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(Daily Mail)   Florida teen who begged for a new family, 'I'll take anyone. Old or young, dad or mom, black, white, purple. I don't care.' Has found a new forever home just in time for Christmas   (dailymail.co.uk) divider line 21
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2013-12-13 02:50:24 PM  
3 votes:
He seems self-preserving and self-aware of a level not normally seen in 15 year olds. I hope he uses his life experience to do something great with his life. He clearly understands what is important in life.
2013-12-13 02:48:59 PM  
3 votes:
I followed this kid since day 1, I hope he has a wonderful christmas he seems like an outstanding young man.
2013-12-13 03:38:01 PM  
2 votes:

you_idiot: "His biological aunt Doris Barnes told MailOnline today: 'I just want him to be happy and loved and to be with someone who is going to do the best for his future' "

She forgot to add "except for me" to that statement.


What's wrong with admitting that she can't care for him?
2013-12-13 03:24:01 PM  
2 votes:
"His biological aunt Doris Barnes told MailOnline today: 'I just want him to be happy and loved and to be with someone who is going to do the best for his future' "

She forgot to add "except for me" to that statement.
2013-12-13 03:00:12 PM  
2 votes:
Whenever I hear or see the phrase "Forever Home," it makes me want to punch the user in the trachea. Stop. It.
2013-12-13 02:59:33 PM  
2 votes:

NewWorldDan: Does anyone else find the term "forever home" to be creepy as hell?  Every time I read it, I just picture those 2 girls from The Shining.


It makes me think of crazy cat ladies and animal rescue organizations.  It's kinda disturbing to see it listed out on an adoption website, weirdly like a dating profile.
2013-12-13 02:54:26 PM  
2 votes:
Good luck kid, really.  I hope he gets a great family.

I just volunteered at a Masonic children's home last week.  They take fantastic care of their charges, but it was still sad that so many kids are treated like trash by their egg/sperm donors.

And MMM....check your farkmail.
2013-12-13 02:35:56 PM  
2 votes:
I wish the best for this kid, I really do....unfortunately, I'm fairly pessimistic...His whole farking "family" is nothing but scumbags.  And now that he has acheived some level of notoriety, some of those scumbags will assume that he's gettin' paid and will come slinking into his life, looking to get paid as well...Hope I'm wrong, but odds are I'm not.
2013-12-13 11:51:46 PM  
1 votes:
I wish I had thought of that when I was 15 and learned my parents were homophobic.

Just find another family, this time with cool parents!

Kid is a genius.
2013-12-13 11:25:06 PM  
1 votes:
I wish I could take him but I've already got my own in college, one of her friends living here because of difficulties with her family and my nephew's baby because his girlfriend is in jail and he's barely capable of taking care of himself let alone a baby.

My hands and house are full.

I need a bigger house.
2013-12-13 09:21:42 PM  
1 votes:
Mikey1969 and cheryl taggart, thank you. Food for thought. We shared 2 meals with the kids at the Masonic Home, on 2 different days (my National Guard unit did a work day last Friday, painting, maintenance, etc. The next day I blew off my NG Christmas party to go to theirs). Some kids have visits with their families on weekends, some don't. The Masonic Home has an off campus home visit weekend that I am compelled to investigate. A tiny, shy 8 year old boy's family never comes for him. Cute as a button, so I wanted to bring him home. But over dinner, several very bright, sweet teen girls clustered around me, asking me tons of questions, and telling me how good they were in school, how they loved music, how they liked my hair, wanted to meet my dogs....how do you choose? My husband and I decided, as a start, we will go back to visit as often as possible. I love to do tie dye. I talked to the head guy about coming out with a bunch of white t-shirts and dye to do tie dye day. I want to donate flower seeds and board games and books and my time. I want to send each of those kids a birthday card on their birthday. I was blessed with an awesome mom (RIP). I can't do nothing for them. My mother would have felt the same.

That work day was the best thing I have done in a long time. I want to go back.
2013-12-13 06:24:10 PM  
1 votes:
freetomato:

Part of me really wants to take in a foster child.  I was not able to have children, my stepson is grown and on his own, we have a big house in a nice neighborhood full of friendly dogs, and a lot of love and (hopefully) wisdom to offer.  The other part of me realizes how damaged some of these kids are and that we may not be equipped to handle a kid with psychological issues.  I certainly wouldn't want to make things worse for them by not handing it well.  Very conflicted on this issue.   I sincerely hope for the best for this boy.


Yeah, a lot of foster kids have baggage, but it's not as bad as you think. Some of it's from having a shiatty home life, and some is just a general feeling that nobody wants you. After all, if they REALLY wanted you, they'd adopt you, right?

I know that's not it, but it can feel that way as a foster kid, and some well meaning foster families STILL treat the foster kids like they aren't quite a part of the family. I was in a lot of different places, but high school consisted of 2 1/2 years in a group home, and a year and a half in a foster home. A lot of it depended on the people. When I was at the group home, the first house parents weren't great "kid" people. They were nice enough, but they thought that they were looking good on the budget if they didn't spend ll of the money. As a result, they never spent the "recreation" money allotted(In a year, we went to 'a' movie and went camping once). We got bored, and we got in trouble, suck out, did some stupid vandalization, broke into a car or two. The next house parents took us places all of the time, and the trouble dropped immediately and markedly. There were still problems, but I've seen regular families that had more.

The really important part is that these foster kids need to feel that they belong and that they aren't just a placeholder. It's amazing how the little things can matter. I probably have gone overboard with my stepsons and my daughter, reaffirming how much I love them, and how proud I am of them, but that doesn't happen often in a foster home, and that can be the difference between a delinquent and a good foster kid, just letting them know that they are still important.

You can also help by finding your local foster foundation and donating stuff, whether it's baby stuff to help out new families when they foster an infant, or gifts at CHristmas, it can help. Also, if you ever stumble across a Group Home(They try to keep these kind of under the radar, mostly so that parents who have had their kids forcibly removed wont try and take them back), you can do what the people who eventually became my foster parents did. Sponsor the kids for trips for ice cream, sporting events, or just days out. It was amazing to have these nice people that I didn't know drop by and pick one of us up to go to a basketball game, or just dinner. There was also a girl I read about years ago who started a charity to just give foster kids a duffel bag and a stuffed animal. Possessions are few and far between, and you often find yourself using garbage bags as luggage.

Ultimately, the kids can still be salvaged. It's smart not to leave all of your money laying around, but it's totally possible to get even a 'bad' kid and have them get a sense of loyalty. They might still get in some trouble outside of the home, but in your home, they will feel that they belong, and that it is THEIR home as well, and half of the misbehavior goes away.

Of course, the best thing anyone can do for a foster kid is adopt, especially if they're old like this boy. You get to be 14, 15 years old, and your chances of being adopted slip to almost zero. People only want to adopt young kids, and it's particularly scary to start thinking about how one day you may 'Age out', and the system is just going to tell you to get the fark out.

Despite what people might say though, foster kids still have a lot of potential, and a lot of that baggage can be dumped. Once my stepsons are out of the house and in college, we may start fostering a kid ourselves, right now, we're supporting my goddam 34 year old brother in law, so I think we're covered. It's definitely a great way to help out, though, but it can be a scary gamble at first. A loving, open home can be the best asset.
2013-12-13 04:25:11 PM  
1 votes:

Mikey1969: I hope it works for this kid... Aging out in the foster program sucks. I at least got a decent foster family for the last year and a half, but it's still not the same. Best Christmas I'd had in years, though. Making Christmas out of donations and the small budget a foster care facility gets just becomes depressing.


Part of me really wants to take in a foster child.  I was not able to have children, my stepson is grown and on his own, we have a big house in a nice neighborhood full of friendly dogs, and a lot of love and (hopefully) wisdom to offer.  The other part of me realizes how damaged some of these kids are and that we may not be equipped to handle a kid with psychological issues.  I certainly wouldn't want to make things worse for them by not handing it well.  Very conflicted on this issue.   I sincerely hope for the best for this boy.
2013-12-13 04:02:01 PM  
1 votes:
Too many breeders, not enough parents in this world.

I wish everyone who chooses to shiat out a bunch of crotchfruit would instead consider getting snipped and taking care of some of the other crotchfruit that are already wasting away.
2013-12-13 03:49:58 PM  
1 votes:
"Davion is excited to be spending the holidays with a perspective adoptive family."


*sigh*  Really Fail?  REALLY?
2013-12-13 03:32:25 PM  
1 votes:
"His biological aunt  Doris Barnes Petunia Dursley told MailOnline today: 'I just want him to be happy and loved and to be with someone who is going to do the best for his future' "

FTFY
2013-12-13 03:24:11 PM  
1 votes:

little Jeff: the aunt wouldn't take him in?  nice......


She has a criminal record....the adoption agency has pretty much kicked all the relatives off the prospective adoptors list because they are ALL shiatstains (except, maybe the cop uncle, but apparently he's too tied up with work to qualify)
2013-12-13 03:12:36 PM  
1 votes:

chevydeuce: I wish the best for this kid, I really do....unfortunately, I'm fairly pessimistic...His whole farking "family" is nothing but scumbags.  And now that he has acheived some level of notoriety, some of those scumbags will assume that he's gettin' paid and will come slinking into his life, looking to get paid as well...Hope I'm wrong, but odds are I'm not.


I'm adopted and sadly my brother and I experienced this.  We knew nothing about our bilogical parents, aunts uncles, etc.  I'm in my late 40's and a number of years ago my brothers wife managed to track down an aunt and uncle.  we made arrangements to meet them at a restaurant  one evening and near the end of the evening our aunt pulled my brother aside at some point and asked to borrow a couple thousand dollars.  Neither of us had money so where she even got the idea we had any we couldn't figure out.  We finally just thought, scum that she is figured she would just ask anyway. He turned her down, explained he didn't have that much and we never heard from them again.  After that we stopped looking for the rest of our family.  we did find out our father was a drunk and eventually killed himself in a drunken car crash.  At least he didn't take anyone else with him.

/CSB
2013-12-13 03:00:58 PM  
1 votes:
David only what?

For serious, I am super happy for this kid. Sounds like he dodged a bullet with the rest of his family not being involved in his childhood, hard as that childhood must have been. Hope he continues to avoid them.

That person who commented that the child adoption site is like looking for pets... I kinda agree. Now and then I toy with the idea of maybe fostering a child or two, as we have a really big house with only two bedrooms used and the kind of household I think lots of kids would dream of (dogs, cats, horses, pool, All of the Consoles, etc)... and the sites I look through remind me an awful lot of like, petfinder. It feels weird, though I have no idea how else it could be presented.
2013-12-13 02:49:32 PM  
1 votes:
Does anyone else find the term "forever home" to be creepy as hell?  Every time I read it, I just picture those 2 girls from The Shining.
2013-12-13 02:41:24 PM  
1 votes:

chevydeuce: I wish the best for this kid, I really do....unfortunately, I'm fairly pessimistic...His whole farking "family" is nothing but scumbags.  And now that he has acheived some level of notoriety, some of those scumbags will assume that he's gettin' paid and will come slinking into his life, looking to get paid as well...Hope I'm wrong, but odds are I'm not.


Yup, doesn't sound like he is actually orphaned--mom is dead, but who knows about dad. He just had the unfortunate luck to be born into a family of people who chronically make poor life choices. At least the uncle who is a police officer has some involvement in the kids' life. Hope the rest drop off the face of the earth. Good on him for getting a family.
 
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