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(Salon)   "My husband went in for cancer surgery and came out a virgin"   (salon.com) divider line 59
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2014-02-13 12:20:56 AM
I think I got re-directed to the Penthouse Forum website by accident...
 
2014-02-13 12:52:41 AM
What the hell did I just read?
 
2014-02-13 12:54:12 AM
Wow, the actual article is incredibly sad and disturbing. I stopped about half way through. But the gist of it seems to be that her husband had extensive brain damage after cancer surgery and basically forgot huge chunks of short term and long term memory. He seems to have lost the ability to remember or recall his long term memories.

But she is basically just worried about their sex life and lack thereof??

I know what she's going through. My husband had emergency surgery for a malignant brain tumor, leaving him extensively brain damaged, half-blind, and without the ability to read or write, short term memory shot to hell. He died 20 months later. But goddammit the last thing I cared about was our sex life.

What a depressing thing to end the day with. Where are the cat videos?
 
2014-02-13 01:15:02 AM

johnnieconnie: Wow, the actual article is incredibly sad and disturbing. I stopped about half way through. But the gist of it seems to be that her husband had extensive brain damage after cancer surgery and basically forgot huge chunks of short term and long term memory. He seems to have lost the ability to remember or recall his long term memories.

But she is basically just worried about their sex life and lack thereof??

I know what she's going through. My husband had emergency surgery for a malignant brain tumor, leaving him extensively brain damaged, half-blind, and without the ability to read or write, short term memory shot to hell. He died 20 months later. But goddammit the last thing I cared about was our sex life.

What a depressing thing to end the day with. Where are the cat videos?


um
that sucks

but she is writing about her story from 8 years out looking back
and she is being honest about what was happening in her life
which includes physical, mental and emotional
they were high school sweet hearts, had kids in college, a healthy sex life and had been married 20 years when it happened.

it is completely reasonable that along with all of the other problems, she didnt magically turn into a nun.
nice to hear people talking about all parts of life
 
2014-02-13 01:37:53 AM
Christ, if my wife wrote horrific fanfic stories about our sex life like that, I'd thank God I didn't remember it after surgery.

Maybe he's faking it to get a BJ.
 
2014-02-13 01:56:27 AM
This is worse than pony slashfic.
 
2014-02-13 01:58:53 AM

doglover: This is worse than pony slashfic.


No, there's KSP slashfic out there.
 
2014-02-13 02:16:54 AM
I find their story touching. I am teary eyed.
 
2014-02-13 02:17:01 AM
Well isn't that special. What is this,  the Oxygen Network?
 
2014-02-13 02:17:02 AM
So they're approving fanfic erotica now?
 
2014-02-13 02:18:40 AM
That was a really beautiful article. x.x
 
2014-02-13 02:19:48 AM
That read like some bad chickporn romance crap novel.
 
2014-02-13 02:21:40 AM

hardinparamedic: What the hell did I just read?


A Salon article.  They're almost all like that.
 
2014-02-13 02:25:20 AM

Lsherm: Christ, if my wife wrote horrific fanfic stories about our sex life like that, I'd thank God I didn't remember it after surgery.

Maybe he's faking it to get a BJ.


That is wrong...

(More importantly, did it work?)
 
2014-02-13 02:27:09 AM

harrydorcas: I find their story touching. I am teary eyed.


That's not your eye.
 
2014-02-13 02:30:41 AM

hardinparamedic: doglover: This is worse than pony slashfic.

No, there's KSP slashfic out there.


KSP?
 
2014-02-13 02:30:55 AM
I'm torn between feeling bad and heartfelt for this woman, and yet also wanting to criticize her for way too much info for a Salon article. Some things are better left unsaid between a married couple going through rough times in the bedroom.
 
2014-02-13 02:33:20 AM

fusillade762: I think I got re-directed to the Penthouse Forum website by accident...


www1.picturepush.com
 
2014-02-13 02:35:36 AM

doglover: KSP?


Kerbal Space Program.

The greatest thing ever invented.
 
2014-02-13 02:38:38 AM
I got a weird rapey vibe from TFA. The dude couldn't talk, barely remembers who she is, has massive abdominal surgery, and she rides him cowboy style before all his pubes grow back from the surgery?

Kinda freaky.
 
2014-02-13 02:40:01 AM
Too wordy.

She probably likes to ready Ray Bradbury.
 
2014-02-13 02:40:38 AM

AverageAmericanGuy: Too wordy.

She probably likes to ready Ray Bradbury.


read*

Damned autocorrect...
 
2014-02-13 02:45:40 AM

fusillade762: I think I got re-directed to the Penthouse Forum website by accident...


This
 
2014-02-13 02:53:20 AM
The article read like a cheap romance novel.
 
2014-02-13 03:00:49 AM
Well, that was uncomfortable.
 
2014-02-13 03:08:21 AM
At least it wasn't "My husband went out for cancer surgery and came in a virgin"
 
2014-02-13 03:21:41 AM

hardinparamedic: doglover: KSP?

Kerbal Space Program.

The greatest thing ever invented.


KSP slashfic?

thisismyfetish.jpg
 
2014-02-13 03:39:25 AM

phunkey_monkey: The article read like a cheap romance novel.


This.
 
2014-02-13 03:42:21 AM
I think she went for a romantic/emotional tone but left out too many details that would appeal to the emotions i.e the pain and sorrow aspect of the story... So, I pretty much agree with someone above that this story sounded pretty rape-y.
 
2014-02-13 03:44:37 AM
Really, it sounds like he went in for brain surgery, and all she had left of him beforehand was their intimacy. He came out a relative vegetable potato, and the only thing he responds to that's even remotely tied to how they were before is the sex.

I'm a misogynistic racist ass most times, but this... goddamn it's dusty in here. Poor woman. When all you have left of the man you love is his sexual response...Damn. And to maintain that level of devotion...

This woman is ten times the man I want to be.
 
2014-02-13 03:49:12 AM

AverageAmericanGuy: Too wordy.

She probably likes to ready Ray Bradbury.


You think Bradbury is wordy? How precious.
 
2014-02-13 03:52:14 AM

Abacus9: AverageAmericanGuy: Too wordy.

She probably likes to ready Ray Bradbury.

You think Bradbury is wordy? How precious.


You don't? The man never met a synonym he didn't like, love, need.
 
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2014-02-13 03:55:32 AM

phunkey_monkey: The article read like a cheap romance novel.


More like an expensive romance novel... and actually based on a true story.

I liked her writing. It was descriptive enough to make me feel strange, since women rarely write like that.
 
2014-02-13 04:19:50 AM
Yeah? Well more than one woman got involved with me and in a few months came out as lesbian because of my brain damage. Should I be flattered?
 
2014-02-13 04:49:36 AM

AverageAmericanGuy: Abacus9: AverageAmericanGuy: Too wordy.

She probably likes to ready Ray Bradbury.

You think Bradbury is wordy? How precious.

You don't? The man never met a synonym he didn't like, love, need.


He's certainly descriptive, but he's as poetic a prose writer can be. It almost always adds to the story.
 
2014-02-13 05:13:24 AM

Abacus9: AverageAmericanGuy: Abacus9: AverageAmericanGuy: Too wordy.

She probably likes to ready Ray Bradbury.

You think Bradbury is wordy? How precious.

You don't? The man never met a synonym he didn't like, love, need.

He's certainly descriptive, but he's as poetic a prose writer can be. It almost always adds to the story.


I did not find that to be the case. I found him wordy and tedious. Not as tedious as this article, given.
 
2014-02-13 06:24:30 AM

Bonzo_1116: I got a weird rapey vibe from TFA. The dude couldn't talk, barely remembers who she is, has massive abdominal surgery, and she rides him cowboy style before all his pubes grow back from the surgery?

Kinda freaky.


This
 
2014-02-13 06:40:07 AM
Well , it seems its all about you then , isn't it!
 
2014-02-13 07:08:21 AM

johnnieconnie: Wow, the actual article is incredibly sad and disturbing. I stopped about half way through. But the gist of it seems to be that her husband had extensive brain damage after cancer surgery and basically forgot huge chunks of short term and long term memory. He seems to have lost the ability to remember or recall his long term memories.

But she is basically just worried about their sex life and lack thereof??

I know what she's going through. My husband had emergency surgery for a malignant brain tumor, leaving him extensively brain damaged, half-blind, and without the ability to read or write, short term memory shot to hell. He died 20 months later. But goddammit the last thing I cared about was our sex life.

What a depressing thing to end the day with. Where are the cat videos?


Just like a typical woman, if a man isn't interested in sex, he must be brain damaged.  Oh wait, he would be brain damaged.
 
2014-02-13 07:12:06 AM
After 23 years we all like to spice things up.  The stable boy and his mistress.
 
2014-02-13 07:46:17 AM
tl;dr
 
2014-02-13 07:49:33 AM
Switch the genders, listen for the howls of outrage.
 
2014-02-13 07:54:27 AM
I wonder what feminists would be saying if the roles in the story had been reversed?  The woman comes back from surgery all forgetful and the man is worried about sex and winds up mounting her for his own needs.  I think they would be screaming RAPE!
 
2014-02-13 08:54:08 AM

AverageAmericanGuy: Abacus9: AverageAmericanGuy: Abacus9: AverageAmericanGuy: Too wordy.

She probably likes to ready Ray Bradbury.

You think Bradbury is wordy? How precious.

You don't? The man never met a synonym he didn't like, love, need.

He's certainly descriptive, but he's as poetic a prose writer can be. It almost always adds to the story.

I did not find that to be the case. I found him wordy and tedious. Not as tedious as this article, given.


overly descriptive and poetic are often at odds with each other.  considering the true art of poetry (being a greek word for song), is to say it perfectly, through metaphor with euphony.  overt descriptions, while high-faluting sounding, will break down euphony and thus breakdown your poetics.

it is rare, in fact never, that a writer should edit their work to include more.  the best writers can say a million things in very little.  if you have ever read virginia woolfe, and she's not my favorite writer by any means, but one of my favorite lines is from 'to the lighthouse', and about halfway through the book, there is a sentence: "Lily rose".  that's about as perfect a sentence can get in its context.  it simultaneously and effectively carries about 10 distinctive but conjunctive thoughts, all working together to bring meaning (that's what metaphor basically means in the greek, literally, to carry over) through the work.

of course, a longwinded writer could have said, "and it was at this moment that Lily stood up, not only physically, but as a bla bla bla bla bla, and then ablablabalba, and keeping in mind bla bla bla bla, and the flowers, blalbalbalbkla."  it's crap.  if two words can say more than 20, you understand poetry.

/ i do not employ any poetry in my fark comments.  sorries.
 
2014-02-13 08:54:25 AM

namatad: johnnieconnie: Wow, the actual article is incredibly sad and disturbing. I stopped about half way through. But the gist of it seems to be that her husband had extensive brain damage after cancer surgery and basically forgot huge chunks of short term and long term memory. He seems to have lost the ability to remember or recall his long term memories.

But she is basically just worried about their sex life and lack thereof??

I know what she's going through. My husband had emergency surgery for a malignant brain tumor, leaving him extensively brain damaged, half-blind, and without the ability to read or write, short term memory shot to hell. He died 20 months later. But goddammit the last thing I cared about was our sex life.

What a depressing thing to end the day with. Where are the cat videos?

um
that sucks

but she is writing about her story from 8 years out looking back
and she is being honest about what was happening in her life
which includes physical, mental and emotional
they were high school sweet hearts, had kids in college, a healthy sex life and had been married 20 years when it happened.

it is completely reasonable that along with all of the other problems, she didnt magically turn into a nun.
nice to hear people talking about all parts of life


Yeah I get that. It just rubbed me the wrong way that late at night.
 
2014-02-13 09:22:56 AM
Unpublished Jacqueline Susann?
 
2014-02-13 10:41:41 AM
will she name the baby Garp?
 
2014-02-13 10:41:43 AM

phunkey_monkey: The article read like a cheap romance novel.


This.
 
2014-02-13 11:03:17 AM

Bonzo_1116: I got a weird rapey vibe from TFA. The dude couldn't talk, barely remembers who she is, has massive abdominal surgery, and she rides him cowboy style before all his pubes grow back from the surgery?

Kinda freaky.


That's what I thought, too. It sounded like he couldn't talk when she climbed on top of him, but after it was over he was able to say that he didn't remember sex when she asked him.

So which one is it, lady? Did you fark the words back into his brain or something?
 
2014-02-13 11:03:48 AM
That was hot.
 
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