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2021-04-20 9:16:52 AM  
This time let *her* do butt stuff
 
2021-04-20 10:30:17 AM  
Make her a samich?
 
2021-04-20 10:30:52 AM  
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2021-04-20 10:31:51 AM  
Grow a man bun?
 
2021-04-20 10:32:27 AM  
This sounds a soft ask for a divorce.
 
2021-04-20 10:32:58 AM  
"Look woman, I pay the bills around here so I make the decis... Wait."
 
2021-04-20 10:33:28 AM  
"You'd best get to work, or we're on welfare...."
 
2021-04-20 10:33:35 AM  
Step one is "Have a wife who makes a lot more money than you do," methinks.
 
2021-04-20 10:33:57 AM  
Speaking as a 7-year veteran of being a stay-at-home dad, it's no walk in the park...especially if you're trying to run a business out of your back office fending off kids who think they're Minecraft Creepers and Sonic the Hedgehog.  When they're under pre-k age though it's fun...although it's a little weird being the only guy sporting a beard and a North Face jacket at the park when you're flanked by moms who all know each other and are wearing matching Zumba pants.
 
2021-04-20 10:34:17 AM  
My wife, Morgan Fairchild, had no problem with this because she's rich.
 
2021-04-20 10:35:11 AM  
Many years ago I thought that one day I would like to be a househusband, but having children rapidly changed my mind about how relaxed and easy that lifestyle would be.  I don't want to work that hard, so I have a corporate job instead.
 
2021-04-20 10:35:13 AM  
"Hey, honey, you know all the stuff you resent having to do because you're a woman and society just expects it's your responsibility? Well, I want to do that while you go to work and make all the money. I'm sure this will go totally smoothly and we'll never have any arguments about who does the household chores and takes care of the kids more effectively."
 
2021-04-20 10:35:40 AM  
Let me guess, you say "I want to be a stay at home dad."?
 
2021-04-20 10:36:21 AM  
I would like to take some time off work to spend more time with family follow up on my new found interest in flavors of scotch.
 
2021-04-20 10:37:11 AM  
"I feel like I'm missing too much of my kids' childhoods while I work, but It isn't fair to my wife to ask her to miss out either"

Why not?  Nobody thinks it's unfair to ask dads to miss out.
 
2021-04-20 10:37:33 AM  
Pro-tip
After having the discussion , do not put on your headset and start the PS4.
 
2021-04-20 10:38:09 AM  
hotrod2001:

I'm the one sporting a mohawk.

And just because we're both dudes at the park during the day doesn't mean we want to or need to talk like the Zumba gals...

Also it's best to mention mommy outloud to the kid.
 
2021-04-20 10:38:37 AM  
As a stay at home dad for an almost two year old....

It's the absolute best.  We eat breakfast, we cook together, we have dance parties, we practice numbers and the alphabet, we're learning to jump, we go for walks, we learn new words (easiest when Dad stubs his toe on something and the word only has four letters). It can be real challenging, but my wife is happy (mostly) because she enjoys working an actual job much more than I do.   That being said, when kiddo goes back to school, dad will likely be going back to work, at least part time.  Gotta save for that vacation the Mouse World
 
2021-04-20 10:39:35 AM  
I am not going to work today, and I may not go to work for the next ten years.
 
2021-04-20 10:40:33 AM  

hotrod2001: Speaking as a 7-year veteran of being a stay-at-home dad, it's no walk in the park...especially if you're trying to run a business out of your back office fending off kids who think they're Minecraft Creepers and Sonic the Hedgehog.  When they're under pre-k age though it's fun...although it's a little weird being the only guy sporting a beard and a North Face jacket at the park when you're flanked by moms who all know each other and are wearing matching Zumba pants.


I'd throw him in an Ohio State outfit and we'd match. Granted he was still 1 at this point. Got a few looks at the Starbucks in target when it would open
 
2021-04-20 10:40:53 AM  
The tougher part will be explaining why you still need a maid even though you are staying home

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2021-04-20 10:41:02 AM  

sinner4ever: Pro-tip
After having the discussion , do not put on your headset and start the PS4.


Go for the Xbox One. Got it
 
2021-04-20 10:41:19 AM  
Wife: "Sorry, but I just couldn't respect a man that wasn't out there busy earnin' "
 
2021-04-20 10:41:20 AM  
Is Slate the first place high school kids land their initial journalism jobs at nowadays?
 
2021-04-20 10:41:47 AM  
I actually do miss being a stay at home dad
 
2021-04-20 10:42:22 AM  

johnny_vegas: The tougher part will be explaining why you still need a maid even though you are staying home

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Wife says you don't need a maid, she bought you the outfit.
 
2021-04-20 10:43:00 AM  
Or just fight for family leave, a 35 hour work week, child care at work, and a month vacation every year, like they do in civilized countries.
 
2021-04-20 10:43:25 AM  

fanbladesaresharp: Is Slate the first place high school kids land their initial journalism jobs at nowadays?


Think of it as a training ground for future Starbucks assistant supervisors.
 
2021-04-20 10:43:25 AM  
Basically, everything gets old after a few years. Jobs, spouses, children, hobbies. Nowadays we live long enough and have enough leisure time for this to have real impact.
 
2021-04-20 10:43:44 AM  
My youngest is 10 and is in school most of the day.  Being a stay-at-home dad basically would mean tidying up the house, dealing with the occasional dentist appointment or whatever, and preparing food.

I'm all in favor of this.  I'll even put on a nice dress and have dinner ready when she gets home (plus I'm willing to put out).

Now, I just need to find a sugar momma with a good income and low standards....
 
2021-04-20 10:44:11 AM  
Show her this.
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2021-04-20 10:46:14 AM  

debug: "I feel like I'm missing too much of my kids' childhoods while I work, but It isn't fair to my wife to ask her to miss out either"

Why not?  Nobody thinks it's unfair to ask dads to miss out.


Toxic masculinity is a cultural problem.

Men who are toxic make things bad.

Men who try to do better get stigmatized by social forces for not being manly.

Taking care of children is an adult responsibility. If you're an adult and you have kids, you should be afforded the resources and time to do well for them.
 
2021-04-20 10:47:26 AM  
Thirty years too late, Slate....

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We've already had the God Damn Mr. Mom!
 
2021-04-20 10:49:55 AM  

thealgorerhythm: debug: "I feel like I'm missing too much of my kids' childhoods while I work, but It isn't fair to my wife to ask her to miss out either"

Why not?  Nobody thinks it's unfair to ask dads to miss out.

Toxic masculinity is a cultural problem.

Men who are toxic make things bad.

Men who try to do better get stigmatized by social forces for not being manly.

Taking care of children is an adult responsibility. If you're an adult and you have kids, you should be afforded the resources and time to do well for them.


Threads about gender roles are still pretty sad on fark, alas.
 
2021-04-20 10:50:07 AM  
Talk to her?
 
2021-04-20 10:50:26 AM  
I told my wife I thought it was important that a parent be around to see to the kids' needs through the day.  I explained that my mom was a stay-at-home mom and I valued what she did.

My wife explained that she enjoys the structure of working much more than the endless choose your own adventure that is stay-at-home parenting, that she doesn't have the right mentality to be a stay-at-home parent and that she makes a lot more money than I would.  She makes enough money that anything I made would just be padding our savings.

She also works very odd hours.  Until recently it was 10 PM until 9, 10, or even 11 AM, with the occasional 5 AM to 8 PM shift.

So all that stuff pretty much made it a no brainer.
 
2021-04-20 10:50:28 AM  

BossLog: As a stay at home dad for an almost two year old....

It's the absolute best.  We eat breakfast, we cook together, we have dance parties, we practice numbers and the alphabet, we're learning to jump, we go for walks, we learn new words (easiest when Dad stubs his toe on something and the word only has four letters). It can be real challenging, but my wife is happy (mostly) because she enjoys working an actual job much more than I do.   That being said, when kiddo goes back to school, dad will likely be going back to work, at least part time.  Gotta save for that vacation the Mouse World


Please tell me that you are being sarcastic and your most uplifting thoughts as a Stay at home dad don't include a trip to Disneyland.
 
2021-04-20 10:51:18 AM  
Well, if she hasn't figured it out after you change the locks....
 
2021-04-20 10:52:09 AM  
As someone who has a nice enough job that I have been able to flex enough time to be a part time stay-at-home dad this past decade when my stay-at-home wife needed the time off...

Single parents: my hat is off to all of you. How you do it all is beyond me.
 
2021-04-20 10:55:05 AM  

Geotpf: Step one is "Have a wife who makes a lot more money than you do," methinks.


Thats what I did. Well, eventually. When we first got married I made twice what she did. By the time our first kid showed up five years later, she was making, four times what I was, and I'd gotten a promotion and a couple pretty good raises in that time frame.

/Been a stay at home dad for over 10 years
//Also own a farm and raise beef cattle, and a few feeder pigs
///Also work part time with my wife
/\/\Busier now than when I was going into work 50 hours a week.
 
2021-04-20 10:55:12 AM  

eKonk: My youngest is 10 and is in school most of the day.  Being a stay-at-home dad basically would mean tidying up the house, dealing with the occasional dentist appointment or whatever, and preparing food.

I'm all in favor of this.  I'll even put on a nice dress and have dinner ready when she gets home (plus I'm willing to put out).

Now, I just need to find a sugar momma with a good income and low standards....


"Don't worry darling, I didn't burn the schlitz!"
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2021-04-20 10:55:40 AM  

OtherLittleGuy: Thirty years too late, Slate....

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We've already had the God Damn Mr. Mom!


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2021-04-20 11:00:23 AM  

AuralArgument: hotrod2001:

I'm the one sporting a mohawk.

And just because we're both dudes at the park during the day doesn't mean we want to or need to talk like the Zumba gals...

Also it's best to mention mommy outloud to the kid.


They'd just kind of stare (affluent northern Atlanta suburbs at the time).  I also dressed my toddler up in AC/DC shirts and he had these awesome Converse sneakers with flames coming off the sides...made him really stand out amongst the Paw Patrols lol.  And yeah, this was before "Karen" was a term.

I do wonder how my kid will turn out...his younger years were spent...not exactly how probably kids raised by their moms would be.  I had him out on Lake Lanier at 3 months, he was hiking the AT at one, playing on playgrounds 6 years above his appropriate age level and experiencing the Atlanta Perimeter in the far left lane.
 
2021-04-20 11:06:01 AM  
Difficulty: The kids are in their mid-20s.
 
2021-04-20 11:07:59 AM  
Been a stay at home dad for 2 years. I retired early and my wife makes bank at her job. I'm still bringing in income so no guilt there. It makes me mad when people trash dads for wanting to be good active parents, but my guess is most of them are just jealous. Also, no one has ever said shiat about it to my face. Bunch of toxic masculinity keyboard warrior cowards.
 
2021-04-20 11:11:56 AM  
"Hey, honey, you know how you're always talking about wanting to get out of the house?"
 
2021-04-20 11:14:33 AM  

thealgorerhythm: My wife, Morgan Fairchild, had no problem with this because she's rich.


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2021-04-20 11:16:03 AM  
Dad -
We now have 2 daughters, aged 11 and 8,


Bruh, your daughters need a stay at home parent for maybe 3 more years.  And that's if you farked up raising them thus far.  Tell your wife to get a job, take your brief period as a house dad and probably pick up a part time job because you kids are out of the house several hours of the day for 9 months of the year and need very little supervision the rest of the time.

Mom -
I have tried to talk to my mother about this but she gets defensive, insults my parenting and/or tunes me out.


That ship has sailed.  You tried, it didn't work.  Move out.

White Guilt Mom -
Recently, my five-year-old daughter and I were walking by a police station where two officers were waiting beside a cruiser. My daughter saw them and said, "If we were Black, they would hit us with their car."


Why not just sign the letter "Setup for a pious anti-racism rant"?

Hair Lady -Yeah, all right.  Let dad fark 'em up.  That shiat's creepy and weird in any capacity.
 
2021-04-20 11:18:00 AM  
The better equation is to remove the kids. Stay-at-home housekeeper sounds like a pretty sweet gig.
 
2021-04-20 11:21:29 AM  
My SO was a stay at home mom for most of the entirety of her first marriage and she regrets it.  Not because of the kids but because she lacked work/job skills when she found herself suddenly having to earn money.

She works in daycare and we have a 1 year old together. I work remote so I can handle the house stuff and older kids while at home and she takes the youngest with her to work.

I do have to remind her sometimes that even though she hates working, we need the income and she needs to be independent from me in case I croak so she isn't in the same situation as when we met.
 
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