Ima4nic8or: Any broad that wouldn't take her husbands name isn't worth two shiats in my book.
GoldSpider: Whose last name do the kids get?
Prank Call of Cthulhu: One of my female colleagues got married and changed her name. But her new name is Hoar. WTF? Why would you change your name to THAT?
walktoanarcade: To each their own, but for me I feel a duty to pre-screen the next woman for her willingness to take my last name. It's got to do with the fact that I'm the last of my line, so...yeah..I want kids and I want the wife to take my last name. It's important to me. I can see how it's unimportant to others, or whatever.
VoiceOfReason499: GoldSpider: Whose last name do the kids get?The kids get hyphenated. Mr. Smith marries Ms. Jones, and the kids can be Miss Smith-Jones or Master Jones-Smith. Sons honor their mothers, daughters honor their fathers. When the kids get married and have kids, they take the first name from their hyphenation and bestow it on the child. Grandpa gets his name passed on to his daughter's child. Grandma gets her name passed on to her son's child. Problem solved.
aerojockey: walktoanarcade: To each their own, but for me I feel a duty to pre-screen the next woman for her willingness to take my last name. It's got to do with the fact that I'm the last of my line, so...yeah..I want kids and I want the wife to take my last name. It's important to me. I can see how it's unimportant to others, or whatever.Personally, all these traditions that originated as a result of marriage being considered a financial transaction between two men creep me out. Woman taking on the man's last name, woman's family paying for the wedding, the man asking the woman's father for permission.If I ever have a daughter (God forbid), and her boyfriend asks me permission to marry her, I'd deny it just because he asked.In the interests of fairness, traditions that originated as the only slightly more enlightened result of marriage being considered a financial transaction between a man and a woman creep me out too. I.e., engagement rings.
12349876: BunkyBrewman: The more obvious explanation is that those who changed their name are less inclined to pursue their career over their family. (and vice versa)Probably because the name changers are marrying younger, before they get the education that increases the chances they'll bring home more bacon, while the name keepers have established their name in the relevant circles before marriage and don't want to jeopardize that with a name change.
ChadM89: The tradition of changing the name of course dates back to the beginnings of marriage, when the woman actually became the man's property. This would also be a legitimate source of resistance to the practice in modern women.
BunkyBrewman: The more obvious explanation is that those who changed their name are less inclined to pursue their career over their family. (and vice versa)The obvious tag should be in play.
CtrlAltDestroy: I'm not terribly fond of my last name. It's not awful but I don't really have any affection for it either. Plus most people can't spell it and almost no one even tries to pronounce it. Although that part is usually amusing.I wouldn't be opposed to taking an entirely new name altogether. Hell, there's no guarantee that I wont do that while still single one day.Not that it matters much. At the rate things are going for me marriage isn't in my future. It's funny depressing how jaded and bitter life can make someone in a just few short years.
tonguedepressor: *whooosh* That's the sound of this headline's reference going over 99% of the Fark community.
Johnsnownw: True enough, my wife is a doctor. She said she didn't work that hard to become Dr. (my last name)./I don't really care//I kind of do.
hej: Short of you going around and announcing it to everybody you meet, how the hell would people interviewing you for a job know if you took your husbands last name or not?
walktoanarcade: Be a jerk, the ladies come running. Which means, act like you don't give a shiat, but don't treat them as such. That's where some falter. Be yourself, but be the best "yourself" you can be. Tell the truth, if they don't like it, fark 'em. Be clean. Get a haircut, never listen to the news' advice or some rag. Smile. Don't frown, it's a lie that many women like that.I truly don't give a shiat anymore and gave up and now women wanna talk to me and smile and crap again. Neato. I used to frown naturally all the time, but now I smile selectively. Some women love a smile.
CowardlyLion: Johnsnownw: True enough, my wife is a doctor. She said she didn't work that hard to become Dr. (my last name)./I don't really care//I kind of do.If it balances the universe a bit, I refused to let my wife take my last name; it's a crappy last name, doesn't suit her, and isn't the name of the woman I fell in love with./I'm also a Dr., technically.//maybe just folks with terminal degrees oppose changing surnames///n of 2 is sufficient for that conclusion, right?
CtrlAltDestroy: a lot of words
walktoanarcade: CtrlAltDestroy: a lot of wordsOk, believe or not I read it all. Wow. Well, if it makes you feel better, you're not the only one sick of people.Would you believe that I am rather long-winded in person? Life's weird.I'm in near perfect shape, look great and can't get laid or have a girlfriend. Sure, I talk to chicks all the time, but they're all money grubbers in my area. Oh well, like you said, I got my hobbies.Face it, dude, we're losers.
CtrlAltDestroy: walktoanarcade: CtrlAltDestroy: a lot of wordsOk, believe or not I read it all. Wow. Well, if it makes you feel better, you're not the only one sick of people.Would you believe that I am rather long-winded in person? Life's weird.I'm in near perfect shape, look great and can't get laid or have a girlfriend. Sure, I talk to chicks all the time, but they're all money grubbers in my area. Oh well, like you said, I got my hobbies.Face it, dude, we're losers. *brofist*Losers, unite.It's not just the relationship thing that's been reshaping me for the worse, but that is definitely part of it. But, hey, it is what it is and it does no good to pretend otherwise. Once you accept the truth of the situation you're able to do something about it. I'm going to work on me for a while. Work out and diet, learn an instrument or two, and indulge in my hobbies.I need to have a good starting foundation if I want to build a new life. I need to be happy with myself. If I'm not I can't very well expect others to be.
Forty-Two: I got married and hyphenated because classical musicians' careers (or at least their reputations) start in high school, if not sooner, so I wanted to keep my maiden name attached. Then I switched careers to academia, which isn't averse to hyphens. I'd been considering dropping my husband's name because the hyphenated name seems too cumbersome for my taste, but then we had a son and he has only his father's last name... Ugh.If it weren't for the fact that I'm the last one in my family with my maiden name (by sheer luck the genders fell in such a way that none of my cousins nor second cousins nor even third cousins have my last name), I'd just drop it and go with my husband's name to match my kid. But being the last one with the name makes me want to hold onto it.Also, the hyphenated name is unique--all the Google searches for my hyphenated name bring up info on me, which isn't the case if I search for one name or the other. That's probably the best justification for maintaining the status quo./Not so cool story, sis.
walktoanarcade: ummm murder...murder's bad.
CtrlAltDestroy: walktoanarcade:*brofist*Phew, I was thinking, "I hope he's got a sense of humor..hope I didn't drive him over the edge. *nervous laughter*"Sounds like you know yourself and what you need to do to be happy, though my advice is to keep your eyes open, women love to appear when it's not exactly convenient. Am I right?Let's simplify that a bit: women love to be inconvenient.Ha, yeah. I haven't lost my sense of humor. I'm not wallowing in self pity or anything. My attitude is more like, "Well, fark. Ok. What's my next step?"On the plus side I'm now in the best job that I've ever had. Pretty decent pay, good people, and fairly easy going. My last job was less so.Life is strange.
dbrunker: For those if you who couldn't remember the 1970s here's a video to put things in context (heh, or a print add if you can't spare 30 seconds to watch a video).[img.fark.net image 422x578]
CtrlAltDestroy: walktoanarcade: CtrlAltDestroy: a lot of wordsFace it, dude, we're losers. *brofist*Losers, unite.
RoyHobbs22: GoldSpider: Whose last name do the kids get?Trick question. That biatch isn't going to ruin her body and career with a pregnancy.
CtrlAltDestroy: Then there's the bipolar girl who, although well intentioned, started things out based on a pretty big lie. The kind of lie that removes any chance of a future for us.
karalynnnn: Ima4nic8or: Any broad that wouldn't take her husbands name isn't worth two shiats in my book.Sometimes our professions and licenses prevent us from legally changing our names. Get over it.
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