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2014-07-07 09:09:07 AM
8. Don't tell her boyfriend. He hates that.
 
2014-07-07 10:39:46 AM
9. Clean the Cheetos out of your neckbeard prior to the arrangement.
i.imgur.com
 
2014-07-07 12:24:11 PM
Never freeze the body for later use.

It is a ONE night stand.

The body must be disposed of after it is used that one time.
 
2014-07-07 12:58:07 PM
Cum first!  Winning is everything!
 
2014-07-07 12:58:22 PM
Okay, I must admit I'm not sure what floorplay is.

Is that like that floor humper dude?
 
2014-07-07 02:49:07 PM
8.  She needs to cum first, she needs to cum often.  This sets conditions for a no-strings bunk buddy.
Besides, when she is screaming "Not again, I can't!" is the perfect moment to prove her wrong.  And if she's tired enough, she won't have energy for conversation.
 
2014-07-07 02:53:01 PM
Don't be you.
 
2014-07-07 05:04:41 PM
Don't drink so much you can't bust a nut.
 
2014-07-07 05:41:00 PM
Shower.
Before.
After.
And during.
 
2014-07-07 07:27:12 PM
If it is late at night, let them sleep in your bed.

Who the hell breaks this rule?

Keep the conversation light - avoid mentions of exes, politics, or family members' prescription drug habits.

I've never done this but by this point I'm used to this shiat out of women. Honestly yes I would rather not hear about your parents' impending divorce. (How old are you? This is the first thing you tell me, at our age? If we're doing a long term thing I'd like her family to be together and nice and whatever, because mine's not, but I don't care if we're just playing around.) But I'm used to it.

6. The departed
Finally, a word on departing. Don't sneak off without saying goodbye


Who does this? How would this even be accomplished?
 
2014-07-07 07:44:13 PM

Fark like a Barsoomian: Who does this? How would this even be accomplished?


You throw their purse out the door and when they run out after it you close and lock the door.
 
2014-07-07 11:50:03 PM
Conservative commentators and pearl clutchers have been wringing their hands for years over one-night stands (and hook up culture in general), claiming that casual sex devalues women and is effectively contributing to the downfall of society. Weirdly, murder, rape, never ending wars, pestilence, and crazed gunmen with histories of mental illness shooting school children all tied for second. One-night stands are hardly as dramatic as they are sometimes made out to be. In fact, a recent study showed that, of those who legitimately desire it, casual sex comes (forgive the pun) with a many benefits, like higher self-esteem and life satisfaction, and less instances of depression and anxiety.

This isn't to say that casual sex has no guiding principles or codes of conduct one should follow, but that, with a little communication and wherewithal, one-night stands will never ruin your life, or even your sheets. The following tips will ensure you have the best night possible, where you can look back with a devilish gleam in your eye and say, "That was fantastic. I hope we never see each other again!"

1. Check yourself (before you wreck yourself)

As Tom Hanks bemoaned in "A League of Their Own," there's no crying in baseball, and there should be none in a great one-night stand either. That is to say, check your emotions at the door, or dive bar bathroom stall or tool shed, depending on where you happen to be throwing down. Look upon the event as something primarily physical and short-lived, like a really spectacular sneeze. A sneeze does not expect dinner or want to meet your parents, and hence, your fling expectations should be similarly low. This doesn't mean you get to behave like a douchecopter for a night, or that there are no consequences (sexual safety should always involve common sense and precaution). Checking one's emotions simply means that you should be invested as little as possible. Sex does not have to mean something. It can, and it does, but a one-night stand's primary concern is similar to that of a train, to get it on and get you off. If you're unsure about a particular situation or person's feelings, make sure to be clear and upfront about your intentions before anything goes down, or up, or sideways.

2. Use your mouth

Use your mouth... to communicate your needs and desires. Part of the joy of a one-night stand is that, since the stakes are low, you can be and do whatever you want (within reason). If you want to be tied up, spanked, and called Mrs. Doubtfire for one night, then by god, ask! Not everyone will be into doing the precise things you're into, of course, but you have very little to lose with a one-night fling, since they won't know it's "out of character," so you might as well indulge your wild side. On the reverse (cowgirl), you should also be open-minded when it comes to meeting your partner's needs, too. Again, within reason. But if your partner suggests something you've never tried, but are amenable to, consider giving it a shot. It might just blow your mind (or load). Casual flings are perfect for getting a little dirtier and kinkier than you usually are.

3. Be unscripted

One-night stands often follow a pretty standard script, which is four shots, foreplay, floorplay, two minutes of oral, and p-in-the-v sex. If this is your cup of lube, then by all means, have at it, but most of us veer from this standard with people we know because what gets us off is entirely different from the common denominator. Don't be afraid to tell your partner things that help you get off, whether that's toys, dirty talk, watching porn, watching the Food Network, whatever. This is especially true for ladies, as we tend to neglect our desires in lieu of our partners' desires, and because few women can orgasm from p-in-the-v sex alone.

4. Mind your manners

You're not drinking tea with the queen or anything, so there's no need to be overly polite or don a hat in the shape of a koala for your limited liaison, but you'd do well to remember the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you'd have them do unto your precious penis. That is to say, basic courtesies should be followed. If it is late at night, let them sleep in your bed. Keep the conversation light - avoid mentions of exes, politics, or family members' prescription drug habits. There's no need to brunch or engage in a little post-sex Sudoku the next morning, but an offer of a cup of coffee or tea is polite. As to the goodbye speech, that should also be kept light and funny, if you can help it. A simple, "Thanks for the hot night" should suffice, if witty repartees should fail you in your hungover state.

5. So all is not wasted

Speaking of hangovers, try not to be wasted during your one-night romp. An expert casual sex aficionado knows that the experience hardly counts if you can't remember what actually happened the next day or where that strange bruise came from.

6. The departed

Finally, a word on departing. Don't sneak off without saying goodbye, which can make it seem as if you regretted having the sex, make the person feel "used," or feel that the performance was second-rate. And even if it wasn't a life-altering event, leaving without a word makes it into a more dramatic occurrence than it would otherwise be, and should hence be avoided.

7. That's a wrap

Manners are one thing, but failing to protect one's body and health should never be up for discussion. You should always, always practice safer sex when casually screwing, especially so with someone you've just met or don't know very well. And the really savvy lady or gentleman knows that having a brief sexual health discussion, as well as letting a new partner know if you have any STIs, before engaging in a genital gambol is the best method of all. Condoms don't protect you from everything, after all, but they are still a requirement, at bare minimum. Lay it on the table (no, not that), and if your pro tempore paramour balks at the frank discussion of his frank or is reticent to use protection, then you should find another short-term sweetheart.
 
2014-07-08 03:20:32 AM
Missing is step zero, how to get a one night stand with a woman who isn't hideous when you are an old ugly dude.  A little help here.
 
2014-07-08 07:43:20 AM

OgreMagi: Missing is step zero, how to get a one night stand with a woman who isn't hideous when you are an old ugly dude.  A little help here.


Cold cash money.
 
2014-07-08 08:13:53 AM

OgreMagi: Missing is step zero, how to get a one night stand with a woman who isn't hideous when you are an old ugly dude.  A little help here.


Don't be ugly. Being old is fine and doesn't necessarily only attract women with daddy issues.
 
2014-07-08 08:18:56 AM
Throw her purse out your door the next morning and when she rushes out to retrieve it, you close and lock the door. (You should have hid her panties the night before.)
 
2014-07-08 09:56:18 AM

OgreMagi: Missing is step zero, how to get a one night stand with a woman who isn't hideous when you are an old ugly dude.  A little help here.


Lick your eyebrows?  Embrace the daddy issues?  Swim a lot (a 50 yr old guy with a face that will stop a clock is still competitive if he is in decent shape)?
 
2014-07-08 01:35:39 PM

Laobaojun: OgreMagi: Missing is step zero, how to get a one night stand with a woman who isn't hideous when you are an old ugly dude.  A little help here.

Lick your eyebrows?  Embrace the daddy issues?  Swim a lot (a 50 yr old guy with a face that will stop a clock is still competitive if he is in decent shape)?


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2014-07-08 03:37:49 PM

phillydrifter: Throw her purse out your door the next morning and when she rushes out to retrieve it, you close and lock the door. (You should have hid her panties the night before.)


Sleep at the guy's place.
/you can get the hell out whenever you feel like it without leaving your name or number or feeling forced to make up any of that when you're hung over.
//leaving when you want to also gets you out of having to make breakfast. I mean, you slept with him, you never promised him a farking meal, too.
 
2014-07-08 03:54:25 PM

mama2tnt: phillydrifter: Throw her purse out your door the next morning and when she rushes out to retrieve it, you close and lock the door. (You should have hid her panties the night before.)

Sleep at the guy's place.
/you can get the hell out whenever you feel like it without leaving your name or number or feeling forced to make up any of that when you're hung over.
//leaving when you want to also gets you out of having to make breakfast. I mean, you slept with him, you never promised him a farking meal, too.


I would never expect a one night stand to make me breakfast.  I'll make her coffee (and I make damn good coffee).  I'll offer to take her out to breakfast (there's an excellent crepe place near my home) -- but only if I want to see her again.

However, I have not had any opportunity to actually put these rules in practice.
 
2014-07-08 07:40:15 PM

Laobaojun: 8.  She needs to cum first, she needs to cum often.  This sets conditions for a no-strings bunk buddy.
Besides, when she is screaming "Not again, I can't!" is the perfect moment to prove her wrong.  And if she's tired enough, she won't have energy for conversation.


How you doin'?
 
2014-07-08 09:34:14 PM

amberrose64: Laobaojun: 8.  She needs to cum first, she needs to cum often.  This sets conditions for a no-strings bunk buddy.
Besides, when she is screaming "Not again, I can't!" is the perfect moment to prove her wrong.  And if she's tired enough, she won't have energy for conversation.

How you doin'?


Pretty darn good.  Just on the wrong coast right now.

/BIE?  EIP.
 
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