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(Slate)   "I'm a 36-year-old single straight woman, and I really didn't think this was going to be an issue until later in life. I like sex and am easily turned on, but I haven't had good sex in over six years. Is there something wrong with the men or me?"   (slate.com) divider line
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2020-09-21 10:51:40 PM  
Yes.
 
2020-09-21 10:53:40 PM  
too easy.
 
2020-09-21 10:54:42 PM  
The Simpsons - A Little From Column A - A Little From Column B
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2020-09-21 11:07:34 PM  
Have you checked with the man in the boat?

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2020-09-21 11:09:41 PM  
Why not both?
 
2020-09-21 11:28:48 PM  
Try lesbians. They know what they are doing.
 
2020-09-21 11:58:26 PM  

sithon: Try lesbians. They know what they are doing.


...or a swinger couple, two bulls and sybian.
That'll getcha goin' alright.
 
2020-09-22 12:00:06 AM  
"for the past few years, I haven't even been able to manage halfway decent sex, much less great sex or a relationship. The problem I keep experiencing in the dating world is the same: men with all kinds of erection issues. "

Well let's see. What do these bad sexual performances have in common?
1. These men do not perform well sexually.
2. Her.

Tough to tell which it is.

"None of them sound like they've made any effort to get help."

Now it's easier to tell.
 
2020-09-22 12:53:37 AM  
Don't brag about how recently you've had sex, lady.
 
2020-09-22 1:11:02 AM  

sithon: Try lesbians. They know what they are doing.


You're goddamn right.
 
2020-09-22 1:59:20 AM  
If you have terrible sex in the morning, you've had terrible sex. If you have terrible sex all day, you're terrible at sex.
 
2020-09-22 2:31:15 AM  
Um, WHERE is.this woman? I have to give her a piece of my mind. Being so presumptive about men and all..

Again, where?

It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia: What website?
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2020-09-22 2:33:55 AM  
I don't know who it was six years ago that laid it down so hard everything since has seemed milquetoast, but if you could text me his number I would appreciate it.
 
2020-09-22 4:54:14 AM  
Does your cooch smell like landfill?
 
2020-09-22 6:08:15 AM  
Dear Lady,

You should try just taking your clothes off and seeing what happens.
 
2020-09-22 6:19:36 AM  
If you can have a good wank - it's likely the men.
If you can't - it's likely you.

Caveat: in situation 'A' check the communication with the men in question. That may well be you.
 
2020-09-22 6:25:49 AM  
She's 36 and they all have ED. You get ED in that age range by being morbidly obese.

Is she morbidly obese or a chubby chaser?

/Dnrtfa
 
2020-09-22 6:28:16 AM  
I turned 45 this year and thought I was experiencing erection issues. Then I hit rock bottom in this farked up 2020, out of that I worked out how not to be depressed or loathe myself, and now it's right back to normal in the bedroom department. My wife is over the moon. It was depression that was at the basis of it all.

If these guys in TFA are all mid 30's and presumably in not-terrible-shape then I'd suggest psychology would play a significant part in the issues they're experiencing. The woman in TFA is attracting troubled men, she either needs to delve into that, or alternatively find a guy whose psychological issues go the other way (overconfident douchebag types who love themselves, for example).
 
2020-09-22 6:36:00 AM  
Butt stuff.
 
2020-09-22 6:49:06 AM  
I wonder if she prefaces every encounter with a rendition of how terrible her recent lovers have been.

Performance anxiety does not enhance the sexual experience.
 
2020-09-22 7:08:20 AM  
Have you tried being oversensitive about your appearance, over critical about their appearance, a steady stream of directions about what they should be doing for you, and belittling them when you don't climax?
You have?
I don't know what your problem could be.
 
2020-09-22 7:32:23 AM  
Pay a bloke to soundproof your dwelling.
Purchase a sybian.
Shut up and sit down.
 
2020-09-22 7:33:24 AM  

Smackledorfer: She's 36 and they all have ED. You get ED in that age range by being morbidly obese.

Is she morbidly obese or a chubby chaser?

/Dnrtfa


I see young college age men complaining not infrequently online about erectile issues and it's mostly that after spending every moment alone since age 12 watching the most extreme porn they can find with a death grip on their stick it's hard to get it up for a real girl who isn't into the shiat the internet told them every girl is into.

I'm damned glad porn was hard enough to acquire when I was a teenager that I gave up and just dated girls instead.
 
2020-09-22 7:35:37 AM  

Laobaojun: a steady stream of directions about what they should be doing for you


I, for one, would love to have that.
 
2020-09-22 7:47:52 AM  
Get one of those double dong dildos.
 
2020-09-22 7:51:31 AM  
How is she going to make rulings if she's vacuuming or making the damn turkey pot pie?
 
2020-09-22 7:52:56 AM  
Whoops.   Good thing I didn't put the double dong post in the other thread.
 
2020-09-22 7:55:32 AM  
If the common factor in all your bad experiences is you...
 
2020-09-22 8:08:19 AM  
Don't drink an entire bottle of wine beforehand.
 
2020-09-22 8:08:47 AM  
Not CSB.  During a prior geologic period, I was finishing another 36 hr. stretch of my medical education when a beautiful woman who was smart, witty, and attractive in every discernable way offered to haul my ashes and tuck me in for a good sleep.  I accepted the offer and off we went to my place.  Clothes came off quickly and and there she was.  A vision of feminine beauty, perhaps the most striking female I'd ever seen naked in person.  For the first time in my life, my little buddy did not respond.  I guess two things went amiss for me.  I was overtired big time and Miss World gave me a case of performance anxiety.  She was shocked by my lack of lumber apparently being acustomed to her men being rock hard at the mere thought of bedding her.  Instead of being helpful and applying skills to assist me achieving erection, she yelled at me as her first, step 1 reaction.  She yelled that I must be gay and an entire laundry list of personal shortcomings I should be ashamed of.  My reaction at that point was...."Well, OK then, I'm out and need some sleep.  Here are your clothes.  Have a nice day."
 
2020-09-22 8:10:56 AM  

Aussie_As: I turned 45 this year and thought I was experiencing erection issues. Then I hit rock bottom in this farked up 2020, out of that I worked out how not to be depressed or loathe myself, and now it's right back to normal in the bedroom department. My wife is over the moon. It was depression that was at the basis of it all.

If these guys in TFA are all mid 30's and presumably in not-terrible-shape then I'd suggest psychology would play a significant part in the issues they're experiencing. The woman in TFA is attracting troubled men, she either needs to delve into that, or alternatively find a guy whose psychological issues go the other way (overconfident douchebag types who love themselves, for example).



While you worked through your depression yourself, many people are on psychotropic medication.
These have a huge effect on libido.

Substance abusers are also prone to ED.

I believe that people of this dating age are also at a point where they are re-evaluating their lives and choices.
Divorces are common in this age group--those scars take a while to heal.

It's hard to let lose and enjoy yourself when the baggage you are carrying weighs ten thousand pounds.

I think the issue lies with everybody.
 
2020-09-22 8:12:36 AM  
It's like there aren't 7 apps for this.
 
2020-09-22 8:28:00 AM  
Your dudes have been getting their sex tips from watching pron. They'd be just a well off getting sex advice by watching a P90 workout video.
 
2020-09-22 8:28:04 AM  
The problem I keep experiencing in the dating world is the same: men with all kinds of erection issues.

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2020-09-22 8:29:30 AM  

Koodz: Smackledorfer: She's 36 and they all have ED. You get ED in that age range by being morbidly obese.

Is she morbidly obese or a chubby chaser?

/Dnrtfa

I see young college age men complaining not infrequently online about erectile issues and it's mostly that after spending every moment alone since age 12 watching the most extreme porn they can find with a death grip on their stick it's hard to get it up for a real girl who isn't into the shiat the internet told them every girl is into.

I'm damned glad porn was hard enough to acquire when I was a teenager that I gave up and just dated girls instead.


This is why ultra-realistic, durable, adjustable with interchangable parts, AI-driven sexbots will be a thing and create the next Microsoft. Oh, and doom the human race to eventually dying out from not having actual sex, and procreating.
 
2020-09-22 8:38:16 AM  
If it really is an issue for a guy, you can just order meds online now. Sure you have an interview with a doctor, but they're employed by the people selling the pills so they won't deny you.
 
2020-09-22 8:40:35 AM  

HotWingConspiracy: If it really is an issue for a guy, you can just order meds online now. Sure you have an interview with a doctor, but they're employed by the people selling the pills so they won't deny you.


And it'll probably be over Zoom, even if it's post-pandemic.
 
2020-09-22 8:46:29 AM  

BMFPitt: Laobaojun: a steady stream of directions about what they should be doing for you

I, for one, would love to have that.


Anything can be carried to excess, and tone of voice matters.
 
2020-09-22 8:48:24 AM  
This motivated mom found a way to scratch that itch.  Look into what her solution was/is:

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2020-09-22 8:49:19 AM  
She sounds like a ballbuster in her letter.
Most guys get intimidated by that, but some are turned on.  Maybe she needs to be looking for subs.
 
2020-09-22 8:52:50 AM  
If all these guys are getting soft, maybe they just aren't that attracted to her for various reasons.
 
2020-09-22 8:53:10 AM  

FrancoFile: She sounds like a ballbuster in her letter.
Most guys get intimidated by that, but some are turned on.  Maybe she needs to be looking for subs.


or maybe she needs to accept that some men's cocks change from 16 to 36 and while many are still ready to fark anything or anyone at any time, some need to feel some genuine affection or have a specific undisclosed fetish... just like women.

this woman is awful

/just hang at the gym and find an idiot you can fark like a dildo
 
2020-09-22 8:58:18 AM  
One of those dildos that suction cups to the wall?
 
2020-09-22 9:16:35 AM  
God, just buy a Sybian and swear off Cis men forever. Especially Cis men who think the clitoris is your pee hole.
 
2020-09-22 9:17:17 AM  
Hard dick will swing your way

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2020-09-22 9:24:05 AM  

Jake Havechek: Whoops.   Good thing I didn't put the double dong post in the other thread.


Forget it, Jake. It's 2020-town.
 
2020-09-22 9:32:48 AM  
How are we supposed to diagnose her sex life with out pictures?!
 
2020-09-22 9:50:06 AM  

hardinparamedic: God, just buy a Sybian and swear off Cis men forever. Especially Cis men who think the clitoris is your pee hole.


Lots of women enjoy having sex with straight men.
 
2020-09-22 9:59:32 AM  
Men and women can have endocrine issues with testosterone/estrogen that effect libido, go get some bloodwork done and rule out the physical choices first.  Then there's depression, both of her and her partners.  Unlikely that she's had six years of depressed lovers, but if it's a type she's attracted to, not impossible.
 
2020-09-22 10:05:03 AM  
"I'm a 36-year-old single straight woman, and I really didn't think this was going to be an issue until later in life. I like sex and am easily turned on, but I haven't had good sex in over six years. Is there something wrong with the men or me?"

Maybe try keeping it under 5 guys at the same time.
 
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