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2018-07-11 10:04:31 AM  
'i got marriage from my ptsd'

/two great tastes that taste great together
 
2018-07-11 10:40:52 AM  
Rub some dirt on it.
 
2018-07-11 10:47:46 AM  
Permanent Total Sex Denial...it comes with the territory.
 
2018-07-11 12:37:34 PM  
Yep. There's lots of emotionally-stunted "men" out there that are nothing but insecure babies, and getting into a relationship with them will be dangerous. On the flip side, there's lots of cluster B personality disordered women out there, and getting into a relationship with them will be dangerous.

Basically, learn the signs of emotional manipulation/abuse (someone posted a good chart in a Fark thread just the other day), and run fast and run hard if you detect any of them, no matter how early.
 
2018-07-11 12:51:04 PM  

gretzkyscores: Yep. There's lots of emotionally-stunted "men" out there that are nothing but insecure babies, and getting into a relationship with them will be dangerous. On the flip side, there's lots of cluster B personality disordered women out there, and getting into a relationship with them will be dangerous.

Basically, learn the signs of emotional manipulation/abuse (someone posted a good chart in a Fark thread just the other day), and run fast and run hard if you detect any of them, no matter how early.


Never been married and I think using PTSD is cheapening the phrase (unless there was real abuse involved), I've seen it fark up a lot of people emotionally though. I recommend against it. My best friend is married to a real (word I almost got banned for), even his parents see it. We've been friends since elementary school and I barely know him. It's s sad state of affairs.
 
2018-07-11 12:54:07 PM  
The key term there is 'traumatic stress'. It doesn't have to be violence or abuse specifically, just a situation that for whatever reason is tuned to push someone's deep buttons in ways that stick around. Sudden abandonment  without warning can be just as traumatic as a punch in the face.
 
2018-07-11 12:55:10 PM  

gretzkyscores: Yep. There's lots of emotionally-stunted "men" out there that are nothing but insecure babies, and getting into a relationship with them will be dangerous. On the flip side, there's lots of cluster B personality disordered women out there, and getting into a relationship with them will be dangerous.

Basically, learn the signs of emotional manipulation/abuse (someone posted a good chart in a Fark thread just the other day), and run fast and run hard if you detect any of them, no matter how early.

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2018-07-11 12:59:42 PM  

PirateKing: The key term there is 'traumatic stress'. It doesn't have to be violence or abuse specifically, just a situation that for whatever reason is tuned to push someone's deep buttons in ways that stick around. Sudden abandonment  without warning can be just as traumatic as a punch in the face.


Preach it.
 
2018-07-11 01:00:07 PM  
PTSD<PTSTD
 
2018-07-11 01:09:00 PM  
You're right lady, most of us will never understand how someone can stay in an abusive relationship.
 
2018-07-11 01:27:32 PM  

gretzkyscores: Yep. There's lots of emotionally-stunted "men" out there that are nothing but insecure babies, and getting into a relationship with them will be dangerous. On the flip side, there's lots of cluster B personality disordered women out there, and getting into a relationship with them will be dangerous.

Basically, learn the signs of emotional manipulation/abuse (someone posted a good chart in a Fark thread just the other day), and run fast and run hard if you detect any of them, no matter how early.


I have sympathy for the ones that get married to an actual psychopath, because the pyschopath probably had them fooled. Because that is what psychopaths *do*.

But, and I hate to say this, in my experience with friends/family/acquaintances that got married to the "wrong" person, literally EVERYONE that knew the couple saw it coming.

I think what it comes down to is this: If your boyfriend/girlfriend/fiancee doesn't like your friends, or refuses to meet them, and if your friends all say "Yeah, your boyfriend/girlfriend/fiancee sucks", you should LISTEN. They are almost certainly right.

In other words, don't get/stay in a relationship with someone that nobody likes, no matter how charming they occasionally are.
 
2018-07-11 01:36:38 PM  
Been there, done that. Best decision ever was not staying with that biatch.
 
2018-07-11 01:55:22 PM  
Happens to men too. My ex is a master of psychological and emotional abuse. Always knew just how far she could go before a punch might possibly come her way (never did do it, thought about it though). I put up with it for years because of the kids. Thoughts of suicide were common. Actually tested a beam in the basement to make sure it would hold my weight if I decided to try it. Took a few years to be able to trust women again, but eventually Mrs Element and I found each other. Been married 8 years and together for 11. She's a keeper.
 
2018-07-11 01:56:20 PM  
I got PTSD because I got STDs from my marriage,

So it's a PTSD/STD thing.

Bob LaBlaw is handling my divorce
 
2018-07-11 02:07:21 PM  

Ow! That was my feelings!: You're right lady, most of us will never understand how someone can stay in an abusive relationship.


Sometimes there are factors that you don't know about, ya think?  Its pretty easy to look in from the outside.
 
2018-07-11 02:51:10 PM  
I'm working so hard to be the perfect wife and have the perfect family that I don't take the time to notice there's water spilling on to the floor.

I think this is part of the problem, some people are so afraid of failing at something that they will double down instead of cutting loses. If we stop promoting this idea that life is a cookie cutter series of events that must go certian way to be happy, we would probably have a lot less people clinging to toxic relationships, shiatty jobs and terrible families.
 
2018-07-11 03:03:34 PM  
dwlah:
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That would have been very helpful 20 years ago
/finally divorced in 2016
//not even looking at this point
///not sure I will
 
2018-07-11 03:14:25 PM  

The5thElement: Happens to men too. My ex is a master of psychological and emotional abuse. Always knew just how far she could go before a punch might possibly come her way (never did do it, thought about it though). I put up with it for years because of the kids. Thoughts of suicide were common. Actually tested a beam in the basement to make sure it would hold my weight if I decided to try it. Took a few years to be able to trust women again, but eventually Mrs Element and I found each other. Been married 8 years and together for 11. She's a keeper.


Glad things went right for you.
 
2018-07-11 04:11:58 PM  

Ow! That was my feelings!: You're right lady, most of us will never understand how someone can stay in an abusive relationship.


Really?  It was right there in her article -- she went to church.   That's some first-rate brainwashing right there.
 
2018-07-11 04:27:28 PM  

realmolo: gretzkyscores: Yep. There's lots of emotionally-stunted "men" out there that are nothing but insecure babies, and getting into a relationship with them will be dangerous. On the flip side, there's lots of cluster B personality disordered women out there, and getting into a relationship with them will be dangerous.

Basically, learn the signs of emotional manipulation/abuse (someone posted a good chart in a Fark thread just the other day), and run fast and run hard if you detect any of them, no matter how early.

I have sympathy for the ones that get married to an actual psychopath, because the pyschopath probably had them fooled. Because that is what psychopaths *do*.

But, and I hate to say this, in my experience with friends/family/acquaintances that got married to the "wrong" person, literally EVERYONE that knew the couple saw it coming.

I think what it comes down to is this: If your boyfriend/girlfriend/fiancee doesn't like your friends, or refuses to meet them, and if your friends all say "Yeah, your boyfriend/girlfriend/fiancee sucks", you should LISTEN. They are almost certainly right.

In other words, don't get/stay in a relationship with someone that nobody likes, no matter how charming they occasionally are.


So true.  I had a friend, beautiful young woman, who introduced me to three of her boyfriends and I completely disliked them all just on the first meeting.  There was a creep vibe about each one.  Later, after she broke it off with them, I'd hear some reason like he was hiding the fact he was bi and cheating on her or the one who started to get violent.  I don't remember the third.  Then there was the last one....turned out we had both met him independently and I liked him immensely.  Long story short,, they've been married for years and have four kids.  At her bridal shower, I met a number of her other friends and finally confessed that I had hated all the other boyfriends.  Her other friends echoed my opinion.   Fortunately, once she discovered their true natures she dumped their asses.
 
2018-07-11 07:14:54 PM  
After I get out of the dumpster fire that is my marriage, I am certain I'll have some side effects, but at least I'll be free again.

/Don't marry an alcoholic
//Seriously, do not marry and alcoholic
/// I won't say it again
 
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