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(Daily Mail)   Woman loses her son at birth and sells his crib to a man who makes chairs out of cribs. Man learns the significance of the crib and turns it in to a memorial bench and returns it to the woman. Damn it's dusty in here   (dailymail.co.uk) divider line 57
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2014-05-12 10:28:14 PM  

czei: LazyMedia: QueenMamaBee: czei: About 1 in 160 pregnancies end in stillbirth.  Not that her emotional loss wasn't difficult, but I can't figure out why she wouldn't keep the kid and try to get pregnant again at some point in the future.

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I'm assuming he meant crib? Yeah, sure, keep a crib around to remind you of your loss; that's a great emotional plan, and think of the money you'll save on buying a new one. Jesus, how cheap are you?

The majority of pregnancies do not come to term, so if you're going to get rid of the baby equipment after each one its going to get mighty expensive.  I think in the long run it would be more comforting to understand that losing a baby like this is part of the natural process and there will be other opportunities, very soon, to try again.


If you don't intuitively understand the difference in emotional impact of a first-trimester miscarriage and a still birth, there's no hope for you.
 
2014-05-12 10:42:11 PM  

brap: Part of me thinks this is really sweet and part of me thinks, this poor woman finally gets to the point where she can move on emotionally - and some guy painstakingly handcrafts this metaphoric scab picker to reopen that old emotional wound?


I read this earlier and didn't want to respond right away because I'm not trying to make this thread about me.
But, as somebody who has experienced a stillborn situation I can give some insight. Our daughter stopped moving around inside my girl's womb about 5 weeks before due date. We went to the doctor. No heartbeat.

Now I'm not sure if it would be worse to not know the baby was coming out dead or if going to the hospital and waiting until we can induce labor knowing the baby is coming out dead would be worse because I only experienced the latter.

At first, yeah, all reminders had to go. We put the stuff we got from the hospital (her blanket, little hat, SD card with the pictures we took) and her cremated remains and the little building bloc urn we put her in into a shoe box, taped it up and stuck it in a closet.

It was real tough for awhile. What made it tougher was all the places we had registered for the baby shower. We STILL get cards and coupons from Babys-R-Us, Gerber, Similac, etc. Never knew what we'd find in the mailbox. It sucked. I would usually grab them and throw them away before my girl got home for work.

We personally took all of the baby stuff we had and put it at her brother's house. For this woman to still have the crib, she probably has been dealing with the reminder all this time.

After awhile, it became easier to remember and think about things. The positive things like the smile on my girl's face. The way my family started to make more contact with me. Stuff like that. My mom told me that I should consider myself a father. That my daughter should remain a memory forever. It sucks that it didn't work out. But maybe it just had to happen this way.

I'm willing to bet that if not now, eventually this memorial piece of furniture will become one of the mother's favorite things. Providing she already had kids or has more children afterwards. It's a reminder to love your child and hold them close, because you never know...

As for us, my girl may be pregnant again. Not sure yet, way too early for announcements, but I wouldn't be surprised if she buys a test to find out for sure in the next few days.

Thanks for reading. I usually post on this site to make jokes or make a contribution to a thread. I guess this is the latter.
 
2014-05-12 11:52:14 PM  
jaylectricity:
I read this earlier and didn't want to respond right away because I'm not trying to make this thread about me.
But, as somebody who has experienced a stillborn situation I can give some insight.


This link first caught my eye as someone who loves woodworking and recycling old wood things into new wood things.  Not too much about that in the story.  But I clicked on the comments anyway.  I expected to find the usual bunch of snarky comments and, sure enough, there they were.

And then there was your post.  Your story was touching.  Beautifully written and sensitively told.  I have known too many friends who have lost children - late term miscarriages, stillbirths, and even young children to accident or illness.  They never get over it.  They can get on with their lives, and most do.  But there is always that loss.  I have been fortunate to never have to endure that loss.

I wish you and your girl well.  May you be blessed with as many children as you want.  Thanks for your story.
 
2014-05-13 01:04:23 AM  

Mr. Right: jaylectricity:
I read this earlier and didn't want to respond right away because I'm not trying to make this thread about me.
But, as somebody who has experienced a stillborn situation I can give some insight.

This link first caught my eye as someone who loves woodworking and recycling old wood things into new wood things.  Not too much about that in the story.  But I clicked on the comments anyway.  I expected to find the usual bunch of snarky comments and, sure enough, there they were.

And then there was your post.  Your story was touching.  Beautifully written and sensitively told.  I have known too many friends who have lost children - late term miscarriages, stillbirths, and even young children to accident or illness.  They never get over it.  They can get on with their lives, and most do.  But there is always that loss.  I have been fortunate to never have to endure that loss.

I wish you and your girl well.  May you be blessed with as many children as you want.  Thanks for your story.


Thank you for reading. And thank you for taking the time to post in this thread to thank me.
 
2014-05-13 03:52:42 AM  
I don't have the citation because I can't find it, but I read that her tubes were tied right after the birth. Her mom has a petition going asking doctors to give a few weeks to moms of stillborn babies before asking for consent for such a procedure. She agreed at the time but now regrets it, apparently.
 
2014-05-13 11:35:25 AM  

jst3p: Quinn?


I was thinking the same thing, he could make the crib into an aquarium, shadow box thing.
 
2014-05-13 03:41:22 PM  

Zizzowop: jst3p: Quinn?

I was thinking the same thing, he could make the crib into an aquarium, shadow box thing.


Stahp!
 
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