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(Slate)   "Dear Prudence: My husband told me I was an '8.' He's trying to insult me, isn't he?" asks an internet 6   (slate.com) divider line 124
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2014-06-24 11:16:45 AM  
He's just stirring the pot since he knows you take that shiat seriously.
 
2014-06-24 11:40:27 AM  
If he tells you you're a 10, you'll think he's lying or he's insane, since you're pretty ugly. So he hedged and went with the 8. All really ugly women think that they can reach an 8 on their best days.
 
2014-06-24 12:05:50 PM  
As a 4, I would love to be married to an 8. (Assuming that her salary is at minimum- middle class).
 
2014-06-24 12:09:40 PM  
Being a woman must be exhausting.
 
2014-06-24 12:09:42 PM  
I guess some woman just don't like honesty. (Don't knock it.  80% got me a degree!)
 
2014-06-24 12:10:18 PM  
Married 34 years and one day. So far, so good. Always tell her she's a 10. She'll know you're probably lying, but she'll let it slide.

Of course, I could be wrong.

/Yes, Dear
//You're right
///I'm sorry
////I was wrong
 
2014-06-24 12:10:25 PM  
Since your picture only shows your face I will assume you are, or are very close to being, morbidly obese.

Therefore you are a -9854732
 
2014-06-24 12:10:45 PM  
Meh, he lies and tells you your ugly ass is an 8...

You lie and tell him he's the best you've ever had...

It's called a relationship, deal with it.
 
2014-06-24 12:12:24 PM  
In my experience, call her a 10 and follow it up with a liberal helping of extravagant flattery. She will know you are lying, but she will enjoy it, so it won't matter.
 
2014-06-24 12:12:29 PM  
img838.imageshack.us
 
2014-06-24 12:12:42 PM  
I'd fark her after 8 beers.
 
2014-06-24 12:13:33 PM  
Tell her she's a 10, even if it's obvious bullshiat.  You don't get a hero medal for trying to keep a made-up Likert scale statistically accurate.
 
2014-06-24 12:13:54 PM  
10 is an Aristotelian ideal.  It doesn't exist except in the mind.   No woman is a 10.   They can just approach 10.
 
2014-06-24 12:14:07 PM  
but if that version of me, the 20-year-old who hadn't had any babies yet, has gone downhill

If?  IF?
 
2014-06-24 12:15:53 PM  
9 or 10 when you used to swallow dear.
 
2014-06-24 12:17:05 PM  

webcamCat: 9 or 10 when you used to swallow dear.


You win.
But this is useless without a photo.
 
2014-06-24 12:17:06 PM  
Married 34 years and one day. So far, so good. Always tell her she's a 10. She'll know you're probably lying, but she'll let it slide.

Some radio show the other day listed the four names women don't like being called, including babe, sweetcheeks and a couple of others.

What pet names do they like?  "Gorgeous" was at the top of the list.  Ah. here's a link in the Daily Fail.
 
2014-06-24 12:17:39 PM  
Apparently she's hard of thinking

Which is one of my favorite insults.
 
2014-06-24 12:17:41 PM  
You write in to Slate for advice. Dock yourself 10 points right there.
 
2014-06-24 12:18:23 PM  
Maybe it's on the Budweiser scale

/how many Clydesdales it would take to pull him off her
 
2014-06-24 12:19:26 PM  

acad1228: Married 34 years and one day. So far, so good. Always tell her she's a 10. She'll know you're probably lying, but she'll let it slide.


Unless she knows binary. Then she will kill you in the most logical way.
 
2014-06-24 12:20:45 PM  

Rent Party: 10 is an Aristotelian ideal.  It doesn't exist except in the mind.   No woman is a 10.   They can just approach 10.


Dat asymptote.
 
2014-06-24 12:21:32 PM  
Kill him, then yourself.
 
2014-06-24 12:22:01 PM  

MonoChango: I guess some woman just don't like honesty. (Don't knock it.  80% got me a degree!)

Some

women?  When a woman asks a question that she could answer for herself with a moment of introspection and honesty, lie.  Lie, or evade the question.

E.g. "Honey, does this outfit make my ass look fat?"
"No, it's all you." = Wrong
"Your ass isn't fat" = Wrong
"Yes" = Wrong
"Yes", then break into a rousing rendition of "Baby Got Back" = Wrong
"No, but I wish it would" = Wrong
"You look lovely in it" = Better
"No, you look wonderful in it" = Better
"No, your ass looks nice and slim in that outfit" = a flat out lie, but what she wants to hear.

To complicate this, women will lie about wanting to hear the truth.

Ladies, if you want to hear the truth, don't verbally assault or emotionally blackmail men for giving you an honest answer.  If he says he doesn't care, don't force him to have an opinion.  If he evades the question, you won't like the truth (and probably have a history of responding to truth with psychological abuse).  If you see other ladies doing this shiat and you ignore it or "mind your own business", don't complain that men are all a--holes.
If you don't do this crap, and don't tolerate other women doing this crap, EIP, I think I love you.
 
2014-06-24 12:22:29 PM  

UrukHaiGuyz: Rent Party: 10 is an Aristotelian ideal.  It doesn't exist except in the mind.   No woman is a 10.   They can just approach 10.

Dat asymptote.


That's funny shiat right there.
 
2014-06-24 12:23:19 PM  
If BF (or any other dude, for that matter) rated me using any number, I'd slap his shiat. This isn't high school. Use your big boy words.
 
2014-06-24 12:23:46 PM  

Fano: Apparently she's hard of thinking

Which is one of my favorite insults.


Stealing that, thanks!
 
2014-06-24 12:25:58 PM  
Never been asked if I was I would just tell my wife she's 3 points higher then me.
 
2014-06-24 12:26:05 PM  

assburp: Since your picture only shows your face I will assume you are, or are very close to being, morbidly obese.

Therefore you are a -9854732


I think the picture is of the woman giving the advice, not requesting it.
 
2014-06-24 12:26:24 PM  

owlholder: If BF (or any other dude, for that matter) rated me using any number, I'd slap his shiat. This isn't high school. Use your big boy words.


"biatch that can't take a compliment" is just too unwieldy
 
2014-06-24 12:26:42 PM  
"I couldn't possibly rate you on a scale. It wouldn't be fair to other women."
 
2014-06-24 12:27:33 PM  

SuperChuck: "I couldn't possibly rate you on a scale. It wouldn't be fair to other women."



Or to the scale.
 
2014-06-24 12:27:39 PM  
This is like "do these pants make me look fat". There is no right answer. Change the subject or just run away.
 
2014-06-24 12:30:23 PM  
"Honey, which one of my friends would you most like to have a threesome with...hypothetically?"
 
2014-06-24 12:31:25 PM  
When I asked to be objectified, I didn't like being objectified with any degree of realism.
 
2014-06-24 12:33:28 PM  
What an empty narcissist.
 
2014-06-24 12:33:43 PM  

Laobaojun: MonoChango: I guess some woman just don't like honesty. (Don't knock it.  80% got me a degree!)

Some women?  When a woman asks a question that she could answer for herself with a moment of introspection and honesty, lie.  Lie, or evade the question.

E.g. "Honey, does this outfit make my ass look fat?"
"No, it's all you." = Wrong
"Your ass isn't fat" = Wrong
"Yes" = Wrong
"Yes", then break into a rousing rendition of "Baby Got Back" = Wrong
"No, but I wish it would" = Wrong
"You look lovely in it" = Better
"No, you look wonderful in it" = Better
"No, your ass looks nice and slim in that outfit" = a flat out lie, but what she wants to hear.

To complicate this, women will lie about wanting to hear the truth.

Ladies, if you want to hear the truth, don't verbally assault or emotionally blackmail men for giving you an honest answer.  If he says he doesn't care, don't force him to have an opinion.  If he evades the question, you won't like the truth (and probably have a history of responding to truth with psychological abuse).  If you see other ladies doing this shiat and you ignore it or "mind your own business", don't complain that men are all a--holes.
If you don't do this crap, and don't tolerate other women doing this crap, EIP, I think I love you.


I'm shocked that you're lonely.
 
2014-06-24 12:33:43 PM  
The dude was just following widely accepted advice.

blogs.citypages.com
 
2014-06-24 12:35:07 PM  

Rent Party: 10 is an Aristotelian ideal.  It doesn't exist except in the mind.   No woman is a 10.   They can just approach 10.


challenge accepted:

img.fark.net
 
2014-06-24 12:36:05 PM  
Dear Prudence:

I'm an insecure twunt whose self image is entirely determined by the amount of expensive items I own, and the baseless flattery of sales clerks at Von Maur and Dillards.  My husband, in an attempt to engage me on an honest level, has managed to shatter the thin illusion of superiority that guides my every activity.  Should I deny him sex?  WAAAAAHHHHH!!


Sincerely,

Her Lordship
 
2014-06-24 12:38:05 PM  
The Second letter is the one I though would have been better fark headline material.

Dear Prudence,

My daughter came told me she's Bi but she's totes wrong   She like MEN ONLY and she just thinks she is bi because she's been involved in the Gay Straight Alliance since HS and "those people' just "rubbed off on her" (PHRASING!).  I told her so to set he pretty little head straight and now she's being all cold to me, how do I get her to see how wrong she is?


now THAT is a woman who needs to be hit up side the head with a clue by four
 
2014-06-24 12:38:10 PM  

Laobaojun: MonoChango: I guess some woman just don't like honesty. (Don't knock it.  80% got me a degree!)

Some women?  When a woman asks a question that she could answer for herself with a moment of introspection and honesty, lie.  Lie, or evade the question.

E.g. "Honey, does this outfit make my ass look fat?"
"No, it's all you." = Wrong
"Your ass isn't fat" = Wrong
"Yes" = Wrong
"Yes", then break into a rousing rendition of "Baby Got Back" = Wrong
"No, but I wish it would" = Wrong
"You look lovely in it" = Better
"No, you look wonderful in it" = Better
"No, your ass looks nice and slim in that outfit" = a flat out lie, but what she wants to hear.


No, the right answer is the honest one - "no, you look great" if it does look great, or "yes, something's screwy with the seam/hem/beltline/stripes/whatever. You look better in that other outfit/I like those pants you wore yesterday/try something else" if it doesn't.

If you can't be honest with your significant other, than you've got bigger problems than a bad outfit or a fat ass.
 
2014-06-24 12:39:51 PM  
"No, honey, it was just a big misunderstanding. I just said I have to urinate."

/but if you had big tits, you'd be a ten.
 
2014-06-24 12:39:59 PM  
Ladies, if you want to be a 10 in your man's eyes, what you look like is secondary.  Be as nice to him everyday as you were when you were trying to catch him.  Appreciate what he does for you and, if he's doing it wrong, be gentle and suggest, don't nag.  Show up naked on a regular basis and show him you still know how to "use it."  When you're not naked, you don't have to be a fully made-up fashion model.  Just try to look like you care and like you care enough for him to put in some effort.  Sometimes, just leave him alone.  Don't be afraid to let him know that sometimes you need to be left alone.  If he's normal, not only will you be a 10, he'll reciprocate and more to the best of his ability.  If he is psychotic, nothing you do will be good enough.

Then again, if you're really worried about whether he thinks you're an 8 or a 9 or a 3, you may well be the psychotic one.
 
2014-06-24 12:40:10 PM  

doubled99: "Honey, which one of my friends would you most like to have a threesome with...hypothetically?"


That's a guaranteed "Lawyers on the phone towards the end of that argument" kind of question... And, unless serious about trying it, is a dead wrong question to ask... Then again, 99% of questions women could ask their bf/spouse is just fodder for "We haven't had a good argument in a while"...

I've always graded on a 3 tiered system: How they look, their attitude, other factors (aka rich as fark, for example)... It doesn't matter if your looks and your bank account make you a 10, if you're a biatch, no farking way...

And I'm also the guy who won't lie, so Mrs Arcturus knows not to ask me a question if she doesn't really want the answer... Then again, I've gotten fairly good at avoiding those minefields by misdirection and confusion, hidden by humor...
 
2014-06-24 12:40:16 PM  

Tr0mBoNe: He's just stirring the pot since he knows you take that shiat seriously.


He's trying to tell you he's gay, stupid.
 
2014-06-24 12:40:34 PM  
Just wait until she finds out that when she becomes 40, he'll trade in her for two 20s.
 
2014-06-24 12:41:09 PM  

Jaden Smith First of His Name: Being a woman must be exhausting.


Pretty good. 8/10.
 
2014-06-24 12:43:20 PM  

Magorn: The Second letter is the one I though would have been better fark headline material.

Dear Prudence,

My daughter came told me she's Bi but she's totes wrong   She like MEN ONLY and she just thinks she is bi because she's been involved in the Gay Straight Alliance since HS and "those people' just "rubbed off on her" (PHRASING!).  I told her so to set he pretty little head straight and now she's being all cold to me, how do I get her to see how wrong she is?


now THAT is a woman who needs to be hit up side the head with a clue by four


that one and the panty hoarder... and even the 'my husband was ghey in college' letter are all pretty 'interesting' this week.   Nice work there Prudie.
 
2014-06-24 12:43:28 PM  

Theaetetus: No, the right answer is the honest one - "no, you look great" if it does look great, or "yes, something's screwy with the seam/hem/beltline/stripes/whatever. You look better in that other outfit/I like those pants you wore yesterday/try something else" if it doesn't.

If you can't be honest with your significant other, than you've got bigger problems than a bad outfit or a fat ass.


Healthy relationships built on honesty aren't that common a thing, man.  But I'm with you.  A woman who knows you'll never lie to them won't ever need to bother with any sort of mind games to try and suss out how you really feel.
 
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