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(Daily Mail)   Woman loses her son at birth and sells his crib to a man who makes chairs out of cribs. Man learns the significance of the crib and turns it in to a memorial bench and returns it to the woman. Damn it's dusty in here   (dailymail.co.uk) divider line 57
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2014-05-12 12:18:25 PM
I hate to judge a book by its cover, but she don't look like mom material.
 
2014-05-12 02:10:46 PM
Part of me thinks this is really sweet and part of me thinks, this poor woman finally gets to the point where she can move on emotionally - and some guy painstakingly handcrafts this metaphoric scab picker to reopen that old emotional wound?
 
2014-05-12 03:20:21 PM
img.fark.net
 
2014-05-12 03:23:23 PM

blatz514: [img.fark.net image 259x194]


Blatz just closed the thread. I'll hit the lights.
 
2014-05-12 03:24:50 PM
Yeah well the Daily Fail can do that. Make any story sound like farking Mother Teresa meets the Martians.
 
2014-05-12 03:25:57 PM
For sale: baby shoes, never worn.
 
2014-05-12 03:26:20 PM
www.theriffrepeater.com
 
2014-05-12 03:28:22 PM

brap: Part of me thinks this is really sweet and part of me thinks, this poor woman finally gets to the point where she can move on emotionally - and some guy painstakingly handcrafts this metaphoric scab picker to reopen that old emotional wound?


It beats reopening the ax wound to start the cycle over again
 
2014-05-12 03:30:37 PM
Did they name the chair Clint?
 
2014-05-12 03:31:31 PM

mama2tnt: blatz514: [img.fark.net image 259x194]

Blatz just closed the thread. I'll hit the lights.


+1
 
2014-05-12 03:31:38 PM
jaylectricity [TotalFark]

I hate to judge a book by its cover, but she don't look like mom material.


You sound sober.
 
2014-05-12 03:31:58 PM
About 1 in 160 pregnancies end in stillbirth.  Not that her emotional loss wasn't difficult, but I can't figure out why she wouldn't keep the kid and try to get pregnant again at some point in the future.
 
2014-05-12 03:32:42 PM
He should have built a boat 300 cubits by 80 cubits by 40 cubits.

/Right
//What's a cubit?
 
2014-05-12 03:32:54 PM
Woman gets pregnant again and sends the chair back to be remade into a crib -- the circle of life

Now that would be news.
 
2014-05-12 03:33:03 PM
Meth is a helluva drug. At least, that is what the pic looked like in one of em.
 
2014-05-12 03:33:27 PM

czei: About 1 in 160 pregnancies end in stillbirth.  Not that her emotional loss wasn't difficult, but I can't figure out why she wouldn't keep the kid and try to get pregnant again at some point in the future.


images.sodahead.com
 
2014-05-12 03:34:25 PM

czei: About 1 in 160 pregnancies end in stillbirth.  Not that her emotional loss wasn't difficult, but I can't figure out why she wouldn't keep the kid and try to get pregnant again at some point in the future.


In a jar?  On the mantle?
 
2014-05-12 03:35:31 PM

czei: About 1 in 160 pregnancies end in stillbirth.  Not that her emotional loss wasn't difficult, but I can't figure out why she wouldn't keep eat the kid and try to get pregnant again at some point in the future.


FTFY

/ewww
 
2014-05-12 03:35:46 PM

brap: Part of me thinks this is really sweet and part of me thinks, this poor woman finally gets to the point where she can move on emotionally - and some guy painstakingly handcrafts this metaphoric scab picker to reopen that old emotional wound?


Seriously.
 
2014-05-12 03:35:54 PM
Guess I'm a sucker. I think it's a sweet story. I mean, I think the old guy's heart is in the right place, regardless of whether it's a good idea to surprise a stranger with something like that. Which it isn't, really, but that was his call on that.
 
2014-05-12 03:36:00 PM
Quinn?
 
2014-05-12 03:36:18 PM

blatz514: [img.fark.net image 259x194]


That chair killed about 6 million future babies
 
2014-05-12 03:36:30 PM
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA, I GET IT!! It's dusty because you're all teared up, right??? That is the absolute height of humor right there boy and every time I read that line on Fark (which is basically every day) I laugh even harder!
I can't wait until someone posts that line again, oh man, finally a reason to live!
 
2014-05-12 03:37:04 PM

QueenMamaBee: czei: About 1 in 160 pregnancies end in stillbirth.  Not that her emotional loss wasn't difficult, but I can't figure out why she wouldn't keep the kid and try to get pregnant again at some point in the future.

[images.sodahead.com image 220x326]


I'm assuming he meant crib? Yeah, sure, keep a crib around to remind you of your loss; that's a great emotional plan, and think of the money you'll save on buying a new one. Jesus, how cheap are you?
 
2014-05-12 03:38:32 PM

blatz514: [img.fark.net image 259x194]


/LOL...i had almost forgotten about the nut grabbing chair from hell.  Well played.
 
2014-05-12 03:39:22 PM
This is why I took my babbies home to absolutely nothing. Bought some diapers on the way.

/But somebody gave us a crib and she died anyway. Bastards.
//Second kid never slept in crib. I gave it away.

QueenMamaBee: czei: About 1 in 160 pregnancies end in stillbirth.  Not that her emotional loss wasn't difficult, but I can't figure out why she wouldn't keep the kid and try to get pregnant again at some point in the future.
[images.sodahead.com image 220x326]


[insert banned picture from a certain infamous thread here.]
 
2014-05-12 03:40:50 PM
Here's a new chair. Now, I want you to sit right down and think about what you could have done differently.
 
2014-05-12 03:41:39 PM

Rex Kramer - Danger Seeker: HAHAHAHAHAHAHA, I GET IT!! It's dusty because you're all teared up, right??? That is the absolute height of humor right there boy and every time I read that line on Fark (which is basically every day) I laugh even harder!
I can't wait until someone posts that line again, oh man, finally a reason to live!


It sure is dusty in here.
 
2014-05-12 03:42:28 PM

czei: About 1 in 160 pregnancies end in stillbirth.  Not that her emotional loss wasn't difficult, but I can't figure out why she wouldn't keep the kid and try to get pregnant again at some point in the future.


Argh, I meant keep the crib, of course.
 
2014-05-12 03:43:26 PM

Rex Kramer - Danger Seeker: HAHAHAHAHAHAHA, I GET IT!! It's dusty because you're all teared up, right??? That is the absolute height of humor right there boy and every time I read that line on Fark (which is basically every day) I laugh even harder!
I can't wait until someone posts that line again, oh man, finally a reason to live!


Wait, what?
 
2014-05-12 03:43:27 PM

cryinoutloud: This is why I took my babbies home to absolutely nothing. Bought some diapers on the way.

/But somebody gave us a crib and she died anyway. Bastards.
//Second kid never slept in crib. I gave it away.


Wow...seems strange to just give away the second kid.  There's this thing called birth control is you didn't want to have a second one.
 
2014-05-12 03:44:07 PM

offacue: czei: About 1 in 160 pregnancies end in stillbirth.  Not that her emotional loss wasn't difficult, but I can't figure out why she wouldn't keep the kid and try to get pregnant again at some point in the future.

In a jar?  On the mantle?


On the piano.

/should I not have said that?
 
2014-05-12 03:45:43 PM

brap: Part of me thinks this is really sweet and part of me thinks, this poor woman finally gets to the point where she can move on emotionally - and some guy painstakingly handcrafts this metaphoric scab picker to reopen that old emotional wound?


This is what I think.  Keep a few things to look at every now and then but get rid of the rest of it and move on.  It's not good to perpetually morn a passing.  Time heals, but not if you have a daily reminder of the bad thing that happened.
 
2014-05-12 03:49:46 PM

LazyMedia: QueenMamaBee: czei: About 1 in 160 pregnancies end in stillbirth.  Not that her emotional loss wasn't difficult, but I can't figure out why she wouldn't keep the kid and try to get pregnant again at some point in the future.

[images.sodahead.com image 220x326]

I'm assuming he meant crib? Yeah, sure, keep a crib around to remind you of your loss; that's a great emotional plan, and think of the money you'll save on buying a new one. Jesus, how cheap are you?


The majority of pregnancies do not come to term, so if you're going to get rid of the baby equipment after each one its going to get mighty expensive.  I think in the long run it would be more comforting to understand that losing a baby like this is part of the natural process and there will be other opportunities, very soon, to try again.
 
2014-05-12 03:53:14 PM
It'll make a great seat for the piano.
 
2014-05-12 03:56:07 PM

Farkbert: Wow...seems strange to just give away the second kid.  There's this thing called birth control is you didn't want to have a second one


you know what's worse? The kid grew up and came back, and now I'm supporting him!
 
2014-05-12 03:56:23 PM

nytmare: It'll make a great seat for the piano.


www.quickmeme.com
 
2014-05-12 03:59:03 PM

brap: Part of me thinks this is really sweet and part of me thinks, this poor woman finally gets to the point where she can move on emotionally - and some guy painstakingly handcrafts this metaphoric scab picker to reopen that old emotional wound?


You think that's bad. His wife's the one who made the embroidered "God's Will" seat cushion.
 
2014-05-12 04:01:56 PM
Chair in question?

img.fark.net
 
2014-05-12 04:05:26 PM

Cold_Sassy: brap: Part of me thinks this is really sweet and part of me thinks, this poor woman finally gets to the point where she can move on emotionally - and some guy painstakingly handcrafts this metaphoric scab picker to reopen that old emotional wound?

This is what I think.  Keep a few things to look at every now and then but get rid of the rest of it and move on.  It's not good to perpetually morn a passing.  Time heals, but not if you have a daily reminder of the bad thing that happened.


Totally.

One of the biggest problems that humanity has is its collective inability to get over the death of a loved one. You have to LET IT GO. Or you'll go crazy.
 
2014-05-12 04:24:23 PM

jaylectricity: I hate to judge a book by its cover, but she don't look like mom material.


Every picture she has the same stare...like a doll's stare.
 
2014-05-12 04:25:51 PM

The Pope of Manwich Village: brap: Part of me thinks this is really sweet and part of me thinks, this poor woman finally gets to the point where she can move on emotionally - and some guy painstakingly handcrafts this metaphoric scab picker to reopen that old emotional wound?

You think that's bad. His wife's the one who made the embroidered "God's Will" seat cushion.


Oh F*ck no.  Never, ever say that to a grieving parent.


To those of you who say that the mom needs to get over it, or that this gift could reopen the wounds, I can say from experience that you don't ever "get over" or "move on" from losing a child, and bringing it up doesn't remind you that it happened.  You always remember.  (That doesn't mean you don't keep going on with your life, of course.)
 
2014-05-12 04:32:35 PM

QueenMamaBee: czei: About 1 in 160 pregnancies end in stillbirth.  Not that her emotional loss wasn't difficult, but I can't figure out why she wouldn't keep the kid and try to get pregnant again at some point in the future.


When I clicked I really wasn't thinking that this thread would have me laughing my ass off, but there it is.

/I know he meant "crib".
 
2014-05-12 04:36:34 PM

Rex Kramer - Danger Seeker: HAHAHAHAHAHAHA, I GET IT!! It's dusty because you're all teared up, right??? That is the absolute height of humor right there boy and every time I read that line on Fark (which is basically every day) I laugh even harder!
I can't wait until someone posts that line again, oh man, finally a reason to live!


It's dusty in here
 
2014-05-12 04:36:57 PM
For a PROFIT!
 
2014-05-12 05:08:31 PM

DoctorWhat: The Pope of Manwich Village: brap: Part of me thinks this is really sweet and part of me thinks, this poor woman finally gets to the point where she can move on emotionally - and some guy painstakingly handcrafts this metaphoric scab picker to reopen that old emotional wound?

You think that's bad. His wife's the one who made the embroidered "God's Will" seat cushion.

Oh F*ck no.  Never, ever say that to a grieving parent.


To those of you who say that the mom needs to get over it, or that this gift could reopen the wounds, I can say from experience that you don't ever "get over" or "move on" from losing a child, and bringing it up doesn't remind you that it happened.  You always remember.  (That doesn't mean you don't keep going on with your life, of course.)


Agreed. I'd also caution that it may not be safe to say anything along the line of "well, you can always just try again!" When I was in the delivery room for an induced stillbirth the on-call OB/GYN said to me "Meh, you know who I really feel bad for? Women who can't get pregnant in the first place". While I realized on some level that he didn't know me or have any way of knowing that I'd already had a room full of specialists advise me NOT to try again, the part of me that recognized that was busy and exceptionally pissed off, and it still took two nurses and my ex to keep me from punching him in the face.
 
2014-05-12 05:58:41 PM

lohphat: offacue: czei: About 1 in 160 pregnancies end in stillbirth.  Not that her emotional loss wasn't difficult, but I can't figure out why she wouldn't keep the kid and try to get pregnant again at some point in the future.

In a jar?  On the mantle?

On the piano.

/should I not have said that?


+1
 
2014-05-12 06:03:04 PM

czei: LazyMedia: QueenMamaBee: czei: About 1 in 160 pregnancies end in stillbirth.  Not that her emotional loss wasn't difficult, but I can't figure out why she wouldn't keep the kid and try to get pregnant again at some point in the future.

[images.sodahead.com image 220x326]

I'm assuming he meant crib? Yeah, sure, keep a crib around to remind you of your loss; that's a great emotional plan, and think of the money you'll save on buying a new one. Jesus, how cheap are you?

The majority of pregnancies do not come to term, so if you're going to get rid of the baby equipment after each one its going to get mighty expensive.  I think in the long run it would be more comforting to understand that losing a baby like this is part of the natural process and there will be other opportunities, very soon, to try again.


God, I hope you are kidding.  that is the dumbest statement I have read today. Please read your link and then think of when one might buy baby supplies.
 
2014-05-12 10:00:11 PM
Something happened to a stranger and I cried like a little biatch.  Wipe my man-tears.  It's okay.
 
2014-05-12 10:03:27 PM

DoctorWhat: To those of you who say that the mom needs to get over it, or that this gift could reopen the wounds, I can say from experience that you don't ever "get over" or "move on" from losing a child, and bringing it up doesn't remind you that it happened.  You always remember.  (That doesn't mean you don't keep going on with your life, of course.)


My mom has three little brothers who grew up to become my very entertaining uncles, but before they were born she had a sister who only lived for three days. A few years ago, my grandpa got my grandma a charm bracelet, and there were birthstones for all five children--over half a century after the baby died. They moved on (I mean, they had three more kids after that!), but they never really got over it.
 
2014-05-12 10:28:14 PM

czei: LazyMedia: QueenMamaBee: czei: About 1 in 160 pregnancies end in stillbirth.  Not that her emotional loss wasn't difficult, but I can't figure out why she wouldn't keep the kid and try to get pregnant again at some point in the future.

[images.sodahead.com image 220x326]

I'm assuming he meant crib? Yeah, sure, keep a crib around to remind you of your loss; that's a great emotional plan, and think of the money you'll save on buying a new one. Jesus, how cheap are you?

The majority of pregnancies do not come to term, so if you're going to get rid of the baby equipment after each one its going to get mighty expensive.  I think in the long run it would be more comforting to understand that losing a baby like this is part of the natural process and there will be other opportunities, very soon, to try again.


If you don't intuitively understand the difference in emotional impact of a first-trimester miscarriage and a still birth, there's no hope for you.
 
2014-05-12 10:42:11 PM

brap: Part of me thinks this is really sweet and part of me thinks, this poor woman finally gets to the point where she can move on emotionally - and some guy painstakingly handcrafts this metaphoric scab picker to reopen that old emotional wound?


I read this earlier and didn't want to respond right away because I'm not trying to make this thread about me.
But, as somebody who has experienced a stillborn situation I can give some insight. Our daughter stopped moving around inside my girl's womb about 5 weeks before due date. We went to the doctor. No heartbeat.

Now I'm not sure if it would be worse to not know the baby was coming out dead or if going to the hospital and waiting until we can induce labor knowing the baby is coming out dead would be worse because I only experienced the latter.

At first, yeah, all reminders had to go. We put the stuff we got from the hospital (her blanket, little hat, SD card with the pictures we took) and her cremated remains and the little building bloc urn we put her in into a shoe box, taped it up and stuck it in a closet.

It was real tough for awhile. What made it tougher was all the places we had registered for the baby shower. We STILL get cards and coupons from Babys-R-Us, Gerber, Similac, etc. Never knew what we'd find in the mailbox. It sucked. I would usually grab them and throw them away before my girl got home for work.

We personally took all of the baby stuff we had and put it at her brother's house. For this woman to still have the crib, she probably has been dealing with the reminder all this time.

After awhile, it became easier to remember and think about things. The positive things like the smile on my girl's face. The way my family started to make more contact with me. Stuff like that. My mom told me that I should consider myself a father. That my daughter should remain a memory forever. It sucks that it didn't work out. But maybe it just had to happen this way.

I'm willing to bet that if not now, eventually this memorial piece of furniture will become one of the mother's favorite things. Providing she already had kids or has more children afterwards. It's a reminder to love your child and hold them close, because you never know...

As for us, my girl may be pregnant again. Not sure yet, way too early for announcements, but I wouldn't be surprised if she buys a test to find out for sure in the next few days.

Thanks for reading. I usually post on this site to make jokes or make a contribution to a thread. I guess this is the latter.
 
2014-05-12 11:52:14 PM
jaylectricity:
I read this earlier and didn't want to respond right away because I'm not trying to make this thread about me.
But, as somebody who has experienced a stillborn situation I can give some insight.


This link first caught my eye as someone who loves woodworking and recycling old wood things into new wood things.  Not too much about that in the story.  But I clicked on the comments anyway.  I expected to find the usual bunch of snarky comments and, sure enough, there they were.

And then there was your post.  Your story was touching.  Beautifully written and sensitively told.  I have known too many friends who have lost children - late term miscarriages, stillbirths, and even young children to accident or illness.  They never get over it.  They can get on with their lives, and most do.  But there is always that loss.  I have been fortunate to never have to endure that loss.

I wish you and your girl well.  May you be blessed with as many children as you want.  Thanks for your story.
 
2014-05-13 01:04:23 AM

Mr. Right: jaylectricity:
I read this earlier and didn't want to respond right away because I'm not trying to make this thread about me.
But, as somebody who has experienced a stillborn situation I can give some insight.

This link first caught my eye as someone who loves woodworking and recycling old wood things into new wood things.  Not too much about that in the story.  But I clicked on the comments anyway.  I expected to find the usual bunch of snarky comments and, sure enough, there they were.

And then there was your post.  Your story was touching.  Beautifully written and sensitively told.  I have known too many friends who have lost children - late term miscarriages, stillbirths, and even young children to accident or illness.  They never get over it.  They can get on with their lives, and most do.  But there is always that loss.  I have been fortunate to never have to endure that loss.

I wish you and your girl well.  May you be blessed with as many children as you want.  Thanks for your story.


Thank you for reading. And thank you for taking the time to post in this thread to thank me.
 
2014-05-13 03:52:42 AM
I don't have the citation because I can't find it, but I read that her tubes were tied right after the birth. Her mom has a petition going asking doctors to give a few weeks to moms of stillborn babies before asking for consent for such a procedure. She agreed at the time but now regrets it, apparently.
 
2014-05-13 11:35:25 AM

jst3p: Quinn?


I was thinking the same thing, he could make the crib into an aquarium, shadow box thing.
 
2014-05-13 03:41:22 PM

Zizzowop: jst3p: Quinn?

I was thinking the same thing, he could make the crib into an aquarium, shadow box thing.


Stahp!
 
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