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(Phys Org2)   Dating? Stalking? It's a matter of semantics   (phys.org) divider line
    More: Followup, Online dating service, Significant Other, Dating, Dating system, History of the Internet, Online identity, Internet, World Wide Web  
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767 clicks; posted to Geek » on 22 Aug 2019 at 11:51 AM (31 weeks ago)   |   Favorite    |   share:  Share on Twitter share via Email Share on Facebook   more»



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2019-08-22 12:06:36 PM  
Online dating? Just go to Facebook marketplace, search for used wedding dresses, and instantly get a list of newly divorced women in your area. As a bonus, you can filter the results by size.
 
2019-08-22 12:34:38 PM  
I closed a 21 year old match.com account last year. I've never gotten a date from a dating site. I've been on all of them. I've read books about how to game them, read about the science behind them (okcupid is essentially a giant data science project), had profiles critiqued by strangers, friends and experts, had professional photos made and basically treated the services like a second job.  I lost weight, got into shape, changed my wardrobe, created new profiles in different places and... I can count the number of times I had a dating site interaction that lasted longer than  a few hours (not even to the point of a date; just chatting) on my fingers.

Essentially, 90% of dating site users want the same 5%, and if you aren't one of the fortunate, you become unformatted unfortunate very quickly. Even worse, the longer you use the same profile, the more the site knows and the more restrictive the matching becomes. So you fall into a hole that's difficult or impossible to crawl out of.

If this is the best way we have to meet now, we're farked.
 
2019-08-22 12:55:41 PM  
Pffft. I met my wife on an online dating site in 2003, long before it was cool. (Yahoo! had a dating site back in the day, it no longer exists.) I was working through a divorce, and just looking for some company. She lived 200 miles away in another state, so I wasn't expecting a whole lot at first. (Very rural area + few people using online dating at the time meant that I had to cast a wide net.) After a couple of weeks of talking online and on the phone, I finally made the 2 1/2+-hour drive to meet her. Physically, she wasn't quite what I was expecting based on her online profile pictures (this was before camera phones and social media, so I only had a couple of very carefully taken head shots to go on), and if I hadn't just driven halfway across two states I might have chickened out and bailed. I'm glad that I didn't. We clicked right away, and after our totally original and creative date of dinner and a movie, I ended up sitting at a Perkins drinking coffee and talking to her until 2:30 in the morning, which made for a VERY long drive home. But, 16 years and 5 kids (two together - I had 2 from my first marriage and she had one) we're still going strong, and we still love each other and enjoy being with each other, so I guess it all worked out.

/CSB
 
2019-08-22 08:10:59 PM  

likefunbutnot: I closed a 21 year old match.com account last year. I've never gotten a date from a dating site. I've been on all of them. I've read books about how to game them, read about the science behind them (okcupid is essentially a giant data science project), had profiles critiqued by strangers, friends and experts, had professional photos made and basically treated the services like a second job.  I lost weight, got into shape, changed my wardrobe, created new profiles in different places and... I can count the number of times I had a dating site interaction that lasted longer than  a few hours (not even to the point of a date; just chatting) on my fingers.

Essentially, 90% of dating site users want the same 5%, and if you aren't one of the fortunate, you become unformatted unfortunate very quickly. Even worse, the longer you use the same profile, the more the site knows and the more restrictive the matching becomes. So you fall into a hole that's difficult or impossible to crawl out of.

If this is the best way we have to meet now, we're farked.


I've had some luck, but know exactly what you mean. "No chemistry" most of the time basically means you are not muscular/tall/rich enough.

/and until you realize that, it does take a hell of a toll on your self esteem
 
2019-08-23 07:18:16 AM  
The vast majority of people who 'meet online' do not do so through dating sites of any kind. Mostly dating sites/apps are just hookup tools. Forget that shiat.

Unfortunately the terminally stupid media and press can never ever understand this.
 
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