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(Fark)   In the midst of a divorce, today would have been our 9th anniversary. I got a great gift. Since she left my credit score went up 20 points   ( fark.com) divider line
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2017-11-22 08:47:16 PM  
I really hope she and her new beau well!
 
2017-11-22 08:48:01 PM  
Ok, that was horrible English.

I really wish her and her new beau well.

/subby
 
2017-11-22 08:50:11 PM  
Did you and she have kids?
 
2017-11-22 08:53:14 PM  

Prey4reign: Did you and she have kids?


Yes. Divorce is filed, custody agreement set in stone and recorded. We are being amicable and putting his needs to have both parents in his life first.

All we ask of each other is to make the best decision for him.

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2017-11-22 08:53:28 PM  
Sorry to hear it man.  My divorce went through 4 days after our 21st anniversary (separated for over a year before that).  Enjoy single life!  I've got an awesome girlfriend, and am much, much happier.
 
2017-11-22 09:04:23 PM  

kendelrio: Prey4reign: Did you and she have kids?

Yes. Divorce is filed, custody agreement set in stone and recorded. We are being amicable and putting his needs to have both parents in his life first.

All we ask of each other is to make the best decision for him.

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I wish you and she the best then as long as you make his welfare your number one goal.  Believe me, it will be tough at times, especially when you move on to other partners.  But, when you reach the point when you and your ex's viewpoints differ, just stop and pause and think about what's best for your son.
 
2017-11-22 09:06:15 PM  
I've found out a lot in this divorce and am taking the long view on this....

She was prepared to leave me last year, but in March of 16 I was diagnosed with cancer. She couldn't leave then because what kind of wife walks out on a husband with cancer?
I was treated with surgery and went back to work offshore while they ministered my health.

During a online chat with AT&T while I was offshore in February, I was perusing the phone bill and things didn't look right. I called and asked her who owned a particular number and her answer was "I want a divorce". Since then I have solid evidence of her umm... stepping out.
This is allowing me to file for an "at fault" divorce in Louisiana for adultery. It will be final about mid-December.

I'm not using anything to go after her or smear her and have in fact requested the court seal the evidence I presented as it is embarrassing to her.

We both know that our marriage has failed, neither of us are trying to "get" the other and we both realize any nastiness at this point doesn't help is and can only hurt our child.

I wished her and her new man best of luck, set out custody etc, she agreed and we are moving on.

Personally, I'm not interested in dating etc, I focus my time on recovering from radiation treatments this year and making my son my priority.

I've explained to her that as long as our boys best interest is served I'm good.
 
2017-11-22 09:09:37 PM  

kendelrio: Prey4reign: Did you and she have kids?

Yes. Divorce is filed, custody agreement set in stone and recorded. We are being amicable and putting his needs to have both parents in his life first.

All we ask of each other is to make the best decision for him.

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By all accounts an amicable divorce is far better than a loveless marriage. Sounds like you're doing it right. But don't beat yourself up if you experience unexpected emotions, either.
 
2017-11-23 02:51:11 AM  
For what it's worth from a random Fark lurker, I think you've done it as well as it can be done.  My experience was somewhat similar and though I went through all of the stages of grieving I came out the other side happier than I'd been in years. It's not an easy thing, but you're being a good dad and that's probably the most important thing you can do in this world.  Take care
 
2017-11-23 09:52:09 AM  
I'm divorced three times.  Each one was expensive, but amicable. The way i see it,  I swung and missed on three pitches, so I struck out and am now entitled to go sit on the bench and drink beer in peace.

/I did raise a daughter by myself, tho.  She turned out surprisingly normal despite that.
//Yes, *I* am the problem.
 
2017-11-24 08:16:59 AM  
So you're saying that you are single?
 
2017-11-24 12:34:12 PM  

ihateallofyou: So you're saying that you are single?


Why yes.... yes I am!
 
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