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(Huffington Post)   Scientific proof that life gets better as you get older   (huffingtonpost.com) divider line 131
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2014-04-10 09:25:47 PM  
What a Load! Remember, Life is like a shiat Sandwich, the more Bread you have the less shiat you have to eat. Don't tell me Money isn't Everything, if you don't have it you have Nothing.
 
2014-04-10 09:26:08 PM  
I hope it does get better, because my 40s have been miserable.  I'm aware of mortality more than I've ever been before, and every bit of happiness is tainted with sadness due to the awareness that everything is completely meaningless and will all be over soon.
 
2014-04-10 09:26:34 PM  

Blink: When I turned 40, my father gave me this wonderful advice:

Your 40's will be the most miserable years of your life.  There is nothing good about being 40.  However, it gets better in your 50's.

Nice to see this article basically confirms that assessment.


Man I'm really hoping for this, but I doubt it.  True: 40's SUCK.
 
2014-04-10 09:26:38 PM  
Old age is when you can quietly reflect on the great life you had as a youngster and threw away.
 
2014-04-10 09:28:35 PM  
Actually the article doesn't say that life gets better, more that age allows people to be capable of being happy with what they've got, apparently.
 
2014-04-10 09:31:55 PM  
Life gets better as you get older only because if you do not get older, you have died.
 
2014-04-10 09:32:18 PM  
How is being closer to death in any way "better?"
 
2014-04-10 09:34:09 PM  
Science ain't met my life apparently
 
2014-04-10 09:36:04 PM  
Not on the list, acting like an asshole and feigning dementia. That must be awesome. 35 here and moderately happy, though I thought having a PhD would mean more money than a RN or construction worker. Kids, fark graduate school.
 
2014-04-10 09:38:34 PM  
Well, let me think on that one for a bit...

...

...nnnnnnnope.
 
2014-04-10 09:39:20 PM  
Can we take a moment in this, of all threads, and remember our dear departed Quantum Apostrophe, gone lo these four months? I remember like it was just yesterday when he would come in and take a long threadshiat in space discussions and then freak out about how he was going to die.

♫ Memories... ♫
 
2014-04-10 09:40:07 PM  
Aging and happiness depend on a few things in order to go together.

First, is money. Paid up mortgages and loans, sufficient income to cover insurance premiums and increasing medical bills as well as any repairs needed to your home or car.

Having a loving spouse goes a great way towards happiness. Two people who love and support each other have a 'buffer zone' to protect them against the changing world and to draw strength from when troubled times hit.

General health is a big thing. It's hard to be happy when your body seems to be falling apart faster than you can fix it. Over 40, depending on your previous lifestyle, you can expect to find some indications of eventual arthritis, especially you sports minded guys who went nuts not only every super bowl, but who just had to get out there with Da Boyz and play football, basketball and baseball at every opportunity.

Goes for you ATV and dirt bike nuts also. All of those spills, crashes, broken bones, strained muscles, bruises, mild concussions and stitches come back to haunt you. Sturdy knees give out or suddenly start to ache, shoulders develop a tendency to throb, elbows might twinge and the lower back will really complain if you've manage to damage it slightly over time.

Teeth tend to go, even if you've taken excellent care of them and, short of expensive implants, you'll probably wind up with dentures and that artificial 'denture smile'. Bad fitting dentures can be a real PIA until you finally manage to get them adjusted after many trips to the dentist.

You'll be more satisfied with yourself, provided that things went well from about age 12 to 45. If they didn't, then you're liable to carry a baggage load of resentments, regrets and what-ifs. Again, this is also linked into money. If you told your boss off at 25 on principals and lost the job that would have eventually made you over $200,000 a year to wind up only making $100,000, you may have regrets at 69.

Maybe at 25 those bar fights you got into were justified, fun, and boys being boys but your arrest record held you back from getting certain lucrative promotions, those long healed skull and jaw fractures start to hurt when the weather changes and your physician has become concerned about your liver due to scarring from old fist impacts.

Your environment plays a big role. Have the house you want, in the neighborhood you like, with friends you get along with and the security you want and things are good. Live in a place you dislike but that's all you can afford and have PIA neighbors whose sole purpose in life seems to annoy everyone around them and you aren't going to be real happy.

Unfortunately, neighborhoods you loved in your thirties and planned to live in forever tend to change and can become a nightmare you can't afford to flee from.

It is nice to know you've accomplished what you set out to do. Maybe even more. If you have a loving, interactive family, that's even better and something to brag about -- but if you have one that argues a lot, has a host of problems and resentments, makes even holidays tricky and are reluctant to even consider helping care for you when you get too old -- then you have a problem.

Satisfaction of yourself carries on into old age. If you're not that satisfied when young, then you probably will not be when old.

Plus from the time you were a happy kid to the time you need a scooter to get around, everything around you changes. Some changes are hard to accept. Some will seem stupid. Like why would a healthy kid go skateboarding with no protective gear, try and do tricks off roofs, down stairways and across walls and wind up repeatedly breaking bones, nearly killing himself and get back up and do it again? Sadist?

Also, when did telephones get so darn complicated? Your 6 year old granddaughter uses hers to contact people all across the globe, see places you never dreamed of, talk to folks in outer space and it keeps track of where she is. Yet you can't recall how to turn yours on.

Plus, you have a granddaughter now, yet inside your head, you still kind of think you're 28, a fact shattered each time you look in a mirror and see your face kind of starting to melt.

Sex can be good -- but it can take more effort not only to get aroused but to do the deed and that visceral, mind numbing, nearly out of body experience at climax has tempered down to just a fun cum. You will probably need the assistance of some little blue pills to get the Soldier to stand at attention for the entire act, but there's no guarantee he'll have sufficient ammo to shoot like before -- or even at all.

Those days of laying in bed in your teens and your soldier firing off so hard that he hits the roof are things of the past. Now, you're lucky if he hits your shoes if you're standing.

Your body will start changing also, going from the beautiful, lithe creation of your youth, to something resembling an infant. Only, bigger, more hairy and since when did your nose hair grow like weeds and how long have your ears been sprouting that annoying mass of fur?

Yeah. Your hormones will have settled down to where you're not as quick to fight or charge into battle and you probably will not miss that. You will discover that your strength is slowly decreasing so you can't go and chop wood all day and go dancing at night like in your 20's. Besides, the current music of the time will probably annoy the crap out of you and you'll long for the good beats of your youth when music made more sense.

So, you can be happy, but you're going to have a lot to adapt to.

Still, at 85, if you can sit and watch the sunset with the woman of your dreams, not get shot doing so, maybe have a beer and feel alright -- then you've succeeded.
 
2014-04-10 09:41:13 PM  

Lapdance: What a Load! Remember, Life is like a shiat Sandwich, the more Bread you have the less shiat you have to eat. Don't tell me Money isn't Everything, if you don't have it you have Nothing.


WhaT's wItH thE rAndoM capITaLizaTIons?
 
2014-04-10 09:41:50 PM  

Blink: When I turned 40, my father gave me this wonderful advice:

Your 40's will be the most miserable years of your life.  There is nothing good about being 40.  However, it gets better in your 50's.

Nice to see this article basically confirms that assessment.


30s were the best. Plenty attraction to the women of 20s 30s and 40s. Being in your 40s.... yea not so much. Money's better tho.
 
2014-04-10 09:42:44 PM  
*Sigh* Well, death is better in some cases, yes; that's what getting older invariably leads to. Oh, and the part near the end when you forget who you are and what year it is and all that; that's got to be better than something. I guess.
 
2014-04-10 09:42:57 PM  
The study says 23 and 69 are statistically the best years? Good lord. I would never want to be 23 again.

I'm convinced people make major breakthroughs in self awareness and overall happiness in their late 20s to early 30s. I can totally imagine it getting even better. So I can only conclude 23 is approximately when people are getting first "real" jobs and wrapping up the school stuff. But for me I felt like I had a long way to go then.

Guess I'm a weirdo.

/32
 
2014-04-10 09:45:14 PM  
All I know is I don't miss my twenties. Not one bit.
 
2014-04-10 09:47:04 PM  
My 40's were interesting, since I got married later in life and got to be the dad of twins at 44.  I learned why all my friends had their kids in their 20's, but, they're 19 now and I think they've helped me keep a much more youthful view of things.  I'm shocked to see the way people my age act, but hell, I've always been immature my whole life, so it's no wonder i don't understand where they're coming from.
 
2014-04-10 09:50:43 PM  

EdNortonsTwin: 30s were the best. Plenty attraction to the women of 20s 30s and 40s. Being in your 40s.... yea not so much. Money's better tho.


I've been perfectly happy with my 40s so far. I was accused of being 40 when I was 18, so maybe I'm just catching up to myself. I hated my 20s. No one took me seriously, and I knew I was missing something vital. That something was not being a young dumbass with no experience or knowledge.

Of course, my ace in the hole is asthma. Although it's never been a major health risk, I never got to feel the immortal bloom of youth that so many people evidently get in their 20s. It also meant I was on some sort of medication at any given time. So now, in my 40s, I'm still feeling just about the same as I always have, if not better, because I eat better and exercise more than I did in my 20s. Everyone else who thought they were bulletproof now get to deal with things like tiredness, shortness of breath and various chronic ailments. To me, it's just business as usual. To them, it's like a Facebook poke from Death itself. To which I say, hahahahaha, suck it up, cupcakes.
 
2014-04-10 09:54:38 PM  

ColSanders: I hope it does get better, because my 40s have been miserable.  I'm aware of mortality more than I've ever been before, and every bit of happiness is tainted with sadness due to the awareness that everything is completely meaningless and will all be over soon.


You always have your chicken to fall back on so don't feel too bad.
 
2014-04-10 10:02:02 PM  
At 42 I think I still have some room for improvement.
The most difficult part of my life until I was 35 was the slow pace of my emotional maturity.
Once I was able to reframe what I expect from life and learn to be grateful for all I have, then I was able to sleep better and have few regrets.  Fortunately, early in life I learned to act in a way I would not regret.  I do the right thing because I know it is easier on my conscience and I value my peace of mind above all emotions.
I love my work and get paid for doing what I find rewarding.  I enjoy my free speech and say what I want while respecting people is also what I want.  It is a good life.  I am happy with where my life has ended up.  But without my faith and being able to thank God for all I have, it would not be worth anything.
 
2014-04-10 10:02:27 PM  
Great, subby.

Now I have this song stuck in my head because they used the phrase:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wd2clb5T8JA

Hopefully now everyone else has that stuck in their minds too.

Probably only works for people over 40
 
2014-04-10 10:04:53 PM  

MaudlinMutantMollusk: God-is-a-Taco: Boomers get to die before the world entirely turns to shiat by their hand, so they have that going for them.

Yep. Everyone born within that arbitrary media-created date range is an asshole, right?


Whew. Glad I wasn't the guy to say it.
 
2014-04-10 10:06:40 PM  

MaudlinMutantMollusk: Yep. Everyone born within that arbitrary media-created date range is an asshole, right?


When you're right, you're right.
 
2014-04-10 10:07:49 PM  

AverageAmericanGuy: I think it must suck for women to get older as they lose their youth and vigor, basically the only things that give them any value.


Boooooooo
 
2014-04-10 10:10:07 PM  
Thank you

/I now know whose opinions and comments I can completely disregard
 
2014-04-10 10:11:59 PM  
FTA: The types of experiences that make us happy tend to shift as we move through life.... older adults assign higer value to ordinary experiences and everyday pleasures...

Although I am not yet "old" (early 40's), I can speak to this concept in my life a bit. I have worked continually for the last 15 years, but my job was recently outsourced*. So for the last month I have been unemployed. A After 15 years of going to work almost every day what I take the most pleasure in on a daily basis right now is making coffee with my Aeropress. I have a bag of Kirkland espresso beans, an electric coffee grinder, a big jug of ghirardelli white chocolate sauce from Costco with a pump from Cash and Carry, a few different types of flavored syrup, and a big box of those little individual creamers. Going through the whole process of making a cup of coffee using all these thing once or twice a day is very relaxing and satisfying for some reason. Just having the time to do it at my own pace and make it just the way I like, is rewarding.

When I go back to work all this will end, but right now I have a little glimpse of how when I am in my 60's and retired these kinds of little daily activities will be far more satisfying that you would think as an outside observer.

*If anyone in the Tacoma to Seattle area is looking for an IT team lead, IT auditor/controls tester, email me.
 
2014-04-10 10:12:01 PM  

Blink: Your 40's will be the most miserable years of your life. There is nothing good about being 40. However, it gets better in your 50's.


dinwv: Man I'm really hoping for this, but I doubt it. True: 40's SUCK.


Uh, I'm 2 years from 40 and things suck pretty badly now.  Not looking forward to 40 at all now (not that I really was in the first place).
 
2014-04-10 10:12:07 PM  

MaudlinMutantMollusk: /I now know whose opinions and comments I can completely disregard


Just remember Woodstock, it'll all feel better.

We kid because we secretly love Freedom Rock.
 
2014-04-10 10:15:48 PM  

theorellior: MaudlinMutantMollusk: Yep. Everyone born within that arbitrary media-created date range is an asshole, right?

When you're right, you're right.


My family, career, good decisions with money, and property are all awesome. What I've never admitted out loud before, and I suppose it's kind of pendant, is my pride over the number of good looking women I got lucky with before I settled down. It's a lot and I managed no serious STDs. Shallow victories I suppose, but when I see all the young beautiful women I'll never again get, I've got to hold on to a little bit of that something.
 
2014-04-10 10:16:48 PM  

meow said the dog: I have agreement. If you are the older person and engage in the coital relationship with the individual who is the younger than you and then look at the old saggies that the same aged peer individuals of you are doing the sexing of it provides to you the smiling and the smug satisfaction of this.


If you consider the life of a well aged person.  Say 112 years old.  Then assume they have sex from 15 to 70 that is 55 years of potential sex.  That leaves 57 years without sex. and 110 as break even.   Now if you were to include masturbation, that number could increase in a total count of days but if you count the actual days you had sex vs the ones you did not, most people could die in their 60's and have more days where they did not have sex.
So sex is a lousy measurement of happiness in life.   At least fatties get to eat every day.
 
2014-04-10 10:18:05 PM  
25 was great, the world was in front of me. 56 is better, I was born to be retired. Less anxiety, nothing to prove. Hopefully I've got a few good years ahead and then I'll see what happens.
 
2014-04-10 10:27:53 PM  

joaquin closet: 25 was great, the world was in front of me. 56 is better, I was born to be retired. Less anxiety, nothing to prove. Hopefully I've got a few good years ahead and then I'll see what happens.


At 40, having watched the old man go at 63, ten days after retiring, from an aneurysm in his sleep, I am hoping to retire in 11 and 1/2 and spend that same amount retired before I go the same way.

Is it typical in your 40s to envision your own death in a million different ways??
 
2014-04-10 10:31:48 PM  

jimmythrust: joaquin closet: 25 was great, the world was in front of me. 56 is better, I was born to be retired. Less anxiety, nothing to prove. Hopefully I've got a few good years ahead and then I'll see what happens.

At 40, having watched the old man go at 63, ten days after retiring, from an aneurysm in his sleep, I am hoping to retire in 11 and 1/2 and spend that same amount retired before I go the same way.

Is it typical in your 40s to envision your own death in a million different ways??


I think so yes. I find myself contemplating my mortality more as I've gotten older.
 
2014-04-10 10:32:21 PM  

jimmythrust: joaquin closet: 25 was great, the world was in front of me. 56 is better, I was born to be retired. Less anxiety, nothing to prove. Hopefully I've got a few good years ahead and then I'll see what happens.

At 40, having watched the old man go at 63, ten days after retiring, from an aneurysm in his sleep, I am hoping to retire in 11 and 1/2 and spend that same amount retired before I go the same way.

Is it typical in your 40s to envision your own death in a million different ways??


Mine went at 63 also. I think it's normal to start trippin a bit when your in your 40s and you see that.
 
2014-04-10 10:35:47 PM  

jimmythrust: joaquin closet: 25 was great, the world was in front of me. 56 is better, I was born to be retired. Less anxiety, nothing to prove. Hopefully I've got a few good years ahead and then I'll see what happens.

At 40, having watched the old man go at 63, ten days after retiring, from an aneurysm in his sleep, I am hoping to retire in 11 and 1/2 and spend that same amount retired before I go the same way.

Is it typical in your 40s to envision your own death in a million different ways??


Some of us wake up one day and realize that each day could be the last.  It changes everything.  If at the end of the day you managed to get through another day without dying then you won another achievement in life.
 
2014-04-10 10:37:22 PM  
Now you have all depressed/inspired me. God bless farkers.
 
2014-04-10 10:39:43 PM  

EdNortonsTwin: jimmythrust: joaquin closet: 25 was great, the world was in front of me. 56 is better, I was born to be retired. Less anxiety, nothing to prove. Hopefully I've got a few good years ahead and then I'll see what happens.

At 40, having watched the old man go at 63, ten days after retiring, from an aneurysm in his sleep, I am hoping to retire in 11 and 1/2 and spend that same amount retired before I go the same way.

Is it typical in your 40s to envision your own death in a million different ways??

Mine went at 63 also. I think it's normal to start trippin a bit when your in your 40s and you see that.


So if my granddad is 102 and still drives, and my dad is 72 and preparing for his next backpacking trip in canada, I should be pretty psyched right? If I retire at sixty I've got forty plus good years left. Sweet.
 
2014-04-10 10:43:03 PM  
That's because by 69 everyone's discovered the secret to happiness:  Lowered Expectations:

i10.photobucket.com
 
2014-04-10 10:44:57 PM  
Speaking as a guy in my depressed 40s, I'm pretty sure it comes down to two things: money and kids.  As you start getting out of your 40s, the money starts being less of an issue and the kids start to be able to care for/entertain themselves,  Money doesn't necessarily bring happiness, but the lack of it certainly brings misery.  Being able to plan more than a paycheck ahead and have enough to blow on the occasional luxury makes a huge difference.

As far as kids as they get older, you send up playing taxi for their events (annoying) but emotionally it's less difficult than trying to handle a couple of tantruming toddlers, and as they start to actually be able to do the things you've been working with them on it's really satisfying.  One of my sons has gone from making horrible noises to actually playing fairly pleasant music, the other is busy making all of us woven rubber band bracelets of his own design- and they can do these things without constant oversight so M&D can get a break and read a book every now and then.
 
2014-04-10 11:00:17 PM  

CruJones: EdNortonsTwin: jimmythrust: joaquin closet: 25 was great, the world was in front of me. 56 is better, I was born to be retired. Less anxiety, nothing to prove. Hopefully I've got a few good years ahead and then I'll see what happens.

At 40, having watched the old man go at 63, ten days after retiring, from an aneurysm in his sleep, I am hoping to retire in 11 and 1/2 and spend that same amount retired before I go the same way.

Is it typical in your 40s to envision your own death in a million different ways??

Mine went at 63 also. I think it's normal to start trippin a bit when your in your 40s and you see that.

So if my granddad is 102 and still drives, and my dad is 72 and preparing for his next backpacking trip in canada, I should be pretty psyched right? If I retire at sixty I've got forty plus good years left. Sweet.


Nice genes champ - go get um!
 
2014-04-10 11:15:29 PM  

EdNortonsTwin: jimmythrust: joaquin closet: 25 was great, the world was in front of me. 56 is better, I was born to be retired. Less anxiety, nothing to prove. Hopefully I've got a few good years ahead and then I'll see what happens.

At 40, having watched the old man go at 63, ten days after retiring, from an aneurysm in his sleep, I am hoping to retire in 11 and 1/2 and spend that same amount retired before I go the same way.

Is it typical in your 40s to envision your own death in a million different ways??

Mine went at 63 also. I think it's normal to start trippin a bit when your in your 40s and you see that.


Mine went at 62, and that was after being incapacitated for 2.5 years.  I take better care of myself, but....WOW it's not THAT far away.....
 
2014-04-10 11:19:25 PM  

AverageAmericanGuy: I think it must suck for women to get older as they lose their youth and vigor, basically the only things that give them any value.


But we live longer than men. So it equals out.
 
2014-04-10 11:20:36 PM  
Happiness peaks at 69.

i390.photobucket.com
 
2014-04-10 11:24:22 PM  

Nidiot: Actually the article doesn't say that life gets better, more that age allows people to be capable of being happy with what they've got, apparently.


This is the approach I've taken in regards to my marriage. The article calls it acceptance but it feels more like surrender.
 
2014-04-10 11:27:59 PM  

farkette716: AverageAmericanGuy: I think it must suck for women to get older as they lose their youth and vigor, basically the only things that give them any value.

Boooooooo


Don't worry about him. You and I know better.
 
2014-04-10 11:32:53 PM  
Please report to sleep shop

mocksure.files.wordpress.com
 
2014-04-10 11:35:19 PM  

Glockenspiel Hero: Speaking as a guy in my depressed 40s, I'm pretty sure it comes down to two things: money and kids.  As you start getting out of your 40s, the money starts being less of an issue and the kids start to be able to care for/entertain themselves,  Money doesn't necessarily bring happiness, but the lack of it certainly brings misery.  Being able to plan more than a paycheck ahead and have enough to blow on the occasional luxury makes a huge difference.

As far as kids as they get older, you send up playing taxi for their events (annoying) but emotionally it's less difficult than trying to handle a couple of tantruming toddlers, and as they start to actually be able to do the things you've been working with them on it's really satisfying.  One of my sons has gone from making horrible noises to actually playing fairly pleasant music, the other is busy making all of us woven rubber band bracelets of his own design- and they can do these things without constant oversight so M&D can get a break and read a book every now and then.


Isn't that what's life is all about? Answer: Yes
 
2014-04-10 11:40:39 PM  

Random Internet Persona: farkette716: AverageAmericanGuy: I think it must suck for women to get older as they lose their youth and vigor, basically the only things that give them any value.

Boooooooo

Don't worry about him. You and I know better.


Yay!
 
2014-04-10 11:42:11 PM  
I and this killer spastic knot in the middle of my back that's been there for four farking months would beg to differ....
 
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