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2020-09-08 8:36:02 AM  
Yes.
 
2020-09-08 8:46:41 AM  
How to find the clitoris... I was not very good.
 
2020-09-08 8:53:50 AM  
No.
 
2020-09-08 9:08:07 AM  
Serial killing.
 
2020-09-08 9:13:51 AM  
Pretty roundabout way to say you have a drinking problem there, subby.
 
2020-09-08 9:19:05 AM  
I developed an unremitting hatred of mankind that has served me well to this day.
 
2020-09-08 9:19:16 AM  
I was a theater minor. I did theater through high school and college, and even a few gigs on the costumes, makeup, and other technical portions of the show professionally.

I got into theater because in high school I was head over heels for a young lady who suggested I try out for Tom and Huck, and I got a part, even with a small solo for the musical. It was such a positive experience, I stuck around the theater for years, even after I moved and Rennel had long forgotten about me. Some of my best friends, I made in the theater, and I don't regret a minute of it.
 
2020-09-08 9:35:44 AM  
Misery?
 
2020-09-08 9:42:53 AM  
Masturbation.
 
2020-09-08 9:43:32 AM  
Dated a girl in college that went to a local gym, so I signed up. Been a fairly regular weight lifter since.

/from what I have seen on failbook, I'm assuming she let her membership lapse.
//sorry, that's mean
///I'm no Adonis neither
 
2020-09-08 9:59:08 AM  
I cover my mouth when I yawn thanks to one old gf
 
2020-09-08 10:03:24 AM  
Maybe?

Back in high school I joined the Model UN because the hot, stacked red head I was secretly lusting over was in it.  Actually had some fun there.

Today I occasionally pontificate in a Fark Politics thread...soo?

/mostly by accident while scrolling through the Greenlit tab
 
2020-09-08 10:06:03 AM  
Not with an ex, but I picked up downhill skiing in my late 20s because my then girlfriend (now wife of 15 years) was a ski racer in college. Prior to that I'd skied once on a church trip in elementary school. Now, it is by far my favorite activity, and I go more often than she does. I'm out at least once a week at our local hill, and we take a week long ski trip to Breckenridge every year. The kids seem to have caught the bug as well.
 
2020-09-08 10:09:08 AM  

theteacher: Yes.


This.
 
2020-09-08 10:46:51 AM  
opposite really. i have built models since i was very young. every girlfriend that ever saw me do it, dumped me. i don't do it anymore. but i think about it everyday.
 
2020-09-08 10:52:52 AM  
Buttstuff
 
2020-09-08 11:39:54 AM  
As a college freshman I joined an intra-mural club sport that my on-again-off-again highschool boyfriend was interested in trying out.  I figured that, like most new things he tried, he'd get bored of it after a couple of months and move on.  I was right.  What I didn't count on was that I would turn out to like it.  I kept up with it all through college (and for a considerable time afterwards). I also got rid of the lousy boyfriend and married the club president.
 
2020-09-08 11:49:18 AM  
A girl who said, "then just do it" about my long standing desire to learn the guitar.

Been at it a while now, getting good at it. It's the kind of thing you can spend a lot of time on and always know there's a another level to shoot for.
 
2020-09-08 11:57:02 AM  
I have an immediate friend who took up veganism for a girl. Kept it up for about 10 years after breaking up.

I exercise more, bicycle more, and no longer have the same crushing fear of heights.
 
2020-09-08 12:20:47 PM  
I started 10th grade in a new school system, didn't know anyone, and was looking for something to join. I heard an announcement about the theater club meeting after school, so I went to the auditorium after my last class and sat down to wait. A guy came up to me and said "You should really do debate. It's much more fun." He gave me the hard sell and told me when they met. I was convinced.

I was a mediocre student, but I killed at debate. I ended up being one of the best in the state and New England, won a farkton of awards, and learned that I was actually pretty good at putting a case together and working with lots of evidence. This helped me in school, especially because the further you go, the more it's all about research papers. I know I ended up getting my PhD because of debate, and I got it from Cambridge because my debate partner suggested I apply there. (He got his PhD from there too.)

I even met Mrs Clam at debate camp (we know, we know), 38 years ago. We've been married 25 years.
 
2020-09-08 12:50:22 PM  
cunnilingus
 
2020-09-08 1:10:37 PM  
Vegetarianism
 
2020-09-08 1:20:21 PM  
My wife's father and her cousins are all golfers. So now I am, too. But I've been a beer league hockey player for decades, now the wife is playing in a women's street/deck hockey league because of me.
 
2020-09-08 1:23:44 PM  

hubiestubert: I was a theater minor. I did theater through high school and college, and even a few gigs on the costumes, makeup, and other technical portions of the show professionally.

I got into theater because in high school I was head over heels for a young lady who suggested I try out for Tom and Huck, and I got a part, even with a small solo for the musical. It was such a positive experience, I stuck around the theater for years, even after I moved and Rennel had long forgotten about me. Some of my best friends, I made in the theater, and I don't regret a minute of it.


Michael Caine, is that you? I recall Michael Caine saying in an interview that he got into.thratre work at first because his understanding was that's where you could pick.up the birds.
 
2020-09-08 1:26:54 PM  

theteacher: Yes.


So you picked up.the skill of making pithy, wiseass comments? We may have dated the same person.
 
2020-09-08 1:42:03 PM  

Fear the Clam: I started 10th grade in a new school system, didn't know anyone, and was looking for something to join. I heard an announcement about the theater club meeting after school, so I went to the auditorium after my last class and sat down to wait. A guy came up to me and said "You should really do debate. It's much more fun." He gave me the hard sell and told me when they met. I was convinced.

I was a mediocre student, but I killed at debate. I ended up being one of the best in the state and New England, won a farkton of awards, and learned that I was actually pretty good at putting a case together and working with lots of evidence. This helped me in school, especially because the further you go, the more it's all about research papers. I know I ended up getting my PhD because of debate, and I got it from Cambridge because my debate partner suggested I apply there. (He got his PhD from there too.)

I even met Mrs Clam at debate camp (we know, we know), 38 years ago. We've been married 25 years.


Wow, cool story, Dr. Clam. I find it fascinating how for some of us, some major parts of ourselves, our lives, our families, can be traced back to a single seemingly innocuous decision -- in your case, thanks to some guy that made a comment to you. Kind of the antithesis to the annoying "It was meant to be". No, it often wasn't meant to be, was it? Many of us just fell ass-backwards into our fates.

As for taking up a skill/hobby only to help cultivate a relationship, I'm certainly no exception. When you're attracted to someone you want to share their interests, but also not totally suck at it. When they're no longer part of your life...you may now have a longtime interest thanks to them.

There's nothing like sexual attraction to motivate somebody to improve at something. I'll bet it has played an important role in many world-class-whatevers out there
 
2020-09-08 2:47:26 PM  
Does learning enough chemistry to make chloroform count?
 
2020-09-08 3:31:16 PM  
I can't think of any "for a girl" type interests that stuck other than some of my musical tastes, but I have a lot of hobbies that I probably wouldn't have gotten into if not for friends introducing me - geocaching, home brewing, rehabbing old computers, and disc golf are ones that jump out as being introduced from a friend, enjoying as a shared interest, and continuing after the friendship ended.
 
2020-09-08 5:09:22 PM  

ChibiDebuHage: I find it fascinating how for some of us, some major parts of ourselves, our lives, our families, can be traced back to a single seemingly innocuous decision -- in your case, thanks to some guy that made a comment to you. Kind of the antithesis to the annoying "It was meant to be". No, it often wasn't meant to be, was it? Many of us just fell ass-backwards into our fates.


You're right. My story comes off like some sort of tale of guardian angel intervention.
 
2020-09-08 5:19:11 PM  

Fear the Clam: ChibiDebuHage: I find it fascinating how for some of us, some major parts of ourselves, our lives, our families, can be traced back to a single seemingly innocuous decision -- in your case, thanks to some guy that made a comment to you. Kind of the antithesis to the annoying "It was meant to be". No, it often wasn't meant to be, was it? Many of us just fell ass-backwards into our fates.

You're right. My story comes off like some sort of tale of guardian angel intervention.


In that case, aside from yours there are billions of guardian angels out there that need to be fired and sued in civil court for malpractice.
 
2020-09-09 3:41:37 AM  
I had always wanted ferrets. I got a boyfriend! He moved in and wanted ferrets. We got ferrets. Boyfriend left. I still had ferrets. Until about 15 years ago. Ferrets do not live forever. Their smell remains long after they're gone though.

I have kept up with some of the sex stuff he convinced me to try. It does not involve ferrets.
 
2020-09-09 6:29:37 AM  
graffiti.
 
2020-09-09 3:50:21 PM  

Manic Depressive Mouse: I had always wanted ferrets. I got a boyfriend! He moved in and wanted ferrets. We got ferrets. Boyfriend left. I still had ferrets. Until about 15 years ago. Ferrets do not live forever. Their smell remains long after they're gone though.

I have kept up with some of the sex stuff he convinced me to try. It does not involve ferrets.


"Nice Marmot" - Jeff Bridges The Big Lebowski
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