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(Slate)   "My daughter has always had weight issues; she feared gaining weight when she was young; she got told in kindergarten she was fat and believed it. During Covid, she gained 30 pounds and is at her right weight but I fear she'll gain more. What do?"   (slate.com) divider line
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2021-06-14 1:48:48 PM  
She gained 30 pounds and she is now at her right weight?

And you didn't have her under medical care for being anorexic before?  Da fuh?
 
2021-06-14 2:08:12 PM  

FrancoFile: She gained 30 pounds and she is now at her right weight?

And you didn't have her under medical care for being anorexic before?  Da fuh?


The letter is very vague about the daughter's age, but there are enough hints to surmise that the daughter is in high school now.  Gaining 30 pounds in 2 years therefore doesn't mean she went from 30 to 60, it means she went from 100 to 130.
 
2021-06-14 2:14:50 PM  

FrancoFile: She gained 30 pounds and she is now at her right weight?

And you didn't have her under medical care for being anorexic before?  Da fuh?


Ignoring the standard BMI arguments. Depending on exact height, the "normal" BMI range can be about 30-40 pounds. She may have grown a a little taller and gained weight as well.
 
2021-06-14 2:15:56 PM  

nartreb: it means she went from 100 to 130.


If her daughter is around my height, 5'2", both those weights will work on that frame. 100 pounds is worryingly thin (I was 19 when I finally broke a buck), 130 puts you in 30/30 pants so not exactly overweight.

That said, let me get this straight, this mom wanted her kid to eat and now that she finally is, she wants her to stop eating? I'm getting some mixed messages.
 
2021-06-14 2:31:56 PM  
Yeah, Mom has her own issues.  It's not that the kid is eating, it's that the kid is eating "junk".  It's not that the kid isn't exercising*, it's that the kid likes to exercise with her friends instead of with Mom.  Mom, meanwhile, has the whole "I may be fat but I eat salad and that's what's most important" thing down pat.

And of course Mom is sure that no matter what Mom does, kid will react by not eating at all.  So we can assume that they don't exactly have a history of healthy communication.

* "Exercise" in this case seems to mean yoga, which fails the "if you can have a normal conversation while doing it" test for cardiac worthwhileness, but that's probably not the most urgent issue here.
 
2021-06-14 2:43:57 PM  

FrancoFile: She gained 30 pounds and she is now at her right weight?

And you didn't have her under medical care for being anorexic before?  Da fuh?


Yeah that sounds disturbing and I'm not about to read the article to find that subby is crazy
 
2021-06-14 3:31:53 PM  
When the overweight person says "she gained 30 pounds and is the right weight"

I can only believe its crabs in a bucket mentality. Can't get out of the bucket, so ya drag everyone down go your level.
 
2021-06-14 3:57:55 PM  
Buy her a Peloton.
 
2021-06-14 4:40:42 PM  

wage0048: Buy her a Peloton.


That'll teach her.

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Go feel safe somewhere else.
 
2021-06-14 4:56:18 PM  

Axeofjudgement: When the overweight person says "she gained 30 pounds and is the right weight"

I can only believe its crabs in a bucket mentality. Can't get out of the bucket, so ya drag everyone down go your level.


Correct. I read that as she was 400lbs before and "too skinny" but now she is a
"healthy weight" like me
 
2021-06-14 7:36:18 PM  

FrancoFile: She gained 30 pounds and she is now at her right weight?

And you didn't have her under medical care for being anorexic before?  Da fuh?


She didn't exist before this article was written, so
 
2021-06-14 9:12:05 PM  

Ringshadow: If her daughter is around my height, 5'2", both those weights will work on that frame. 100 pounds is worryingly thin (I was 19 when I finally broke a buck), 130 puts you in 30/30 pants so not exactly overweight.
That said, let me get this straight, this mom wanted her kid to eat and now that she finally is, she wants her to stop eating? I'm getting some mixed messages.


Yeah, so is the daughter. But she's working on body issues galore, just like mom.
 
2021-06-14 10:43:05 PM  
I'm a little curious how her mother takes zero responsibility for her daughter growing up with weight issues?
 
2021-06-14 11:32:16 PM  

cefm: I'm a little curious how her mother takes zero responsibility for her daughter growing up with weight issues?


Great parents can be defeated by peer pressure, social media and biology.

Sadly parents are at the greatest disadvantage they have been at probably in history, I blame the desire to concede tech to kids, tablets, cell phones, the internet
 
2021-06-15 5:53:00 AM  

cefm: I'm a little curious how her mother takes zero responsibility for her daughter growing up with weight issues?


Research has shown that friends have more of an influence on children than the parents do.
 
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