tripleseven: Not to encourage any sad sacks out there, but, just imagine if I had not continued in my pursuit.
CrazyCracka420: OldManDownDRoad you sound like the guy in the comic that Cyno01 posted.Why do you have so many close female friends?
Cyno01: abhorrent1: Never saw swingers.Really? Go watch it. Its a bit dated, but generally great. Launched several careers.hubiestubert: In all honesty, I hope all the self referenced "Nice Guys" read this and mebbee take a moment or two of reflection.[686x953 from http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/friends.png image 686x953]
hubiestubert: In all honesty, I hope all the self referenced "Nice Guys" read this and mebbee take a moment or two of reflection.
OldManDownDRoad: And on and on. Sure, guys make bad decisions, but those bad decisions seem to be all over the map. Women's bad choices seem to revolve men who mistreat them. It's really sad, and one of the reasons I'm glad my close female friends are either happily married or have decided to just be single instead of dealing with guys who treat them like crap./and it's a damned mystery to me
Com-un-sense: I saw someone write something a while back, I think on Cracked, that seems applicable here. Instead of sitting around wondering why that girl you were infatuated with never found you attractive, make yourself attractive. Being a nice guy isn't enough. There are lots of other nice guys out there, and they play guitar. Improve yourself. Achieve something. Write a book. Learn how to play an instrument. Excel in a career field. Give yourself something to offer to the opposite sex instead of just saying you are a nice guy and you aren't a jerk, selfish, etc. like all those other guys. It's like advertising for a restaurant and saying you haven't given anyone food poisoning.
Magnanimous_J: Guys like the author of the letter always get themselves into trouble because they believe that simply being infatuated enough with the girl is enough, and it is not. They see the "jerks" ignoring the girls that they like and they think that they can make the girl happy by simply pouring love and attention on them. In reality, the "jerk" has something to offer, even if the girl can never articulate what that is exactly. Girls are also subconsciously aware that they, as flawed, selfish and mostly mediocre human beings, do not deserve that level of worship and find if creepy. I don't think that's a double standard either, if I had some girl who thought I was the most amazing man who ever lived, I would be totally weirded out and fear for the safety of my household pets. People like other people for what they can do for them, and the nice guy has nothing to offer but his cloying niceness, and that will never be enough.That being said, your blog sucks, lady.
No Expectations: If this note was meaningless to her, why keep it for so long and then write about it?
you have pee hands: As I get ready to open my mouth to say hello, you turn to someone on the opposite side of me to say something. My mind is thrown into a whirlwind of rage and my body starts shaking. How could you act ...The guy's a whiny loser but what's so hard about actually answering the phone once and saying "It didn't work. I don't want to see you again." instead of just ignoring someone and hoping they stop calling?
OldManDownDRoad: amundb: So the takeaway from this is to treat women like shiat? Got it.//Learned that a long time ago///Only gets you through college thoughSadly, it's still true into middle age.Among my female friends I can name1. The woman who had a baby with a felon who was out on parole (for beating her) when she got preggers, he's back inside now for armed robbery. She's living in her father's basement.2. The woman who just got preggers with a man she temporarily left last year after living with him for five years because he "wouldn't commit" but now says "he's all in now!" even though he still won't get married. I helped her step-dad refit her old bedroom into a nursery, we're both positive that she and the baby will be back soon.3. The woman who just dumped a guy she'd been dating for two years in order to resume an affair with a married man.And on and on. Sure, guys make bad decisions, but those bad decisions seem to be all over the map. Women's bad choices seem to revolve men who mistreat them. It's really sad, and one of the reasons I'm glad my close female friends are either happily married or have decided to just be single instead of dealing with guys who treat them like crap./and it's a damned mystery to me
tripleseven: I obsessed over my fiancée for about 3 months, while she avoided me.Finally, one day it happened. She gave reasons for the distance, which were extremely valid.Not to encourage any sad sacks out there, but, just imagine if I had not continued in my pursuit.It did get close, of course, to me sucking it up and walking away.This was 12 years ago, and we're still together.
abhorrent1: Never saw swingers.
Satan's Bunny Slippers: blocked at work.Copypasta anyone?
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