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2014-04-07 05:43:43 PM
Women who engage in casual sex set higher standards on their new boy-toy than they place on men considered relationship potential.

2.bp.blogspot.com

Farkettes, help me out here.
 
2014-04-07 05:44:54 PM
Not sure why the author keeps saying "lots of sex" when she means "lots of sexual partners". I mean, that's what we're talking about here, right? They don't mean the same thing. If you're trying to change preconceptions, why not say what you mean.

She cites research concluding that the typical woman puts a lot more time into getting to know someone before boning them than the typical man. That doesn't seem like a myth-shattering tidbit, and I'm guessing those aren't the same women who men think of as "easy". But what do I know.  I'm not sex and relationship writer.

She must have been exhausted from time traveling back to 1996 to retrieve the phrase "all that and a bag of chips".
 
2014-04-07 06:00:56 PM
Fat chicks give the best head. Disprove THAT.

//plus your blog sucks
 
2014-04-07 06:58:59 PM
OregonVet: Fat chicks give the best head. Disprove THAT.


i.chzbgr.com
 
2014-04-07 07:09:33 PM

fusillade762: Women who engage in casual sex set higher standards on their new boy-toy than they place on men considered relationship potential.

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Farkettes, help me out here.


My take: If she's going to go against what she's hard-wired for (commitment), then it better be good.  If things like fidelity, common interests, and fatherhood don't matter, then he better look like a Calvin Klein model and be packing a 2-pound kielbasa.  She doesn't want to slut it up (NTTAWWT) with a loser like me you.

Just like when men go against their hard-wired predilection (procreating with as many partners as possible), we make sure it counts.  Women view this as commitment phobia when we are really just making 100% sure that we got the best peach in the basket.
 
2014-04-07 07:11:27 PM

OregonVet: Fat chicks give the best head. Disprove THAT.

//plus your blog sucks


primary.jvo.io

/oblig
 
2014-04-07 07:11:34 PM

tallguywithglasseson: She must have been exhausted from time traveling back to 1996 to retrieve the phrase "all that and a bag of chips".


blogfiles.wfmu.org
 
2014-04-07 07:16:16 PM

Donnchadha: tallguywithglasseson: She must have been exhausted from time traveling back to 1996 to retrieve the phrase "all that and a bag of chips".

[blogfiles.wfmu.org image 504x520]


Oh Brother
 
2014-04-07 07:16:23 PM
They don't have VD?
 
2014-04-07 07:16:50 PM

fusillade762: Women who engage in casual sex set higher standards on their new boy-toy than they place on men considered relationship potential.



Farkettes, help me out here.


Nooooo idea. Sorry.
 
2014-04-07 07:17:21 PM
Subby, women who have lots of sex with other people, but not with me, are likely lesbians. That's what I tell myself as I weep into my pillow.
 
2014-04-07 07:17:33 PM
Myth: Women Who Have a Lot of Sex Have Low Self-Esteem or Self Worth

I am sorry but this is so true. Or at least "Women who have low Self Esteem have lots of sex" is true.
 
2014-04-07 07:18:00 PM

fusillade762: Women who engage in casual sex set higher standards on their new boy-toy than they place on men considered relationship potential.



Farkettes, help me out here.


Oh. OH. I GET IT.

It's stupid, that's all! Just stupid. Phew, glad that's over.
 
2014-04-07 07:21:57 PM
You could have just said "Myths about half the planet".
 
2014-04-07 07:22:27 PM
That's... a lot of personal insecurity presented under a thin pretense of being "informative".  Debunking myths that no one has actually believed in two decades in a tone implying that it means you're totally cool is kind of a giveaway that you think you kind of suck, columnist, you need to go find someone to teach you how to obfuscate better.

Banned on the Run:

what she's hard-wired for (commitment),

Just like when men go against their hard-wired predilection (procreating with as many partners as possible)


So... just letting you know, this branch of biology has advanced significantly since when you last took biology, apparently in the mid-1950s.  Neither of those things are actually hard-wired primate behaviors, both humans and other ape species default to having a primary partner but also sleeping around a lot on the side.

What you're describing is a socially-enforced behavior from the 1200s when the system of government was tied to primogeniture, not anything biological.
 
2014-04-07 07:24:50 PM
Women aren't monogamous, they're hypergamous.  The author should really try to keep up with research from the last few decades, rather than use self-help magazines from the 1950s as her straw men.
 
2014-04-07 07:25:00 PM
www.chrisharding.net
 
2014-04-07 07:25:14 PM
She dothn't hath to be myth right, jutht myth right now.
 
2014-04-07 07:27:06 PM
Other myths not covered :

Women who have lots of sex farm the best potatoes.

Women who have lots of sex score higher on presidential trivia quizzes.

Women who have lots of sex can alter the weather with their thoughts.

Women who have lots of sex see more shades of green than those who do not.
 
2014-04-07 07:27:56 PM

megarian: fusillade762: Women who engage in casual sex set higher standards on their new boy-toy than they place on men considered relationship potential.



Farkettes, help me out here.

Nooooo idea. Sorry.


If they just want to get laid, it's purely physical, so they're gonna focus on physical attributes - if they're looking for a relationship, other factors are more important.

Men wanting a quick lay will jump someone they'd never consider dating.

It's all about who controls access to the vagina
 
2014-04-07 07:29:59 PM

tallguywithglasseson: Not sure why the author keeps saying "lots of sex" when she means "lots of sexual partners". I mean, that's what we're talking about here, right? They don't mean the same thing. If you're trying to change preconceptions, why not say what you mean.


This x1000.
 
2014-04-07 07:30:26 PM

Jim_Callahan: That's... a lot of personal insecurity presented under a thin pretense of being "informative".  Debunking myths that no one has actually believed in two decades in a tone implying that it means you're totally cool is kind of a giveaway that you think you kind of suck, columnist, you need to go find someone to teach you how to obfuscate better.

Banned on the Run:

what she's hard-wired for (commitment),

Just like when men go against their hard-wired predilection (procreating with as many partners as possible)

So... just letting you know, this branch of biology has advanced significantly since when you last took biology, apparently in the mid-1950s.  Neither of those things are actually hard-wired primate behaviors, both humans and other ape species default to having a primary partner but also sleeping around a lot on the side.

What you're describing is a socially-enforced behavior from the 1200s when the system of government was tied to primogeniture, not anything biological.


OK, "hard-wired" may have been a poor choice of words.  Mammalian behavior tends to favor males having as many partners as possible and females having one in favor of the security of her offspring, no?
 
2014-04-07 07:31:58 PM

Bill_Wick's_Friend: [www.chrisharding.net image 720x550]


We have a fairly substantial body of (anecdotal) evidence for that difference.  Ask your nearest FtM transsexual who has ever taken testosterone shots.  Almost without exception, the response about 1 week after their first T-shot is "holy shiat... you guys really are that farking horny all the time".
 
2014-04-07 07:35:58 PM

tallguywithglasseson: Not sure why the author keeps saying "lots of sex" when she means "lots of sexual partners".


Because women who have lots of sexual partners are whores.

But women who have lots of sex aren't!  That's a myth!
 
2014-04-07 07:42:05 PM

Bill_Wick's_Friend: [www.chrisharding.net image 720x550]



Two different things.
To use appetite as an analogy, two people may be equally hungry, but only one person might be willing to eat the green thing that has been sitting in the back of the fridge from last month.
The level of desire may be the same, but standards of satisfying that desire are different.
 
2014-04-07 07:43:41 PM
Oh look. A feminist article telling men what idiot sexists they are.

/dnrtfa btw
 
2014-04-07 07:43:59 PM
They're on Tinder
 
2014-04-07 07:44:22 PM

OregonVet: Fat chicks give the best head. Disprove THAT.


Only as far as casual acts are concerned. The best head comes from a woman that wants to be there.
 
2014-04-07 07:44:52 PM

Banned on the Run: Jim_Callahan: That's... a lot of personal insecurity presented under a thin pretense of being "informative".  Debunking myths that no one has actually believed in two decades in a tone implying that it means you're totally cool is kind of a giveaway that you think you kind of suck, columnist, you need to go find someone to teach you how to obfuscate better.

Banned on the Run:

what she's hard-wired for (commitment),

Just like when men go against their hard-wired predilection (procreating with as many partners as possible)

So... just letting you know, this branch of biology has advanced significantly since when you last took biology, apparently in the mid-1950s.  Neither of those things are actually hard-wired primate behaviors, both humans and other ape species default to having a primary partner but also sleeping around a lot on the side.

What you're describing is a socially-enforced behavior from the 1200s when the system of government was tied to primogeniture, not anything biological.

OK, "hard-wired" may have been a poor choice of words.  Mammalian behavior tends to favor males having as many partners as possible and females having one in favor of the security of her offspring, no?


In humans, the strategy changes for women with the menstrual cycle. A fling with a bad boy gets a lot more appealing about three days each month. The rest of the time, she wants a provider and protector to help raise her (but not necessarily his) kids.
 
2014-04-07 07:44:59 PM
Personally, I'm suspicious of new car smell. All too often it comes out of a bottle, can or box.
 
2014-04-07 07:45:56 PM

Shades: Women aren't monogamous, they're hypergamous.  The author should really try to keep up with research from the last few decades, rather than use self-help magazines from the 1950s as her straw men.


Yes, because someone in some article somewhere made up a new word that will never be used by anyone anywhere.
 
2014-04-07 07:46:23 PM
List fails without "The female orgasm".

"Harry Potter and the Myth of the Female Orgasm" would just be too easy to make.
 
2014-04-07 07:48:25 PM
Women who engage in casual sex set higher standards on their new boy-toy than they place on men considered relationship potential.

What a complete load of shiat.
 
2014-04-07 07:48:35 PM
You think I could get page hits if I wrote an article about "Myths about totally sexless dudes who long for the touch of womankind"?
 
2014-04-07 07:49:11 PM
Speaking only for myself, but it's a case of try before you buy. If he's fun, go back for more, if not, then sayonara...
 
2014-04-07 07:50:36 PM
From TFA:  Nothing irritates me more than persistent half-truths and complete fabrications hyped as fact

Like feminism? Or that the patriarchy is keeping you down? all men are potential rapists?
 
2014-04-07 07:55:56 PM

dopekitty74: Speaking only for myself, but it's a case of try before you buy. If he's fun, go back for more, if not, then sayonara...


Well, that's just being a savy consumer.
 
2014-04-07 07:56:17 PM
Men be driving their cars like THIS

But women be driving their cars like THIS
 
2014-04-07 07:59:15 PM

dopekitty74: Speaking only for myself, but it's a case of try before you buy. If he's fun, go back for more, if not, then sayonara...


Fun? How?  Tells funny jokes in bed, or knows his way around your fun zones?  Or something else funner?  Do tell!
 
2014-04-07 08:00:22 PM
Some serious defensiveness in that article. Nobody's trying to call you a slut, lady.

Also I think it's funny how men are apparently the purveyors of these evil stereotypes. No, most of the time it's other women saying this nasty stuff to each other.
 
2014-04-07 08:03:13 PM
FTFA:
Fact:
Fact:
Fact:
Fact:
...


i.imgur.com
 
2014-04-07 08:11:09 PM
Fact: There are multiple examples throughout history and in modern times where women, free from patriarchal dogma, have sex with multiple partners or even multiple husbands.

If the females who have a lot of sex were limited to depraved, damaged or improperly wired ladies, then these societies would not exist or persist.

Granted these cultures are few and far between but frankly, so are matriarchal societies!

Nevertheless, they serve as an illustration that the number of sexual encounters a woman has is determined more by societal and social norms than wiring.


Is she arguing with herself?

.
 
2014-04-07 08:11:15 PM

Danger Avoid Death: Shades: Women aren't monogamous, they're hypergamous.  The author should really try to keep up with research from the last few decades, rather than use self-help magazines from the 1950s as her straw men.

Yes, because someone in some article somewhere made up a new word that will never be used by anyone anywhere.


Oh, so the research doesn't show that women generally try to have kids with bad boys/alphas/$PC_FAVORED_TERM and get the stable, steady guys to provide resources and security.  Sure thing, champ.
 
2014-04-07 08:11:25 PM

spamdog: Some serious defensiveness in that article. Nobody's trying to call you a slut, lady.


Though if you're trying to be one, I'm willing to help.
 
2014-04-07 08:14:23 PM

Shades: Danger Avoid Death: Shades: Women aren't monogamous, they're hypergamous.  The author should really try to keep up with research from the last few decades, rather than use self-help magazines from the 1950s as her straw men.

Yes, because someone in some article somewhere made up a new word that will never be used by anyone anywhere.

Oh, so the research doesn't show that women generally try to have kids with bad boys/alphas/$PC_FAVORED_TERM and get the stable, steady guys to provide resources and security.  Sure thing, champ.


Go hypergamous yourself.
 
2014-04-07 08:15:47 PM

spamdog: Some serious defensiveness in that article. Nobody's trying to call you a slut, lady.

Also I think it's funny how men are apparently the purveyors of these evil stereotypes. No, most of the time it's other women saying this nasty stuff to each other.


Exactly.

Here's the men's version of this article:
sophrosyne.radical.r30.net
 
2014-04-07 08:34:01 PM
I've had the author in my bedroom before....

Of course, we were in elementary school and we were playing with Star Wars action figures or some such shiat.
she lived around the corner from me and we went to the same school.
She was cool then and is cool now.
I had a huge crush on her back then.
 
2014-04-07 08:34:14 PM
Am I the only one that, when reading these types of articles, hears the the voice of Sarah Jessica Parker as the narrator and the theme song to "Sex and the City" as background music?
 
2014-04-07 08:35:28 PM
God bless em'
 
2014-04-07 08:45:21 PM
I believe in a world where women have lots of sex with people other than me because I want to believe in a world where at least someone is happy.

\Otherwise I would be come a super villain who plots to spike the Gotham water supply with anti-anxiety drugs and aphrodisiacs
\\Beware the calming wrath of Pro-Zac!
 
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