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(Omaha World Herald)   "My Godson outgrew the train set I gifted him years ago and sold it; I was somewhat shocked, but my wife thinks it's downright rude. Is it?"   (omaha.com) divider line
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2020-10-19 9:27:52 PM  
No. Next question?
 
2020-10-19 9:31:13 PM  
You gave it to him; it was his to do what he wanted.  And for you to question this is, well, low breeding.
 
2020-10-19 9:36:02 PM  

WTFDYW: No. Next question?


And, I could be wrong, but I don't think there are any white people in the Bible.

Gold, Jerry! Gold!
 
2020-10-19 9:36:18 PM  
Ugh. We've got stuff like toys and baby dishes that my sister-in-law gave our daughter when she was a baby that we absolutely CANNOT get rid of "because Auntie gave her that." The kid doesn't care, but Mom is adamant.
 
2020-10-19 9:40:05 PM  
No
 
2020-10-19 9:41:32 PM  
It's a gift. Don't burden other people with your crap if it means so much to you.
 
2020-10-19 9:43:55 PM  
Good lord, why is this even a question? Of course you're obligated to keep every single object everyone gives you throughout your entire life.
 
2020-10-19 9:44:54 PM  
Meh, sometimes it's time to put the toys away, and if another kid gets a few years of joy out of that isn't it better than sitting in a box in the attic?
 
2020-10-19 9:45:47 PM  
My kid is 12. Standard practice is to put it away for a year, and if he hasn't expressed any interest in it, clear it out
 
2020-10-19 9:50:14 PM  
I just picked up the Lego Razor Crest set. Something tells me this might be the last one with him, which is bittersweet. I'll display it in my nerd case if he won't but I am not going to get all bent out of shape about it.

The baby yoda is pretty damn cute though
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2020-10-19 9:50:51 PM  
Unless you carved it by hand out of the same tree that was struck by lightning one night and supplied the wood for your baseball bat that you used to stage an improbable baseball career, don't attach sentimentality to physical objects.
 
2020-10-19 9:51:05 PM  
He sold it for something important, like a video game.  Or drugs.  He'll remember it forever.
 
2020-10-19 10:01:18 PM  
If you bought it for him, get the fark over it. If you gave it to him as some sort of "passing down" thing, you farked up. He has no attachment to it and you shouldn't give that to a kid to begin with if you have attachment to it.
 
2020-10-19 10:42:56 PM  
Don't throw your pearls before swine......
 
2020-10-19 10:49:50 PM  

Cagey B: Unless you carved it by hand out of the same tree that was struck by lightning one night and supplied the wood for your baseball bat that you used to stage an improbable baseball career, don't attach sentimentality to physical objects.


Reds' Devin Mesoraco boasts home-grown bats
 
2020-10-19 11:01:37 PM  

SurfaceTension: Cagey B: Unless you carved it by hand out of the same tree that was struck by lightning one night and supplied the wood for your baseball bat that you used to stage an improbable baseball career, don't attach sentimentality to physical objects.

Reds' Devin Mesoraco boasts home-grown bats


that's cool
 
2020-10-19 11:54:00 PM  

WTFDYW: No. Next question?


Thread over.
 
2020-10-20 3:17:59 AM  
My in-laws are purging their house in anticipation of selling it. We've been getting boxes of crap sent to us. Our house is filling up with useless crap. Hopefully most of it will eventually find it's way into a dumpster.

Also, I can't imagine that the train set was worth anything. Too many of them on eBay to count.
 
2020-10-20 3:53:15 AM  
So are kids never supposed to get rid of toys, then? If they aren't playing with it and you can get use out of by selling it, I see no problem. It's not as if this happened a few months ago...he had it for 8 years. Wife is an idiot.
 
2020-10-20 7:08:37 AM  

wet drum sandwich: Good lord, why is this even a question? Of course you're obligated to keep every single object everyone gives you throughout your entire life.


Some gifts you can never get rid of, like herpes.
 
2020-10-20 7:37:16 AM  
No, once the gift is given the giver has no say in the matter.

*RTFA*

You're wife is a busy-body that needs to mind her own business. You're a fool for marrying a pot-stirrer.

Everyone else: Stay strong. Refuse your relatives' garbage at the door. No, auntie Donna, we don't want your boxes of mass produced ceramic unicorns you hand painted twenty years ago. No, grandma, we don't need three sets of "gently used" avocado green and burnt orange tableware. Yeah no not even if you throw in the Tupperware with the warped lids. We have enough bread machines.
 
2020-10-20 8:13:12 AM  

Cagey B: Unless you carved it by hand out of the same tree that was struck by lightning one night and supplied the wood for your baseball bat that you used to stage an improbable baseball career, don't attach sentimentality to physical objects.


Well, I attach sentimentality to the guns my father built.

The ones I've bought?  Meh.  They're just guns.
 
2020-10-20 8:14:25 AM  

wax_on: My in-laws are purging their house in anticipation of selling it. We've been getting boxes of crap sent to us. Our house is filling up with useless crap. Hopefully most of it will eventually find it's way into a dumpster.

Also, I can't imagine that the train set was worth anything. Too many of them on eBay to count.


My mother was raised that quantity of gifts was far more important than quality of gifts.  I can't count how many times I've left the family house on X-mas day, only to stop at the dumpster on the way home to ditch all the junk items.  Seriously, Mom, I really don't need another set of crappy S&P shakers that only hold enough for one serving.  Impulse items at the check-out counter are nothing more than junk.  Stop wasting your money - I already have everything I want/need/desire.  Let's just have a nice dinner and be done with it.
 
2020-10-20 8:41:31 AM  
If you ignore the emotional side of it, it's like you have him two gifts. He was able to recognize the value in the train set he probably played with for years, and now wants to use the value of that gift to get something else he would enjoy more.
 
2020-10-20 8:42:31 AM  

wax_on: My in-laws are purging their house in anticipation of selling it. We've been getting boxes of crap sent to us. Our house is filling up with useless crap. Hopefully most of it will eventually find it's way into a dumpster.

Also, I can't imagine that the train set was worth anything. Too many of them on eBay to count.


I had a Lionel train set that my parents purchased for my older brother in 1948 that he later gave to me (in exchange for something I can't remember).  Mom gave it away when we moved across the country in 1968.  Today that train set is worth quite a bit.  And my baseball card collection I gave away in 1962, Mickey Mantle rookie card, 1948 Yogi Berra card, 1960 Carl Yastrzemski rookie card (and quite a few other very valuable cards) makes me cry.

That said, I never keep anything - I even gave my son my Martin D-35.
 
2020-10-20 9:02:14 AM  

Porkbelly: wax_on: My in-laws are purging their house in anticipation of selling it. We've been getting boxes of crap sent to us. Our house is filling up with useless crap. Hopefully most of it will eventually find it's way into a dumpster.

Also, I can't imagine that the train set was worth anything. Too many of them on eBay to count.

I had a Lionel train set that my parents purchased for my older brother in 1948 that he later gave to me (in exchange for something I can't remember).  Mom gave it away when we moved across the country in 1968.  Today that train set is worth quite a bit.  And my baseball card collection I gave away in 1962, Mickey Mantle rookie card, 1948 Yogi Berra card, 1960 Carl Yastrzemski rookie card (and quite a few other very valuable cards) makes me cry.

That said, I never keep anything - I even gave my son my Martin D-35.


When my mom sold her house in 1994 she tried to throw out my hockey card collection which contained complete O-Pee-Chee (not Topps which are worth less) sets from 1976 to 1980 including two Gretzky rookie cards. The woman who collected antiques her whole life never dreamed that hockey cards were collectable. Those stupid figurines that came in Red Rose Tea, you'd better be sure to hoard those, but sports cards, no way they'll ever be worth anything.
 
2020-10-20 9:10:27 AM  

scottydoesntknow: If you bought it for him, get the fark over it. If you gave it to him as some sort of "passing down" thing, you farked up. He has no attachment to it and you shouldn't give that to a kid to begin with if you have attachment to it.


Right - I can see an expectation with a family heirloom that you pass it on (within the family) when you're done with it, but in that case you need to be sure the recipient is on the same page. If they're not, and you give it to them anyway, then it's on you if they sell it or toss it in the trash (you gave it to the wrong person or it wasn't worth the sentimental value you attached to it).

For a gift like this - it sounds like it was a nice-but-not-sentimental train set given to a four year old - there's no expectation that it become an heirloom.  The fact that the kid could get anything out of it now is actually pretty great - that's a lot of value out of that gift.
 
2020-10-20 9:22:18 AM  

Ixnay on the ottenray: My mother was raised that quantity of gifts was far more important than quality of gifts.  I can't count how many times I've left the family house on X-mas day, only to stop at the dumpster on the way home to ditch all the junk items.  Seriously, Mom, I really don't need another set of crappy S&P shakers that only hold enough for one serving.  Impulse items at the check-out counter are nothing more than junk.  Stop wasting your money - I already have everything I want/need/desire.  Let's just have a nice dinner and be done with it.


My brother and I made an agreement to not get each other anything for birthdays or holidays. I recommend the practice.
 
2020-10-20 9:23:01 AM  
Other than the fact that there is something very wrong with your godson, sociopath I suspect, for getting rid of a train set, your wife is nuts and you should run now
 
2020-10-20 9:45:55 AM  
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could be worse
 
2020-10-20 10:08:02 AM  

Fear the Clam: Ixnay on the ottenray: My mother was raised that quantity of gifts was far more important than quality of gifts.  I can't count how many times I've left the family house on X-mas day, only to stop at the dumpster on the way home to ditch all the junk items.  Seriously, Mom, I really don't need another set of crappy S&P shakers that only hold enough for one serving.  Impulse items at the check-out counter are nothing more than junk.  Stop wasting your money - I already have everything I want/need/desire.  Let's just have a nice dinner and be done with it.

My brother and I made an agreement to not get each other anything for birthdays or holidays. I recommend the practice.


Yeah, siblings agreed on that about 15 years ago - now we just send each other emails.  Far easier, cheaper, and we know it's appreciated!!
 
2020-10-20 10:53:44 AM  

theteacher: WTFDYW: No. Next question?

And, I could be wrong, but I don't think there are any white people in the Bible.

Gold, Jerry! Gold!


Are you sure?  Because this guy looks just like a white guy that lives in the trailer park down the road.

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2020-10-20 10:58:11 AM  

Tyrosine: Porkbelly: wax_on: My in-laws are purging their house in anticipation of selling it. We've been getting boxes of crap sent to us. Our house is filling up with useless crap. Hopefully most of it will eventually find it's way into a dumpster.

Also, I can't imagine that the train set was worth anything. Too many of them on eBay to count.

I had a Lionel train set that my parents purchased for my older brother in 1948 that he later gave to me (in exchange for something I can't remember).  Mom gave it away when we moved across the country in 1968.  Today that train set is worth quite a bit.  And my baseball card collection I gave away in 1962, Mickey Mantle rookie card, 1948 Yogi Berra card, 1960 Carl Yastrzemski rookie card (and quite a few other very valuable cards) makes me cry.

That said, I never keep anything - I even gave my son my Martin D-35.

When my mom sold her house in 1994 she tried to throw out my hockey card collection which contained complete O-Pee-Chee (not Topps which are worth less) sets from 1976 to 1980 including two Gretzky rookie cards. The woman who collected antiques her whole life never dreamed that hockey cards were collectable. Those stupid figurines that came in Red Rose Tea, you'd better be sure to hoard those, but sports cards, no way they'll ever be worth anything.


And you valued those cards so much you left them with mom when you moved down to the basement.

My folks gave away all my vintage Star Wars stuff from the 70s & 80s (including promotional stuff that had "Revenge of the Jedi") that could be sold for $$ now, but I'm the one who left that stuff behind so I don't blame them.
 
2020-10-20 11:07:50 AM  
Last weekend I gave 8 boxes of old stuff to Goodwill.  Some of it was from the 60's and 70's.  I don't care how much is was worth.  I like to imagine the look on a poor kids face when they find something they like.  My Dad has enough stuff to fill a pole barn.  He never gets rid of anything.  I don't want to be like that.  I feel like the stuff you own starts to own you.  Less is more.  The older I get, the more I value a simpler life.  I value space and freedom, not stuff.
 
2020-10-20 11:38:08 AM  
No. Get over it.
 
2020-10-20 11:46:51 AM  

Tyrosine: When my mom sold her house in 1994 she tried to throw out my hockey card collection which contained complete O-Pee-Chee (not Topps which are worth less) sets from 1976 to 1980 including two Gretzky rookie cards.


Sounds like it was her stuff, in her house.
 
2020-10-20 12:03:13 PM  

mcmnky: Tyrosine: Porkbelly: wax_on: My in-laws are purging their house in anticipation of selling it. We've been getting boxes of crap sent to us. Our house is filling up with useless crap. Hopefully most of it will eventually find it's way into a dumpster.

Also, I can't imagine that the train set was worth anything. Too many of them on eBay to count.

I had a Lionel train set that my parents purchased for my older brother in 1948 that he later gave to me (in exchange for something I can't remember).  Mom gave it away when we moved across the country in 1968.  Today that train set is worth quite a bit.  And my baseball card collection I gave away in 1962, Mickey Mantle rookie card, 1948 Yogi Berra card, 1960 Carl Yastrzemski rookie card (and quite a few other very valuable cards) makes me cry.

That said, I never keep anything - I even gave my son my Martin D-35.

When my mom sold her house in 1994 she tried to throw out my hockey card collection which contained complete O-Pee-Chee (not Topps which are worth less) sets from 1976 to 1980 including two Gretzky rookie cards. The woman who collected antiques her whole life never dreamed that hockey cards were collectable. Those stupid figurines that came in Red Rose Tea, you'd better be sure to hoard those, but sports cards, no way they'll ever be worth anything.

And you valued those cards so much you left them with mom when you moved down to the basement.

My folks gave away all my vintage Star Wars stuff from the 70s & 80s (including promotional stuff that had "Revenge of the Jedi") that could be sold for $$ now, but I'm the one who left that stuff behind so I don't blame them.


A couple of things:  I gave them to my girlfriend when I was 11 and we moved to California - have no clue why I did that.  Growing up we never had a house with a basement, although I did briefly live with my parents for a couple of months when I graduated from college, in 1973.

But more than that - the epitome of nerd is people who collected Star wars crap so I'm imagining you still live in mom's basement and you appear to be around 50.
 
2020-10-20 12:09:12 PM  

Porkbelly: That said, I never keep anything - I even gave my son my Martin D-35.


Has he outgrown it and ready to sell??
 
2020-10-20 12:50:44 PM  

lizyrd: Porkbelly: That said, I never keep anything - I even gave my son my Martin D-35.

Has he outgrown it and ready to sell??


He's 40 and he'll be keeping it as it's the first really nice guitar he's ever had.  I gave it to him when I bought a Taylor 813a, he had quite playing for a couple of years while he pursued a masters degree in applied economics and I wanted to encourage him to play again - it worked.  I even took it up to the Martin factory in Nazareth, PA, took the tour (amazing fun tour) and had them do some work on it - some under the original warranty (50 years prior) and some I paid for.
 
2020-10-20 1:28:11 PM  

Porkbelly: But more than that - the epitome of nerd is people who collected Star wars crap so I'm imagining you still live in mom's basement and you appear to be around 50.


Weird, because this certainly is something a 50 yr old would think is a scathing mic-drop insult online.

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2020-10-20 2:41:31 PM  
My mom is one of those people who insists on giving gifts, no matter how small or insignificant. Someone upthread mentioned the impulse buys at the cash registers. I can't tell you how many times I've gotten 6-in-1 screwdrivers, keychain flashlights, eyeglass repair kits, grooming kits, and the like as Christmas gifts because she values quantity over quality.

It's gotten to the point that whenever she asks what I want for my birthday or Christmas, I tell her I haven't really thought about it, but I can always use gift cards. Back in the Before Times, I would tell her that there was a concert or hockey game I wanted to go to, and she would end up paying for part of that as my gift.

She's also Is never one to pass up a yard sale, so my wife and I wind up being gifted a bunch of things we neither ask for nor need. We have to surreptitiously get rid of these things without my mom knowing. Generally we just tell her that it got broken or we lent it out or it was too small or whatever.

When my wife and I first began living together, my mom came over for the 1st Christmas we hosted and was disappointed that I didn't have some old ornaments she had given me on on our tree. I told her that they were probably in storage and I would retrieve them before next Christmas. The truth is, I had purged a bunch of useless crap the previous year and gotten rid of the storage unit my late first wife had after she had died. However, she mentioned again the following Christmas and I had to come clean. She seemed extremely hurt and offended that I had "unceremoniously" gotten rid of stuff that had such sentimental value to her.

I'm mere weeks away from turning 50 and I have all the material things I need. At this point, I can count on one hand the inanimate objects I would save in a fire (one of which is my 1958 Telecaster and another is my laptop case with my external hard drive).

After losing my first wife, material objects just don't hold much value for me anymore. I'll take lifelong friendships, memorable experiences, good food & drink, spirited conversations, and snuggle time with my wife & dogs over random useless crap filling my house any day of the week and twice on Sundays.
 
2020-10-20 2:51:25 PM  

Porkbelly: wax_on: My in-laws are purging their house in anticipation of selling it. We've been getting boxes of crap sent to us. Our house is filling up with useless crap. Hopefully most of it will eventually find it's way into a dumpster.

Also, I can't imagine that the train set was worth anything. Too many of them on eBay to count.

I had a Lionel train set that my parents purchased for my older brother in 1948 that he later gave to me (in exchange for something I can't remember).  Mom gave it away when we moved across the country in 1968.  Today that train set is worth quite a bit.  And my baseball card collection I gave away in 1962, Mickey Mantle rookie card, 1948 Yogi Berra card, 1960 Carl Yastrzemski rookie card (and quite a few other very valuable cards) makes me cry.

That said, I never keep anything - I even gave my son my Martin D-35.


Check eBay if you think that train set is worth something. (Hint, it's not.)

We have a pre-war family train set that we brought to a store that specialized in model trains. We were told that there's a ton of them out there in good condition and nobody is buying. Model trains aren't the hot hobby that they used to be.
 
2020-10-20 4:07:37 PM  
I'd like to have an actual train car. I'm not sure how big they can get, so maybe two of them linked? Or even three? That would be amazing.
 
2020-10-20 5:42:55 PM  

Porkbelly: You gave it to him; it was his to do what he wanted.  And for you to question this is, well, low breeding.


Yeah, he agreed with that.  He asked about how to deal with his wife.

Reading skills, you have none.
 
2020-10-20 5:45:49 PM  

Porkbelly: mcmnky: Tyrosine: Porkbelly: wax_on: My in-laws are purging their house in anticipation of selling it. We've been getting boxes of crap sent to us. Our house is filling up with useless crap. Hopefully most of it will eventually find it's way into a dumpster.

Also, I can't imagine that the train set was worth anything. Too many of them on eBay to count.

I had a Lionel train set that my parents purchased for my older brother in 1948 that he later gave to me (in exchange for something I can't remember).  Mom gave it away when we moved across the country in 1968.  Today that train set is worth quite a bit.  And my baseball card collection I gave away in 1962, Mickey Mantle rookie card, 1948 Yogi Berra card, 1960 Carl Yastrzemski rookie card (and quite a few other very valuable cards) makes me cry.

That said, I never keep anything - I even gave my son my Martin D-35.

When my mom sold her house in 1994 she tried to throw out my hockey card collection which contained complete O-Pee-Chee (not Topps which are worth less) sets from 1976 to 1980 including two Gretzky rookie cards. The woman who collected antiques her whole life never dreamed that hockey cards were collectable. Those stupid figurines that came in Red Rose Tea, you'd better be sure to hoard those, but sports cards, no way they'll ever be worth anything.

And you valued those cards so much you left them with mom when you moved down to the basement.

My folks gave away all my vintage Star Wars stuff from the 70s & 80s (including promotional stuff that had "Revenge of the Jedi") that could be sold for $$ now, but I'm the one who left that stuff behind so I don't blame them.

A couple of things:  I gave them to my girlfriend when I was 11 and we moved to California - have no clue why I did that.  Growing up we never had a house with a basement, although I did briefly live with my parents for a couple of months when I graduated from college, in 1973.

But more than that - the epitome of nerd is people who collect ...


You're quite a prick.  I don't collect SW figures but who died and made you god?

Tell us more about your college experience in the 1970's, gramps.
 
2020-10-21 1:30:11 AM  
This guy needs to tell his wife that it was 'pre-couple' times when the gift was given and that she has no say in it. Tell her she is more than welcome to think/feel any way she pleases but to keep her opinion to herself.

My exBIL would give us things but say, "If you ever don't want it you have to give it back to me." We ended up with so much crap. My mom was a quantity over quality type too and she was just this side of a hoarder and I somehow became the family 'taker'. Have something you don't have room for but don't want to actually 'get rid of it'? Just send it home with OSAM! Those people that 'give' you things, with conditions, are the worst. The only thing I think I'd ever say that about would be a plant, I propagate most of my plants and always have some smaller guys to give to anyone that might like them. Honestly though, I probably wouldn't ever actually say that. After a gift is given the person that was gifted the item is the owner and can do whatever they like with said gift.

I realized I had slowly 'inherited' everybody's cast-off everything after spending AN ENTIRE DAY just dusting nick-nacks! That was the breaking point for me. So I went through my entire house and boxed up numerous boxes, and took them into town. I told them that if there were anything they wanted to take it and that anything remaining would be taken to a second-hand store and donated. I got better at saying "No, I don't want that, I'm not taking it home with me." as well.
 
2020-10-21 1:42:35 AM  

nyan9mm: I'd like to have an actual train car. I'm not sure how big they can get, so maybe two of them linked? Or even three? That would be amazing.


https://www.forbes.com/sites/jimdobson​/2020/05/29/private-rail-cars-will-soo​n-become-the-ultimate-social-distancin​g-escape/#5adf6c661f4b
 
2020-10-21 12:54:52 PM  
Dear in a Quandary: I have an idea: How about your wife keep her thoughts to herself, thereby ensuring both a solid friendship, as well as a harmonious home?


like that's going to happen
 
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