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(Slate)   "I'm an incredibly picky eater, and I don't want my children to suffer the same fate as me. How do I ensure their palate is varied?"   (slate.com) divider line
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5 days ago  
I don't know, but I would guess the answer would be vary their palate.
 
5 days ago  
I'm gonna say... tell your kids that you're a picky eater and you don't want them to suffer your fate ... and then all of you eat stuff (more than 3 times) that you find 'icky' and decide if it's actually icky or in fact good food... then rinse and repeat ad infinitum.
 
5 days ago  
Sell them to the Gypsies
 
5 days ago  
Don't make it about old expectations, When you pick up a forkful that tastes different, eat it anyway and try to savor its flavors.

Tell your kids the same. Free your mind and the rest will follow.
 
5 days ago  
starvation
 
5 days ago  
seriously. Tell them to eat with their nose and mouth, and not try to taste with their eyes
 
5 days ago  

MrBallou: When you pick up a forkful that tastes different, eat it anyway and try to savor its flavors.



Even if it tastes like hobo taint?
 
5 days ago  

UberDave: MrBallou: When you pick up a forkful that tastes different, eat it anyway and try to savor its flavors.


Even if it tastes like hobo taint?


You've never had a really good bleu cheese
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5 days ago  
You mean, you want them to enjoy butt stuff in the future? I think you should leave that kind of stuff to them.
 
5 days ago  
They gave a decent answer.  Cook food, put it on the table, and eat with them.  That's a pretty effective way to deal with picky eaters, from experience.

If you're picky, they're going to key off that because they're your kids, so figure out novel ways of working with that.  TFA says that the kids will get old enough to understand the disorder, but before they get old enough to understand it's going to get way worse.  You can't reason with a 4 year old when they look at you and say "you're not eating it and it's yucky, so why do I have to?" and then throw a tantrum.  You can cut off their food and send them to their room, or force them to stay at the table, but you're not going to get great results out of that for long.
 
5 days ago  
As a daycare/preschool/kinder teacher I have to deal with picky eaters. Delightful when the parents insist we make their kids eat their veggies or drink so-and-so many cups of water a day because at home they don't eat anything but white rice and Calpis.

But letter writer seems to have a disorder, not just a run of the mill picky eater.

I would treat it the same way as an allergy. "Wow, sweetie, that ____looks delicious. You're so lucky you get to have that for dinner. Mommy is so jealous."
 
5 days ago  

leviosaurus: UberDave: MrBallou: When you pick up a forkful that tastes different, eat it anyway and try to savor its flavors.


Even if it tastes like hobo taint?

You've never had a really good bleu cheese
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Objection. There is no good bleu cheese.
 
5 days ago  

UberDave: MrBallou: When you pick up a forkful that tastes different, eat it anyway and try to savor its flavors.


Even if it tastes like hobo taint?


ESPECIALLY if it tastes like hobo taint.
 
5 days ago  
My child isn't a picky eater, thankfully. His mother did a good job in keeping him normal.

There are however a lot of extreme picky eaters suffering in silence. Tired of a lifetime of ridicule.
 
5 days ago  

AppleOptionEsc: leviosaurus: UberDave: MrBallou: When you pick up a forkful that tastes different, eat it anyway and try to savor its flavors.


Even if it tastes like hobo taint?

You've never had a really good bleu cheese
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Objection. There is no good bleu cheese.


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Thats a warning. The next denigration may result in revocation of Cheesehead status.
 
5 days ago  
Ethiopians don't have eating disorders.

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BUT I JUST WANT CHICKEN NUGGETS
 
5 days ago  

UberDave: MrBallou: When you pick up a forkful that tastes different, eat it anyway and try to savor its flavors.


Even if it tastes like hobo taint?


And you would recognise that taste, how?...
 
5 days ago  

Omnis_evil_twin: As a daycare/preschool/kinder teacher I have to deal with picky eaters. Delightful when the parents insist we make their kids eat their veggies or drink so-and-so many cups of water a day because at home they don't eat anything but white rice and Calpis.

But letter writer seems to have a disorder, not just a run of the mill picky eater.

I would treat it the same way as an allergy. "Wow, sweetie, that ____looks delicious. You're so lucky you get to have that for dinner. Mommy is so jealous."


Fastest fix I ever had was to tell a couple of kids that they couldn't have what the others were having, as only grown up taste buds would like it.  Very few kids want to be the baby of the bunch, so they usually jump on that plate of veggies or whatever.  If it's a super taster or a kid with a sensory issue, that's a different game and a different set of rules to play.  Fortunately, those are few and far between.
 
5 days ago  

MrBallou: Don't make it about old expectations, When you pick up a forkful that tastes different, eat it anyway and try to savor its flavors.

Tell your kids the same. Free your mind and the rest will follow.


More importantly - let them (once they try it) not eat it if they indeed feel it tastes like crap.  Seen this one backfire too many times.  "I don't want my kids to be picky I'm gonna make them eat everything!"  Good jorb, by making them eat even the stuff they farking hate, you've sent them in the other direction.  Yes, get them to try new things.  No, do not be the "Eat it - you'll like it eventually" dumbass.

/no, "all vegetables" or some such shiat does not qualify here
//but if they hate asparagus or something, let them eat other veggies Captain Control Freak
///you don't have to like everything there is to not be a hamberders and ketchup knucklehead
 
5 days ago  

Some Junkie Cosmonaut: No, do not be the "Eat it - you'll like it eventually" dumbass.


Oh lord this.  I do not like green peas.  Never have.  The taste like burnt soap to me.  Unfortunately my Dad loves them so we would have peas several times a week for dinner and it always turned into a war of wills.  I would be served a heaping spoonful of peas first and wouldn't get the rest of my meal until I choked them down.  Frequently there was so much gagging and wretching involved that by the time I managed to force them I couldn't eat anything else.  Variations of this went on for years.  To this day whenever I have dinner at my parent's house they make a point of serving peas.  I'm 42 now and they're still trying to get me to eat peas.
 
5 days ago  

GregoryD: My child isn't a picky eater, thankfully. His mother did a good job in keeping him normal.

There are however a lot of extreme picky eaters suffering in silence. Tired of a lifetime of ridicule.


I'm a Very Picky Eater and quite enjoy it. Our older son took after me, younger is adventurous like my wife.

I think it's valuable to be able to tell a new acquaintance "No, thank you". Friends and family know it well, I bust my own balls about it and they join in. I bust their balls about it too - how empty their lives must be if they crave excitement and novelty in their food. Unable to enjoy simple things.

If strangers have ridiculed me about it, I count it as a win that I truly have not noticed. Other than that, I can't even imagine what the suffering is. Part of the pickiness is certainly that I dislike many popular foods, but the other is that I LOVE the hell out of the plain & simple foods I've eaten my whole life. I don't go hungry or choke down unpleasant foods - the stuff I like is also usually simple and widely available.
 
5 days ago  

Some Junkie Cosmonaut: MrBallou: Don't make it about old expectations, When you pick up a forkful that tastes different, eat it anyway and try to savor its flavors.

Tell your kids the same. Free your mind and the rest will follow.

More importantly - let them (once they try it) not eat it if they indeed feel it tastes like crap.  Seen this one backfire too many times.  "I don't want my kids to be picky I'm gonna make them eat everything!"  Good jorb, by making them eat even the stuff they farking hate, you've sent them in the other direction.  Yes, get them to try new things.  No, do not be the "Eat it - you'll like it eventually" dumbass.

/no, "all vegetables" or some such shiat does not qualify here
//but if they hate asparagus or something, let them eat other veggies Captain Control Freak
///you don't have to like everything there is to not be a hamberders and ketchup knucklehead


Teaching that being open minded is a good thing hardly qualifies as "Control Freak".
 
5 days ago  
You can stop being a picky eater any time you want to.  This question isn't about how to raise your children.  It's about being hung up on the way you were raised.
 
5 days ago  

thelatebillstickers: Some Junkie Cosmonaut: No, do not be the "Eat it - you'll like it eventually" dumbass.

Oh lord this.  I do not like green peas.  Never have.  The taste like burnt soap to me.  Unfortunately my Dad loves them so we would have peas several times a week for dinner and it always turned into a war of wills.  I would be served a heaping spoonful of peas first and wouldn't get the rest of my meal until I choked them down.  Frequently there was so much gagging and wretching involved that by the time I managed to force them I couldn't eat anything else.  Variations of this went on for years.  To this day whenever I have dinner at my parent's house they make a point of serving peas.  I'm 42 now and they're still trying to get me to eat peas.


My mother cooked brisket by putting it in the oven at 500 degrees for around 6 hours. What came out what a dry flavorless mess of gristle. I was not allowed to leave the table without finishing. I have very vivid memories of still sitting at that table hours later.

The real answer is to learn to cook. Anything can be made to taste good with the right preparation and seasoning. If you're a terrible cook it doesn't matter what you serve.
 
5 days ago  

Some Junkie Cosmonaut: MrBallou: Don't make it about old expectations, When you pick up a forkful that tastes different, eat it anyway and try to savor its flavors.

Tell your kids the same. Free your mind and the rest will follow.

More importantly - let them (once they try it) not eat it if they indeed feel it tastes like crap.  Seen this one backfire too many times.  "I don't want my kids to be picky I'm gonna make them eat everything!"  Good jorb, by making them eat even the stuff they farking hate, you've sent them in the other direction.  Yes, get them to try new things.  No, do not be the "Eat it - you'll like it eventually" dumbass.

/no, "all vegetables" or some such shiat does not qualify here
//but if they hate asparagus or something, let them eat other veggies Captain Control Freak
///you don't have to like everything there is to not be a hamberders and ketchup knucklehead


Always make sure they articulate why they don't like a thing (you can help small ones asking clarifying questions).  I have found a lot of problems are temperature (too hot or too cold, easy fix), texture (e.g. mushed beans are gross, but whole beans are yum), or simply the way it was cut (long/short/diagonal/shape).
 
5 days ago  
My wife's college age daughter was a very picky eater as a kid.  Everyone in the family went out of their way to prepare the foods for her that she liked.  As a result, her diet was very limited, and every time I tried to talk to my wife about it, I got an angry "She eats the things she likes!  There's nothing wrong with that!"  She's since been diagnosed with an eating disorder, ARFID (avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder).

I don't want to imply that every person who's a picky eater has an eating disorder, because that's clearly not the case.  Hell, I eat a wide variety of foods and there are even things I don't like.  But there's a fine line between being picky and being unwell.
 
5 days ago  

Some Junkie Cosmonaut: MrBallou: Don't make it about old expectations, When you pick up a forkful that tastes different, eat it anyway and try to savor its flavors.

Tell your kids the same. Free your mind and the rest will follow.

More importantly - let them (once they try it) not eat it if they indeed feel it tastes like crap.  Seen this one backfire too many times.  "I don't want my kids to be picky I'm gonna make them eat everything!"  Good jorb, by making them eat even the stuff they farking hate, you've sent them in the other direction.  Yes, get them to try new things.  No, do not be the "Eat it - you'll like it eventually" dumbass.

/no, "all vegetables" or some such shiat does not qualify here
//but if they hate asparagus or something, let them eat other veggies Captain Control Freak
///you don't have to like everything there is to not be a hamberders and ketchup knucklehead


I like 99% of veggies.

I was picky as a child. Turns out, my parents just farking love onions. All salads had them, all casseroles, meatloafs were loaded, scrambled eggs had 'em, steamed veggies had 'em.

Raw onions disgust me. Sauteed can be good, and they have their place in soups and sauces.

I spent a long part of my life thinking I had a much thinner range of foods I like than I do.
 
5 days ago  
Watch Sicario together. After the meal scene near the end, nudge them and wag a finger and say, "Picky eaters."
 
Ant
5 days ago  
Stop being a picky eater! So farking annoying!
 
5 days ago  

UberDave: MrBallou: When you pick up a forkful that tastes different, eat it anyway and try to savor its flavors.


Even if it tastes like hobo taint?


I recommend cooking lessons, btw. Sounds like you could really benefit from it.
 
Ant
5 days ago  
If I would've tried that picky eater crap when I was a little kid, I would have starved to death.
 
5 days ago  
If you want to encourage adventurous eating, just give the kid the opportunity and encourage them to try something new. Make sure they know that if they don't like it, they don't have to eat any more of it. Lead by example - if you're not willing to try, they won't either.

That said, there's no guarantee - they are still going to dislike certain things.  That's fine, don't force anything (eating should not be a punishment), just make sure they eat healthy.

Now, as to kids who are picky eaters because they want to eat junk food instead of healthy food? Don't give them the option. Make healthy food. They don't want to eat it? Fine. But they're not getting anything else. They won't starve as long as there's food in the house.
 
5 days ago  
One bite of everything and all of one thing every meal
This includes everybody
 
5 days ago  

optikeye: Ethiopians don't have eating disorders.

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BUT I JUST WANT CHICKEN NUGGETS


If there is one thing I've learned from Fark it's that beggars CAN be choosers
 
5 days ago  

MrBallou: Some Junkie Cosmonaut: MrBallou: Don't make it about old expectations, When you pick up a forkful that tastes different, eat it anyway and try to savor its flavors.

Tell your kids the same. Free your mind and the rest will follow.

More importantly - let them (once they try it) not eat it if they indeed feel it tastes like crap.  Seen this one backfire too many times.  "I don't want my kids to be picky I'm gonna make them eat everything!"  Good jorb, by making them eat even the stuff they farking hate, you've sent them in the other direction.  Yes, get them to try new things.  No, do not be the "Eat it - you'll like it eventually" dumbass.

/no, "all vegetables" or some such shiat does not qualify here
//but if they hate asparagus or something, let them eat other veggies Captain Control Freak
///you don't have to like everything there is to not be a hamberders and ketchup knucklehead

Teaching that being open minded is a good thing hardly qualifies as "Control Freak".


And forcing someone to pretend to like everything that exists doesn't make them "open minded."

/there, now we've both cherry picked bits to exaggerate the other's point into unrecognizability
//the fark traditions are satisfied
///sheesh
 
4 days ago  

Some Junkie Cosmonaut: MrBallou: Some Junkie Cosmonaut: MrBallou: Don't make it about old expectations, When you pick up a forkful that tastes different, eat it anyway and try to savor its flavors.

Tell your kids the same. Free your mind and the rest will follow.

More importantly - let them (once they try it) not eat it if they indeed feel it tastes like crap.  Seen this one backfire too many times.  "I don't want my kids to be picky I'm gonna make them eat everything!"  Good jorb, by making them eat even the stuff they farking hate, you've sent them in the other direction.  Yes, get them to try new things.  No, do not be the "Eat it - you'll like it eventually" dumbass.

/no, "all vegetables" or some such shiat does not qualify here
//but if they hate asparagus or something, let them eat other veggies Captain Control Freak
///you don't have to like everything there is to not be a hamberders and ketchup knucklehead

Teaching that being open minded is a good thing hardly qualifies as "Control Freak".

And forcing someone to pretend to like everything that exists doesn't make them "open minded."

/there, now we've both cherry picked bits to exaggerate the other's point into unrecognizability
//the fark traditions are satisfied
///sheesh


Yes, panties have been properly bunched, as is expected.
 
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