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(Slate)   "My toddler is a super-strong beast who will fight me every time I try to brush his teeth. What can I do to ensure he has proper dental hygiene?"   (slate.com) divider line
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198 clicks; posted to Discussion » on 19 Apr 2021 at 10:20 AM (3 weeks ago)   |   Favorite    |   share:  Share on Twitter share via Email Share on Facebook



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2021-04-19 6:58:05 AM  
Show him this.

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2021-04-19 9:06:15 AM  
Take him to the vet.
 
2021-04-19 10:24:04 AM  
Tell him it's that or greenies
 
2021-04-19 10:27:28 AM  
Does he see you brush your teeth?
Do you do it with a smile on your face, and blow bubbles with the toothpaste foam?

Have you tried just doing a dry toothbrush, or baking soda, or a mouthwash?  Or using a finger or a soft cloth to clean his front teeth?  Isolate the problems - is it the taste or texture of the product, is it the feel of the brush in his mouth, etc.
 
2021-04-19 10:27:46 AM  
A good old fashioned fatal beating did wonders for me.
 
2021-04-19 10:51:06 AM  
"if you don't brush your teeth before bed, the closet monster will eat you."
 
2021-04-19 11:19:38 AM  
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Subby?
 
2021-04-19 11:19:45 AM  

crustysandman: Show him this.

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The British keep their teeth clean just fine.  They just leave em crooked
 
2021-04-19 11:20:40 AM  
Dont worry about it they are just baby teeth they all fall out anyway.
 
2021-04-19 11:21:33 AM  

FrancoFile: Do you do it with a smile on your face, and blow bubbles with the toothpaste foam?


My boy's slightly older than this kid. They should be using training toothpaste (basically just flavored inert gel) until they learn to spit, since you don't want the kiddo swallowing the real stuff.

I've learned that sometimes it's best to just be flexible with it. I'd like him to brush before the bath, but if he throws a fit about that then I can get him to brush in the bath instead. And if it's an especially bad night then we just skip it. Heck, he's going to rip them out of his face in eight years or less no matter what we do.

I can easily overpower my kid but 1) it's a pretty good indicator that I could be doing something better and 2) I don't want him getting the idea that might means right.

/that being said, I wrestled him into his PJs last night - that was unpleasant for everyone
 
2021-04-19 11:53:30 AM  

MusicMakeMyHeadPound: FrancoFile: Do you do it with a smile on your face, and blow bubbles with the toothpaste foam?

My boy's slightly older than this kid. They should be using training toothpaste (basically just flavored inert gel) until they learn to spit, since you don't want the kiddo swallowing the real stuff.

I've learned that sometimes it's best to just be flexible with it. I'd like him to brush before the bath, but if he throws a fit about that then I can get him to brush in the bath instead. And if it's an especially bad night then we just skip it. Heck, he's going to rip them out of his face in eight years or less no matter what we do.

I can easily overpower my kid but 1) it's a pretty good indicator that I could be doing something better and 2) I don't want him getting the idea that might means right.

/that being said, I wrestled him into his PJs last night - that was unpleasant for everyone


Nothing wrong with putting a kid to bed without PJs.  Just make sure you duct tape that diaper!
 
2021-04-19 12:08:21 PM  

crzybtch: Nothing wrong with putting a kid to bed without PJs.  Just make sure you duct tape that diaper!


I've thought about it, but it's still a little chilly at night here. His room has two outside walls and redoing the insulation on them is on my "lol as if I have time for that" list.

After the PJ fight he melted down completely, then he was able to calm down and get back under control. After that we read books and he had a pretty good night's sleep.

Emotional regulation is really hard* and helping a toddler through it is pretty tough too.

*which is yet another reason why I don't want to encourage physical action as an option
 
2021-04-19 12:11:36 PM  
If it's like WWE, hit him with a folding chair then throw his arse into the judges' table.
 
2021-04-19 12:27:31 PM  
If you can't get your toddler to cooperate with dressing, diaper changing and tooth brushing, good luck when he's 13 and steals your car.
 
2021-04-19 12:47:04 PM  

Mrs. Snipes: If it's like WWE, hit him with a folding chair then throw his arse into the judges' table.


BAH GAWD King -- that's the Cavity Creeps' music!
 
2021-04-19 12:53:52 PM  
Beat him like a pinata
 
2021-04-19 1:04:03 PM  
Our two year old was really fighting us on toothbrushing for awhile. Eventually we figured out that she's cool with it (and flossing!) as long as we do it in her high chair right after dinner, and I sing the Daniel Tiger theme with the words changed to be about brushing/flossing the whole time.

/I've got lots of friends for you to meet, who want you to brush your teeth
//A friendly face on every street, just waiting to brush teeth...
 
2021-04-19 1:14:06 PM  

Subtonic: A good old fashioned fatal beating did wonders for me.


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2021-04-19 1:32:54 PM  

Gramma: If you can't get your toddler to cooperate with dressing, diaper changing and tooth brushing, good luck when he's 13 and steals your car.


My only hope at this point is that he'll be a better driver at 13 than most people are at 50. Which, honestly, is a low bar.
 
2021-04-19 2:55:58 PM  
Let the little monster experience dental pain.

Anyone that's experienced dental pain from a cavity or cracked tooth and doesn't diligently brush after is....a fool.
 
2021-04-19 2:57:57 PM  
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2021-04-19 3:05:31 PM  
Curare darts.
 
2021-04-19 3:48:18 PM  
Some kids just like to get physical and fight, and it is therefore critically important to separate fighting from parenting so that disobeying you doesn't just become a competition/game.  I had this problem until one day it clicked that my son didn't want to fight about bed/bath/whatever, he just wanted to fight and bed/bath/whatever was just an excuse to fight.

What you do is say, "Bud, we are going to go wrestle, then it's time for brushing teeth and bed."  Then you go wrestle on the floor as roughly as you need to to scratch his fighting itch.  Obviously set ground rules so no one gets hurt, but there is nothing wrong with pining your child to the carpet in a small package.  Wrapping legs/torso from the back are nice too, or just pulling them around by their ankles (NEVER ARMS!!! Kid shoulders are still developing and you can seriously injure them).  Kids like to pull guard and kick you in the face or catch you with a dirty elbow, so I always try to stay safe by keeping my face against their back/chest.

If all goes well, the wrestling will become a reward, so you can actually withhold wrestling if they won't brush their teeth.

/bonus points if you pin them and fart on them, they love that
// you may need to brush teeth after wrestling but before bath to give a cooldown period before bed
/// going to the bathroom always comes before wrestling
 
2021-04-19 4:06:20 PM  

MusicMakeMyHeadPound: Gramma: If you can't get your toddler to cooperate with dressing, diaper changing and tooth brushing, good luck when he's 13 and steals your car.

My only hope at this point is that he'll be a better driver at 13 than most people are at 50. Which, honestly, is a low bar.


My sister's son was one of those kids that was oversized and fought her about everything.  He's 6' 5" now, 23 years old, and a nice young man. But boy oh boy she went through some stuff with that one.
 
2021-04-19 4:42:36 PM  
NO WIRE HANGARS!!!!!!
 
2021-04-19 6:15:19 PM  

FrancoFile: Does he see you brush your teeth?
Do you do it with a smile on your face, and blow bubbles with the toothpaste foam?

Have you tried just doing a dry toothbrush, or baking soda, or a mouthwash?  Or using a finger or a soft cloth to clean his front teeth?  Isolate the problems - is it the taste or texture of the product, is it the feel of the brush in his mouth, etc.


Let them do it themselves.  A little hygiene is better than no hygiene.  Besides...toddler teeth fall out anyway.
 
2021-04-19 6:19:29 PM  

Gramma: If you can't get your toddler to cooperate with dressing, diaper changing and tooth brushing, good luck when he's 13 and steals your car.


Remedy for that is a standard shift car.  Foiled my son till he was 21.  Well that, and I couldn't afford him on my insurance.
 
2021-04-19 11:00:45 PM  

Gramma: If you can't get your toddler to cooperate with dressing, diaper changing and tooth brushing, good luck when he's 13 and steals your car.


...I don't know what universe you live in, but that's totally normal for toddlers. You have to negotiate with them--they're not some kind of animal, they're just very small and can't articulate well yet. Some things are harder for them than others. Work WITH them, and fights become less of a problem.

/yes, that's experience talking
//parenting the right way involves a lot of hard work. yelling and forcing kids to do things doesn't. up to you what you want, and what nursing home you want to end up in.
 
2021-04-20 10:28:20 AM  

It'sMorphin'Time: Gramma: If you can't get your toddler to cooperate with dressing, diaper changing and tooth brushing, good luck when he's 13 and steals your car.

...I don't know what universe you live in, but that's totally normal for toddlers. You have to negotiate with them--they're not some kind of animal, they're just very small and can't articulate well yet. Some things are harder for them than others. Work WITH them, and fights become less of a problem.

/yes, that's experience talking
//parenting the right way involves a lot of hard work. yelling and forcing kids to do things doesn't. up to you what you want, and what nursing home you want to end up in.



It is normal to have the occasional problem with a toddler - they call it the terrible 2s for a reason - but if it is a consistent problem with getting them to do anything, well, that isn't normal. At some point they need to know that everyone is expected to do things they don't want to do. And at 3 they can do that, most of them anyway.
 
2021-04-20 1:12:39 PM  
if you can't outsmart a toddler you have no business being an parent.
 
2021-04-20 2:01:49 PM  

Gramma: It'sMorphin'Time: Gramma: If you can't get your toddler to cooperate with dressing, diaper changing and tooth brushing, good luck when he's 13 and steals your car.

...I don't know what universe you live in, but that's totally normal for toddlers. You have to negotiate with them--they're not some kind of animal, they're just very small and can't articulate well yet. Some things are harder for them than others. Work WITH them, and fights become less of a problem.

/yes, that's experience talking
//parenting the right way involves a lot of hard work. yelling and forcing kids to do things doesn't. up to you what you want, and what nursing home you want to end up in.


It is normal to have the occasional problem with a toddler - they call it the terrible 2s for a reason - but if it is a consistent problem with getting them to do anything, well, that isn't normal. At some point they need to know that everyone is expected to do things they don't want to do. And at 3 they can do that, most of them anyway.


I'm inclined to agree, I just think that most of the time, the consistent problem is that the parent's ignoring a problem the child has. If a baby doesn't want tooth-brushing, there's a lot of sensory issues that might be at play; if they hate getting dressed, they might need different fabric, that sort of thing.

They're not developed enough to do things that are uncomfortable to them. Don't expect miracles.
 
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