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(Slate)   "My girlfriend and I moved in together last year; we've had time adjusting to one another's habits. She's obsessed with clean feet and lectures me about how I don't wash them after I'm home. It's a constant fight. Do I carry on or admit defeat?"   (slate.com) divider line
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310 clicks; posted to Discussion » on 20 May 2020 at 9:36 AM (12 days ago)   |   Favorite    |   share:  Share on Twitter share via Email Share on Facebook



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2020-05-20 7:06:15 AM  
If thy foot offendeth Thee, cut it off. It is better to enter the Kingdom lame than face the hellfire of perpetual PMS.
 
2020-05-20 7:24:14 AM  
I've run into a few folks who took off their shoes and and had room clearing rancid foot odor, and I don't even have a particularly keen sense of smell.  Maybe it's you.  Although, in this case, she also washes her own feet upon returning home from work, which might make you wonder if it's some mental problem with foot smell based on some childhood mockery, or autism concern...

Maybe you can both agree to arbitration, bring in a third party and see if you pass the smell test?  Relationships are annoying.  If having to practice extra hygiene is a dealbreaker, then no amount of third party advice is going to mend that relationship.  If you're afraid it's going to turn into a slippery slope of more and more rules... well, it will, because compromise is part of the deal, unless you're one of those authoritarian jerks who has to get your way all the time.
 
2020-05-20 7:31:50 AM  
Star making her coffee in the morning, filtered through an old gym sock. It's like desensitizing therapy but for foot stank
 
2020-05-20 7:54:19 AM  
Move out for several days.
Don't answer your phone.
Send her a pair of feet.
Start accepting calls.
Scream loudly.
 
2020-05-20 8:01:51 AM  
The agony of da feet.
 
2020-05-20 8:07:10 AM  
My girlfriend is very sensitive to smells and says the smell of my feet is extremely displeasing to her.

I can smell when someone's kitchen dishcloth goes off. I can smell it long, long before most people can. I've walked into restaurants that have reeked of it to me and nobody else can smell it. So when someone says something like the above quote to me I look at it with that in mind.

So in this dude's case, what would it take to give your feet a rinse, 2 minutes? 3? Is your girlfriend worth that to you? Pretty simple question.

And it being a slippery slope is up to you. A single issue isn't a slope, but if there's one arriving after you start rinsing your feet then deal with it, right now that's just speculation.
 
2020-05-20 8:12:25 AM  
Don't fart around her then, at least I can get away with fluffing the mattress most of the time.  That said, If she isn't obsessive about other stuff to the point that it drives you nuts, then do it.  That's part of living with another person, deal with it.  Mrs Spacemonkey has a few things like this, and they're practical, so I do them.  Besides, I dig her company.....

If you can't, go find someone who is a little more accomodating
 
2020-05-20 8:16:45 AM  

Barfmaker: My girlfriend is very sensitive to smells and says the smell of my feet is extremely displeasing to her.

I can smell when someone's kitchen dishcloth goes off. I can smell it long, long before most people can. I've walked into restaurants that have reeked of it to me and nobody else can smell it. So when someone says something like the above quote to me I look at it with that in mind.

So in this dude's case, what would it take to give your feet a rinse, 2 minutes? 3? Is your girlfriend worth that to you? Pretty simple question.

And it being a slippery slope is up to you. A single issue isn't a slope, but if there's one arriving after you start rinsing your feet then deal with it, right now that's just speculation.


Screen name checks out.
 
2020-05-20 8:20:12 AM  
The washing of feet is a foundational concept in many religions. So is food safety. And property rights.

Convert or leave.
 
2020-05-20 8:48:42 AM  
Hold on, now, maybe this dude has some stinky feet.  My wife's always on me to take better care of my feet and use moisturizer, pumice, etc. (admittedly my feet need some attention in that department), but she's never complained that they stink and she's pretty sensitive to smells and odors.  And I work out every day.  Some people have really stinky feet.  Sure, she's got a hang-up, maybe it's a little weird, but clean your stinky feet, guy.
 
2020-05-20 9:02:56 AM  
Get out. Getoutgetoutgetoutgetout while you still can.
 
2020-05-20 9:03:31 AM  
Yeah, this one seems pretty easy.  Decide if she's worth washing your feet for every time you come home or not.  Doesn't seem like a rational thing on her part that she's gonna drop any time soon, just a personality quirk.  Is it worth it or not?  Up to the letter writer.
 
2020-05-20 9:09:47 AM  
Try it, maybe you'll like it.

My feet feel all hot and tired after a long day in shoes, and I find it very refreshing to give them a nice cool rinse at the end of the day.
 
2020-05-20 9:19:43 AM  
Admit de feet
 
2020-05-20 9:40:27 AM  
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2020-05-20 9:40:47 AM  
Jesus Christ.  Wash your damn feet.  It takes, what, ONE minute?

But always leave the toilet seat up.
 
2020-05-20 9:49:06 AM  
If she complains about the smell when you take your shoes off upon arriving home, then the answer is obvious: just start going everywhere barefoot. Tada, no more shoe smell. Hippies do it, and they're widely known for the the cleanliness of their feet.
 
2020-05-20 9:50:25 AM  

bughunter: Jesus Christ.  Wash your damn feet.  It takes, what, ONE minute?

But always leave the toilet seat up.


Pee in the sink.
 
2020-05-20 10:14:52 AM  

Barfmaker: My girlfriend is very sensitive to smells and says the smell of my feet is extremely displeasing to her.
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I can smell when someone's kitchen dishcloth goes off. I can smell it long, long before most people can. I've walked into restaurants that have reeked...
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This.   Some people are nose-blind, and some are super-noses.    Nose-blind people can not live in the same home with a super-nose.

/ walked into a fast-food place that smelled of mildew near the salad bar... had to leave immediately.
 
2020-05-20 10:15:43 AM  
Does she never have guests or does she make them wash their feet too?

This seems like an unhealthy obsession with controlling behaviour mixed in and enabling it will not make matters better.
 
2020-05-20 10:42:22 AM  

nanim: Barfmaker: My girlfriend is very sensitive to smells and says the smell of my feet is extremely displeasing to her.
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I can smell when someone's kitchen dishcloth goes off. I can smell it long, long before most people can. I've walked into restaurants that have reeked...
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This.   Some people are nose-blind, and some are super-noses.    Nose-blind people can not live in the same home with a super-nose.

/ walked into a fast-food place that smelled of mildew near the salad bar... had to leave immediately.


One of my co-workers constantly reeked of mildew. Fortunately I usually only encountered them in passing, but how do you tell someone that without getting punched in the mouth?
 
2020-05-20 10:48:07 AM  
Frank Zappa : Stink foot (Los Angeles 1974)
Youtube tPo-24jnUcA
 
2020-05-20 11:00:39 AM  
Here's the proper compromise.  Wash your feet to her requirements then have her meet your requirement.

Riskay - Smell Yo Dick Music Video (Embeddable)
Youtube KyR-FYwUpGg
 
2020-05-20 11:17:33 AM  
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2020-05-20 11:37:44 AM  
1) Trick Or Treat, Smell My Feet: DTMFA

2) Mama, OOOooooOOOooooh.  Didn't Mean To Make You Cry: You can't heal that relationship.  This is someone who won't accept things as they are and needs to be told to FRO.  You did right, now GTHOI.

3) But You Say He's Just A Friend: Intellectually you don't want this to be more than a friendship.  Emotionally you aren't sure.  Get yourself some space and GTHOI.  Or butt stuff.  Your call.

4) I Know What I Know.  I'll Sing What I Said: One thing I will say is that sometimes people are too close and involved in a thing to really grasp it.  So maybe you can push for phrasing like "we've always known you were different" which perhaps is more accurate, but I don't doubt the truth they knew before you accepted it.  I say GTHOI.

5) Just A Victim Of Circumstance, Doesn't It Show?: Some friendships require a context to work and if that context changes, things end.  You may be in that situation.  Probably too soon to tell.   But all you can do is offer and if it's not accepted, GTHOI and move on.

6) You Talk Too Much: So in short, you're jealous your partner has a better relationship with their mother than you do with yours.  Too damn bad.  STFU and GTHOI.

7) But If You Want It, Here's My Heart.  No Strings Attached: While I think it's the height of rudeness to not acknowledge gifts, you also come off sounding petty as well.  Maybe that's how things are in your family.  Prudie was also right you should have gone to the source on your complaints.  Seems like the only person doing it right is the one niece you like.  The rest of you can FRO.

8) Trick or Treat II: I stand by my initial DTMFA.

9 & 10) No Strings Attached II & III: If you boil it down to the basic question of "should we give gifts to people that don't appreciate it?" then the answer is obviously no.  There's an implied family dynamic here that doing so will most likely cause drama.  I tend to err on exposing these problems.  A lot of people do much to keep the peace even if it means accommodating unreasonable people.
 
2020-05-20 11:37:56 AM  
"My girlfriend is very sensitive to smells and says the smell of my feet is extremely displeasing to her. This has occurred regardless of how much I sweat that day. She can even smell my feet if I immediately put on clean socks"

It's not just your feet, no matter what you fix she'll find something wrong with "you". Cut your loses and save yourself.

/She's unhappy with how her life turned out and it's your fault.

//RUN.
 
2020-05-20 11:38:38 AM  
That's f*ckin crazy, man.

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2020-05-20 12:15:11 PM  
My first thought is that she heard some advice for diabetics, perhaps her parents are them, and has no idea that it's not necessary for the general population.

My next thought is the same thing, but her dad or someone is a Vietnam vet.

Third thought is that she's just crazy, or grew up in a home that obsessed over it.
 
2020-05-20 12:33:36 PM  
Doesn't the Bible say she's supposed to annoint his feet with oil?  Tell her fine, foot wash when he gets home but she's the one who has to do it.

/not that I give much of a crap for what the Bible says about the roles for men and women.
 
2020-05-20 12:56:02 PM  
swab the doorknob and let a culture grow

then compare it to the one you did of your foot at the same time
 
2020-05-20 2:01:45 PM  
Socks seems the easiest answer. I wear heavy work boots 14 hours a day with wool socks and they don't stink at all. My girl wears ballet flats with no socks and her feet smell like a high school gym.
 
2020-05-20 2:57:09 PM  

Fireproof: Third thought is that she's just crazy, or grew up in a home that obsessed over it.


I had a childhood friend whose family was extremely OCD about clean socks in their house. "Okay shoes off, let's see those socks! Hmm... I'm gonna get you a clean pair to wear, stay right here."

Yikes.
 
2020-05-20 4:40:14 PM  
Get out.  Smells are a big part of compatibility.  If your feet smell that bad to her, then it just won't work long term.
 
2020-05-20 6:32:52 PM  

I am Tom Joad's Complete Lack of Surprise: Get out. Getoutgetoutgetoutgetout while you still can.


THIS
 
2020-05-20 11:18:09 PM  
Either she washes your feet, or you leave
 
2020-05-20 11:56:05 PM  
If I've learned anything from Will Riker, it's that proper footwashing is critical.

Riker - "I thought I had"
Youtube lNaqxREbzy4
 
2020-05-21 8:40:05 AM  

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I can't wear those.  Seriously.

Anyway...  There is actually a simple answer to this.
If you want peace in your house then you do what your girly asks for.  Let her know that you are making a compromise.  But be nice about it.

Because you aren't going to win any argument here.  You simply don't stand a chance.  Even if you get her to back off the issue for a little while, it will be back.  If it's something that bothers her, you are not going to change that.  Ever.

So wash your feet and STFU.  Or find a new girlfriend.  Those are your 2 choices.
 
2020-05-21 10:48:13 AM  

DecemberNitro: Fireproof: Third thought is that she's just crazy, or grew up in a home that obsessed over it.

I had a childhood friend whose family was extremely OCD about clean socks in their house. "Okay shoes off, let's see those socks! Hmm... I'm gonna get you a clean pair to wear, stay right here."

Yikes.


Some of the latest Charmin commercials star a bear family that's like this, but with assholes.

Seriously, there's one where they use a magnifying glass for "inspection."
 
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