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2018-12-28 5:19:50 PM  
I learned that on TFD.
 
2018-12-28 5:43:26 PM  
They weren't very interesting when I did drink, either
 
2018-12-28 9:12:28 PM  
You become a judgmental prick who no one wants to be around?
 
2018-12-28 9:31:37 PM  
#11 - Your body is used to having so much sugar from the booze that you begin craving sweets to accommodate.
 
2018-12-28 9:35:27 PM  
NO YOU SHUT UP!
 
2018-12-28 9:37:27 PM  

Dr.Fey: #11 - Your body is used to having so much sugar from the booze that you begin craving sweets to accommodate.


I only drink straight vodka, no sugar.
 
2018-12-28 9:53:21 PM  
(So are you, Subby)
 
2018-12-28 11:47:29 PM  
AA Destroying The Social Lives Of Thousands Of Once-Fun Americans
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2018-12-29 12:12:48 AM  

MaudlinMutantMollusk: They weren't very interesting when I did drink, either


yeah I gave up on the bowl game thread.  My dog is more interactive if I say "cheese"
 
2018-12-29 12:24:45 AM  

Dr.Fey: #11 - Your body is used to having so much sugar from the booze that you begin craving sweets to accommodate.


This! It took a year to drop any lbs because I started eating so many sweets.
 
2018-12-29 12:39:56 AM  

Lupis626: Dr.Fey: #11 - Your body is used to having so much sugar from the booze that you begin craving sweets to accommodate.

This! It took a year to drop any lbs because I started eating so many sweets.


I agree. When I don't drink for a while my body goes crazy for sweeties.
It's probably the pancreas bashing on the walls going "hey!  Hey! Get me my fix!!"
 
2018-12-29 12:41:25 AM  
Honestly, the guy sounds like an alcoholic.  To him, drinking is meant to be done to the point of drunkenness and forgetfulness.  There doesn't seem to be any middle ground for him, no single beer at lunch or a scotch before dinner.  The stopping point isn't defined by him, but his body.

If that's the case, then the improvements he's seen in his life are due less to his decision to stop drinking and more to his facing what drives him to drink.  He was unhappy with himself and probably unhappy with the people around him.  He's happier with himself now because he works on improving himself.  He hated himself before for not doing it so he drank to forget the self-hate.  The people he had relationships with were probably similar to him and their reactions are less to do with him and more seeing themselves in him and not wanting to face it.

It's great that he author is taking control of his life, but it comes across as there being bigger issues than just alcohol.
 
2018-12-29 12:47:50 AM  

Mindlock: It's great that he author is taking control of his life, but it comes across as there being bigger issues than just alcohol.


That's a very clever and compassionate post.

Of course alcoholism is covering a bigger problem, but by the time 3 am rolls around and you're shaking the dregs out of a litre of vodka while your liver throbs and you're counting your pennies and waiting for the alcohol shop to open, you realise whatever problem you were drinking to deal with has now been dwarfed by the looming alcohol problem.
 
2018-12-29 12:59:24 AM  

Lupis626: Dr.Fey: #11 - Your body is used to having so much sugar from the booze that you begin craving sweets to accommodate.

This! It took a year to drop any lbs because I started eating so many sweets.


Fortunately/unfortunately when I stopped back in '09, I was hit with cirrhosis. The detox plus liver disease dropped 60lbs in like 4 months.   But then the sugar cravings hit bad.

I don't associate with all the same people I used to but I don't judge them and am fine hanging out once and a while.  I didn't get all preachy about AA. It works for me, and I really don't care if others drink around me. If I could drink, I would. But I cannot. I would just say be nice to your liver once and a while and don't drive drunk.
 
2018-12-29 1:03:13 AM  

Badafuco: Fortunately/unfortunately when I stopped back in '09, I was hit with cirrhosis. The detox plus liver disease dropped 60lbs in like 4 months.   But then the sugar cravings hit bad.

I don't associate with all the same people I used to but I don't judge them and am fine hanging out once and a while.  I didn't get all preachy about AA. It works for me, and I really don't care if others drink around me. If I could drink, I would. But I cannot. I would just say be nice to your liver once and a while and don't drive drunk.


Hey haven't seen you around in  a while. :)
 
2018-12-29 1:12:29 AM  

bekovich: Badafuco: Fortunately/unfortunately when I stopped back in '09, I was hit with cirrhosis. The detox plus liver disease dropped 60lbs in like 4 months.   But then the sugar cravings hit bad.

I don't associate with all the same people I used to but I don't judge them and am fine hanging out once and a while.  I didn't get all preachy about AA. It works for me, and I really don't care if others drink around me. If I could drink, I would. But I cannot. I would just say be nice to your liver once and a while and don't drive drunk.

Hey haven't seen you around in  a while. :)


Hey there! Yeah, I'm trying to frequent the main page and sports tabs more.

I'm mostly over in TFD.
 
2018-12-29 7:49:24 AM  
Apparently, it also causes you to use "amazing" to describe everything.
 
2018-12-29 8:23:47 AM  
When I was young and drank a lot I would get into fights all the time. I thought I had a drinking problem so I stopped drinking. What I learned was I had a drunks problem. Can't farkin stand them. Now I can drink again and all I have to do is stay away from large crowds of drunk people.
 
2018-12-29 10:02:25 AM  
New Year's day marks three years of sobriety for me, which means three years ago this day I was in the midst of a full blown suicidal drinking binge.  I remember bits and pieces.

I'm not doing AA this time around because of bad experiences with people in the program, but I picked up some tools in that program that help me out.

Other people's drinking doesn't bother me especially but I'd rather not have a drunk doofus in my face when I do go out somewhere where there is drinking.
 
2018-12-29 10:13:44 AM  

Dr.Fey: #11 - Your body is used to having so much sugar from the booze that you begin craving sweets to accommodate.


I find exactly the opposite: I've been keeping a lot less alcohol around the house and generally drinking less, and I've found that I'm far more likely to crave high-calorie foods (mostly fatty, greasy foods), and give in to that craving, when I have been drinking than when I've gone weeks without anything.
 
2018-12-29 10:27:54 AM  

Mugato: You become a judgmental prick who no one wants to be around?


Per TFA, quite the opposite.
 
2018-12-29 11:35:36 AM  

Rapmaster2000: Apparently, it also causes you to use "amazing" to describe everything.


I can't believe that only 10% of Americans drink.
 
2018-12-29 11:35:59 AM  

bekovich: Mindlock: It's great that he author is taking control of his life, but it comes across as there being bigger issues than just alcohol.
That's a very clever and compassionate post.
Of course alcoholism is covering a bigger problem, but by the time 3 am rolls around and you're shaking the dregs out of a litre of vodka while your liver throbs and you're counting your pennies and waiting for the alcohol shop to open, you realise whatever problem you were drinking to deal with has now been dwarfed by the looming alcohol problem.


?? I guess I've been sober too long, I felt like I always knew that. I guess it's because I've been working on it for so long. You never get to stop working on yourself.

I think it must have been that "doctor" my mother sent me to when I was about 21, and he asked me why I drank, instead of how much I drank. It had never even crossed my mind--it was just my fault. And you have to lie about how much. And he tells me, "You have to figure out why you drink, then you can stop."

He was an addiction counselor, and he got it. And I never forgot it either, even though I drank myself onto the streets after that. But eventually, I sobered up. And I figured out that my family was the cause (they usually are.) After you deal with this, then you start figuring things out, from the ground up. Because most of what you learned was wrong.

In the meantime, I became like, middle-aged, and now almost old. I'm not that happy with the way things turned out, and you wouldn't be either, if I told you some of the things that happened. But I don't hate myself now and I don't have a death wish (well once in a while). I smoke a lot of pot. But no matter what I have to live with now, it's still better to be sober.

/You notice I didn't mention "god" once in there? And I'm a graduate of AA.
//Suck it, people who bash AA. You seriously don't get addiction.
 
2018-12-29 11:59:01 AM  
My wife went from being slightly biatchy to straight up biatch when I quit drinking.

Worst Wednesday of my life.
 
2018-12-29 12:12:46 PM  

Mugato: Dr.Fey: #11 - Your body is used to having so much sugar from the booze that you begin craving sweets to accommodate.

I only drink straight vodka, no sugar.


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2018-12-29 2:29:54 PM  

Mindlock: Honestly, the guy sounds like an alcoholic.  To him, drinking is meant to be done to the point of drunkenness and forgetfulness.


This.

I can have 2 or 3 beers over the course of an evening (including with dinner) if I wish to and there are no next-day worries about anything I might have done or said while 'under the influence'. This guy sounds like a (hopefully former) drunk who didn't know when to quit.
 
2018-12-29 3:06:56 PM  
I've been to a doctor and bared my soul, I expressed the fact I'm terrified
of my drinking habits and they are, actually, drowning me.
He shrugged, and said "well we all drink, to an extent. You just need to cut down".

His exact words. "You just need to cut down ".
 
2018-12-29 5:32:34 PM  

bekovich: I've been to a doctor and bared my soul, I expressed the fact I'm terrified
of my drinking habits and they are, actually, drowning me.
He shrugged, and said "well we all drink, to an extent. You just need to cut down".

His exact words. "You just need to cut down ".


It sounds like you know the answer already. Don't wait for your doctor to tell you. Do the right thing.
 
2018-12-29 7:50:39 PM  

cryinoutloud: bekovich: Mindlock: It's great that he author is taking control of his life, but it comes across as there being bigger issues than just alcohol.
That's a very clever and compassionate post.
Of course alcoholism is covering a bigger problem, but by the time 3 am rolls around and you're shaking the dregs out of a litre of vodka while your liver throbs and you're counting your pennies and waiting for the alcohol shop to open, you realise whatever problem you were drinking to deal with has now been dwarfed by the looming alcohol problem.

?? I guess I've been sober too long, I felt like I always knew that. I guess it's because I've been working on it for so long. You never get to stop working on yourself.

I think it must have been that "doctor" my mother sent me to when I was about 21, and he asked me why I drank, instead of how much I drank. It had never even crossed my mind--it was just my fault. And you have to lie about how much. And he tells me, "You have to figure out why you drink, then you can stop."

He was an addiction counselor, and he got it. And I never forgot it either, even though I drank myself onto the streets after that. But eventually, I sobered up. And I figured out that my family was the cause (they usually are.) After you deal with this, then you start figuring things out, from the ground up. Because most of what you learned was wrong.

In the meantime, I became like, middle-aged, and now almost old. I'm not that happy with the way things turned out, and you wouldn't be either, if I told you some of the things that happened. But I don't hate myself now and I don't have a death wish (well once in a while). I smoke a lot of pot. But no matter what I have to live with now, it's still better to be sober.

/You notice I didn't mention "god" once in there? And I'm a graduate of AA.
//Suck it, people who bash AA. You seriously don't get addiction.


Don't let the lack of smart votes fool you. You've been heard.

Without being wordy...I'd hug you if I could.
 
2018-12-29 7:53:21 PM  

bekovich: I've been to a doctor and bared my soul, I expressed the fact I'm terrified
of my drinking habits and they are, actually, drowning me.
He shrugged, and said "well we all drink, to an extent. You just need to cut down".

His exact words. "You just need to cut down ".


Well, did you?

/he's not wrong, you know
 
2018-12-29 11:26:54 PM  

bekovich: I've been to a doctor and bared my soul, I expressed the fact I'm terrified
of my drinking habits and they are, actually, drowning me.
He shrugged, and said "well we all drink, to an extent. You just need to cut down".

His exact words. "You just need to cut down ".


AA meetings are free.
It sounds like you're having a spiritual crisis unrelated to actually consuming a substance.
Luckily, a spiritual crisis is the one thing AA is actually equipped to help people with.
Go. It's fun.
 
2018-12-29 11:30:27 PM  

cryinoutloud: I smoke a lot of pot.


Honestly, you could have just said this and left the rest of that AA bullshiat out.
Love you!
 
2018-12-30 1:26:34 AM  

Twenty Dollar Tomato: cryinoutloud: I smoke a lot of pot.
Honestly, you could have just said this and left the rest of that AA bullshiat out.
Love you!


I have to defend AA. it helps a lot of people. It's free and they will be there for you if you really want to sober up, after everybody else has given up. I'd hate for somebody for read the bullshiat on Fark and decide that they'd rather drink themselves to death than have to attend AA. They accept you--you can tell them the most horrible stories, and they'll laugh. then they'll top you.

Honestly, just take the friendships and let the rest go, just like you let it go when somebody says, God bless you. I'm not even sure what those steps are about, except that it's about humility. Like Jesus said, and I"m OK with that. I don't even believe in Jesus. But if he wasn't a good idea, he wouldn't have lasted so long.

/so stoned
 
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