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2020-09-05 4:12:31 AM  
48% of children in the US have their parents living with them, the highest share since the Great Depression
 
2020-09-05 4:14:50 AM  
'Murica.
 
2020-09-05 5:57:33 AM  
i sorta hate to be the one to say this, but is multi-generational-housing actually BAD?

(in a pre-covid world, where killing the grandparents by breathing over dinner was never a thought. let's discuss the very IDEA.)

estados unidos in modern times pretty much invented, or at least WIDELY popularized, the idea of "living alone" apartments and that every newly married couple -OR AT LEAST that couple when they had a baby on the way- was a f*cking FAILURE if they didn't buy and move into a home all alone.

it's VERY arguable that for most of human existence on this planet people lived in multi-generational homes. or at the very least within easy walking distance of family and tribe members.

other than "supporting" the LIE that "pure capitalism" offers the entire world "endless" economic expansion, WHY should every single human now born feel a "failure" if they don't end up in a brand new house, alone, with a spouse, or with a spouse and kids?

multi-generational houses are useful. the old and the middle aged help with the very young, and then everyone can help with the very old.

no other primate on earth shuns families and tribes for "a big new house ALL MY OWN!"

maybe it's time to act like the animals we are now.
 
2020-09-05 6:20:17 AM  
Maybe it simply means parents are worth living with again.
There were a couple generations of parents that kids just couldnt wait to get away from.
 
2020-09-05 6:55:00 AM  
Multi-generation homes were the norm until after WWII, when a strong economy and a new breed of marketing drones invented the idea that your kid was a loser if he didn't move out and go buy a house and a car and a wife and a white picket fence, and have 3.5 kids and a cat and a dog etc... spend spend spend, buy buy buy.

Even now, the "basement dwelling loser" is a holdover from that propaganda push. Because the fact that wages have stagnated while property costs have skyrocketed is an unimportant background detail, now go spend some money you useless drain on capitalism, you. The CEO wants a newer bigger yacht.
 
2020-09-05 9:08:11 AM  
I dunno, I (sadly) live alone but what's wrong with living with your family?
 
2020-09-05 9:21:15 AM  
*raises hand*

I've lived alone for 22 years up until last April when mom moved in. Lost my job in March and was officially laid off August 31st. I have my health insurance for one more month and then nada. Vegas is kicking the ball a little further down the street with the eviction moratorium but with no new conferences, shows, or events planned for the foreseeable future its not looking like I'll be self sufficient anytime soon.
 
2020-09-05 9:29:41 AM  

Mugato: I dunno, I (sadly) live alone but what's wrong with living with your family?


Because your parents never stop treating you like a child. I'm almost 40, and they want to give me a curfew whenever I visit. And I still never feel like a full-fledged adult whenever I'm around them.
 
2020-09-05 9:34:27 AM  

bostonguy: Mugato: I dunno, I (sadly) live alone but what's wrong with living with your family?

Because your parents never stop treating you like a child. I'm almost 40, and they want to give me a curfew whenever I visit. And I still never feel like a full-fledged adult whenever I'm around them.


Wow, that sucks.
 
2020-09-05 9:38:20 AM  

bostonguy: Mugato: I dunno, I (sadly) live alone but what's wrong with living with your family?

Because your parents never stop treating you like a child. I'm almost 40, and they want to give me a curfew whenever I visit. And I still never feel like a full-fledged adult whenever I'm around them.


Same here (._.)
I didnt move out until i was 26, and i still had a curfew up to the day of my wedding.    It would be very hard for me to adjust living under their roof again.
 
2020-09-05 9:38:31 AM  
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2020-09-05 9:41:11 AM  

Mugato: I dunno, I (sadly) live alone but what's wrong with living with your family?


There nothing inherently wrong with it. If just only do it if I failed.

The problem is that there are places where good jobs exist for me and there are places that are cheap to be retired in. There is no overlap.
 
2020-09-05 9:42:09 AM  
My parents are getting of the age one of us should probably move back and take care of them. My mother is, a bit toxic. So that could be challenging. She owns her home outright and draws SS though, so certainly takes the pressure off the bills if that did happen.
 
2020-09-05 9:42:31 AM  

bostonguy: Mugato: I dunno, I (sadly) live alone but what's wrong with living with your family?

Because your parents never stop treating you like a child. I'm almost 40, and they want to give me a curfew whenever I visit. And I still never feel like a full-fledged adult whenever I'm around them.


I'm  a bit like that. I don't want to hear the front door open at 4 am. Get in at a reasonable time or spend the  night somewhere else. And that is okay. You want to spend the night at your boyfriend's place?  Go for it.  You want to wake me  up and get  the dogs all spun up in the wee hours, NO.
 
2020-09-05 9:43:32 AM  

luna1580: i sorta hate to be the one to say this, but is multi-generational-housing actually BAD?

(in a pre-covid world, where killing the grandparents by breathing over dinner was never a thought. let's discuss the very IDEA.)

estados unidos in modern times pretty much invented, or at least WIDELY popularized, the idea of "living alone" apartments and that every newly married couple -OR AT LEAST that couple when they had a baby on the way- was a f*cking FAILURE if they didn't buy and move into a home all alone.

it's VERY arguable that for most of human existence on this planet people lived in multi-generational homes. or at the very least within easy walking distance of family and tribe members.



Came here to kinda say this... "since the Great Depression" is kind of an odd way to put it, since before WWII, multigenerational households was the norm, not the exception.  And after WWII was a much different way of life in the US.
 
2020-09-05 9:44:50 AM  

Gramma: Get in at a reasonable time or spend the  night somewhere else.


Username checks out.
 
2020-09-05 9:45:55 AM  
What's wrong with living with Mother?
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2020-09-05 9:46:52 AM  

bostonguy: Mugato: I dunno, I (sadly) live alone but what's wrong with living with your family?

Because your parents never stop treating you like a child. I'm almost 40, and they want to give me a curfew whenever I visit. And I still never feel like a full-fledged adult whenever I'm around them.


That's why I live with older relatives who aren't my parents.  Kind of like the Duke cousins all living with Uncle Jesse, except there's only one of me.  At least I got the cool car.
 
2020-09-05 9:47:47 AM  

Gramma: bostonguy: Mugato: I dunno, I (sadly) live alone but what's wrong with living with your family?

Because your parents never stop treating you like a child. I'm almost 40, and they want to give me a curfew whenever I visit. And I still never feel like a full-fledged adult whenever I'm around them.

I'm  a bit like that. I don't want to hear the front door open at 4 am. Get in at a reasonable time or spend the  night somewhere else. And that is okay. You want to spend the night at your boyfriend's place?  Go for it.  You want to wake me  up and get  the dogs all spun up in the wee hours, NO.


Ain't no one spending the night anywhere if they all live at home.
 
2020-09-05 9:48:32 AM  
Here in Israel, many, if not most, of Jews of Middle Eastern origin -- Jews from countries ranging from Morocco to Yemen to Iran -- live with their families until marriage.

A girl I dated has a father who will not allow her to live alone until she is married. They don't even care if she comes home in the morning from staying at a date's apartment. They just don't want her to live alone.

This whole thing is a lot less common among Jews of European origin.
 
2020-09-05 9:50:34 AM  

Gramma: bostonguy: Mugato: I dunno, I (sadly) live alone but what's wrong with living with your family?

Because your parents never stop treating you like a child. I'm almost 40, and they want to give me a curfew whenever I visit. And I still never feel like a full-fledged adult whenever I'm around them.

I'm  a bit like that. I don't want to hear the front door open at 4 am. Get in at a reasonable time or spend the  night somewhere else. And that is okay. You want to spend the night at your boyfriend's place?  Go for it.  You want to wake me  up and get  the dogs all spun up in the wee hours, NO.


I get the dogs thing (we dont have dogs), but otherwise it feels very authoritarian to me to have a curfew as an adult.  Your house, your rules, i get that too, but....did i mention id have a hard time living with my parents again? :-)
 
2020-09-05 9:52:13 AM  
As a Farker with his soon to be 39 year old son living with me, I'm getting a kick out of the replies.
 
2020-09-05 9:53:20 AM  
We're in a depression now, and everybody but Wall Street knows it.
1929 called - they didn't say anything - just heavy breathing.
 
2020-09-05 9:53:49 AM  

the_celt: As a Farker with his soon to be 39 year old son living with me, I'm getting a kick out of the replies.


Are you going to give him a curfew?

/ serious not serious
 
2020-09-05 9:55:18 AM  

luna1580: i sorta hate to be the one to say this, but is multi-generational-housing actually BAD?

(in a pre-covid world, where killing the grandparents by breathing over dinner was never a thought. let's discuss the very IDEA.)

estados unidos in modern times pretty much invented, or at least WIDELY popularized, the idea of "living alone" apartments and that every newly married couple -OR AT LEAST that couple when they had a baby on the way- was a f*cking FAILURE if they didn't buy and move into a home all alone.

it's VERY arguable that for most of human existence on this planet people lived in multi-generational homes. or at the very least within easy walking distance of family and tribe members.

other than "supporting" the LIE that "pure capitalism" offers the entire world "endless" economic expansion, WHY should every single human now born feel a "failure" if they don't end up in a brand new house, alone, with a spouse, or with a spouse and kids?

multi-generational houses are useful. the old and the middle aged help with the very young, and then everyone can help with the very old.

no other primate on earth shuns families and tribes for "a big new house ALL MY OWN!"

maybe it's time to act like the animals we are now.


America Way Good, All other ways bad because they are all full of rapists and stuff.

OTOH  the family is already broken because 1/2 of US marriages end up in divorce.  Contrast that with Mexico where there is no stigma attached to  living with Mom and the divorce rate is 1/3 that of the US.  People are more inclined to make shiat work.
 
2020-09-05 9:56:33 AM  
Honestly... all I can think of is how nice that would be.

No rent/mortgage payment
No utilities
Free meals
Free baby sitting (not that it's not currently free but it would almost always be there, my mother is a sweetheart)

If my wife ever divorces me, I'll be moving back in and staying until my bank account has the money to buy a house or my new Girlfriend demands I stop being a freeloader. Never could figure out why I was in such a rush to leave for my own place. My parents were awesome and I appreciate what they did for me now more than ever now that I have my daughter.
 
2020-09-05 9:56:53 AM  

jso2897: We're in a depression now, and everybody but Wall Street knows it.
1929 called - they didn't say anything - just heavy breathing.


I wouldn't go that far.

The 1929 and 2008 crashes had underlying major economic issues. This one is artificial and forced.

As soon as the pandemic is over, things should return to 90% normal relatively quickly. (That's what happened after the Spanish Flu.) The hard part is keeping everything together until the pandemic is over. Governments should be giving money to people so they can survive. And everyone needs to keep distant and wear their damn masks, or the pandemic will not end.

/ rant over
 
2020-09-05 9:57:11 AM  
I know a bunch of people who are funding their kid's housing as well.
 
2020-09-05 9:58:25 AM  

luna1580: i sorta hate to be the one to say this, but is multi-generational-housing actually BAD?



Excellent point.  My wife was raised by her grandparents and at this time, her two "adult" children are living with her ex's mother.  I was a kid in the 1950s when the whole nuclear family idea was propagated.  There were multi-generational families in the neighborhood, almost all Italian.  Those families seemed to have fewer problems, at least ones that became public. No latchkey kids in those families.
 
2020-09-05 9:58:31 AM  
Banging the wife, getting frisky in the yard, basically *everything* sex is awkward when your mom is watching.

/unless you're into that
 
2020-09-05 9:58:39 AM  

raerae1980: it feels very authoritarian to me to have a curfew as an adult.


It's not a curfew, it's a courtesy. Back in the day, it was more common.
 
2020-09-05 10:00:46 AM  
Yeah, but only like half that are boning their step parents.

So I've heard.
 
2020-09-05 10:03:05 AM  
Alternative headline: "Millenials are killing the rental and real estate markets"
 
2020-09-05 10:03:26 AM  

bostonguy: jso2897: We're in a depression now, and everybody but Wall Street knows it.
1929 called - they didn't say anything - just heavy breathing.

I wouldn't go that far.

The 1929 and 2008 crashes had underlying major economic issues. This one is artificial and forced.

As soon as the pandemic is over, things should return to 90% normal relatively quickly. (That's what happened after the Spanish Flu.) The hard part is keeping everything together until the pandemic is over. Governments should be giving money to people so they can survive. And everyone needs to keep distant and wear their damn masks, or the pandemic will not end.

/ rant over


Well, we can never really have another "great depression" - monetary policy won't allow an actual money scarcity like that  to occur. I don't agree that it is forced - I think it is fundamental, and caused by Trump's horrid tax and business policies - the pandemic is just a trigger event.
This will be structured like 2008, be worse, and last longer.

/Predictions over.
 
2020-09-05 10:03:34 AM  

luna1580: i sorta hate to be the one to say this, but is multi-generational-housing actually BAD?

(in a pre-covid world, where killing the grandparents by breathing over dinner was never a thought. let's discuss the very IDEA.)

estados unidos in modern times pretty much invented, or at least WIDELY popularized, the idea of "living alone" apartments and that every newly married couple -OR AT LEAST that couple when they had a baby on the way- was a f*cking FAILURE if they didn't buy and move into a home all alone.

it's VERY arguable that for most of human existence on this planet people lived in multi-generational homes. or at the very least within easy walking distance of family and tribe members.

other than "supporting" the LIE that "pure capitalism" offers the entire world "endless" economic expansion, WHY should every single human now born feel a "failure" if they don't end up in a brand new house, alone, with a spouse, or with a spouse and kids?

multi-generational houses are useful. the old and the middle aged help with the very young, and then everyone can help with the very old.

no other primate on earth shuns families and tribes for "a big new house ALL MY OWN!"

maybe it's time to act like the animals we are now.


It depends on if it is forced by economic tragedy.
 
2020-09-05 10:04:17 AM  

LeftisRightisWrong: Alternative headline: "Millenials are killing the rental and real estate markets"


Bostonguy's rule: Whenever you read "millennials are killing" something, replace "are killing" with "can no longer afford."
 
2020-09-05 10:04:51 AM  

raerae1980: Gramma: bostonguy: Mugato: I dunno, I (sadly) live alone but what's wrong with living with your family?

Because your parents never stop treating you like a child. I'm almost 40, and they want to give me a curfew whenever I visit. And I still never feel like a full-fledged adult whenever I'm around them.

I'm  a bit like that. I don't want to hear the front door open at 4 am. Get in at a reasonable time or spend the  night somewhere else. And that is okay. You want to spend the night at your boyfriend's place?  Go for it.  You want to wake me  up and get  the dogs all spun up in the wee hours, NO.

I get the dogs thing (we dont have dogs), but otherwise it feels very authoritarian to me to have a curfew as an adult.  Your house, your rules, i get that too, but....did i mention id have a hard time living with my parents again? :-)


It's all about compromises. I have a 22 year old at home. I am a light sleeper and I need to get a solid night's sleep. Once I retire and I can  take a nap if my sleep is disturbed, I'll probably ease up on the curfew. But until then, I have to work all day and it really sucks if she wakes me up in the night - especially if it is several days in a row.  In exchange,I put up with her music and - before covid - having friends over and multiple tanks with reptiles. I've given her the spare bedroom to use for her hobbies. And she doesn't pay rent.  She puts up with the dogs and me watching TV.  For the most part, we are okay with the arrangement.
 
2020-09-05 10:06:25 AM  

raerae1980: bostonguy: Mugato: I dunno, I (sadly) live alone but what's wrong with living with your family?

Because your parents never stop treating you like a child. I'm almost 40, and they want to give me a curfew whenever I visit. And I still never feel like a full-fledged adult whenever I'm around them.

Same here (._.)
I didnt move out until i was 26, and i still had a curfew up to the day of my wedding.    It would be very hard for me to adjust living under their roof again.


That's around the age I moved out. Honestly I had the cash saved up from living at home and was engaged. Fortunately I realized the dude was a toxic waste and gave back the ring. Two months later I was in my own apartment.
 
2020-09-05 10:06:37 AM  

luna1580: i sorta hate to be the one to say this, but is multi-generational-housing actually BAD?

(in a pre-covid world, where killing the grandparents by breathing over dinner was never a thought. let's discuss the very IDEA.)

estados unidos in modern times pretty much invented, or at least WIDELY popularized, the idea of "living alone" apartments and that every newly married couple -OR AT LEAST that couple when they had a baby on the way- was a f*cking FAILURE if they didn't buy and move into a home all alone.

it's VERY arguable that for most of human existence on this planet people lived in multi-generational homes. or at the very least within easy walking distance of family and tribe members.

other than "supporting" the LIE that "pure capitalism" offers the entire world "endless" economic expansion, WHY should every single human now born feel a "failure" if they don't end up in a brand new house, alone, with a spouse, or with a spouse and kids?

multi-generational houses are useful. the old and the middle aged help with the very young, and then everyone can help with the very old.

no other primate on earth shuns families and tribes for "a big new house ALL MY OWN!"

maybe it's time to act like the animals we are now.


The problem is that there isn't the financial option to go out on their own, and that option was there for everybody after the Great Depression to a greater degree than there is now.  It's a giant sign of economic stress, which is the real point of the article.

And if folks have a relationship with their parents that makes living with them a non-insane environment, then good for them, and also they should remember that there are a huge number of families that don't work like that, even healthy ones.
 
2020-09-05 10:09:07 AM  

bostonguy: LeftisRightisWrong: Alternative headline: "Millenials are killing the rental and real estate markets"

Bostonguy's rule: Whenever you read "millennials are killing" something, replace "are killing" with "can no longer afford."


Yep, I can confirm that :(
 
2020-09-05 10:09:39 AM  

bloobeary: Multi-generation homes were the norm until after WWII, when a strong economy and a new breed of marketing drones invented the idea that your kid was a loser if he didn't move out and go buy a house and a car and a wife and a white picket fence, and have 3.5 kids and a cat and a dog etc... spend spend spend, buy buy buy.

Even now, the "basement dwelling loser" is a holdover from that propaganda push. Because the fact that wages have stagnated while property costs have skyrocketed is an unimportant background detail, now go spend some money you useless drain on capitalism, you. The CEO wants a newer bigger yacht.


And the CEO lives in a faux castle, that makes the fictional Ewing Texas ranch house look wee and twee, that houses a multi-generation family. While others struggle to help their kids with gas money so they can see their kids and grandkids on holidays, the CEO sees and enjoys his family almost every day.
 
2020-09-05 10:10:24 AM  

tricycleracer: Gramma: bostonguy: Mugato: I dunno, I (sadly) live alone but what's wrong with living with your family?

Because your parents never stop treating you like a child. I'm almost 40, and they want to give me a curfew whenever I visit. And I still never feel like a full-fledged adult whenever I'm around them.

I'm  a bit like that. I don't want to hear the front door open at 4 am. Get in at a reasonable time or spend the  night somewhere else. And that is okay. You want to spend the night at your boyfriend's place?  Go for it.  You want to wake me  up and get  the dogs all spun up in the wee hours, NO.

Ain't no one spending the night anywhere if they all live at home.


My daughter has had friends stay over and she's stayed over at other friends' houses. They sometimes do a 'movie night' where a handful will gather in one house and watch movies all night.  (pre covid) .  If its a Friday or Saturday night, its fine. But don't keep me up half the night  on  a  goddamn Tuesday.
 
2020-09-05 10:10:36 AM  

King Something: 'Murica.


Mullenials
 
2020-09-05 10:12:20 AM  

stamped human bacon: raerae1980: it feels very authoritarian to me to have a curfew as an adult.

It's not a curfew, it's a courtesy. Back in the day, it was more common.


It makes sense if you have young adults in the house, not when they're 30 or 40.  Respect and courtesy goes borh ways.
 
2020-09-05 10:13:13 AM  

bloobeary: Because the fact that wages have stagnated while property costs have skyrocketed


Let's also add in the meteoric rise in education debt; it's a triple-whammy of the double-bind, with millennials being singled out.
 
2020-09-05 10:13:40 AM  
A lot of these 'well is it so bad?' responses are just begging for either an old economy Steve meme or an 'OK, boomer' reply.

/just sayin'
//ducks
///always three
 
2020-09-05 10:15:19 AM  
My parents are both dead so I live with my bootstraps.
 
2020-09-05 10:16:46 AM  

bostonguy: Mugato: I dunno, I (sadly) live alone but what's wrong with living with your family?

Because your parents never stop treating you like a child. I'm almost 40, and they want to give me a curfew whenever I visit. And I still never feel like a full-fledged adult whenever I'm around them.


That's ridiculous. When they were 14, I told my kids, give me an idea of when I should alert the police department to search for you or start calling hospital emergency rooms and there will be no need for a curfew. They have always been good about communicating whether they will be back by 8:00 pm; out until at least 4 am; highly likely to be out all night; or highly likely to be gone for a couple of days. They both worked and started going on trips with friends when they were still in high school. They are now 20 and 21. If I didn't give them a curfew in the 9th grade, why would I do it now?

Your parents are pushing you away and making it harder for you too be there for them. Let's face it, physically, if not financially, they are far more likely to need you in the house than you are to need them in the house. If they are not absolutely crazy people, maybe you should sit them down and talk to them.
 
2020-09-05 10:19:10 AM  

Bruscar: If they are not absolutely crazy people, maybe you should sit them down and talk to them.


I told them a while ago that if they continue to support Donald Trump, I will never speak to them again. We have not spoken since.
 
2020-09-05 10:21:54 AM  

bostonguy: LeftisRightisWrong: Alternative headline: "Millenials are killing the rental and real estate markets"

Bostonguy's rule: Whenever you read "millennials are killing" something, replace "are killing" with "can no longer afford."


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