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(BBC)   How fertile are women in their 30s? Well considering we're using 300-year-old statistics, who knows   (bbc.co.uk) divider line 86
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2013-09-18 08:45:51 AM  
About that, the wife said she wanted to have a baby about 6 months ago, she is 3 months along know and 36 years old.
 
2013-09-18 09:16:23 AM  

TenJed_77: About that, the wife said she wanted to have a baby about 6 months ago, she is 3 months along know and 36 years old.


My wife got off BC at 36.  I thought it would be months, of trying but no.  She's off the pill and BAM!


/As fertile as the Tennessee Valley
 
2013-09-18 09:25:47 AM  

UberDave: She's off the pill and BAM!


Yeah my daughter happened like that, my wife was 32, her doctor told her it would probably take a month or two, nope 2 weeks.
 
2013-09-18 09:34:17 AM  
Don't some women produce more eggs than normal when just getting off BC? Have nothing to back that up so may just be an old wives tale.
 
2013-09-18 09:35:55 AM  
their wombs are a rocky place where your seed can't find no purchase
 
2013-09-18 09:36:22 AM  

TenJed_77: About that, the wife said she wanted to have a baby about 6 months ago, she is 3 months along know and 36 years old.


You're welcome.
 
2013-09-18 09:38:17 AM  
I've never heard the 66% statistic before, only the ~85% statistic. Is 66% really an "often-cited statistic"?
 
2013-09-18 09:38:21 AM  
I didn't think people lived to their 30's three-hundred years ago?
Dropping dead early was quite the fad back then.
 
2013-09-18 09:43:15 AM  

TenJed_77: About that, the wife said she wanted to have a baby about 6 months ago, she is 3 months along know and 36 years old.


About that, we started trying 5 years ago. She is 39 and tens and tens of thousands of dollars later, still nothing.

Congrats and great for you guys. I don't wish what we are going through on many people.
 
2013-09-18 09:46:00 AM  
My grandmother mentioned the other day that after age 30 women have a higher chance of problems during pregnancy/with the baby.
Which is great to hear as a 34 year old single lady.
 
2013-09-18 09:49:18 AM  

Bedstead Polisher: My grandmother mentioned the other day that after age 30 women have a higher chance of problems during pregnancy/with the baby.
Which is great to hear as a 34 year old single lady.


http://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/pregnancy-after-35

"as a 34 year old single lady"

I'd be careful posting that on Fark.
 
2013-09-18 09:51:02 AM  

oldfarthenry: I didn't think people lived to their 30's three-hundred years ago?
Dropping dead early was quite the fad back then.


To some degree, but most of the low life-expectancy figures of the time (or, for that matter, throughout history) actually came from infant mortality dragging down the average. Up at the top end, things haven't actually changed all that much.
 
2013-09-18 09:54:27 AM  
My wife was in her 30s for all three kids.  Two out of the three took just one try...  I wish things had been harder.
 
2013-09-18 09:55:12 AM  
First kid born when my wife was 42, she is now 47 and "trying" to get prego again....
Sort of "trying" using ovulation test strips and whoo-hoo I get 1 crack at that puppy a month no more.

just a thought to the wife "I think there might be a little use it or lose it down there so lets not take any 1 year breaks from sex then turn 46 and decide to start "trying" again..."
 
2013-09-18 10:02:46 AM  
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Followed by a mustache ride.
 
2013-09-18 10:04:08 AM  
My wife was in her 20's for ten years
 
2013-09-18 10:04:22 AM  
My 23 year old girlfriend just told me she cannot have children.

/did not try to get into the details with her
//I'm 27
 
2013-09-18 10:06:25 AM  

WienerButt: My 23 year old girlfriend just told me she cannot have children.

/did not try to get into the details with her
//I'm 27


My sister in law was told the same thing . So they adopted, and then she promptly got pregnant.  Same thing happened to a friend of my wife's.  So, the power of anecdotes says to take the "cannot have children" with a grain of salt.  Especially if you're considering not using birth control with your gf.
 
2013-09-18 10:09:16 AM  
First one was at 30 for her and the second was 2 years later. She keeps saying at least one more, but I don't think I have the hair for it. Lost/pulled most of it out...oh well knowing that she is the one in charge of when we do it.... I'm sure a third will happen eventually.
 
2013-09-18 10:13:12 AM  

UberDave: My wife got off BC at 36. I thought it would be months, of trying but no. She's off the pill and BAM!


/As fertile as the Tennessee Valley


Same here!  She was knocked up a week after she went off the pill.  I'm like - I thought there would be a little more practice than that.

/just got my vasectomy  a month ago
 
2013-09-18 10:13:47 AM  
Forgot to mention the wifey is 35
 
2013-09-18 10:16:00 AM  

Chiquidin: Lost/pulled most of it out...oh well knowing that she is the one in charge of when we do it.... I'm sure a third will happen eventually.


if you only pull most of it out, a third will happen sooner than you think.....
 
2013-09-18 10:18:48 AM  
I'm 46, and when I saw my gynecologist on Monday and mentioned that I've just become sexually active again after a 16-year dry spell, she jumped all over me about birth control. (I had planned to ask about getting my tubes tied anyway, the only reason I didn't do it sooner was there wasn't any need.) She said, "You can still get pregnant! I see women your age with surprise pregnancies all the time!"

So I'm guessing fertility for most women in their 30s isn't much of an issue. Not that anecdotal evidence proves anything.

iron_city_ap, I'm sorry to hear about your trouble... If I could, I'd transfer my unused (and unwanted) childbearing capacity over to your wife.
 
2013-09-18 10:19:09 AM  

Bedstead Polisher: My grandmother mentioned the other day that after age 30 women have a higher chance of problems during pregnancy/with the baby.
Which is great to hear as a 34 year old single lady.


Is your grandmother a fertility doctor?
 
2013-09-18 10:23:41 AM  

ManRay: Bedstead Polisher: My grandmother mentioned the other day that after age 30 women have a higher chance of problems during pregnancy/with the baby.
Which is great to hear as a 34 year old single lady.

Is your grandmother a fertility doctor?


No, just a one woman shaming machine.
 
2013-09-18 10:23:55 AM  

Tom_Slick: UberDave: She's off the pill and BAM!

Yeah my daughter happened like that, my wife was 32, her doctor told her it would probably take a month or two, nope 2 weeks.


Same here. Wife was 32 when she got off BC, and 1-2 weeks later... pregnant.

Kinda sucked actually, I was hoping on having a few months of fun.
 
2013-09-18 10:23:55 AM  
anecdotally, my wife and I have noticed around 40% of couples in our circle of friends have had difficulty conceiving a child.  The only common thing between those couples seems to be age...The ones that were not able to have kids without IVF etc were all over 35.

/CSB time...
My wife was told by her OB/GYN when she was in her early 20's that it was unlikely that she could have children, so she had been prepared for difficulty for many years. Yet when we got married and actually tried, it was only 6 months for baby #1 and then 3 years later it took only 1 month for baby #2.
My wife feels very bad for these other potential mothers who all basically assumed the could have children easily and are struggling.
 
2013-09-18 10:24:33 AM  
I just did my own study. Small sample size, I know. It seems that women are still very fertile.

caffeinatedthoughts.com
 
2013-09-18 10:24:40 AM  

frepnog: Chiquidin: Lost/pulled most of it out...oh well knowing that she is the one in charge of when we do it.... I'm sure a third will happen eventually.

if you only pull most of it out, a third will happen sooner than you think.....


I knew this would get pulled out of context.

Just to make I clarify I was speaking of my hair.
 
2013-09-18 10:25:41 AM  
Got married at 32, my wife was 34.  Two years later decided to try for a kid - and on month two she got pregnant.  I was expecting more "trying".

That one was born, no problem.

We decide to try for #2 when my wife is 36.  Miscarriage (blighted/failed ovum) at 9 weeks.  That was followed by a miscarriage at 10 weeks, followed by a failed pregnancy at 14 weeks.

By this point she's 40, I'm 38.  We decide to try one more time. Karma steps in.....and now our twins are two and the first one is 6.

Life: Do not take it too seriously.  It will fark with you the first chance it gets.
 
2013-09-18 10:25:46 AM  
An older woman can still get pregnant, but should she?  The risk of chromosomal abnormalities rises at an alarming rate as maternal age increases.
 
2013-09-18 10:26:08 AM  

WienerButt: My 23 year old girlfriend just told me she cannot have children.

/did not try to get into the details with her
//I'm 27



I'd still wrap it. I know a guy who had a girl tell him this and then he was a father 12 months later.
 
2013-09-18 10:32:48 AM  

Vegetative reproduction: An older woman can still get pregnant, but should she? The risk of chromosomal abnormalities rises at an alarming rate as maternal age increases.


Of our 3 failed pregnancies, two were chromosomal abnormalities.  One of those two had two one-in-a-million rarity defects.
 
2013-09-18 10:33:07 AM  

sweetmelissa31: [i194.photobucket.com image 164x260]
Followed by a mustache ride.


I prefer to have my babies with ketchup and fries. No one's gonna tell me you gotta eat it with mustard, or some fancy spicy sauce.
 
2013-09-18 10:34:31 AM  
Sort of related joke:  What do a pregnant woman, a burnt pizza, and a frozen can of beer have in common?

Someone should have pulled it out sooner...
 
2013-09-18 10:45:46 AM  

choder: My wife was in her 30s for all three kids.  Two out of the three took just one try...  I wish things had been harder.


That's what she said anyway.
 
2013-09-18 10:45:54 AM  
Im guessing, like most things, it is genetics
 
2013-09-18 10:53:08 AM  
People lived past thirty 300 years ago?
 
2013-09-18 10:55:27 AM  

Sharksfan: Got married at 32, my wife was 34.  Two years later decided to try for a kid - and on month two she got pregnant.  I was expecting more "trying".

That one was born, no problem.

We decide to try for #2 when my wife is 36.  Miscarriage (blighted/failed ovum) at 9 weeks.  That was followed by a miscarriage at 10 weeks, followed by a failed pregnancy at 14 weeks.

By this point she's 40, I'm 38.  We decide to try one more time. Karma steps in.....and now our twins are two and the first one is 6.

Life: Do not take it too seriously.  It will fark with you the first chance it gets.


When my wife first had a positive pregnancy test, the ultrasound started out showing one child and a "blighted ovum" a.k.a. an egg sac with nothing in it.  That little "blighted ovum" is teething like a champ overe here, and fighting over toys with her twin sister.

Moral of the story:  Always have them double-check the blighted ovum thing.  I'm sure we were the exception to the rule, but what an exception!

For those of you having challenges with getting pregnant, let me pass along something our fertility doc told us.  If they put you on Clomid, it has many side effects one of which is increasing the viscosity of the woman's mucous.  This can keep the sperm from getting where they need to go.  The doc had us combine taking the clomid with regular old, over-the-counter mucinex, and boom we've got twins.  Not saying that'll work for everyone, but it certainly worked for us after multiple failed attempts with Clomid alone.
 
2013-09-18 11:04:47 AM  
I exist because my parents thought they couldn't have children without Clomid or whatever pill they used in the 70s. Mom was 39 at the time and one day noticed "Holy shiat, I have a baby kicking".
 
2013-09-18 11:12:11 AM  
Odd question, when a woman becomes pregnant, why is it standard vernacular to refer to the event as 'falling pregnant'?
 
2013-09-18 11:13:02 AM  

YixilTesiphon: I exist because my parents thought they couldn't have children without Clomid or whatever pill they used in the 70s. Mom was 39 at the time and one day noticed "Holy shiat, I have a baby kicking".


Are you a 2nd child?

A lot of women that require clomid the first time to get preggers don't afterwards. Giving birth once reboots the system.

Lots of women who needed medical help the first time end up getting pregnant again because no one warned them that they may be naturally fertile after giving birth once.
 
2013-09-18 11:13:28 AM  

Coastalgrl: Odd question, when a woman becomes pregnant, why is it standard vernacular to refer to the event as 'falling pregnant'?


I don't think I've ever heard that before, and I've lived in both Texas and the Northeast.
 
2013-09-18 11:13:43 AM  

Coastalgrl: Odd question, when a woman becomes pregnant, why is it standard vernacular to refer to the event as 'falling pregnant'?


Because life is a downward spiral from then on...
 
2013-09-18 11:21:53 AM  

Xlr8urfark: Don't some women produce more eggs than normal when just getting off BC? Have nothing to back that up so may just be an old wives tale.


That's not really how it works, but it's true that going off BC can throw your cycle out of whack for a little while if you'd been on it for a long time. It generally returns to normal (whatever normal means) fairly quickly: a couple of months or so.
 
2013-09-18 11:21:54 AM  

CleanAndPure: A lot of women that require clomid the first time to get preggers don't afterwards. Giving birth once reboots the system.


Yep. My mother had nine miscarriages before she had me, but no trouble at all getting pregnant with my brother.
 
2013-09-18 11:24:57 AM  
Statistically, yeah, it's easier to knock up a 20 yr old than a 30 or 40 yr old. There's also a lower chance of birth defects, yadda yadda yadda.

Not impossible, just easier. I remember my cousin's husband talking about 'fertile myrtle' (no, her name wasn't really myrtle thank god) in reference to her in her 20's. 5 kids in 6 years with no help. She decided she wanted one more at 37, and it took a year for her to get knocked up.

That's statistics. That's why young women were always more 'valuable' because nature's first green is gold. (Robert Frost)

Older guys don't have the same issue women have. Men's bodies aren't carrying the parasite and therein don't suffer the stresses.
 
2013-09-18 11:25:43 AM  

Bedstead Polisher: My grandmother mentioned the other day that after age 30 women have a higher chance of problems during pregnancy/with the baby.
Which is great to hear as a 34 year old single lady.


I'm a blond, blue eyed male with an IQ of between 135-140?

You want baby?
 
2013-09-18 11:29:55 AM  

inglixthemad: Men's bodies aren't carrying the parasite and therein don't suffer the stresses.


a fetus is not a parasite.  hate kids someplace else.
 
2013-09-18 11:33:26 AM  

Vegetative reproduction: An older woman can still get pregnant, but should she?  The risk of chromosomal abnormalities rises at an alarming rate as maternal age increases.


chromosomal abnormalities can be a good thing.  While the incidence of, for instance, Down Syndrome rises, the incidence of children born with incredibly high IQs also rises.

(unfortunately, it's inverse for the fathers... so you'd better hope your middle-aged wife was hooking up with the pool boy)
 
2013-09-18 11:41:48 AM  

Falstaff: The doc had us combine taking the clomid with regular old, over-the-counter mucinex, and boom we've got twins


Ah, a fellow member of the twins club.  How old are they?

Mine are two.  I slept 7 hours in a freakin' row last night.  MAJOR WIN!
 
2013-09-18 11:48:59 AM  
I just had my gyne visit last week and she told me I should really consider having kids now.  I'm 33 and was going to wait till I was 35 before stopping the birth control pill.   She advised me not to and cautioned me about the dangers of  having kids at 35+.  I'll admit, I'm a little stressed out now, as I'm trying to get finances in order.  Then there's the issue of daycare and having money to pay for both daycare and student loans.   Yep, getting stressed out again.   Did I mention I hate my student loans?
 
2013-09-18 11:49:38 AM  

Sharksfan: Falstaff: The doc had us combine taking the clomid with regular old, over-the-counter mucinex, and boom we've got twins

Ah, a fellow member of the twins club.  How old are they?

Mine are two.  I slept 7 hours in a freakin' row last night.  MAJOR WIN!


Did you get a hotel room?
 
2013-09-18 11:51:31 AM  
I have a friend that got married. His wife went off BC because "that was for single girls". They intended to have kids, but anticipated a few months of fun trying since the Dr told her that her body needed to get used to the new regimen.

She conceived the first month. Her husband blames it on a combination of his white trash genes and her "crazy Latino fertility" but I don't think that's the case. Knowing I could be that close to slipping one past the goalie at any time freaks me out.
 
2013-09-18 11:55:42 AM  
Visiting my mom with my now 3-month old and wife, we got to chatting about "returning to normal" and settling in with the baby. Pretty much out of nowhere, she grabs my wife's arm and says "So the one thing they never tell you is that you can pregnant THE FIRST TIME you do it again after having your child. Nobody told me that."

And that's how I found out I was an accident.
 
2013-09-18 11:59:47 AM  

MadSkillz: Bedstead Polisher: My grandmother mentioned the other day that after age 30 women have a higher chance of problems during pregnancy/with the baby.
Which is great to hear as a 34 year old single lady.

I'm a blond, blue eyed male with an IQ of between 135-140?

You want baby?


Haha. No, I'd rather have a child that came out of a loving, committed relationship. I don't love kids but I think my hormones have kicked in the last couple of years and are telling me to have a baby. I just hope it all comes together for me before it's too late, which according to this thread isn't for a couple of years.
 
2013-09-18 12:04:27 PM  

WienerButt: My 23 year old girlfriend just told me she cannot have children.

/did not try to get into the details with her
//I'm 27


Unless she can back that up, I wouldn't necessarily assume she's lying, but I would strongly suggest assuming it's false.
 
2013-09-18 12:06:36 PM  

Farking Lurker: First kid born when my wife was 42, she is now 47 and "trying" to get prego again....


Tell her to stop wasting her time, that shiat's garbage...THIS is where it's at:
static.caloriecount.about.com
 
2013-09-18 12:06:42 PM  

argylez: just got my vasectomy  a month ago


Niiiiice.. right about time to test it out in then, eh?
 
2013-09-18 12:13:01 PM  

Coastalgrl: Odd question, when a woman becomes pregnant, why is it standard vernacular to refer to the event as 'falling pregnant'?


I think that's more of a British expression...where I'm from we just call that "Drinkin' fer 2"
 
2013-09-18 12:18:13 PM  

Bedstead Polisher: MadSkillz: I'm a blond, blue eyed male with an IQ of between 135-140?

You want baby?

Haha. No, I'd rather have a child that came out of a loving, committed relationship. I don't love kids but I think my hormones have kicked in the last couple of years and are telling me to have a baby. I just hope it all comes together for me before it's too late, which according to this thread isn't for a couple of years.


Unless you have a taste for dumbass bad boys or something, in which case I hope you go for mr 135-140 up there. Don't let Idiocracy happen, you slackers!!
 
2013-09-18 12:19:58 PM  

frepnog: inglixthemad: Men's bodies aren't carrying the parasite and therein don't suffer the stresses.

a fetus is not a parasite.  hate kids someplace else.


The similarity with a parasite is quite uncanny... without hating foetuses... the lovable parasites.

They live in your body. They live off your body and feed upon you without providing any physical benefits. They stress your body and make you sick.

Naturally foetuses turn into babies... and children that we love but they are very similar to womb parasites.
 
2013-09-18 12:22:01 PM  

reillan: Vegetative reproduction: An older woman can still get pregnant, but should she?  The risk of chromosomal abnormalities rises at an alarming rate as maternal age increases.

chromosomal abnormalities can be a good thing.  While the incidence of, for instance, Down Syndrome rises, the incidence of children born with incredibly high IQs also rises.

(unfortunately, it's inverse for the fathers... so you'd better hope your middle-aged wife was hooking up with the pool boy)


I'd like to see a citation for that. The chromosomal abnormalities being a good thing is absolutely incorrect. Anyone without 23 good pairs is in for difficulties. Down's and Turner's syndromes are the two who survive most frequently (even with the vast majority of Turner's being spontaneously aborted), but there are none that impart a cognitive advantage. Older mothers may (again, citation needed) be more likely to produce higher IQ offspring, but it's not because of chromosomal defects.
 
2013-09-18 12:39:02 PM  

Sharksfan: Falstaff: The doc had us combine taking the clomid with regular old, over-the-counter mucinex, and boom we've got twins

Ah, a fellow member of the twins club.  How old are they?

Mine are two.  I slept 7 hours in a freakin' row last night.  MAJOR WIN!


Mine are 9 months.  I haven't seen 7 hours straight since they were born.  Most nights, I don't get 4.  From month 2-6, my "youngest" had really bad reflux so I had to feed her every 2 hours.  :-P
 
2013-09-18 12:51:09 PM  

Falstaff: Sharksfan: Got married at 32, my wife was 34.  Two years later decided to try for a kid - and on month two she got pregnant.  I was expecting more "trying".

That one was born, no problem.

We decide to try for #2 when my wife is 36.  Miscarriage (blighted/failed ovum) at 9 weeks.  That was followed by a miscarriage at 10 weeks, followed by a failed pregnancy at 14 weeks.

By this point she's 40, I'm 38.  We decide to try one more time. Karma steps in.....and now our twins are two and the first one is 6.

Life: Do not take it too seriously.  It will fark with you the first chance it gets.

When my wife first had a positive pregnancy test, the ultrasound started out showing one child and a "blighted ovum" a.k.a. an egg sac with nothing in it.  That little "blighted ovum" is teething like a champ overe here, and fighting over toys with her twin sister.


I'm hoisting a drink in honor of you and yours right now.  Good on ya, mate.
 
2013-09-18 01:00:51 PM  
Wife and I gaot married later in life, I was 32, she, 37.After we bought our house, new car, etc, she said she wanted a kid. After ny saying before yes,I was somewhat nervous.But first time off the pill, it happened. She had him just shy of yhe 39th bday. he's the only one. I used to joke about a "banjo baby" a la Deliverance, but him 7 weeks premature in the NICU shut me up real fast. His 16th bday is next month.Straight a student, all that junk. She spoils him something awful. Just the three of us in a 3200 ft home.
 
2013-09-18 01:08:49 PM  
I really believe that sometimes, stress and obsession about becoming pregnant in those women who are desperate for a baby actually prevents healthy implantation. Just lighten up and enjoy the ride.
 
2013-09-18 01:33:19 PM  

iron_city_ap: TenJed_77: About that, the wife said she wanted to have a baby about 6 months ago, she is 3 months along know and 36 years old.

About that, we started trying 5 years ago. She is 39 and tens and tens of thousands of dollars later, still nothing.

Congrats and great for you guys. I don't wish what we are going through on many people.


Sorry to here that, one of the wife's best friends here, has just gone through the same sort of thing. Luckily the national health care system takes care of it for the first 3 tries or so.
 
2013-09-18 01:34:09 PM  

mrlewish: TenJed_77: About that, the wife said she wanted to have a baby about 6 months ago, she is 3 months along know and 36 years old.

You're welcome.


You did realize that I live completely on the other side of the Atlantic before you typed that? Right?
 
2013-09-18 01:55:41 PM  

Fano: their wombs are a rocky place where your seed can't find no purchase



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2013-09-18 02:20:37 PM  

TenJed_77: mrlewish: TenJed_77: About that, the wife said she wanted to have a baby about 6 months ago, she is 3 months along know and 36 years old.

You're welcome.

You did realize that I live completely on the other side of the Atlantic before you typed that? Right?


Of course he did. Haven't you heard? He has to be careful every time he turns around or he'll knock over New York.
 
2013-09-18 03:19:41 PM  

Coastalgrl: Odd question, when a woman becomes pregnant, why is it standard vernacular to refer to the event as 'falling pregnant'?


Actually, the medical community prefers "slippin' one passed the goalie".
 
2013-09-18 03:22:36 PM  
We had our sons at 31 and 34. Both were planned and we got pregnant right away once we tried.

/if you know what I mean
//FML
 
2013-09-18 03:24:06 PM  

Ross E. Krushan: I really believe that sometimes, stress and obsession about becoming pregnant in those women who are desperate for a baby actually prevents healthy implantation. Just lighten up and enjoy the ride.


Easy for you to say. Your body is not designed specifically to make babies and does not remind you every month of your failure to do so.

Relax. Pffffhht.
 
2013-09-18 03:32:33 PM  

Farking Lurker: First kid born when my wife was 42, she is now 47 and "trying" to get prego again....
Sort of "trying" using ovulation test strips and whoo-hoo I get 1 crack at that puppy a month no more.

just a thought to the wife "I think there might be a little use it or lose it down there so lets not take any 1 year breaks from sex then turn 46 and decide to start "trying" again..."


I... umm... don't mean to pry, good sir, but... umm... you may want to consider where that marriage is going. You were not having sex for a year, and now it's once per month to get pregnant. What would be the reward even if she conceived -- data mining?
 
2013-09-18 04:29:40 PM  
This thread is an interesting exercise in the way the internet can give us non-representative results.  This thread is full of people who had a kid in just a month or two, when some people have much more trouble than that (in fact, on average, it takes longer than that).  I don't mean to discount anyone's experience or anything.  It's just interesting how comments in a thread are likely to be biased against what is most normal (since people who took an average amount of time to have a kid probably don't feel a need to mention that fact).
 
2013-09-18 04:31:11 PM  

TenJed_77: About that, the wife said she wanted to have a baby about 6 months ago, she is 3 months along know and 36 years old.


My fiancee is 36, and we've been debating whether we should try for one, once we're married. She has 2, I have none. I think the plan will be to not actively try for one. If it happens, great. If not, meh
 
2013-09-18 04:51:18 PM  

UncleStumpy: My fiancee is 36, and we've been debating whether we should try for one, once we're married. She has 2, I have none. I think the plan will be to not actively try for one. If it happens, great. If not, meh


Honestly - if you're not really into kids - or, if her kids fill that gap - don't have another.

But if you're really into it - go for it.
 
2013-09-18 04:51:43 PM  

WienerButt: My 23 year old girlfriend just told me she cannot have children.

/did not try to get into the details with her
//I'm 27


IT'S A TRAP!
 
2013-09-18 04:52:02 PM  

ManRay: Ross E. Krushan: I really believe that sometimes, stress and obsession about becoming pregnant in those women who are desperate for a baby actually prevents healthy implantation. Just lighten up and enjoy the ride.

Easy for you to say. Your body is not designed specifically to make babies and does not remind you every month of your failure to do so.

Relax. Pffffhht.


While I don't precisely  enjoy my period, I also like to think of it as the confetti for the "Hooray!  You don't have to stress out about raising a kid yet!" parade.

/use the patch method of birth control
//and condoms
///because I'm living proof that hormonal birth control is not 100% effective
 
2013-09-18 06:50:32 PM  

Xlr8urfark: WienerButt: My 23 year old girlfriend just told me she cannot have children.

/did not try to get into the details with her
//I'm 27


I'd still wrap it. I know a guy who had a girl tell him this and then he was a father 12 months later.


My sister was married to a guy for 11 years.  They never used birth control and never got pregnant.  When she went to the doctor, doc said that she (my sister) would probably never get pregnant due to some uterine growths (or fibroids or something like that).  So sis believes the doctor and reluctantly accepts that she'll never get pregnant.

Eventually sister divorces her husband, and starts dating another guy.  They didn't use any protection because sister truly believes she can't get pregnant, as evidenced by the decade of failed attempts.

Two months later---BAM!---she's preggers.

Oh, and her ex-husband ends up knocking something other chick about a year after the divorce, too.

Sometimes infertility is a couple's problem, and not an individual problem.
 
2013-09-18 08:20:41 PM  
Irrelevant.  Since most women in their 30s are married, none of them are having sex anyway.
 
2013-09-18 10:25:02 PM  

Falstaff: Mine are 9 months. I haven't seen 7 hours straight since they were born. Most nights, I don't get 4. From month 2-6, my "youngest" had really bad reflux so I had to feed her every 2 hours. :-P


I COMPLETELY feel your pain.  I literally barely remember the first 6 months - one of ours wouldn't nurse and had to be dropper fed at first, and then always bottle fed.

At one point I was so tired i was putting away laundry and tried to put towels in the fridge.
 
2013-09-18 10:51:59 PM  

gglibertine: I'm 46, and when I saw my gynecologist on Monday and mentioned that I've just become sexually active again after a 16-year dry spell, she jumped all over me about birth control. (I had planned to ask about getting my tubes tied anyway, the only reason I didn't do it sooner was there wasn't any need.) She said, "You can still get pregnant! I see women your age with surprise pregnancies all the time!"

So I'm guessing fertility for most women in their 30s isn't much of an issue. Not that anecdotal evidence proves anything.

iron_city_ap, I'm sorry to hear about your trouble... If I could, I'd transfer my unused (and unwanted) childbearing capacity over to your wife.


16 years?

Did the convent kick you out?

(Is the sex why they kicked you out?)
 
2013-09-19 04:01:47 AM  

Farking Lurker: First kid born when my wife was 42, she is now 47 and "trying" to get prego again....
Sort of "trying" using ovulation test strips and whoo-hoo I get 1 crack at that puppy a month no more.

just a thought to the wife "I think there might be a little use it or lose it down there so lets not take any 1 year breaks from sex then turn 46 and decide to start "trying" again..."


It sounds like you're unhappily married and don't really want another kid.

Don't you think you should tell your wife?  Or are we going to be putting up with your bitter moaning about your sexless marriage and your money-sucking offspring?

And when the eventual divorce comes we're then going to have to put up with your "the biatch took everything" whining, aren't we?

Yay, can't wait.
 
2013-09-19 01:56:29 PM  

eggrolls: gglibertine: I'm 46, and when I saw my gynecologist on Monday and mentioned that I've just become sexually active again after a 16-year dry spell, she jumped all over me about birth control. (I had planned to ask about getting my tubes tied anyway, the only reason I didn't do it sooner was there wasn't any need.) She said, "You can still get pregnant! I see women your age with surprise pregnancies all the time!"

So I'm guessing fertility for most women in their 30s isn't much of an issue. Not that anecdotal evidence proves anything.

iron_city_ap, I'm sorry to hear about your trouble... If I could, I'd transfer my unused (and unwanted) childbearing capacity over to your wife.

16 years?

Did the convent kick you out?

(Is the sex why they kicked you out?)


It's a long story. Spent the first 8 years trying and failing to meet anyone worthwhile. Spent the next 4 years not even trying. Figured I was just never going to have another relationship and got into Second Life with the intention of compensating for the lack of real life sex by having a lot of kinky online sex. That was mostly disappointing, but there were a few high points. Then I met someone in a Second Life jazz club because I made an offhand comment about Nick Drake, and six months later we were having RL sexytimes and discussing marriage.

/And yeah, I know, it sounds crazy and ill-advised. You'll just have to take my word that we know what we're doing.
//Besides, where else is a guy with a Garrard 301 going to meet a girl with a Thorens TD121? (OK, it's not the 124, but it's close!)
 
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