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2014-08-25 08:08:28 AM  
Right after they hit the megabucks?
 
ZAZ [TotalFark]
2014-08-25 08:32:45 AM  
When my landlord has me evicted?
 
2014-08-25 09:32:18 AM  
For us, it was when I was finally moving to his city. Entry level salary - it just made sense to share the costs of an apartment rather than try to afford two when we'd spend most of our free time together at one or the other. We weren't engaged yet, but were pretty sure we were headed that way, so it was also a good time to find out it we could comfortably cohabitate, especially because we had only been a long distance couple before that time.

And sorry, Dad, but I think it's a really good idea for a couple to find out if they can stand each other's 24/7 quirks and habits before you tie yourselves together legally.

/married going on 20 years
 
2014-08-25 11:14:18 AM  
When you no longer want sex.
 
2014-08-25 11:15:01 AM  
Sometime before you move out, or you will create all sorts of problems with causality.
 
2014-08-25 11:19:57 AM  
Know a person through every season - 1 year - before making any decisions that could get you arrested or married.
 
2014-08-25 11:22:31 AM  
3:30 PM
 
2014-08-25 11:27:49 AM  
After the divorce?
 
2014-08-25 11:33:17 AM  
Never?
 
2014-08-25 11:43:46 AM  
About 6 months before you plan to get engaged.

Living with them any longer is just you being a weenine and keeping a finger on the eject button. If you gotta do that, don;t waste your time, money or effort.
 
2014-08-25 11:45:25 AM  
Right after two pitchers.
 
2014-08-25 01:01:15 PM  
When you're ready for the relationship to become complicated, unpleasant, and stupid.
 
2014-08-25 01:36:09 PM  
After marriage, or never. Simplicity itself.
 
2014-08-25 02:33:43 PM  
second date?
 
2014-08-25 02:46:42 PM  
Pretty subjective/situation dependent question without a definitive answer.  Next.
 
2014-08-25 03:11:27 PM  
after you find out about the baby
 
2014-08-25 03:14:33 PM  

ModernPrimitive01: after you find out about the baby


How are we going to live together when I'm already two states away and accelerating?
 
2014-08-25 03:33:19 PM  
After you have dated for a while. I was with my girlfriend (now wife) for a year before I asked her if she wanted to move in together. 2 years after that we ended up married.

Seriously kids, do not, I repeat DO NOT marry someone unless you have lived with them for a while.
 
2014-08-25 03:37:00 PM  
Right after the wake
 
2014-08-25 03:37:58 PM  

Crewmannumber6: Right after the wake


Oh, fark me, you got me AND my keyboard.
 
2014-08-25 04:27:18 PM  
Right after you marry.  What?  I'm serious.

If you have not figured before you move in that this is someone you can live with, then don't.  You want to try-out before getting serious?  How about you go full in not expecting to come out, so you know, you have to make it work?

What, you think the breakup is easier because you are not married?  You kids are fooling yourselves.  Nobody said to not have sex before marriage, which in practice it really is impossible, but if you can't figure out how to work a steady relationship without looking out the window to see if there is something better out there, you should not move in together.  Take a stand and marry before you move in.  No more wondering, no more questions, make peace with it and enjoy the woman your God or god or brain gave you.

/23 years married
//moved in not after court wedding, but 4 months later, after church wedding.
/// GET OFF MY LAWN!
 
2014-08-25 04:41:35 PM  
^^^^^^^This
 
2014-08-25 04:43:38 PM  
As soon as she/he wakes you up in the morning with a BJ. That's a keeper right there.
 
2014-08-25 04:51:28 PM  

elgrancerdo: Right after you marry. What? I'm serious.

If you have not figured before you move in that this is someone you can live with, then don't. You want to try-out before getting serious? How about you go full in not expecting to come out, so you know, you have to make it work?


This is a terrible idea. You don't really know somebody until you live in the same place for at least 6 months; preferably 12 to 24 months.

/26 years married, happily
//lived together 20 months first
 
2014-08-25 05:14:18 PM  

Mr_Fabulous: elgrancerdo: Right after you marry. What? I'm serious.

If you have not figured before you move in that this is someone you can live with, then don't. You want to try-out before getting serious? How about you go full in not expecting to come out, so you know, you have to make it work?

This is a terrible idea. You don't really know somebody until you live in the same place for at least 6 months; preferably 12 to 24 months.

/26 years married, happily
//lived together 20 months first


Live together 24/7 for two weeks with intermittent power, a broken water pipe, a couple of sick toddlers AND a dog with diarrhea  - I believe this was Erma Bombeck's advice, although I'm paraphrasing mightily.
 
2014-08-25 05:16:04 PM  

elgrancerdo: /23 years married


Mr_Fabulous: /26 years married


FIGHT, FIGHT, FIGHT!!!
 
2014-08-25 05:23:30 PM  
We moved in after the first year. We both thought we were getting married very soon after we started dating, and neither of us were going anywhere, but we weren't ready for "the paperwork" yet. had to be sure of it.

elgrancerdo: Right after you marry.  What?  I'm serious.


We weren't 'looking out the window' or 'keeping a finger on the eject button' I just had to make sure she could put up with me. And living with someone 24/7 is a big change from a more distant but still committed relationship. There is a lot you just don't think about yourself that they won't notice till you are in close for a while. Married 4 years later, coming up on our 9th anniversary.

Glad you could do it, Glad I didn't
 
2014-08-25 06:29:45 PM  
When is the right time to move in with your girlfriend or boyfriend?

If you think you're moving in with MY girlfriend, think again!
 
2014-08-25 06:38:22 PM  

Sensei Can You See: When is the right time to move in with your girlfriend or boyfriend?

If you think you're moving in with MY girlfriend, think again!



Does she snore?
 
2014-08-25 09:43:54 PM  
OK but when is the proper time to move in with your gf and you bf?

/asking for a friend
 
2014-08-25 11:07:19 PM  
I moved in with my girlfriend a couple months after meeting her...  and my wife found out.
 
2014-08-26 12:06:36 AM  
A local radio station commercial for a jeweler has this premise: The man is asleep, and his girlfriend is trying to plant a subconscious suggestion in his dreams that he should go to so-and-so jewelers to buy engagement and wedding rings, on credit, with easy terms, blah blah blah.  The man awakens, she says "Good Morning Honey!" He comes back with a line about having a strange dream about going to the jeweler's.....

And this makes me yell at the radio:

"What do you need engagement rings for: you're obviously already sleeping together and co-habitating!"
 
2014-08-26 12:55:02 PM  
I'd lived with women before and it didn't work out.  We split and it all worked out without lawyering up and having a huge hassle.  I lived with my now wife for a little over a year before we got hitched.  We both felt we needed to know the person's quirks, and if we could live with them, before we committed.

This also goes for having children.  We didn't decide to have our son until we were married for two years just to make sure we were going to stick together.

And yes we discussed this right out in the open with no beating around the bush, just like we try to do with all medium to big decisions.  Honest and forthright communication is a must.

/22 years and going strong.
 
2014-08-26 02:09:44 PM  
Never.
 
2014-08-26 06:20:04 PM  
When you decide you no longer want sex.
 
2014-08-26 06:45:37 PM  

namegoeshere: For us, it was when I was finally moving to his city. Entry level salary - it just made sense to share the costs of an apartment rather than try to afford two when we'd spend most of our free time together at one or the other. We weren't engaged yet, but were pretty sure we were headed that way, so it was also a good time to find out it we could comfortably cohabitate, especially because we had only been a long distance couple before that time.

And sorry, Dad, but I think it's a really good idea for a couple to find out if they can stand each other's 24/7 quirks and habits before you tie yourselves together legally.

/married going on 20 years


Yep
 
2014-08-26 07:27:16 PM  
Don't
 
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