Glockenspiel Hero: Umm, she's 8. Kid's understanding of race, gender and the rest are still developing- 7 to 8 year olds are still working on understanding that these things are permanent. How about letting her dress the way she wants and skateboard with the boys if it makes her happy and not stressing about it too much.If she's still feeling like that at 12-14, then you might need some more help.
Spuddy345: Trans kid is trans. I hope he grows up loved and allowed to be himself. Whe he enters adulthood, hopefully he'll be a well adjusted, happy trans guy. Good for him and good for parent.And all the others that stand on the sidelines and snipe? Go read, ask about trans issues and learn. Or go to hell for trying to make people unhappy to fit in with your narrow gender norms. Whichever works.
Anthracite: My question is how does a child see that one gender is better then being another? And exactly what does feeling like a girl feel like? I am a female and I don't feel like wearing dresses or makeup? Is this more about wearing jeans and playing with trucks ? And why wasn't she taught that a girl can do that as well.
Laobaojun: PsiChick: Laoblook at ojun: How would I respond? I sure as hell wouldn't start attention-wh0ring on the internet about it./"Well honey, we can't do anything about it now. How about playing softball this spring? "//"Well honey, we could look at Corvettes, really big watches, and .44 magnum handguns. That is usually pretty close."She's not attention-whoring, she's talking about being supportive of her trans son, because a lot of parents aren't, and will seriously hurt their children. That's a good thing. Admittedly, she could use a few remedial English classes, and a basic course in how to tell a story, but she's doing the right thing here, and good for her./Though I'm not sure I'd give a son the fake name of 'Ruby'...Taking an eight year old's exploration of the world and testing of limits this seriously, then publishing this blather? No, I will stick with attention whore, thank you very much.Seriously, this is Jenny McCarthy level "look at me!" If an eight year old is this determined to act like a boy, the girl is doing things that mommy rewards one way or another, basically responding to parental cues. She is an 11 on the "special little snowflake" dial. Or she might just be a misunderstood Indigo child.Now if there is a genetic test that shows that she is an XXY or some other unusual genotype, that is a whole different issue, and in a few years the child will need to have her special concerns explained to her while her mother is sedated.
mike_d85: MechaPyx: Totally fake article.This is most likely a propaganda piece by the author because there's no way everyone involved would respond in such a rational manner. I mean c'mon...they didn't expel the girl for wearing inappropriate clothing and refusing to obey the rules? The principal was actually aware of gender identity issues and suggested a rational course of action? The mom actually listened and is being sane and reasonable about this? Bullpuckey.The mother is talking about pumping her kid full of hormones to keep her daughter sexually undeveloped until such a time as she can undergo surgery.I'm gonna say "reasonable" is a little generous.
Cerebral Ballsy: I have a little trouble believing that a two or three year old refuses to wear either gender's clothing based solely on gender identity because they don't understand it yet. A three year old may not like to wear itchy frilly dresses but she can't tell the difference between a boy's polo shirt and a girl's.
Laobaojun: How would I respond? I sure as hell wouldn't start attention-wh0ring on the internet about it./"Well honey, we can't do anything about it now. How about playing softball this spring? "//"Well honey, we could look at Corvettes, really big watches, and .44 magnum handguns. That is usually pretty close."
Cerebral Ballsy: I'm not sure if I buy into these articles. I was a tomboy when I was a kid. Gender-wise, I always have identified more with being a boy. But my mother never made this huge drama out of it like this woman and similar parents.I have a little trouble believing that a two or three year old refuses to wear either gender's clothing based solely on gender identity because they don't understand it yet. A three year old may not like to wear itchy frilly dresses but she can't tell the difference between a boy's polo shirt and a girl's.A gender role switch also doesn't necessarily mean a desire to be the opposite sex. And an 8 year old asking to grow a penis might simply want to have all the freedoms she sees the boys enjoying.Even at age six I could tell that most of the girls in my neighborhood were "house-kept".. I even used that phrase for them. They were like little china dolls, their mothers never let them go anywhere. Perhaps this girl has simply noticed her mother's sexist ideas of what is "for boys" and what is "for girls" and decided the boys get the better deal. I certainly did when I was that age.
Mr_Fabulous: Eight-year-olds say goofy shiat all the time. Shrug it off and move on.
Big_Fat_Liar: "On more than one occasion, other parents have commented on my parenting. Once, a couple of mothers suggested I must have wanted a son because of the way encourage Ruby to dress and behave as she does. I was shocked. I ran away and got into my car shaking with anger. I'd never felt more judged. I've also never been more resolute about letting Ruby be herself."Yeah, herself, sure. I think I know why there is no mention of "Ruby's" dad. He stuck it in crazy a few too many times and got the fark out of dodge when shiat started hitting the fan.
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