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2014-05-25 06:01:25 PM
Here's a pickup technique I've used before. I watch as a PUA type hits on a girl, if he falls flat on his face because his game is retarded, I go up the girl afterward and ask for details and make fun of him. If he gets the girl's number, I write her off.
 
2014-05-25 06:02:23 PM

thespindrifter: Witness99: I have gay male friends that act exactly like his list (most of it, anyway).

Let's have a dance off!

Deep rooted gay culture is about use and abuse, which is why there is a strong overlap between the gay crowd & the Sadomasochist lifestyle. LOTS of daddy issues, low self esteem, and generally abusive behavior. It's sad to see.


Ummmm...Seriously? The people I know in the BDSM lifestyle are very strong people with very few issues. No one has "daddy issues", VERY few have self esteem issues and in fact I've seen people build their self esteem in the lifestyle. Being in space is a hypnotic state and yes, there are those who could take advantage of that, but people I know use that space to build others up.
 
2014-05-25 06:03:00 PM

Raspil: what does it say about the guys wanting to pick up this kind of girl?


Are you not acquainted with the misunderstandings of children?

img.mylot.com
 
2014-05-25 06:04:50 PM

thespindrifter: ciberido: thespindrifter: Ah, the treasured "Neg'"... seems to work perfectly on all the non-lesbo feminazis with low self esteem, but exponentially so if you are 1) rich, 2) built like Dwayne Johnson, 3) all of the above.

There's an xkcd for every Fark thread.

Too bad the percentage of women who could actually be smart enough to pull that off is so substantially small that it pretty much never happens in real life. That cartoon right there is nothing more than a Joss Wheadon "Ass kicking hot chick" absurdist fantasy.

If that were even remotely real, the club and bar 'scene' would disappear overnight. The reason why abusive assholes continue to exist is because women love it. Betas finish last, and Alphas win by basically using this exact ploy.

The real trick is to find the middle ground between being a sucker of a nice guy or turning into a tool. It's a rare skill.


--------

There are a lot of women that could pull that off. It's just skewed to seem like a small percentage because they're all smart enough to avoid someone like you.
 
2014-05-25 06:08:16 PM
Good luck with that.

These things may work with women who have some serious issues, and if those are the wimminfolk you want to be with, then please, go for it. Damaged women need love too, I suppose, but then again, this isn't advice for love, it's advice for attracting emotional cripples to your schlong, which indicates a certain amount of damage to your own self, so maybe two damaged folks might be able to come together to become one nearly whole being, but it's not exactly the way to bet. But if that's your cup of tea, who am I to discourage you?

The women in your life? They might discourage you, but that might be reason for looking for an article like this. The one truth that I've found in dating is all of your failed relationships of the past have one thing in common: you. Maybe work on that, and the rest will fall into place. Just a thought.
 
2014-05-25 06:10:08 PM
Okay, the standard PUA advice. Try it 25 times, you'll get told to fark off 10 times, make 9 contacts that go no farther than you buying her a drink or two, get 4 drinks poured on your head, and get 1 one night stand or on-site fark in the restroom (her 3rd of the night). Also, enjoy your HPV/HSV2.
 
2014-05-25 06:10:14 PM

Raspil: what does it say about the guys wanting to pick up this kind of girl?  he's just as f*cked up as she is.  he doesn't value himself, either.  or did that not occur to you, that men can be broken pieces of sh*t as well?  and did you ever consider HOW those girls got to be that way?  odds are, at the hands of other men.  none of you will ever take responsibility for how you destroy the females of this planet, ever.  how convenient.


Now I am pedobearapproved, destroyer of women
 
2014-05-25 06:10:31 PM

thespindrifter: bingethinker: Man, the internet is so binary, so 0 and 1, so wonderful/horrible. Some gentle teasing or a funny remark that's not sexist or offensive is not the same thing as "negging". Show some humor, some personality, something to set you apart from that group of losers sitting there staring at her like she's a piece of meat.

People with personality don't pick up women in bars. They go out and live successful lives and probably already landed the girlfriends and wife they wanted by the end of college. People with personality don't go trolling; they sit back and let the good things come to them after proving they are the peak of desirability in other ways. The bar crowd is pretty much just assholes, wannabe Betas who don't know any better, and drunks.


This is my experience as well. If you find people you like and then start dating, things work out a lot better than the other way around.
 
2014-05-25 06:22:27 PM

Nix Nightbird: Whatchoo Talkinbout: bingethinker: Rapmaster2000: Mark Ratner: I just whip out my wrecking ball of a dick, and the broads just fall over with their legs in the air.

Slam pieces don't like it when you call them broads.

/i just wanted to say slam pieces for once
//how did i do?

Hey, chicks don't like it when you call them slam pieces.

Cum dumpsters don't like it when you call them chicks or slam pieces.


Hey now. Everyone knows the preferred term is dick ornament.


No no no. Split tails is the preferred nominclature
 
2014-05-25 06:25:09 PM
I destroyed 18 females of this planet last week, but Raspil has guilt-tripped me into feeling a little bad about it. I'll try to resist the urge to destroy females in the future. Thanks, Raspil!
 
2014-05-25 06:26:33 PM

LeroyBourne: Yes, treat a woman you want to date like a child.  I wonder if that virgin whack job followed some of those to the q t.


Waiting for this comment.

Yes, people literally think the fun, goofy guy who wrote this article and all of us like him are responsible for that freak. If he had listened to any of the PUAs, he wouldn't have been such a shiat about everything. Taking responsibility and stopping blaming society or women is Page 1. PUA saves lives. It is the exact message that is capable of fixing pissed off, socially paranoid losers into relaxed, snarky, lovable gentlemen. I know because I was one. I probably would have killed myself years ago if not for PUA. I doubt I'd have gone out hurting others like this shiatheel, but I cannot overstate how much Game did for me.
 
2014-05-25 06:28:23 PM

Jim_Callahan: Someone should probably tell this guy that negging doesn't actually  work.  Sure, sometimes you'll still get laid, but it's more an "in spite of" thing where the woman is also there looking to get laid and she knows she won't have to put up with your annoying habits for more than a couple hours.

It'll rarely if ever  increase your chances, beyond just padding out the conversation a bit.


You have no idea what you're talking about. I'm sorry. I'm sure you're a decent guy, but you have clearly never even attempted Game if you think this.
 
2014-05-25 06:28:28 PM

Laobaojun: Wow.  The only women who fall for this crap are covered by rule #1; "Don't go to bed with someone who has more problems than you do."

Seriously,  this is from some sort of "players' handbook", and guarantees that you'll spend all your time in the company of 'daddy issues' girls.  I would rather stick a spoon in my eye than get involved with a needy, clingy, insecure woman who would fall for that nonsense.


I just tell them my name is Laobaojun. Problem solved.
 
2014-05-25 06:29:41 PM

Whatchoo Talkinbout: bingethinker: Rapmaster2000: Mark Ratner: I just whip out my wrecking ball of a dick, and the broads just fall over with their legs in the air.

Slam pieces don't like it when you call them broads.

/i just wanted to say slam pieces for once
//how did i do?

Hey, chicks don't like it when you call them slam pieces.

Cum dumpsters don't like it when you call them chicks or slam pieces.


I prefer 'sperm-suckin' porch whores'.

//did Elliott Rodger write TFA?
 
2014-05-25 06:31:36 PM

taurusowner: Most women who are at least somewhat attractive know that they have a certain power over a good portion of men. They have grown up getting what they want, free drinks, getting out of tickets, people to help them move, free help with homework, etc for years. They're used to it.

The key is to not be one of those guys who falls into that trap. They like a guy who is immune to the "you're hot, let me be your servant in hopes you'll fark me" attitude. Now sometimes that can indeed be with negging. Other times it can be with just being laid back, enjoying your own life and not being wrapped up in finding a girl.

That's the thing. This thread, and all the rest like it, always turns into people arguing that negging works, and people arguing that it doesn't and that being comfortable with yourself and not wrapped up in her is the real key.

You're both right. Because both are just different ways you're breaking out of the box hot chicks expect you to be in. Either way you're showing that you're not someone who is going to fall over yourself trying to please her and be the best doormat she can find. Whether that's be disarming her hotness and taking that tool away from her from the get go by negging, or by being that sure of yourself and happy with your own life that you don't really get wound up over if she's hot or not. Both work.  And coincidentally, that's why douchebags and assholes seem to be so successful all the time. The chick isn't with him specifically because he's an asshole. But she is with him because he really believes he's the most awesome guy ever. It's the confidence/arrogance thing. Both are traits guys who believe in themselves have. It's confidence if it's tempered by reality and being a decent person. It's arrogance if it's unbound and causes you to look down on others. But most women can't tell the difference between the two. Again, it goes back to showing that you're not someone who is entranced by their charms. You can do that by being an arrogant a ...


This guy gets it.
 
2014-05-25 06:31:49 PM
Very interesting, a fark wizard thread. Those 10 playful tips? Those are from a goddamned High Wizard, maybe Gandalf himself. How about you treat a woman like a genuine person and interact with her as an individual, not a mass of neuroses to exploit? Of course, if you're into low hanging psychologically damaged fruit (and hey, if anything this asshole says sounds like a good ideal to you, then you are), then by all means, this is the guru for you.
 
2014-05-25 06:34:26 PM

thespindrifter: ciberido: thespindrifter: Ah, the treasured "Neg'"... seems to work perfectly on all the non-lesbo feminazis with low self esteem, but exponentially so if you are 1) rich, 2) built like Dwayne Johnson, 3) all of the above.

There's an xkcd for every Fark thread.

Too bad the percentage of women who could actually be smart enough to pull that off is so substantially small that it pretty much never happens in real life. That cartoon right there is nothing more than a Joss Wheadon "Ass kicking hot chick" absurdist fantasy.

If that were even remotely real, the club and bar 'scene' would disappear overnight. The reason why abusive assholes continue to exist is because women love it. Betas finish last, and Alphas win by basically using this exact ploy.

The real trick is to find the middle ground between being a sucker of a nice guy or turning into a tool. It's a rare skill.


I recall a bit about this topic....Women say they hate pick-up lines, but they have all heard one they loved. I would bet half the women in here wouldn't be sitting next to your guy tonight if it weren't because of some lame pick-up line.

it is tough to talk to women (or anyone for that matter) with a cold open, so you have to start somewhere, hence the cheesy lame pick-up line opposed to asking about someones opinion on the reconstruction of Germany following the second world war.
 
2014-05-25 06:42:53 PM

The Larch: When did "beta" become a slur?

Seriously, outside the PUA threads, I've never heard or seen anyone get called a beta before. What the hell is going on?


I never even knew Beta was a "thing" outside of the swinger/bdsm communities. A beta submissive is someone who is totally passive to everyone else involved.

I never even knew PUAs were a thing. I just thought they were socially inept idiots who thought some magic phrase would let them sleep with women, and whine about how no women want a "nice guy" like them.
 
2014-05-25 06:45:50 PM
Speaking from some experience, installing Linux on her iPod is not one of them.
 
2014-05-25 06:55:39 PM
s3-ec.buzzfed.com
 
2014-05-25 06:56:26 PM

Summer Glau's Love Slave: bingethinker: Fail tag must be for Subby, who squats in the basement and never kids around with women.
You got all that from a 19 word headline?[c1.staticflickr.com image 437x400]

/I don't like roofies.
//They taste bad.


No, I got that from actually reading the article. Weird for Fark, I'm sure.
 
2014-05-25 06:59:31 PM

nijika: bingethinker: Fail tag must be for Subby, who squats in the basement and never kids around with women.

k there PUA.  Did you even read that list?  It's basically "degrade her at every turn".


Read down to my next remark, if your lips don't get too tired. Gently teasing a woman or making a funny remark that's not sexist or offensive is a long way from being a PUA. If a woman feels degraded by that, she's doing me a favor if she stays away from me.
 
2014-05-25 06:59:45 PM

Bonobo62: 11. Drop your pants, light your pubes on fire, and shout, "You want some of this?" Chicks dig that shiat.


that is one of the most winning moves i've ever hear of. you sir, are one of the exceptional ones.
 
2014-05-25 07:01:42 PM

Mark Ratner: LoneWolf343: Mark Ratner: I just whip out my wrecking ball of a dick, and the broads just fall over with their legs in the air.

Probably from the stench.

But I use axe body spray, and I wear a gold chain necklace.


of course you do. that's how i always pictured you. also, i bet your nose is pointy, and your eyes are squinty.
 
2014-05-25 07:12:10 PM

nijika: bingethinker: Fail tag must be for Subby, who squats in the basement and never kids around with women.

k there PUA.  Did you even read that list?  It's basically "degrade her at every turn".


Not that I think it's cool or do this myself, but if the point is to get laid and "degrading her at every turn" really works at achieving this goal, then there's really no incentive for the PUA to stop degrading women. Calling him a PUA or saying he degrades women isn't an insult--it isn't going to dissuade him. He has no reason to care, no investment in a woman being respected. In fact, if this really does work, then he has an active reason not to respect women. Women can choose to respond to this behaviour or not. But if the "degradation's" going to stop, then it's on the targets, on an individual level, to stop doling out the rewards.
 
2014-05-25 07:15:31 PM
Articles like this have me convinced that the average guy is a sociopath that needs step-by-step directions on how to have interpersonal relationships with human females.
 
2014-05-25 07:16:12 PM
None of that stuff works without sending her a "Love Is..." cartoon every day.
 
2014-05-25 07:20:27 PM

some_beer_drinker: Mark Ratner: LoneWolf343: Mark Ratner: I just whip out my wrecking ball of a dick, and the broads just fall over with their legs in the air.

Probably from the stench.

But I use axe body spray, and I wear a gold chain necklace.

of course you do. that's how i always pictured you. also, i bet your nose is pointy, and your eyes are squinty.


I smell better than you, and I have "bling", which you cannot probably begin to understand. Fact is, I get laid s o much.
 
2014-05-25 07:26:34 PM
Gently mock her by ridiculing her ideas in office meetings.  When she starts to speak, sigh loudly and mutter, "Not again....." under your breath.
 
2014-05-25 07:26:59 PM

Ringshadow: Challenge her.

Unless this is to strip mario kart, think again.


Your newsletter:  one subscription, please!

/I'm using my Wii wheel!
//not a euphemism
 
2014-05-25 07:29:42 PM
These are not bad tips.  In fact, they're good tips.

Guys who say they're outrageous or girls who act like they'd throw their drink in the face of any guy that tried them are saying that because they just read this article and the tips are worded in a way that makes them sound horrible.
 
2014-05-25 07:32:37 PM

The Larch: When did "beta" become a slur?

Seriously, outside the PUA threads, I've never heard or seen anyone get called a beta before. What the hell is going on?


Alphas = high-powered jerks, betas = normal people, omegas = cowards who think they are alphas.
 
2014-05-25 07:36:11 PM

bboy: These are not bad tips.  In fact, they're good tips.

Guys who say they're outrageous or girls who act like they'd throw their drink in the face of any guy that tried them are saying that because they just read this article and the tips are worded in a way that makes them sound horrible.


True, I can probably word these in a better way than the blogger did, i.e. instead of "disagree with her," I would say "engage her and not just wag your head hoping compliance would get you laid," but then it would be from a perceptive of "treat her like a person," instead of "treat her vagina like goalposts" like the author did. The problems isn't so much the tips but the intention behind the tips,
 
2014-05-25 07:41:13 PM

Raspil: what does it say about the guys wanting to pick up this kind of girl? he's just as f*cked up as she is. he doesn't value himself, either. or did that not occur to you, that men can be broken pieces of sh*t as well? and did you ever consider HOW those girls got to be that way? odds are, at the hands of other men. none of you will ever take responsibility for how you destroy the females of this planet, ever. how convenient.


First of all this post is hilarious.

I don't think it says he's as farked as her. Doing what it takes to fark someone you find physically attractive isn't as messed up as farking someone who comes at you bursting out of the gate with insults.

And you're right, these guys don't care whether they are destroying anybody. They have no reason to care. It doesn't affect them. They are getting what they want. Women have the power to stop this, but they keep rewarding the guys, so why should they stop? And lots of these women probably don't want to stop this anyway--they enjoy the sex as well as the men do, they don't have to risk rejection by making the first move, and the guy being a jerk makes it easier to justify pumping and dump his ass.

If you have a problem with it, then don't enable PUA behavior yourself. But you don't speak for all women. And you can't tell men or women what to care about.
 
2014-05-25 07:46:37 PM
Ringshadow:

Unless I'm doing this:

[i.imgur.com image 600x1011]

Then no.


Yes because women are known for being direct and honest about their needs and their feelings. Women would hate it if guys started to expect this kind of upfront honesty.
 
2014-05-25 07:52:40 PM

bboy: These are not bad tips.  In fact, they're good tips.

Guys who say they're outrageous or girls who act like they'd throw their drink in the face of any guy that tried them are saying that because they just read this article and the tips are worded in a way that makes them sound horrible.


Holy shiat, Elliot Rodger is posting  from beyond the grave!
 
2014-05-25 07:52:58 PM

Ringshadow: Mimic or mock her.

This is why I dumped my drink your lap.



Ha, I see you can't hold your liquor!
 
2014-05-25 07:53:26 PM
I know this is Fark, but come on, people. You're so emotionally invested in the idea that "negging" and PUA stuff does or doesn't work that you're completely losing your shiat without even reading the article.

FTFA:
"Have real conversation, too.Don't tease her constantly, mix it up with more substantial or meaningful talk. Listen and avoid making fun of her when she's telling you something serious. As you get to know her, tease less but never stop completely - the spirited attitude keeps her attracted."

But keep going on about how the article says to degrade women at every turn.

Honestly, most of the stuff in there is pretty decent advice. The kind of playful attitude described in TFA works pretty well for me, at any rate. This is just spelling it out for people who "put the pussy on a pedestal" and are too terrified to say anything negative to a girl under any circumstances. You know the type. The poor, deluded Nice Guys who think that "kindness" should and will be rewarded with sex.

All of you saying "talk to her like she's an actual person" or "just be yourself" are agreeing with TFA and you don't even realize it. Good-natured ribbing is an important social skill and establishes rapport with most human beings. I mean, most of us do it with our male friends, so why should we treat women any different?  Again, TFA spells this out pretty well.

"Remember, teasing comes down to enjoying yourself and creating a playful dynamic. Use the examples as a guideline but start trying out your own ideas based on your personality."


TFA didn't mention this because it'd be a bit insulting to the intended readership, but if you're so lacking in social skills that you really need an article on the internet to teach you how to playfully tease women, chances are good that you come across as farking creepy. Some light teasing will make you seem less nervous and intimidated by her, and she will feel more relaxed and comfortable as a result, assuming you don't confuse "light teasing" and "real insults." A lot of Farkers apparently need a refresher on that distinction, though.
 
2014-05-25 08:00:00 PM
This seems to be advice for A-holes on how to treat women. It might work on young shy naive girls.  But a real woman would shut down this kind of BS before it could get started.
 
2014-05-25 08:05:58 PM

rbuzby: This seems to be advice for A-holes on how to treat women. It might work on young shy naive girls.  But a real woman would shut down this kind of BS before it could get started.


Unless she thinks the guy is hot and mutually wants to have some fun with him. But that would imply women can be sexual beings and equally desire recreational sex instead of just reacting to what men want all the time.
 
2014-05-25 08:06:45 PM
"Cosmo for Men"? How emasculating.
 
2014-05-25 08:09:26 PM
I don't think it's possible for this advice to be any worse.
I got divorced a few years ago and I'm glad I'm engaged now because that first year of dating was awful.

My biggest pet peeves were:
 - men who think date = sex/ booty call
 - men who have no plan for a date when they pick you up and ask, "Uh, so what do you wanna do?" Seriously? I just spent two hours on clothes, hair  and makeup and you have no effing plan? I'm going back in the house because if you were too dumb to plan, you're not worth my time and if you think we're going  back to your house, uh, no
 - men who bring up sex to soon -first date is too soon, just fyi (see the first two points)
 - men who end every single text with a compliment (hello beautiful, what you up to sexy? how was your day my queen) seriously that is effing overkill
 - men who call and text every single minute of the day. And if you don't text back the second they text you, they get an attitude. Uh, I have a job. I cannot spend every second texting you. Get a life.
 - men who cannot take a goddamned hint - if she says you brought up sex too soon, or you compliment her too much or asks you to slow down with the calling and texting- that means she's still kind of into you and if you stop being so damned over-eager, then you have a pretty good shot of continued dating and probably getting laid.

But if a woman hints that you're going overboard doing one of these things, take it as a helpful hint. Don't get a butthurt sucka attack and tell her why she should be grateful or appreciative of a man who is "willing" to compliment her or be attentive.

*sigh*

So glad I found a guy who's just chill and knows when to tell me to stfu sometimes without hurting my feelings, usually with a good deep dicking. He's a keeper.
 
2014-05-25 08:18:29 PM

Fafai: rbuzby: This seems to be advice for A-holes on how to treat women. It might work on young shy naive girls.  But a real woman would shut down this kind of BS before it could get started.

Unless she thinks the guy is hot and mutually wants to have some fun with him. But that would imply women can be sexual beings and equally desire recreational sex instead of just reacting to what men want all the time.


I'm more offended by the implication that young, shy, naive girls are unworthy of love. I, for one, happen to like young, shy, naive girls.

He/she is wrong anyway. Shy girls tend to already have self-esteem issues so teasing them is likely to genuinely hurt their feelings. It's the "real women" with the inflated egos that actually benefit from a little deflating.
 
2014-05-25 08:20:36 PM

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Naturally there should be a discussion about Rainbow Road beforehand. I suggest pulling the jump off is automatic no pants. Which person loses their pants is up to negotiation.

Fafai: Yes because women are known for being direct and honest about their needs and their feelings. Women would hate it if guys started to expect this kind of upfront honesty.


Hey man not all of us treat this as a game. I'm aromantic, I'm not here to p*ssyfoot around.

Snarfangel: Ha, I see you can't hold your liquor!


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You know how it is sometimes.
 
2014-05-25 08:33:01 PM

Hermione_Granger: But if a woman hints that you're going overboard doing one of these things, take it as a helpful hint


Sorry, but bullshiat. Most of your post was ok, but that part is just nonsense. You can NEVER expect people to understand a message you didn't give them. If you want someone to know something, tell them. Be direct. Tell the truth. Use clear sentences and facts. Tell them what you're thinking. The "hints and signals" thing is a farked up game women play when they're too timid to tell someone what they're thinking, or don't want to feel bad about a confrontation. So they drop hints hoping the guy will somehow read their mind and just guess correctly what he thinks she wants him to do but didn't actually tell him. Then she pushes the blame onto the guy for not getting it, much like what you are doing now.

Want someone to understand something? Farking tell them. Stop the hints and signals bullshiat and use your words to convey and idea like an adult. If you can't do that, it's your fault when things get messed up, not the guy's.
 
2014-05-25 08:47:17 PM
So is this any different than the female version that once suggested women should bite down on their partner's penis?
 
2014-05-25 08:52:42 PM
1. You're sad.

2. You're really sad.

3. Are you twelve?

4. Oh, sorry. You're actually five.

5. I'm probably going to end the evening by kicking your arse.

6. God, I wish I hadn't forgotten my Taser...

7. Great. You're as stupid as you are desperate.

8. Reverse psychology? For the record, when I said "no," it wasn't reverse psychology.

9. Please go away now.

10. I'm going to kick you in the junk, now, and it's not a display of affection.

Alternative for those who wish to maybe get laid: "Hi, I'm [insert name here]. Can I buy you a drink?" (Notice: ONE DRINK. While getting her sloshed might help some of you, it's generally not recommended, and you won't have spent a fortune on a dead end if she's not into you.) Follow with asking her name, where she's from, and about her interests and have a normal, non-awkward conversation before asking for her number. You're welcome, gentlemen.
 
2014-05-25 08:54:42 PM

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Slowclap.
 
2014-05-25 08:54:57 PM

taurusowner: Hermione_Granger: But if a woman hints that you're going overboard doing one of these things, take it as a helpful hint

Sorry, but bullshiat. Most of your post was ok, but that part is just nonsense. You can NEVER expect people to understand a message you didn't give them. If you want someone to know something, tell them. Be direct. Tell the truth. Use clear sentences and facts. Tell them what you're thinking. The "hints and signals" thing is a farked up game women play when they're too timid to tell someone what they're thinking, or don't want to feel bad about a confrontation. So they drop hints hoping the guy will somehow read their mind and just guess correctly what he thinks she wants him to do but didn't actually tell him. Then she pushes the blame onto the guy for not getting it, much like what you are doing now.

Want someone to understand something? Farking tell them. Stop the hints and signals bullshiat and use your words to convey and idea like an adult. If you can't do that, it's your fault when things get messed up, not the guy's.


Ok. Calm down a bit because you're rather underlining my point.

There's "direct yet polite" and there's "direct and brutal." If a woman is trying to tell you something and she likes you, she goes for "direct yet polite."

What happens is guys don't get that OR they're smart enough to understand the slight criticism but not smart enough not to be an ass about it.

So maybe I shouldn't have said, dropping a hint but the idea is the same. If a woman says, hey, you're complimenting me to much or hey, you're calling me to much, then cut it out.
 
2014-05-25 09:01:42 PM

Hermione_Granger: So maybe I shouldn't have said, dropping a hint but the idea is the same. If a woman says, hey, you're complimenting me to much or hey, you're calling me to much, then cut it out


And that's fine, if that's what they're actually doing. If they really are actually saying "You're doing ____. I would like it more if you would instead do _____" then awesome. But if it's some weird mix of the silent treatment or making up bullshiat excuses and just hoping the guy just thinks "Ahhhh i get it now, but not talking to me and saying she's doing X tonight but posting on Facebook that she's doing Y, she's really trying to tell me ___" the chick is entirely wrong. Yet too often that's exactly what women do because they don't want to feel uncomfortable just telling the truth.
 
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