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2018-09-23 05:40:02 PM  
What will millennials think of next? This is a brilliant idea!
 
2018-09-23 06:04:38 PM  
Back in my day we just called it Riding the Short Bus
 
2018-09-23 06:42:56 PM  

Mr. Coffee Nerves: Back in my day we just called it Riding the Short Bus


Heh, at least you got to ride on the bus. Back in my day we got tied to a rope behind the bus and dragged both ways.
 
2018-09-23 06:50:06 PM  
Pump the breaks???

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(it's "pump the brakes.")

/don't punch the grammar nazi
 
2018-09-23 06:50:31 PM  
Doesn't work for me as I am extremely shy when it comes to meeting women.

Also, I am old and ugly.
 
2018-09-23 06:50:35 PM  

TylerParry: Mr. Coffee Nerves: Back in my day we just called it Riding the Short Bus

Heh, at least you got to ride on the bus. Back in my day we got tied to a rope behind the bus and dragged both ways.


You should feel lucky you had ropes, we had to pull ourselves by our Achilles tendons.
 
2018-09-23 06:50:48 PM  
I met my wife on a dating site so, eh.
 
2018-09-23 06:53:15 PM  
As I was in port overseas, one of my shipmates said something profound that I carry to this day.
He pointed at me and said, in his southern drawl, "Here is a boy that couldn't get a date in a whorehouse with two sacks of foldin money"
 
2018-09-23 07:01:55 PM  
Author met husband on dating site five years ago. Author is more millennial than I am, and some loons try to peg me for Gen X even though I really ain't. I think the problem is less velocity and more inertia. These apps and sites are all about velocity and there is no interpersonal inertia to build up both the intimacy and eventually the passion to devote to a stable commitment.

But there's a shadier side to these apps. Dudes on the downlow looking for boners - these guys are married to women! Single moms who desperately want yet another man yet up front confess the only thing they care about is bagging the next babysitter. Gold digging whores - not JUST women, but MEN too! Yes, there are tons of gold-digging whoremen out there.

Then you have the fake profiles. One of the ways these dating apps prey upon those aching for love is to bag and tag them as real people, then replicate the profile across the however many hundreds or thousands of apps and sites they or their sponsor happens to own. Then they vomit up the recycled profile across their other sites and sucker in more bums. Only an incel - and that goes for incel women, too - would fall for this crap.

There's 7 billion people on this Earth. Does it really need half+1 of my DNA? Does this Earth need yours?
 
2018-09-23 07:13:14 PM  

OgreMagi: Doesn't work for me as I am extremely shy when it comes to meeting women.

Also, I am old and ugly.


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But if that's true, I know how you feel.. flipping hitting sixty and still single... Kinda...
 
2018-09-23 07:13:58 PM  
Lol at bringing up Hinge as the alternative app.

I've had the worst dates off of that thing .
 
2018-09-23 07:22:47 PM  
I'm 37, and the first time I got a date (and dated for half a year) that wasn't from the online world, was last year. Asked out the manager at my favorite coffee shop. It was kind of invigorating.
 
2018-09-23 07:22:47 PM  
easy come easy go.

just sayin'.
 
2018-09-23 07:32:53 PM  

dumbobruni: Lol at bringing up Hinge as the alternative app.

I've had the worst dates off of that thing .


Stopped reading halfway through because it felt like an advertisement for Hinge disguised as discourse on online dating.
 
2018-09-23 07:36:33 PM  

johnnygew: As I was in port overseas, one of my shipmates said something profound that I carry to this day.
He pointed at me and said, in his southern drawl, "Here is a boy that couldn't get a date in a whorehouse with two sacks of foldin money"


And you sure showed him.
 
2018-09-23 07:37:09 PM  

OgreMagi: Doesn't work for me as I am extremely shy when it comes to meeting women.

Also, I am old and ugly.


As a member of the Shy, Old, and Ugly (not to mention mostly housebound through illness) Club, I hear you.  Nobody even bothers to tell me "just be yourself and you'll find someone" anymore.  Even I don't want to be around myself any more to be honest.
 
2018-09-23 07:55:44 PM  

casual disregard: Author met husband on dating site five years ago. Author is more millennial than I am, and some loons try to peg me for Gen X even though I really ain't. I think the problem is less velocity and more inertia. These apps and sites are all about velocity and there is no interpersonal inertia to build up both the intimacy and eventually the passion to devote to a stable commitment.

But there's a shadier side to these apps. Dudes on the downlow looking for boners - these guys are married to women! Single moms who desperately want yet another man yet up front confess the only thing they care about is bagging the next babysitter. Gold digging whores - not JUST women, but MEN too! Yes, there are tons of gold-digging whoremen out there.

Then you have the fake profiles. One of the ways these dating apps prey upon those aching for love is to bag and tag them as real people, then replicate the profile across the however many hundreds or thousands of apps and sites they or their sponsor happens to own. Then they vomit up the recycled profile across their other sites and sucker in more bums. Only an incel - and that goes for incel women, too - would fall for this crap.

There's 7 billion people on this Earth. Does it really need half+1 of my DNA? Does this Earth need yours?


Yes
 
2018-09-23 07:57:12 PM  

The Third Man: OgreMagi: Doesn't work for me as I am extremely shy when it comes to meeting women.

Also, I am old and ugly.

As a member of the Shy, Old, and Ugly (not to mention mostly housebound through illness) Club, I hear you.  Nobody even bothers to tell me "just be yourself and you'll find someone" anymore.  Even I don't want to be around myself any more to be honest.


As a man who's been there, i'm not going to suggest therapy, or buck up, or anything other than never give up fighting to keep that feeling at bay.  I've told myself for years that i'm worthless, that i'm being watched and mocked, and repeatedly force myself to remind myself that I am not worthless, that no one is watching, that i'm not doomed, that I don't really hate myself.

That being said, I'm definitely an acquired taste for all the women i've dated over the years, and it always ends badly.  I just refuse to stop trying to make the time I have here count, even when those tries fail.
 
2018-09-23 08:04:19 PM  
fark it, I'll just get a whore.
 
2018-09-23 08:40:49 PM  
What's next - matchmakers and sitting on front porch swings?
 
2018-09-23 08:59:38 PM  

Antidamascus: I met my wife on a dating site so, eh.


What a coincidence.

*I* met your wife on a dating site too.
 
2018-09-23 09:09:50 PM  

phedex: The Third Man: OgreMagi: Doesn't work for me as I am extremely shy when it comes to meeting women.

Also, I am old and ugly.

As a member of the Shy, Old, and Ugly (not to mention mostly housebound through illness) Club, I hear you.  Nobody even bothers to tell me "just be yourself and you'll find someone" anymore.  Even I don't want to be around myself any more to be honest.

As a man who's been there, i'm not going to suggest therapy, or buck up, or anything other than never give up fighting to keep that feeling at bay.  I've told myself for years that i'm worthless, that i'm being watched and mocked, and repeatedly force myself to remind myself that I am not worthless, that no one is watching, that i'm not doomed, that I don't really hate myself.

That being said, I'm definitely an acquired taste for all the women i've dated over the years, and it always ends badly.  I just refuse to stop trying to make the time I have here count, even when those tries fail.


I'm trying, but after having been through two ugly divorces now, and without even any friends around to talk to, it's hard to see any light at the end of this tunnel.  No amount of self-actualization or therapy is going to surmount the fact that when I try to talk to people now, even people I called friends for 20 years or more in the past, I am met with stony silence.  I want to live but I can't live alone for the rest of my life.
 
2018-09-23 09:48:20 PM  
"...swiping left or right..

ratemypoo.com and hotornot.com at least used a likert scale.
 
2018-09-23 09:54:28 PM  
I like the ads on TV for the dating sites. If they worked, why would you need a discount on the monthly rate and sign up for a year?
 
2018-09-23 10:12:57 PM  

casual disregard: Author met husband on dating site five years ago. Author is more millennial than I am, and some loons try to peg me for Gen X even though I really ain't. I think the problem is less velocity and more inertia. These apps and sites are all about velocity and there is no interpersonal inertia to build up both the intimacy and eventually the passion to devote to a stable commitment.

But there's a shadier side to these apps. Dudes on the downlow looking for boners - these guys are married to women! Single moms who desperately want yet another man yet up front confess the only thing they care about is bagging the next babysitter. Gold digging whores - not JUST women, but MEN too! Yes, there are tons of gold-digging whoremen out there.

Then you have the fake profiles. One of the ways these dating apps prey upon those aching for love is to bag and tag them as real people, then replicate the profile across the however many hundreds or thousands of apps and sites they or their sponsor happens to own. Then they vomit up the recycled profile across their other sites and sucker in more bums. Only an incel - and that goes for incel women, too - would fall for this crap.

There's 7 billion people on this Earth. Does it really need half+1 of my DNA? Does this Earth need yours?


Only incels use dating sites?

Weird.

/Doesn't use a dating site.
 
2018-09-23 10:17:19 PM  

OgreMagi: Doesn't work for me as I am extremely shy when it comes to meeting women.

Also, I am old and ugly.


go to asia. they love old white dudes.
 
2018-09-23 10:18:17 PM  
pretty sure this is what hookers are for
 
2018-09-23 10:24:39 PM  

some_beer_drinker: OgreMagi: Doesn't work for me as I am extremely shy when it comes to meeting women.

Also, I am old and ugly.

go to asia. they love old white dudes.


That's just a bit too creepy for me.
 
2018-09-23 11:01:21 PM  

OgreMagi: some_beer_drinker: OgreMagi: Doesn't work for me as I am extremely shy when it comes to meeting women.

Also, I am old and ugly.

go to asia. they love old white dudes.

That's just a bit too creepy for me.


i'm 50, my wife is 22. works for us.
 
2018-09-24 12:24:13 AM  

The Third Man: phedex: The Third Man: OgreMagi: Doesn't work for me as I am extremely shy when it comes to meeting women.

Also, I am old and ugly.

As a member of the Shy, Old, and Ugly (not to mention mostly housebound through illness) Club, I hear you.  Nobody even bothers to tell me "just be yourself and you'll find someone" anymore.  Even I don't want to be around myself any more to be honest.

As a man who's been there, i'm not going to suggest therapy, or buck up, or anything other than never give up fighting to keep that feeling at bay.  I've told myself for years that i'm worthless, that i'm being watched and mocked, and repeatedly force myself to remind myself that I am not worthless, that no one is watching, that i'm not doomed, that I don't really hate myself.

That being said, I'm definitely an acquired taste for all the women i've dated over the years, and it always ends badly.  I just refuse to stop trying to make the time I have here count, even when those tries fail.

I'm trying, but after having been through two ugly divorces now, and without even any friends around to talk to, it's hard to see any light at the end of this tunnel.  No amount of self-actualization or therapy is going to surmount the fact that when I try to talk to people now, even people I called friends for 20 years or more in the past, I am met with stony silence.  I want to live but I can't live alone for the rest of my life.


A therapist can temporarily *be* the one person you can talk to.  Don't try to get through this situation alone.
 
2018-09-24 12:25:20 AM  

DON.MAC: I like the ads on TV for the dating sites. If they worked, why would you need a discount on the monthly rate and sign up for a year?


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2018-09-24 01:06:02 AM  
Met my girl on one of those.  We're both older people, so we both know what we're looking for in a significant other.  She asked me out on a date first.  Fast forward a few years, and we're both living together in the house we bought together.  It's not fairytale perfect, but we've living together for years and haven't had so much as a serious, irritable disagreement, much less an actual argument or shouting match.  We're too chill for that.  I'm currently saving up for a ring and she's already shown that she likes the idea of being Mrs Corporal just fine.

OgreMagi: Also, I am old and ugly.


I am old and I have no teeth.  Army took 'em before sending me to the middle east because of thin enamel and spurious reasons.  I had success.  If I can, anyone can.   Christ, I have a back like bigfoot and a chromed dome like eggs benedict come served on it.
 
2018-09-24 02:29:53 AM  

some_beer_drinker: OgreMagi: Doesn't work for me as I am extremely shy when it comes to meeting women.

Also, I am old and ugly.

go to asia. they love old white dudes.


Go to Asia only if you have training and some condition. My last not-online date was Chinese, and I broke the cardinal rule: do not stick dick in crazy. I had to throw her in jail after she went rabid Chihuahua, pounced on me and tried to hit, bite and pummel me to bits. All that because I told her I didn't want her larvae.

/Chinese, alcohol, uppers: not even once. Especially if she doesn't tell you she's taking them.
//Still nursing the bites; Isopropyl works wonders.
///Slashies like the ones she gave me on the arms
 
2018-09-24 02:53:42 AM  

8tReAsUrEz: some_beer_drinker: OgreMagi: Doesn't work for me as I am extremely shy when it comes to meeting women.

Also, I am old and ugly.

go to asia. they love old white dudes.

Go to Asia only if you have training and some condition. My last not-online date was Chinese, and I broke the cardinal rule: do not stick dick in crazy. I had to throw her in jail after she went rabid Chihuahua, pounced on me and tried to hit, bite and pummel me to bits. All that because I told her I didn't want her larvae.

/Chinese, alcohol, uppers: not even once. Especially if she doesn't tell you she's taking them.
//Still nursing the bites; Isopropyl works wonders.
///Slashies like the ones she gave me on the arms


my wife is insane. now she takes prozac. way better...
 
2018-09-24 05:51:29 AM  

DON.MAC: I like the ads on TV for the dating sites. If they worked, why would you need a discount on the monthly rate and sign up for a year?


Same as a gym. Paying whatever hundreds of dollars for what will be a month of effort is better spent trawling bars or just using the free social websites. Saying you get a year brings in customers who feel it's only a few bucks a week.
 
2018-09-24 10:16:56 AM  
I met my wife on an online dating site 15 years ago, before it was cool. We took it slow, though. We lived 190 miles apart, so we were both pretty leery about that part of it. We chatted, a little at first, and before long we were talking to each other more-or-less all day everyday. After about 3 weeks, we had a strong enough connection to take the risk and meet. I drove 2.5 hours to go meet her, and it was pretty much all over from there. Our first date started as dinner and a movie, and we ended up sitting in a Perkins drinking coffee and talking until 2 am. After that, we saw each other every weekend and any chance we could get. I remember driving hours through a blizzard just to wander around the mall with her for a few hours before turning around and driving back home before it got dark. We are still very much in love with each other today. When it's right, it's right. Our results are probably not typical.
 
2018-09-24 12:38:39 PM  

AppleOptionEsc: DON.MAC: I like the ads on TV for the dating sites. If they worked, why would you need a discount on the monthly rate and sign up for a year?

Same as a gym. Paying whatever hundreds of dollars for what will be a month of effort is better spent trawling bars or just using the free social websites. Saying you get a year brings in customers who feel it's only a few bucks a week.


Maybe, but the logic that the services don't work because you don't find the love of your life in a month is rather silly.

While I don't tinder, the people I know who use it find it vastly superior to bars for hookups.

Plus you've got people who don't care for the bar scene in general (which costs far more than a hundred a month if you go every weekend). In our less locally connected culture, combined with the attitude that people shouldn't date coworkers or hit on customers, I can see a place for online dating.

Then you've got hobbies that don't include lots of the opposite sex. I like boating, fishing, and hiking. It is rare to see women engaging in those activities who are single. Many (most?) of those who are probably don't want every interaction with the opposite sex to result in being hit on.

I don't have any answers here, but the farther I get from college the more the dating scene has shrunk. Even regular bars aren't dating scenes where I feel welcome to go bother strangers.

So what's left? Perv on people at libraries and protests? No thanks.

/Braces himself for the self-declared ladies men to tell me my spider sense should report at a distance exactly which women want me to approach them.
 
2018-09-24 03:38:38 PM  
Lemme know when one comes along that does something about men being ignored 49 out of 50 times and women getting 100 times more messages than they want.
 
2018-09-24 04:45:08 PM  

LiberalWeenie: Lemme know when one comes along that does something about men being ignored 49 out of 50 times and women getting 100 times more messages than they want.


So, same as regular dating? :)
 
2018-09-24 04:48:11 PM  

Thong_of_Zardoz: Antidamascus: I met my wife on a dating site so, eh.

What a coincidence.

*I* met your wife on a dating site too.


OMG!!!  This is just... this is just *too* weird, you guys.
 
2018-09-24 09:31:19 PM  
Man, I think I need to go hug my family.
 
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