time of the wedding.


Look at you considering this from different perspectives!

That's actually quite wise, and I'd like to retract my snarky answer.
 
2021-08-09 10:28:48 AM  
I invited all my relatives to my wedding and none of them came.

You'd think that if they really cared, they would have been there.

I mean, wtf? They had 48 hours notice and it was only 7500 miles away...
 
2021-08-09 10:58:48 AM  
1) "C'est La Vie" Say The Old Folks: Tell mom to STFU and GTHOI.

2) Gullibles Travels: You seem to have realized you really can't protect people from themselves.  Your parents don't seem to understand that your sister is the one with the problem and think it's external to they users she attracts.  Tell your folks it's now your plan to STFU and MYOB going forward.  Tell them to GTHOI if they complain.

3) Who Will Save The River Valley?: I see you've bought into the whole personal carbon footprint propaganda. Don't get me wrong, waste is waste and should be avoided. But it's better if you put your efforts toward forcing bigger change at a higher level. Can you source power from renewables for your residence, as an example? This is not a fight worth having with your partner.  STFU and MYOB.
 
2021-08-09 12:25:28 PM  
My youngest brother eloped. We were bummed, but we got over it.  Nothing you can do, really.
 
2021-08-09 1:26:48 PM  
Tell her you're looking forward to having a very special service in the future, one all about her.
 
2021-08-09 1:28:26 PM  
other than butt stuff?
F*ck your Dad.

as for eloping, however, much like a Fark redesign, everyone gets over it
 
2021-08-09 4:51:11 PM  
"If you can spare the time and money (and obviously, if this sounds appealing to you, which it might not) would you consider a second ceremony or party that she could be part of?"

NO. We do not tell people to pay for a whole goddamn wedding just to make Mommy happy.
 
2021-08-09 4:55:54 PM  

psychosis_inducing: "If you can spare the time and money (and obviously, if this sounds appealing to you, which it might not) would you consider a second ceremony or party that she could be part of?"

NO. We do not tell people to pay for a whole goddamn wedding just to make Mommy happy.


Unless we tell mommy to pay for it.

I eloped so we had a wedding cake at the next family gathering (Christmas).  Which my aunt took Umbridge with because she had a complex about her birthday (December 24th) and sharing it (granddaddy was December 23rd).
 
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