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2017-04-17 06:59:51 AM  
Loneliness increases the risk of early death as much as smoking or being 100 pounds overweight. The risk is highest in people younger than 65. But lonely people don't go to doctors just for medical care. They're also dying for social contact.

Well I needed to be depressed this morning. Yeesh.
 
2017-04-17 07:26:57 AM  
Addressing loneliness in children can prevent a lifetime of loneliness in adults reduce the number new fark.com subscribers over the next decade
 
2017-04-17 07:29:09 AM  
Ehhh, they should be cheaper for the medical establishment, what with not having a reason to live and not qualifing for organ transplants.
 
2017-04-17 07:31:33 AM  

Feel_the_velvet: Addressing loneliness in children can prevent a lifetime of loneliness in adults reduce the number new fark.com subscribers over the next decade


Compared to Nanten the Penguin, Farmers are extroverts and socially well adjusted.
Not that I would know what being social is about.
Time to crawl back into the corner and stare at the wall..
 
2017-04-17 07:39:35 AM  
Yeah but they might spot some psychopaths while searching for those lonely kids.  Its unfair to identify them before they can become the CEO of a company or a Washington politician.
 
2017-04-17 07:40:52 AM  
You know how much I would pay for some loneliness?

With my fiancee and a teenager I cherish those odd hours where I am alone and can nap in peace.  I have actually taken days off work so I can have the house to myself to get stuff done.

I love them dearly, but I miss having alone time so so much.

They are going away this weekend to visit her family and I am so farking excited.
 
2017-04-17 07:45:50 AM  
Lonely farkers still lonely.

/BIE, anytime
//anytime...
 
2017-04-17 07:46:30 AM  
According to this article, I had an awesome childhood, therefore my solitude is of the healthy sort.  Works for me.
 
2017-04-17 07:46:37 AM  

SillBinger: You know how much I would pay for some loneliness?

With my fiancee and a teenager I cherish those odd hours where I am alone and can nap in peace.  I have actually taken days off work so I can have the house to myself to get stuff done.

I love them dearly, but I miss having alone time so so much.

They are going away this weekend to visit her family and I am so farking excited.


There's a big difference between being alone and lonely. As a husband, father, employee, friend I too cherish quiet time alone but being alone is more a spatial state where loneliness is more a mental state. One can even be lonely when frequently around others and speaking from experience it blows.
 
2017-04-17 07:52:41 AM  
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If it stops kids from listening to Linkin Park, I'm all for this.
 
2017-04-17 07:58:41 AM  
Loneliness? Maybe we just want to be alone.
 
2017-04-17 08:01:02 AM  
the only thing that can prevent a lifetime of loneliness is death
 
2017-04-17 08:04:17 AM  
Get them a dog.
 
2017-04-17 08:06:30 AM  
As a 53 year old male surrounded by family and friends, getting into therapy for the last 6 months about my loneliness has been one of the best things to ever happen to me.  I still have a long way to go but things are no longer hopeless. It's the hopelessness that really tears me up.
 
2017-04-17 08:11:21 AM  
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They don't look alone, but looks can be deceiving.
 
2017-04-17 08:17:36 AM  

physt: As a 53 year old male surrounded by family and friends, getting into therapy for the last 6 months about my loneliness has been one of the best things to ever happen to me.  I still have a long way to go but things are no longer hopeless. It's the hopelessness that really tears me up.


Really? What did you learn in therapy?
 
2017-04-17 08:33:13 AM  
So not only  is my sister making her kids into scientific illiterates who will lack the stem skills they need to compete in the future markets, by homeschooling them, but she is as bad for their health as smoking?  Well at least Jesus is part of their learning.
 
2017-04-17 08:41:42 AM  
All by Myself or Alone Again Naturally

Decisions decisions!
 
2017-04-17 08:48:08 AM  
Want to solve loneliness in children?  As a collective, parents should take away the game consoles and send their kids to play outside
 
2017-04-17 08:57:25 AM  
I would feel worse about my loneliness if I didn't actively despise most people.
 
2017-04-17 09:07:43 AM  

SillBinger: You know how much I would pay for some loneliness?

With my fiancee and a teenager I cherish those odd hours where I am alone and can nap in peace.  I have actually taken days off work so I can have the house to myself to get stuff done.

I love them dearly, but I miss having alone time so so much.

They are going away this weekend to visit her family and I am so farking excited.


Same, I am about to pay a guy to take my roommate out, want her out of the house so I can have some peace and quiet in my fortress of solitude. She has gotten so picky about guys since she stopped drinking.
 
2017-04-17 09:23:35 AM  
So ronery...

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2017-04-17 09:31:25 AM  

Day_Old_Dutchie: So ronery...

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Even more so since we haven't seen his wife in a while. "Re-accomidated", no doubt.
 
2017-04-17 09:42:47 AM  

groppet: SillBinger: You know how much I would pay for some loneliness?

With my fiancee and a teenager I cherish those odd hours where I am alone and can nap in peace.  I have actually taken days off work so I can have the house to myself to get stuff done.

I love them dearly, but I miss having alone time so so much.

They are going away this weekend to visit her family and I am so farking excited.

Same, I am about to pay a guy to take my roommate out, want her out of the house so I can have some peace and quiet in my fortress of solitude. She has gotten so picky about guys since she stopped drinking.


That sounds so awful for you.
 
2017-04-17 09:43:13 AM  
 
2017-04-17 09:43:56 AM  

Feel_the_velvet: Addressing loneliness in children can prevent a lifetime of loneliness in adults reduce the number new fark.com subscribers over the next decade


Not saying the interacting on fark is the same as real life, but it's better than only watching tv.
 
2017-04-17 09:52:56 AM  

Heraclitus: All the Lonely People


Back in your barrel!
 
2017-04-17 10:00:36 AM  

SillBinger: With my fiancee and a teenager I cherish those odd hours where I am alone and can nap in peace.  I have actually taken days off work so I can have the house to myself to get stuff done.


This.

My company let us have last Friday off, so I took Thursday as a personal day so I could work on my basement. I took advantage of a partially open ceiling to pull all the low voltage wiring for my home theater system and router, moved a few outlets, and put up the drywall for the ceiling before my wife came home for dinner.  I finished the ceiling and the remainder of the drywall by Friday afternoon, and my wife arrived home from work and asked why I was showering in the early afternoon.  I told her to check out the basement and she got miffed (just a little) because I had taken an extra day off without telling her.
 
2017-04-17 10:05:38 AM  
My cat made me read this. Twice. Guilt-trippin kitten.

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2017-04-17 10:06:33 AM  

KingFarquad: SillBinger: With my fiancee and a teenager I cherish those odd hours where I am alone and can nap in peace.  I have actually taken days off work so I can have the house to myself to get stuff done.

This.

My company let us have last Friday off, so I took Thursday as a personal day so I could work on my basement. I took advantage of a partially open ceiling to pull all the low voltage wiring for my home theater system and router, moved a few outlets, and put up the drywall for the ceiling before my wife came home for dinner.  I finished the ceiling and the remainder of the drywall by Friday afternoon, and my wife arrived home from work and asked why I was showering in the early afternoon.  I told her to check out the basement and she got miffed (just a little) because I had taken an extra day off without telling her.


Mine has gotten angry over that too:

"if I had known you had the day off we could have done something!"

No, just no. Living with two loud Italians who use shouting as their inside voices I just cherish quiet.

If she reads this, I love you.
 
2017-04-17 10:09:09 AM  

winedrinkingman: So not only  is my sister making her kids into scientific illiterates who will lack the stem skills they need to compete in the future markets, by homeschooling them, but she is as bad for their health as smoking?  Well at least Jesus is part of their learning.


Yeah, no. Not only most cases. My daughters both homeschooling and they are light years ahead of me (at that age) regarding social skills. They will play with any kid at any time and will easily have a conversation with an adult.  Their favorite subjects are math and science (respectively.) Don't worry about your sister's kids, they'll be fine.
 
2017-04-17 10:14:24 AM  
And sometimes, regardless of how well socialized we were in our youth, we grow into angry, bitter old people.
 
2017-04-17 10:15:25 AM  

TearsofLys: Want to solve loneliness in children?  As a collective, parents should take away the game consoles and send their kids to play outside


We're talking about parents who aren't paying enough attention to give video games a second thought, but thank you for playing.
 
2017-04-17 10:21:18 AM  

The Lurker at Your Threshold: And sometimes, regardless of how well socialized we were in our youth, we grow into angry, bitter old people.


I'm heading that way.
 
2017-04-17 10:21:56 AM  
As the article notes, having people around doesn't prevent loneliness, and being alone doesn't cause loneliness. It touches on emotional maturity, but doesn't really get into it. I'm of the belief that most people spend much of their time being distracted by anything entertaining - games, shows, the Internet, friends - and they don't make the relationship with themselves a priority.
 
2017-04-17 10:30:26 AM  
This sort of thing is exactly what Im dealing with now. Im in the second module of dialectical behavioral therapy, and its helping a bunch so far in sooooo many different ways. Took me ages to get into this group, and just the fact that my therapy now seems to be addressing relevant issues has been enough to make me not consider driving my car off a bridge. Its a nice change.

My parents werent neglectful per se, but my dad is a bit emotionally absent, and my mom was dealing with some heavy fall out from growing up in an abusive, alcoholic family. The aftereffects of the latter can last for generations, and its amazing when I look around now and can recognize what went wrong in my family.

It took me most of a lifetime to get just this far. Seriously, if what you're experiencing in life is making it so that youre not even living, go get help. And dont give up if it doesnt work the first few times around. Keep trying. Keep looking around for answers, and dont let one or two or ten bad experiences with providers or medication make you stop and throw in the towel.

A decent life is worth it.

YOUR life is worth it.
 
2017-04-17 10:57:34 AM  
And a rock feels no pain.
And an island never cries.
 
2017-04-17 11:25:49 AM  

The Lurker at Your Threshold: And sometimes, regardless of how well socialized we were in our youth, we grow into angry, bitter old people.


I wish you'd stop talking about me in Fark threads.  >:(
 
2017-04-17 11:43:38 AM  

Day_Old_Dutchie: So ronery...

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He has an Apple!
 
2017-04-17 11:51:55 AM  

dewihafta: This sort of thing is exactly what Im dealing with now. Im in the second module of dialectical behavioral therapy, and its helping a bunch so far in sooooo many different ways. Took me ages to get into this group, and just the fact that my therapy now seems to be addressing relevant issues has been enough to make me not consider driving my car off a bridge. Its a nice change.

My parents werent neglectful per se, but my dad is a bit emotionally absent, and my mom was dealing with some heavy fall out from growing up in an abusive, alcoholic family. The aftereffects of the latter can last for generations, and its amazing when I look around now and can recognize what went wrong in my family.

It took me most of a lifetime to get just this far. Seriously, if what you're experiencing in life is making it so that youre not even living, go get help. And dont give up if it doesnt work the first few times around. Keep trying. Keep looking around for answers, and dont let one or two or ten bad experiences with providers or medication make you stop and throw in the towel.

A decent life is worth it.

YOUR life is worth it.


I'm a huge fan of DBT and CBT. It's hard work, but rewarding. Keep it up.
 
2017-04-17 12:12:45 PM  
Too Goddam late.
Joni Mitchell: There's comfort in melancholy.
 
2017-04-17 12:15:27 PM  

winedrinkingman: So not only  is my sister making her kids into scientific illiterates who will lack the stem skills they need to compete in the future markets, by homeschooling them, but she is as bad for their health as smoking?  Well at least Jesus is part of their learning.


Jesus wants you to be ignorant. More followers that way.
/fark, no wonder I'm lonely.
 
2017-04-17 12:41:12 PM  
Great, so back to all that forced socialization that made introverts feel awkward and unhappy not to be excited at pep rallies.
 
2017-04-17 12:59:50 PM  
What's the address?  I want to send my young self a letter
 
2017-04-17 01:10:11 PM  
Loneliness increases the risk of early death as much as smoking or being 100 pounds overweight. The risk is highest in people younger than 65. But lonely people don't go to doctors just for medical care. They're also dying for social contact.

Well, at least I don't smoke...
 
2017-04-17 01:31:28 PM  

Circusdog320: All by Myself or Alone Again Naturally

Decisions decisions!


OR:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_X3HKEC68EM
 
2017-04-17 01:33:04 PM  

feralbaby: Circusdog320: All by Myself or Alone Again Naturally

Decisions decisions!

OR:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_X3HKEC68EM


dang, keep forgetting to hit the embed thingy
Love - Alone Again Or (Original Version)
Youtube _X3HKEC68EM
 
2017-04-17 02:00:20 PM  

TearsofLys: Want to solve loneliness in children?  As a collective, parents should take away the game consoles and send their kids to play outside


This article deals more with parental relationships.  You didn't rtfa did you?
 
2017-04-17 02:49:32 PM  

SillBinger: You know how much I would pay for some loneliness?

With my fiancee and a teenager I cherish those odd hours where I am alone and can nap in peace.  I have actually taken days off work so I can have the house to myself to get stuff done.

I love them dearly, but I miss having alone time so so much.

They are going away this weekend to visit her family and I am so farking excited.


Alone != lonely.
 
2017-04-17 03:23:44 PM  

SillBinger: You know how much I would pay for some loneliness?

With my fiancee and a teenager I cherish those odd hours where I am alone and can nap in peace.  I have actually taken days off work so I can have the house to myself to get stuff done.

I love them dearly, but I miss having alone time so so much.

They are going away this weekend to visit her family and I am so farking excited.


Heavy metal on the stereo turned up to 11?
 
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