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(Slate)   "After my wife and I divorced, she kept my last name. I'm getting married, and my new wife has a very unique, culturally specific first name. My ex wife has changed her first name legally to match. Do I tell my fiancée? Talk to the ex? I'm lost"   (slate.com) divider line
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2019-03-02 09:43:58 AM  
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2019-03-02 09:48:38 AM  
Mulva?
 
2019-03-02 09:49:23 AM  
If my ex was changing her name to match my new wife's I'd certainly tell my new wife.

I would not talk to the ex who is clearly having issues - and I would probably contact an attorney to see what I could do to ward off identity theft and, perhaps, compel a mental evaluation if there is some joint-custody or child-sharing involved.
 
2019-03-02 09:51:30 AM  

parasol: If my ex was changing her name to match my new wife's I'd certainly tell my new wife.

I would not talk to the ex who is clearly having issues - and I would probably contact an attorney to see what I could do to ward off identity theft and, perhaps, compel a mental evaluation if there is some joint-custody or child-sharing involved.


So much this. If this was real, that is.
 
2019-03-02 09:58:04 AM  
Huh? Why the hell would someone do that?

Yeah, tell the new wife. And make sure that the new wife knows what the ex looks like. While you're at it, cut off any remaining contact with the ex.
 
2019-03-02 10:03:14 AM  
I have met 34 different Jennifer's. I started keeping track of the number of them because at one time I was dating two at the same time.
 
2019-03-02 10:05:20 AM  
In a small town this will give you lots of opportunity to explain what a weirdo your ex and explain that she is you ex for a reason.
 
2019-03-02 10:12:16 AM  
Does the ex look like Jennifer Jason Leigh?  Because it sounds like Single White Female ex-wife.
 
2019-03-02 10:20:02 AM  

IgG4: In a small town this will give you lots of opportunity to explain what a weirdo your ex and explain that she is you ex for a reason.


"Well Greg, I married a 'Bunny Boiler'. Learn from my mistakes."
 
2019-03-02 10:29:34 AM  
Uhhhhh... I would keep an eye on your bank accounts and your new wife's bank accounts.
 
2019-03-02 10:46:09 AM  

oa330_man: I have met 34 different Jennifer's. I started keeping track of the number of them because at one time I was dating two at the same time.


Waaaay back in High School I found myself dating 3 Jennifers at the same time. It was... convenient.  No worries about accidentally calling Jennifer, Jennifer.
 
2019-03-02 10:49:49 AM  

maddan: Does the ex look like Jennifer Jason Leigh?  Because it sounds like Single White Female ex-wife.


Not to thread jack but is Single White Female a racist title?
 
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2019-03-02 10:51:22 AM  
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2019-03-02 10:51:30 AM  
Hyphenate the last names.  If the ex wife legally changes her name to the hyphenated last name, it's restraining order time.
 
2019-03-02 10:59:24 AM  
The world will be richer with 2 Pocohontas Schwartzes.
 
2019-03-02 11:03:13 AM  

oa330_man: I have met 34 different Jennifer's. I started keeping track of the number of them because at one time I was dating two at the same time.


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2019-03-02 11:04:58 AM  

Mugato: maddan: Does the ex look like Jennifer Jason Leigh?  Because it sounds like Single White Female ex-wife.

Not to thread jack but is Single White Female a racist title?


Not in my mind.
 
2019-03-02 11:05:55 AM  

JoePip: parasol: If my ex was changing her name to match my new wife's I'd certainly tell my new wife.

I would not talk to the ex who is clearly having issues - and I would probably contact an attorney to see what I could do to ward off identity theft and, perhaps, compel a mental evaluation if there is some joint-custody or child-sharing involved.

So much this. If this was real, that is.


More bigger this (on the realness question)
 
2019-03-02 11:13:08 AM  
Good decision on the divorce dude.
 
2019-03-02 11:13:17 AM  
Legally change your last name to 'My Ex is Bat-sh*t Insane' & see if she follows suit.
 
2019-03-02 11:28:06 AM  
Look, if she's going to kill the new wife and wear her skin, she'd look pretty stupid if she didn't have the same name now, wouldn't she?
 
2019-03-02 12:02:28 PM  
As far as the second question goes; teenagers(ESPECIALLY the college age ones) are gonna have sex. Either tell her to keep it at her dorm, or ignore it.
 
2019-03-02 01:18:18 PM  
my ex kept my last name when we divorced - granted her maiden name led to some unfortunate nicknames for her growing up - , and then she remarried, so she goes by the hyphenated my last name-his last name, which I thought was weird.
 
2019-03-02 01:41:12 PM  
I think this dude and his new wife should move to a new town. The ex is crazy, and it's not going to go well.
 
2019-03-02 01:44:22 PM  

JoePip: parasol: If my ex was changing her name to match my new wife's I'd certainly tell my new wife.

I would not talk to the ex who is clearly having issues - and I would probably contact an attorney to see what I could do to ward off identity theft and, perhaps, compel a mental evaluation if there is some joint-custody or child-sharing involved.

So much this. If this was real, that is.


I am an avid reader of advice columns, and you have to suspend disbelief, or they're no fun.
 
2019-03-02 01:46:24 PM  

hodgemann: oa330_man: I have met 34 different Jennifer's. I started keeping track of the number of them because at one time I was dating two at the same time.

Waaaay back in High School I found myself dating 3 Jennifers at the same time. It was... convenient.  No worries about accidentally calling Jennifer, Jennifer.


Yeah, but they weren't changing their names to match. What year did you graduate? I was '93 and there were 37 girls named Jennifer out of about 200 girls in my year.
 
2019-03-02 01:47:47 PM  
Also, I can't believe Prudie blew off a red flag this big as "odd."

This lady is going to make their lives a misery.
 
2019-03-02 01:48:32 PM  

parasol: If my ex was changing her name to match my new wife's I'd certainly tell my new wife.

I would not talk to the ex who is clearly having issues - and I would probably contact an attorney to see what I could do to ward off identity theft and, perhaps, compel a mental evaluation if there is some joint-custody or child-sharing involved.


Other than trying to get the court to force her to have a mental evaluation and possible custody changes in relation to that there is not alot that can be done.     The best option would like be to have the new wife use her surname - His surname.    That and get a good credit monitoring service stat.

I am not sure if there is any legal method one can force another person to undo a name change, at best if they know of it ahead of time they might try to contest it before it happens.   In this case , if it is real the ex obviously kept it as quiet as possible until it was approved.

The only way a Court might be compelled to order a name change undone is if it can be proved it was done with criminal intent and even then it might not happen.   Not a lawyer just thinking of what might having any chance of working for this situation.

Hopefully this is made up as if it is not it is all sorts of farked up,
 
2019-03-02 01:57:00 PM  

oa330_man: I have met 34 different Jennifer's. I started keeping track of the number of them because at one time I was dating two at the same time.


I went to school with 27 of them.

Mike Doughty - 27 Jennifers
Youtube 1nN_5kkYR6k
 
2019-03-02 02:05:53 PM  
Hey I just noticed Doughty's doing a Ruby Vroom tour" performing that whole album in its entirety. Lot of sold outs in the near future.  I might buy tix for that Brooklyn show in November.
 
2019-03-02 02:15:32 PM  
Considering how horrible TFA's advice was, I think it's a real letter.

Don't just assume she's done farking with you.  Because she's not.  Not.

- immediately notify local authorities that the bats have broken into the exlax and some copious batshiat is imminent. Just get it on record somewhere.

2) call all your banks and creditors and set up new authentication required for every transaction.  Contact the credit agencies and put a security hold on new credit.  This is probably where she plans to commit fraud.

C: Hire an attorney.  His job is to be the only conduit for communications between you and the ex (and between your fiancée and the ex if fiancée doesn't want her own lawyer).  If she persists at contacting you, seek a restraining order.

IV, go to the pet store, get the ugliest, most unloveable critter you can find, and give it the ex's original name.  Wait for it to die.  Then send the ex an invitation to its funeral.

Via the attorney, of course.
 
2019-03-02 02:16:22 PM  
This makes no sense. They divorce, ex-wife keeps her last name because it's working for her professionally, that's the name that people know her as. SO SHE CHANGES HER FIRST NAME????

That defeats the purpose of keeping the last name.
 
2019-03-02 02:18:39 PM  

thisdaydreamer: Huh? Why the hell would someone do that?

Yeah, tell the new wife. And make sure that the new wife knows what the ex looks like. While you're at it, cut off any remaining contact with the ex.


This.

downstairs: Uhhhhh... I would keep an eye on your bank accounts and your new wife's bank accounts.


And this.

Also hire a private investigator to keep an eye on the ex for a bit.
 
2019-03-02 02:24:18 PM  

grimlock1972: The only way a Court might be compelled to order a name change undone is if it can be proved it was done with criminal intent and even then it might not happen. Not a lawyer just thinking of what might having any chance of working for this situation.


I've got it!  New wife should change her first name to match the ex's original first name.
 
2019-03-02 02:41:23 PM  

grimlock1972: parasol: If my ex was changing her name to match my new wife's I'd certainly tell my new wife.

I would not talk to the ex who is clearly having issues - and I would probably contact an attorney to see what I could do to ward off identity theft and, perhaps, compel a mental evaluation if there is some joint-custody or child-sharing involved.

Other than trying to get the court to force her to have a mental evaluation and possible custody changes in relation to that there is not alot that can be done.     The best option would like be to have the new wife use her surname - His surname.    That and get a good credit monitoring service stat.

I am not sure if there is any legal method one can force another person to undo a name change, at best if they know of it ahead of time they might try to contest it before it happens.   In this case , if it is real the ex obviously kept it as quiet as possible until it was approved.

The only way a Court might be compelled to order a name change undone is if it can be proved it was done with criminal intent and even then it might not happen.   Not a lawyer just thinking of what might having any chance of working for this situation.

Hopefully this is made up as if it is not it is all sorts of farked up,


This just solidifies my opinion that changing your name when you get married is a stupid and confusing waste of time.

It's like getting a tattoo of your spouse's face, but it's also on all your mail, and your resume, and business cards, not just your ass.
 
2019-03-02 02:54:00 PM  

Nogale: hodgemann: oa330_man: I have met 34 different Jennifer's. I started keeping track of the number of them because at one time I was dating two at the same time.

Waaaay back in High School I found myself dating 3 Jennifers at the same time. It was... convenient.  No worries about accidentally calling Jennifer, Jennifer.

Yeah, but they weren't changing their names to match. What year did you graduate? I was '93 and there were 37 girls named Jennifer out of about 200 girls in my year.


Graduated in 90. 3 of the first 4 girls I slept with were named Jennifer.
Jennifer, Oh Jenny!
 
2019-03-02 03:04:21 PM  
I was once in a high school class with 7 Joes and one Jo. They went by last names for that class.
 
2019-03-02 03:04:42 PM  
What's her Fark handle?
 
2019-03-02 03:09:40 PM  

Mugato: maddan: Does the ex look like Jennifer Jason Leigh?  Because it sounds like Single White Female ex-wife.

Not to thread jack but is Single White Female a racist title?


It's a reference to an old movie.

/I'm old
 
2019-03-02 03:17:15 PM  

redsquid: Nogale: hodgemann: oa330_man: I have met 34 different Jennifer's. I started keeping track of the number of them because at one time I was dating two at the same time.

Waaaay back in High School I found myself dating 3 Jennifers at the same time. It was... convenient.  No worries about accidentally calling Jennifer, Jennifer.

Yeah, but they weren't changing their names to match. What year did you graduate? I was '93 and there were 37 girls named Jennifer out of about 200 girls in my year.

Graduated in 90. 3 of the first 4 girls I slept with were named Jennifer.
Jennifer, Oh Jenny!


Do you remember Jenny's phone number?
 
2019-03-02 03:22:29 PM  

BadReligion: As far as the second question goes; teenagers(ESPECIALLY the college age ones) are gonna have sex. Either tell her to keep it at her dorm, or ignore it.


I found this quote from the mother to be interesting:

"My husband and I have always been very liberal and spoken quite frankly about sex with our daughter and her older brother."

I guess I'm okay that they're speaking about it, but why are they even having sex with their daughter and her older brother? Kind of unacceptable, if you ask me.
 
2019-03-02 03:24:44 PM  
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2019-03-02 03:31:20 PM  

redsquid: Nogale: hodgemann: oa330_man: I have met 34 different Jennifer's. I started keeping track of the number of them because at one time I was dating two at the same time.

Waaaay back in High School I found myself dating 3 Jennifers at the same time. It was... convenient.  No worries about accidentally calling Jennifer, Jennifer.

Yeah, but they weren't changing their names to match. What year did you graduate? I was '93 and there were 37 girls named Jennifer out of about 200 girls in my year.

Graduated in 90. 3 of the first 4 girls I slept with were named Jennifer.
Jennifer, Oh Jenny!


Did any of them have the number 867-5309?
 
2019-03-02 03:39:14 PM  

evilsofa: I was once in a high school class with 7 Joes and one Jo. They went by last names for that class.


I had a Sunday school class in the early 1980s which every student's first name was the same as my own.  I suppose anyone who knows what male name was just a little bit way to popular at the time, can figure out what my first name is now.  (In the church I was in at the time, younger children were in classes that had both boys and girls and the older children were in classes segregated by gender.)
 
2019-03-02 03:44:21 PM  

TheMysteriousStranger: evilsofa: I was once in a high school class with 7 Joes and one Jo. They went by last names for that class.

I had a Sunday school class in the early 1980s which every student's first name was the same as my own.  I suppose anyone who knows what male name was just a little bit way to popular at the time, can figure out what my first name is now.  (In the church I was in at the time, younger children were in classes that had both boys and girls and the older children were in classes segregated by gender.)


'Sup, Jayden?
 
2019-03-02 03:47:39 PM  

Needlessly Complicated: Mugato: maddan: Does the ex look like Jennifer Jason Leigh?  Because it sounds like Single White Female ex-wife.

Not to thread jack but is Single White Female a racist title?

It's a reference to an old movie.

/I'm old


I know what it is. Jennifer Jason Lee and Bridgit Fonda get naked for two hours.
 
2019-03-02 04:10:12 PM  

Needlessly Complicated: Mugato: maddan: Does the ex look like Jennifer Jason Leigh?  Because it sounds like Single White Female ex-wife.

Not to thread jack but is Single White Female a racist title?

It's a reference to an old movie.

/I'm old


Back in the days before Craigslist, people seeking a roommate would pay for a classified ad in the local newspaper (or, in the bigger cities, in the alternative weekly paper).

The ads would often begin "SWF seeking  apt share..." Or SBM, SWM, BiWM, etc.

Abbreviations were important because the paper's classified ads department would charge by the word.

/I'm old, too
 
2019-03-02 04:42:05 PM  

clams_casino: Needlessly Complicated: Mugato: maddan: Does the ex look like Jennifer Jason Leigh?  Because it sounds like Single White Female ex-wife.

Not to thread jack but is Single White Female a racist title?

It's a reference to an old movie.

/I'm old

Back in the days before Craigslist, people seeking a roommate would pay for a classified ad in the local newspaper (or, in the bigger cities, in the alternative weekly paper).

The ads would often begin "SWF seeking  apt share..." Or SBM, SWM, BiWM, etc.

Abbreviations were important because the paper's classified ads department would charge by the word.

/I'm old, too


So am I
/867-5309
 
2019-03-02 04:52:31 PM  

realmolo: I think this dude and his new wife should move to a new town. The ex is crazy, and it's not going to go well.


I would vacate the country. Or at least a state.
 
2019-03-02 05:33:16 PM  
Soon the headlines going to read my ex-wife who took the name of my new wife opened up a bunch of accounts and left us on the hook for the debt
 
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