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2020-06-21 4:20:25 AM  
 
2020-06-21 5:26:35 AM  
Well, if I could talk to him, this year it would be from a distance, and masked.

Happy Daddy's Day to all you paternal types (and those missing yours as I am).
Stay safe, and may you only receive good news and think wise thoughts today.
 
2020-06-21 5:27:38 AM  
I love my Dad and at 82 he's still with us, he's still got his marbles, although he is in physical decline. I can't say he's dealt with every aspect of fatherhood perfectly, but his heart has always been in the right place and I've always felt he was on my team.

I am deeply sorry for anyone who suffered at the hands of their father - emotionally, physically or through neglect. I've read these threads in past years and that's all too common. Sadly life isn't like the movies where a transgressor seeks redemption or can atone for what they've done. If you need justice, I hope you get it. If you need peace, I hope you get that too.
 
2020-06-21 5:37:50 AM  

thisispete: I am deeply sorry for anyone who suffered at the hands of their father - emotionally, physically or through neglect. I've read these threads in past years and that's all too common. Sadly life isn't like the movies where a transgressor seeks redemption or can atone for what they've done. If you need justice, I hope you get it. If you need peace, I hope you get that too.


Thanks, this means a lot.
 
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2020-06-21 5:45:18 AM  
About the biggest problem I had with my father was he simply wasn't there or wasn't interested in being a father. Not bad by comparison.
 
2020-06-21 5:56:34 AM  
Nothing. Why waste oxygen on someone who doesn't acknowledge you?

Now, if my grandfather was still alive, I'd pick the hell out of his brain to help me with some of the work on my 63 Impala. I'd also love to see him with his great-grandkids as he was killed before any of my kids were born.
 
2020-06-21 5:57:33 AM  
Dad, as the years roll on, I realize more and more how much you did, just by hanging on.  You could have come home and climbed into a bottle like so many of the vets did.  But, you just worked, came home, and did it again days after day.

You drove us every where, but rarely came inside.  You preferred to hang around outside, smoking.  Never complained, just stayed outside.  Now we understand PTSD and the effects of crowds on some people.

You put up with hell on earth, hope you've got peace in heaven.  You deserve it.
 
2020-06-21 6:36:16 AM  
My step-mother is still depressed 17 months after his passing.
"fark cancer" is my answer. Not father's day here, but what the hell.
 
2020-06-21 6:39:40 AM  
Fark you.
 
2020-06-21 7:18:32 AM  
Thanks for giving me a triumphant, victorious dong.
 
2020-06-21 7:31:34 AM  
Happy Father's Day.
 
2020-06-21 8:03:42 AM  
Just because he's gone doesn't mean I can't say anything to him. It's the answering back part that's the catch.
 
2020-06-21 8:06:25 AM  
thanks for finally dying, you selfish, child-molesting bastard.
 
2020-06-21 8:06:29 AM  
You left before I was born, why should I give you the time of day? fark off you miserable piece of shiat
 
2020-06-21 8:07:44 AM  
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I met my half sister.  She was tearfully told after her oldest full-sibling turned 18 that their father had a Horrible Secret... he'd had a child OUT OF WEDLOCK.  OMG the horror!

To give you an idea of her family, she was not allowed to read Harry Potter because it was Satanic.

She is smart and got the fark out of that mess and she's my dogg, I love her and try to be the family she deserves.
 
2020-06-21 8:11:34 AM  
"You're back! I had no idea it would take decades to go buy cigarettes!"
 
2020-06-21 8:14:55 AM  
"Can I borrow the van tonight? I'm uh... going to a movie with friends."
 
2020-06-21 8:16:30 AM  
Id tell him that it hurt me more than it did him that I  wasnt be the son that he wanted.
 
2020-06-21 8:17:06 AM  
You didn't love me because I wasn't made of whiskey.
 
2020-06-21 8:17:34 AM  
I'd tell him to fark off and die in a fire, but that would be cruel and unfair to the fire.
 
2020-06-21 8:17:45 AM  
Mine was a sweet, sensitive, caring dad who always encouraged me. I'd make sure to say that.
I am also happy that he is not here to see what has become of the world. It would be more than he could take.
 
2020-06-21 8:19:17 AM  
I'll call him later. Most of what he taught me was from his flaws.
 
2020-06-21 8:20:35 AM  
Fark you for abandoning your family you motherfarking asshole. An early death was the best thing to happen to your selfish, drug addicted pathetic existence. And thanks for about a decade of therapy. And beating your wife and children, you farking monster.

/ok that was cathartic
 
2020-06-21 8:20:49 AM  
Thank you for creating me out of wedlock, therefore creating a family situation that was absolutely an "on and off" nightmare that still keeps me off center, therapy and meds notwithstanding. I wish you would've aborted me so that you could've moved forward in your life of drinking and cavorting with "the guys".

You did work hard to provide to the best of your ability despite hating your family with all the energy you had left. The beatings at the drop of a hat for no reason left the requisite damage that has been impossible to overcome.

Despite this and 500 other negative results, I still appreciated the opportunity to care for you the last 10 years of your wretched life. Mrs Psilocyberguy and I did all we could to make your end-of-life as comfortable and peaceful as possible. Thank you for realizing what a no good motherfarker you were to me and mother through the years. The half-assed apology you offered was absolutely void of any compassion and heartfelt honesty. The day you finally stopped breathing in the living room of my house was 2% sorrow and 98% vindication. Since you were hedging your bets and sending piles of money to the local church the last 8 years of your life, I'll bet whatever supreme being might exist is roasting you over the fire pit for eternity for being such a hypocritical bastard full of hate. However, I feel pretty certain there is no god or whatever so you are stuck in a box 6 feet deep, decomposing and poisoning the ground in which you are buried.
 
2020-06-21 8:23:04 AM  
I found out too late how proud I am of you. I bitterly wish I could have one more day with you.

Also, what thisispete said.
 
2020-06-21 8:23:45 AM  
It's only been two years.  Give me another two, and I might have something useful to contribute.
 
2020-06-21 8:24:19 AM  
I said what I had to say to my father
on his deathbed: "I forgive you".  As I've been told, holding a grudge is like drinking poison hoping the other person dies.

Of course, he did die, but it wasn't my doing. That's my story and I'm sticking to it!
 
2020-06-21 8:24:22 AM  
Hurry up and die so I have coronavirus as an excuse to skip your funeral.
 
2020-06-21 8:24:49 AM  
The same thing I said to him 30 years after he left us, and the only time I spoke to him after he left us: Why didn't you stick around for us? Why didn't you pay the child support? We were hungry. In photos of us as children, we were skin and bones. My brother told me there was never a moment when he wasn't hungry. We were the poor kids in school whose ankles showed below our pantlegs, whose wrists showed below our sleeves, whose toes grew through the end of our shoes. I know you and mom couldn't make it work, but wasn't I worth sticking around for? What did I do to you? I was 6 years old.
 
2020-06-21 8:26:11 AM  
"You died in 2006, and all I can say is I wish it had been sooner. Much much sooner. Mom's last 10 years of life without you were Heaven for her, and the planet has been so much saner and safer with you gone. Fark off, Dead Old Man."
 
2020-06-21 8:26:39 AM  
Dad you were a great father!  You were intelligent, humorous, caring, hard working, and humble.

Why'd you marry such a biatch?
 
2020-06-21 8:29:03 AM  
My father treated us like we didn't exist till we were teenagers, and only then to provide detached discipline.

After serving in the military for 37 years he has a toxic expectation that you'll "listen & do what he says". If not, the same toxic male themed verbal abuse begins.

I had a full on mental breakdown at my high school. As 3 period ended, the hallways filled with students & yet I remained in a terrible state in front of the main office. Very very much in crisis.

Since my parents had been there for a meeting they were two doors away when my episode began. When the students filled the hallway Dad became embarrassed. So he stood me up, starting heavily shaking & slapping me. Again in a hallway full of my classmates, right outside the school auditorium, my Dad proceeded to verbally berate me apart, belittle every atom in my person & continue to slap, push & kick me around.

Again. I'm having a full mental breakdown & he's beating & berating me in a hallway full of students.

This is just one brief, easy going example of his monstrosity.

If anyone knows of a way to exact equitable revenge I'd be happy to hear it. He is arrogant, misogynistic & racist.

Please, one of my fellow Farkers, help me on this Fathers Day to absolutely destroy my fathers life.
 
2020-06-21 8:30:29 AM  
Thanks, Dad. You were a great guy. Every Wednesday you'd come into my office, say hello to the staff, and teach yourself Lotus 1-2-3. Then we'd go out for lunch.

Mrs South really enjoyed catching up with you over a cup of tea. She said you were a lot like her late father, in a good way.
 
2020-06-21 8:32:40 AM  
It has been 37 years since you died at the obscenely young age of 52....and I still miss you every damned day.  I wish I could have known you as an adult, as a friend AND dad.
I love you still, always shall.
If there really is a Life beyond, I hope so much that YOU will be the one there to meet me when I arrive.
 
2020-06-21 8:33:45 AM  
"Stop spamming Facebook with random shiatty blogs about hydroxychloroquine and PragerU videos."

He's still alive. I just can't say it without catching grief from a lot of relatives.
 
2020-06-21 8:33:51 AM  
My dad was a poor father, but a good dad; and a good grandfather when his three grandsons needed some gentleness and playfulness in their little lives. For that, I will forgive his other flaws.
 
2020-06-21 8:34:00 AM  
Father, you went from a drug addicted drunk when I was born, to a wife beater, and continues to be the former after Mum left, until at some point you cleaned up, got sober, and found your new wife.  And your new wife seems to hate your entire family, including me.  We tried to keep you involved, but you gave it to her, and now you see nothing about an entire extended family.  No one even asks about you anymore.  Hope you're happy.

Now, to the Old Man, I don't know yet.  I've got about 90 minutes to figure it out.  Probably ask how his card dealing business is.  Pretty sure this is the second FD he's had without his Dad.
 
2020-06-21 8:36:52 AM  
Dad, the 'Original Dandy', how very much I miss you - even after all these years. And, how desperately I wish I could talk to you again, laugh at your insane jokes and hear your words of encouragement and kindness. Thank you for being uniquely you. I will love you forever.

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2020-06-21 8:37:41 AM  
Pass the butter...
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//Bringing some 1.5 lbs lobsters over to his place.
 
2020-06-21 8:40:08 AM  
All these posts about bad fathers make me so, so grateful to how mine raised me. He and I disagree on politics and religion, but the level of mutual respect and love is always amazing.

I gotta go make a phone call now.

/Happy Father's Day, everyone!
 
2020-06-21 8:41:57 AM  
"Hey pop. Given the polarizing state of politics these days it's probably a good thing we're not on speaking terms".

/because he's worm food!
//Wokka wokka!
///farking dust...
 
2020-06-21 8:43:01 AM  
Dad, you always said to keep your nose in the books and out of the girls pants in college. Maybe that's why I worked at a bookstore and I'm not a dad myself.
 
2020-06-21 8:44:50 AM  
I miss you dad. I understand now why you were the way you were, why you did the things you did. I'm thankful you haven't had to sit through this mess we're all going through. I hope the clouds are beautiful from up there in space.

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2020-06-21 8:45:10 AM  

OctorDoctopus: My father treated us like we didn't exist till we were teenagers, and only then to provide detached discipline.

After serving in the military for 37 years he has a toxic expectation that you'll "listen & do what he says". If not, the same toxic male themed verbal abuse begins.

I had a full on mental breakdown at my high school. As 3 period ended, the hallways filled with students & yet I remained in a terrible state in front of the main office. Very very much in crisis.

Since my parents had been there for a meeting they were two doors away when my episode began. When the students filled the hallway Dad became embarrassed. So he stood me up, starting heavily shaking & slapping me. Again in a hallway full of my classmates, right outside the school auditorium, my Dad proceeded to verbally berate me apart, belittle every atom in my person & continue to slap, push & kick me around.

Again. I'm having a full mental breakdown & he's beating & berating me in a hallway full of students.

This is just one brief, easy going example of his monstrosity.

If anyone knows of a way to exact equitable revenge I'd be happy to hear it. He is arrogant, misogynistic & racist.

Please, one of my fellow Farkers, help me on this Fathers Day to absolutely destroy my fathers life.


You can't. You can live yours.
 
2020-06-21 8:47:31 AM  
It's been a year. I miss you.
 
2020-06-21 8:47:41 AM  
I'm really sorry we didn't understand schizophrenia back then. If only it had been talked about 50 or 70 years ago and treated, especially in men, you would have had such an easier time of it. And we would have understood you better. I hope there's pool tables where you are.
 
2020-06-21 8:47:46 AM  
If my dad was alive he'd no doubt be a screaming Trumper who probably would have caught the 'Rona, survived it and passed it on to my mom who probably wouldn't have survived.

I do miss him though. But in a way glad that he was gone long before Trump... we never had to deal with what would have likely ended up with at least 4 years estrangement.
 
2020-06-21 8:49:32 AM  
My son was born in 1989. He was early and he has Down syndrome. A few weeks after he was born dad pulled me aside to let me know there were places for kids like my son. I guess I was to shocked to act out, I subscribed it to my dad growing up in a different era, but I didn't forget.

The transformation was remarkable. Evan changed my dad. Months after we got home from the hospital and we were spending time with the family my dad was still a little stand-offing but then he would occasionally hold his grandson. Soon after that he turned into caring, concerned grandparent.

When Evan grew older my mom and dad would watch him while my wife and I worked. Most days when I arrived dad would be in the yard having Evan help him with chores, they'd often take walks together. My dad would watch spongebob with my son! That in itself is remarkable! He did other countless acts of caring and support.

Later my dad got Parkinson's disease and he couldn't do much. Him and Evan watched tv together and Evan would listen attentively to my dad ramble on.

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2020-06-21 8:50:06 AM  
I'd say, "I love you Dad and I miss you." if he were still alive.
 
2020-06-21 8:50:27 AM  
Without fail, the saddest thread on Fark every single year. Lost my Dad 15 months ago at 96; this is the 2nd Fathers Day without him. Still miss him terribly. And I truly feel bad for those of you who had crappy Dads.
 
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