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(Slate)   "Dear Stoya: I really enjoy faking multiple orgasms when I have sex with my husband, but I worry that I might be lying too much. Should I come clean?"   (slate.com) divider line
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2020-05-28 10:36:06 PM  
Come clean? Honey, you just said you don't come at all.
 
2020-05-29 12:27:32 AM  
Come dirty. It's more fun.
 
2020-05-29 12:53:13 AM  
If you enjoy them are you really faking? Maybe that's your normal orgasm
 
2020-05-29 1:50:32 AM  
Someone rub this woman's clitoris please so Slate can move on to truly important issues like how sports are better without fans.
 
2020-05-29 1:51:01 AM  
He doesn't care. The only person you're cheating is yourself.
 
2020-05-29 3:52:17 AM  

whither_apophis: If you enjoy them are you really faking? Maybe that's your normal orgasm


Or maybe it's just a placebo orgasm.
 
2020-05-29 6:23:34 AM  
You say you both enjoy it? This is a problem?

Don't say anything, but bring out your B.O.B. and play a while and see what happens.
 
2020-05-29 6:32:07 AM  
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2020-05-29 8:23:04 AM  
Butt stuff.
 
2020-05-29 8:46:58 AM  
Just as in voting, come early, come often.
 
2020-05-29 9:03:11 AM  
[Agatha Lively from the film "Minority Report"]

He knows.  Don't go home.

[/Agatha Lively from the film "Minority Report"]
 
2020-05-29 9:05:57 AM  
There's no inherent problem with faking orgasms, but if you do so you give up your right to complain about not having real ones.

If you fake it, you're communicating to your partner that what they're doing gets you there, and you encourage them to do more of the same.

Don't assume your partner can read your mind (particularly if you are a woman and your partner is a man. Men are not and never will be capable of reading women's minds). Either communicate or accept what you get.
 
2020-05-29 9:09:16 AM  
I wish my wife cared enough to occasionally seem interested.
 
2020-05-29 9:23:11 AM  

BMFPitt: I wish my wife cared enough to occasionally seem interested.


Funny, all the guys in line said your wife always seems interested...

/You knew we couldn't leave that alone when you wrote it
 
2020-05-29 9:29:14 AM  
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2020-05-29 9:44:56 AM  
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Let's write fake letters to Slate.
 
2020-05-29 10:38:10 AM  

Ishkur: He doesn't care. The only person you're cheating is yourself.


He might care, most boyfriends / husbands do care, but like I told a friend complaining about men: You fake your orgasms so how's he supposed to know if you aren't getting off? Is he supposed to be a mind reader? You're lying and telling him the sex is great and you orgasm from it, he's going to do the same/similar things because he thinks that's what you like in bed. You're basically reinforcing him doing things that actually do not get you off, instead of guiding him toward what you do like. Do you, perhaps, maybe just a bit, see the problem here?

Most women don't, even after they get bitter about men being selfish. Honey, most aren't selfish, they've just been lied to for years.
 
2020-05-29 1:54:02 PM  
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2020-05-29 2:05:40 PM  

eKonk: There's no inherent problem with faking orgasms, but if you do so you give up your right to complain about not having real ones.

If you fake it, you're communicating to your partner that what they're doing gets you there, and you encourage them to do more of the same.

Don't assume your partner can read your mind (particularly if you are a woman and your partner is a man. Men are not and never will be capable of reading women's minds). Either communicate or accept what you get.


There is a time for it, but it shouldn't be a regular thing. If husband has had a soul-crushing day and wants some comfort and the wife isn't feeling it but feigns enthusiasm, that is a caring act. But as an everyday occurrence  its self sabotage.
 
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